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YVONNE: ďI felt, prior to coming this weekend, very blocked, very sad, sinking into depression and wanting to be released Ė wanting to release myself, maybe (sighs) Ė and lots of conflict within. Wanting to be planted and yet wanting to fly away, wanting to be grounded and yet just going. Am I making any sense? (Elias nods) Not knowing and wanting to know, and yet knowing.

Itís manifesting in my physical body, and I canít seem to get over it anymore. I mean, itís like Iíve been here before, Iíve done this before, and now it seems I donít have the ... I feel like maybe Iím dying. Yet Iíve explored death, and itís okay, you know? But Iím not ready to go yet and I want to live until I die, and I feel like ... I donít know, Iím lacking energy. Itís hard for me to get up in the morning (emotionally), and itís hard ... I get going and I do my day and then I come home and Iím just crashing, turning the tube on and watching whatís been happening. (Pause)

ELIAS: And what do you view that you are generating inwardly that is manifesting this?

YVONNE: I feel like I need a vision, that Iím at the point of trying to create something new, never before, and I donít have a focus yet (emotionally), and I donít know what that looks like really well. I mean, yes, Iím very opinionated and I know how I want it to be. Iím fighting this system thatís crumbling, and Iím not quite sure. I donít want to make the wrong moves. (Pause)

Iíve got this piddly little seven goddamn thousand dollars, that Iíve never had before in my whole life. Iíve always lived in kind of survival mode, not always, but most of my life, probably a whole BUNCH of lives. It feels very old, very old. (Elias smiles and nods) And Iíve got this stupid little seven thousand dollars, and I want to make it grow and I want it to be a lot, you know? I mean, I saw a thing on TV about a woman who did this business thing and she learned banking and she made lots of money and then she went to Africa and bought a tract of land and now sheís saving the animals. I thought that was cool.

ELIAS: And what do YOU want? (Pause)

YVONNE: I donít know (emotionally), thatís the problem!

ELIAS: What shall generating quantities of money offer to you?

YVONNE: Opportunities.

ELIAS: What opportunities?

YVONNE: First, to have a home base that I know is mine, for me and mine, and then to fly! (Laughing) I just want to go, I want to see, I want to do, I want it all.

ELIAS: And within you, presently, you believe that you cannot.

YVONNE: Iím stuck!

ELIAS: For you believe that there are requirements first that must be accomplished to offer you this freedom.

YVONNE: Iíve never resonated with the system thatís in place. Itís never allowed me to be me, and itís always fucked with me, you know? I feel oppressed by it, and I donít do it well.

ELIAS: I am understanding what you are expressing, and I shall say to you, what you view as an establishment of society is not oppressing you. You are oppressing you, for you choose to focus your attention outside of yourself and attach the responsibility to these expressions outside of yourself, which you thusly generate the role of the victim. And in being the victim, what are you creating? The lack of choices.

(Quietly and gently) As I have expressed in our previous session yesterday (1), if the responsibility is projected by the individual outwardly to systems, to other individuals, to societies, to circumstances, even to things such as money, where is your choice? If these expressions outside of you are creating your reality for you, and in your terms oppressing you, you offer yourself no choices. But in reality YOU are generating all of your reality, and in ALLOWING yourself to recognize your own responsibility of self, you do not oppress yourself, my friend, and you do not create this fearful expression in association with responsibility.

It also is not work; it is an expression of freedom. For if you are creating all of your reality, then you also incorporate choice. You have incorporated much time framework in which you offer yourself little choices, for your attention projects outwardly.

YVONNE: How can I shift that? I need out of here. Iíve been in here a very long time, and I know that the doorís open. I mean, intellectually I grasp it all, but it hasnít filtered down into my fingertips yet.

ELIAS: I am understanding. That you offer yourself information intellectually is a step, but I am also quite understanding the difference of incorporating the concepts intellectually and incorporating the action of reality.

YVONNE: The experience.

ELIAS: Correct.

