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ELIAS: “Now; this is not to discount any of you. It is merely to offer you information that in some manners you are deluding yourselves, for you are not paying attention and you are not observing your own actions. You are not generating the connection between how significant your actions are in each of your days and how that contributes to what you do not want and how it creates what you do not want, and that you are NOT victims, that you are not unconscious and that you DO incorporate the ability to intentionally manipulate your reality and create precisely what you want. But it begins with you, not with outside of you. This is the most significant.

One of the elements that begins with you is to recognize what you deny yourselves that generates this irritation and this fear, what you do not allow yourselves, and how you project your attention outside of yourselves, seeking control from outside and losing it within, not generating a genuine awareness of what you are actually doing.

I challenge each individual within this room this day to incorporate one day of paying attention to every action that you incorporate – EVERY action – and in paying attention to every action that you incorporate within one day, attempting to evaluate what influenced that action. What were you actually doing? Shall you close the door? Shall you open the door? What influences that action?

DEANE: Wanting to get into the other room, of course. That’s rather mundane, to go from one room to the other.

ELIAS: That is PRECISELY what I am expressing. If you open a door and you move into another room, do you close the door? What motivates you to close it?

DEANE: It’s hot outside; I want to keep it cool inside. What does that tell me?

INNA: To close out other people?

ELIAS: Not necessarily; perhaps.

INNA: It is his preference.

ELIAS: Perhaps it is a preference.

NAOMI: You’re assuming that you close the door. You don’t necessarily have to close the door.

ELIAS: Correct, but the question is do you close the door, and you expressed a response in relation to closing the door. I am not assuming; that was his approach.

In this, if you close the door, what is your motivation? It DOES offer you information. You may be closing the door for you do not wish to be engaging the noise from outside. It may be an irritant to you. Or you may be closing the door for it is more comfortable to you inside, for the temperature is different. That is a preference. In all of these actions, you can identify what is a preference, what is not a preference, what is being influenced by some element other than a preference.

Do you lock the door if you depart your dwelling? Do you think of this? No, it is an automatic action if you do or if you do not. You do not engage thought, you do not engage an emotional communication, you do not pay attention. It is an automatic response. You merely do it. But that action is being influenced by some belief. It may be being influenced by a preference – which is also a belief – but it may be influenced by a preference or it may be influenced by an underlying belief concerning protection, which also may be an underlying fear that you may not be expressing or feeling in the moment that you lock the door, but it is present.

DEANE: Which is the cause to throw the lock.

ELIAS: Correct.

PAT B: Couldn’t that be an automatic response with no thought?

ELIAS: It IS an automatic response. It is, and that is the point. That is what I am expressing to you. That is what is significant to pay attention to. For that automatic response, if it is being influenced by an underlying expression of protection and an underlying fear of harm, you continue in daily activities – perhaps more than once within daily activities – to reinforce that belief and that fear. Subsequently you may create that fear, for you have reinforced it over and over and