Now; in this, how do you begin? You begin in moving your attention to you. I am aware that this appears in words to be a quite simplistic movement, but in actuality the familiarity is to be projecting your attention outwardly, so much so that you are not even noticing. Therefore, the initial step is to be allowing yourself to notice.

In the moment that you are experiencing this lack of motivation, this depression, this anxiety, these signals are quite strong. In the moment they are easily recognized and easily noticed. Incorporate these signals as an opportunity, for they are, in actuality. In this opportunity, as you notice these signals, allow yourself to move your attention to identify what you are associating with in that moment that you are subsequently generating these signals in relation to.

Let me express to you, in what you generate yourself, for the most part your challenge involves two aspects. For in the moment that you begin generating this anxiety, your attention is projecting futurely in anticipation of what may be or what you may not generate, therefore you discount yourself. But the point is to recognize that your attention is moving futurely, not in the now.

YVONNE: Right.

ELIAS: The other aspect of what you generate in the moment in relation to projecting your attention futurely [is that] you create a movement of energy back, so to speak, into the now, [in] which you attack your motivation. These are figurative terms.

The attention moves futurely; the signal of anxiety begins. The energy moves back into the now and affects the now expression, which is the motivation. It eliminates the motivation in direct alignment with the projection of attention future.

Now; in the moment that you notice the signal of the anxiety, also allow yourself to notice how you are projecting your attention future. As you notice that projection, intentionally express to yourself Ė you may even incorporate actual verbal language, if you are so choosing, to attain your attention Ė express in that moment ĎSTOP!í Once expressing Ďstop,í move your attention to NOW, and allow yourself to recognize and assess what is actually occurring NOW.

YVONNE: But isnít that the creative moment? Isnít that the place where I...


YVONNE: ...create the new thing?

ELIAS: Yes. But you are not allowing yourself. (Strongly) In THIS moment, in THIS NOW, you are creating precisely what I am describing to you. What are you actually creating? What are you actually DOING in this moment?

YVONNE: Expanding.

ELIAS: No! What are you ACTUALLY doing in this moment?

YVONNE: Listening to you.

ELIAS: Correct! Therefore, what is the anxiety? What is its association? Not with what you are generating presently in choice. What you are generating presently in this now, in choice, in doing, is what you want.


ELIAS: You want to be engaging conversation with myself and you are, but you are also simultaneously generating TREMENDOUS tension and anxiety...


ELIAS: ...and projecting energy. Notice, IN THIS NOW, and express what to your self? (Slight pause) One word.

YVONNE: Iím sorry, I kind of lost what youíre getting at.

ELIAS: I am engaging the exercise with you, in this now!

YVONNE: So, right now I want to stop...


YVONNE: ...the tension, the anxiety.

ELIAS: Therefore, you express to yourself one word: ĎSTOP!í


ELIAS: Now; where do you move your attention? Move your attention to your feet and express Ďrelax.í Move your attention slowly and completely through your entire body.

YVONNE: Relax.

ELIAS: Do not merely express to yourself Ďrelax.í Shall we engage together?

(Speaking slowly and gently) Feel tension within the physical body muscles and release that tension. Feel physical tension move in ease. Feel yourself release this tension and relax, and allow yourself your breath. For it is quite difficult to hold tension within your physical body and also incorporate tremendous intake of breath and releasing. As you are continuing to allow yourself to relax, do not occupy thinking other than in the noticing of your muscles, your body, your bones.

As you continue this action now, let me express also to you, the action of what you generate within physical focus that you identify as crying, if you allow yourself the recognition of this action, as an individual draws in their breath and holds tension, you facilitate the action of crying quite easily; but in releasing the tension, it is difficult to continue this action of crying, for the action itself is a natural release of body tension.

YVONNE: Crying?

ELIAS: Yes. It is a natural action that you instruct your body consciousness to engage to release the tension.

Now; in this moment, as you are incorporating this action, I am aware that my speaking to you is distracting, and you are not fully allowing yourself to incorporate your attention merely upon you.

YVONNE: Right, and relaxing.

ELIAS: Correct. But we are incorporating an example of an exercise together, that you may remember.

In this, also recognize that as you turn your attention to your physical body, you stop projecting your attention futurely. You stop associating automatically with what you are anticipating or what you are thinking concerning future.

Once you have distracted your attention from the projection future and have focused it in the now, offering it an occupation with intentionally relaxing your physical body consciousness, and once you have allowed yourself to relax, you may question yourself: ĎWhat am I generating now? What am I actually doing now? Am I incorporating that action that I am anticipating and projecting my attention to futurely? No! I am sitting within a chair. I am incorporating an exercise of relaxing my physical muscles. What am I generating that shall create anxiety?í No expression.

This in itself, my friend, offers you choice. For now you release the anxiety and the fear and the discouragement and the oppression, for your attention now turns to you and you incorporate the freedom of knowing, ĎI am generating little movement presently. I am sitting within a chair. I am relaxing. Ah! I incorporate many choices! I may choose whatever I want in this moment.í

YVONNE: And then? Then the anxiety returns, because I cannot focus on one thing. Thereís a judgment on what I will choose to create, and it needs to be right.

ELIAS: It matters not, my friend! (Yvonne laughs) There is no right choice.

YVONNE: I understand that.

ELIAS: What is significant is not the right choice or the wrong choice, but what IS the choice Ė recognizing what it is that you want.

YVONNE: I want it all! (Laughs)

ELIAS: And I may express to you, you may have it, but YOU must generate it. As you continue to merely project futurely and do not DO in the moment Ė or what you choose to do is to unmotivate yourself or to express anxiety Ė you merely create a circle.

YVONNE: Exactly, and Iím stuck.

ELIAS: But you are not stuck.

YVONNE: I donít want to be stuck.

ELIAS: This is the reason that I am expressing this exercise to you, for this draws your attention to the now and allows you to recognize [that] you may choose whatever you want and generate that and create it, but you also must be recognizing that you create this in the now. Choose ANY choice; it matters not. You begin in the now, and you do not offer yourself the recognition, other than in intellectual thoughts, for you are so very busy in the now generating anxiety and thinking futurely. How may you create in the now and seize your moments if your attention is not focused in the now? (Pause)

Commonly individuals express a wish to be creating quantities of money. Commonly individuals express that they want to be creating an on-going intimate relationship with another individual.

YVONNE: Or two or three. (Laughs)

ELIAS: Now; in both of these wants, commonly the individual views both of these creations as expressed outside of themselves and that they do not create them, they acquire them.

YVONNE: I read that transcript about the difference between acquiring and manifesting. Intellectually that sounds right on. I mean, yes, I know that it resonates with me. Itís just a matter, I guess, of learning how to...

ELIAS: It is a matter of offering yourself permission to create the first step, and once offering yourself permission to create this first step in the now, it becomes much more easily expressed.

ĎI want to be generating quantities of money.í The first step is to discontinue concentrating upon HOW you shall generate quantities of money and to begin to trust yourself that you merely shall. This is the first step.

Also, recognizing what your motivation is. Many individuals, and yourself also, associate quantities of money with the expression of freedom. You need not incorporate any money to generate freedom. All that you perceive you need are beliefs: you NEED this dwelling, you NEED a vehicle for transportation, you NEED electricity, you NEED communication devices, you NEED specific substances to consume.

YVONNE: I need a credit card with an unlimited amount! (Laughing)

ELIAS: Quite! ĎI need be incorporating plastic!í And all of these Ďneedsí need money.

YVONNE: (Sighing) Yeah, thatís just the transaction.

ELIAS: What you NEED is yourself. What you NEED is your trust.

YVONNE: Right.

ELIAS: For once you offer yourself your trust and your acceptance, you SHALL generate not what you need but all that you want. Therefore, what does the individual want with quantities of money? Freedom.

This thing, this manifestation, does not generate freedom. You are allowing a physical manifestation to dictate to you what your choices shall or shall not be. What offers you freedom is choice. Money limits your choices tremendously if you are projecting your attention to it.

YVONNE: When [my friend] Leslie invited me to this weekend, my first spontaneous reaction to that invitation was, ĎYes! All right!í and I immediately backtracked and said, ĎWait a minute, how much is it going to cost? Oh gosh, I donít know, Iíll have to look.í I sweated over it for a day, and then I finally said, ĎAllow yourself to go!í

ELIAS: Correct. View in this moment how you have allowed the manifestation of money to dictate to you your choices. A thing is dictating to you what your choice shall be. (Yvonne sighs) Other individuals dictate to you what your choices shall be.

(Very quietly and gently) But if your attention is shifted to the now and to you, you reclaim yourself and what may be viewed as your birthright: your choice, what you want regardless of any other expression, regardless of any other choice of any other individual, YOUR choice.

YVONNE: And if I stay in the moment Iíll know what I want? Thatís the other part of it. Iím so confused right now, I donít even ... well, I do know kinda what I want but...

ELIAS: But you do not offer yourself permission to generate this, and you also shall become much more familiar with the identification of what you want genuinely in allowing yourself to become more familiar with YOU. The manner in which you accomplish this is to pay attention to you and your choices.

Many individuals express in their want to be creating intimacy with another individual that they want to be companions and they want to share and they want to be loved and appreciated by another individual. In actuality, what the want is is to be expressing the freedom within self to express these qualities yourself freely, to be offering yourself no obstacle in your OWN expression, in your OWN choice Ė not what you may acquire from other individuals, be it relationships, be it money, be it objects, be it situations. Not what you may acquire, but what you may allow yourself in freedom to create and to express Ė this is the point of power.

YVONNE: And I want to be powerful.

ELIAS: And you are. You are merely not recognizing it. (Pause)

YVONNE: (Sighs) I donít know that Iíve got it all together. I guess where I get hung up is trusting myself.

ELIAS: Quite.

YVONNE: For instance, part of what Iíve been working on is trying to move energy out of my way so that I can trust and know me Ė you know, ĎHello, I hear you!í Sometimes I think I do, and then it explodes, and itís like I wasnít hearing myself at all. What was that all about? I was wrong again.

ELIAS: It is not necessarily that you are wrong.

Now; once again, this is the point of power within you in the moment, familiarizing yourself with you, listening to your communication to yourself through emotion in the moment Ė not merely the signal, which is the feeling, but the message which you are presenting to yourself Ė recognizing what you are actually doing in the moment, what you are choosing, and allowing yourself an awareness of what you are thinking, for the thinking many times is not in harmony with the doing.

YVONNE: Can I describe an example? First of all, my mother died on September 3, and then of course that 911 thing happened. In that week later, there was an opening, a job opening, in my agency and I thought that I was a shoe-in. I wanted the job, I went for it, and I really thought that it was mine. It wasnít and I didnít get it, and it really cut into my perception of who I am and what Iím about. I was really just devastated, feeling very useless, like unappreciated and just worthless. I felt like I missed it, I just so missed it.

ELIAS: (Very quietly) For your attention is focused within your thinking...

YVONNE: Analyzing.

ELIAS: ...and not paying attention to what you are doing.

In this example, you have expressed that you are convinced that you shall acquire this job. You are generating a thought process that you shall acquire this job, and you are associating the thoughts with generating your reality. Thought does not create reality. You may think and think and think and you may concentrate your attention upon your thinking, and you may create painfulness within your brain in thinking, thinking, thinking (Yvonne laughs), and this is not necessarily creating WHAT you think.

You are preoccupying your attention with your thinking, and you are believing that your thinking is the instrument that generates an energy that shall thusly produce your reality. No, it does not. What you CHOOSE and what you perceive creates your reality. Your thinking is a mechanism to translate information. Thinking is a tool. It is reality, but it does not create reality.

YVONNE: So in order to manifest, how do I get out of the compartment of thinking, to hook into that energy that does create?

ELIAS: You shall always, in your terms, incorporate thinking. I am not expressing to you that you do not incorporate thinking, but the key is where you direct your attention. Direct your attention to what you are choosing, for what you are choosing actually follows your direction in the moment.

YVONNE: But I chose the job and I didnít get it.

ELIAS: No, you did not choose the job, or you would be manifest in the job.


ELIAS: (Strongly) You chose NOT to be creating the job and that IS what you created. What you CHOOSE shall be what you create. You did not Ďchoose the job.í (Pause)

You THOUGHT you chose the job, but what you THOUGHT and what you DID were different, and this is what I am expressing to you as the point. What you THINK is not necessarily what you shall generate. Therefore, there is significance to turn your attention to what you are CHOOSING, what you are generating, not necessarily what you THINK you are generating.

YVONNE: Oh, that blind spot of mine! (Pause) How do you begin to see in the dark?

ELIAS: Excellent question, for you may associate the seeing with the thinking. How do you begin to see in the dark? You feel.

YVONNE: But I always thought that I led with my heart. I am a very feeling person, very feeling.

ELIAS: In relation to outside! And we are discussing...

YVONNE: Inside.


YVONNE: Yes, and this is my block. This is my block.

ELIAS: And this is the reason I have offered you this exercise to practice.

YVONNE: The relaxing in the moment.

ELIAS: Yes, and paying attention to you in the moment and stopping the projection outside of you, outside of the now.

For, as I have stated, although this may appear quite simplistic, many actions occur simultaneously in this simple exercise. You begin validating yourself. You begin to allow yourself to become familiar with turning your attention to you, with holding your attention in the now, with becoming familiar with your energy, with noticing your choices. Many actions are occurring in this one simple action.

YVONNE: I really donít know myself, do I?

ELIAS: Objectively, you know your thinking! (Yvonne laughs) You are quite familiar with expressions outside of yourself. You are quite familiar with the expressions of other individuals, and allow yourself intuitive communications concerning other individualsí energies and expressions and choices, and you have efficiently distracted yourself from allowing yourself to pay attention to you and your choices. But the wondrousness, my friend, is that you may begin now.

YVONNE: And I fully intend to! (Laughing)

ELIAS: Ah ha!

YVONNE: I mean, I know that is my mission in life at this point in time!

... One last thing? I feel, even now after talking, that Iím very tired. Iím just very tired. I donít have enough energy it seems, and can you help me? (Sighs and laughs)

ELIAS: My friend, this exercise also shall be helpful in this expression. It is not surprising that you are experiencing tremendous fatigue. You have been holding to your energy field so VERY tightly for so VERY long, in your terms. This may be quite exhausting.

YVONNE: It is.

ELIAS: It is much easier to relax your energy and allow. It requires much less energy to express in this manner than to create tension.

YVONNE: But itís like almost a forgetfulness. I canít remember how to be ... and itís like cellular memory. Itís like, ĎHello, wake up. Letís remember!í

ELIAS: This is the reason that you shall incorporate this OBJECTIVE exercise, to familiarize yourself once again.

YVONNE: (Laughs) Iíll do that!

ELIAS: And in this time framework, in relation to what we have been discussing, if you are incorporating fatigue in the moment, allow yourself permission to choose to respond. Allow yourself to recognize what you want: ĎI am experiencing fatigue. I must be continuing interaction in this present now, and incorporating this action and that action, and what do I want in this moment? I want to be incorporating restfulness and a nap.í (Yvonne laughs)

Very well. You may offer yourself permission to create that. You are under no obligation to any other individual but you. (Pause)

YVONNE: (Sighs) Iíll learn to take care of myself.

ELIAS: Ah. Practice, my friend.

YVONNE: Time to end?

ELIAS: Very well. I shall continue to be encouraging to you.

YVONNE: Thank you.Ē [session 941, October 28, 2001]

End Notes:

(1) Paulís note: a reference to a group session held the previous day in Pennsylvania.

Digests Ė see also: | accepting self | attention (doing and choosing) | avenues of communication | being in the now | belief systems; an overview | desires/wants | fear | focus of essence: an overview | information | noticing self | perception | relationships | trusting self | victims/perpetrators | you create your reality |

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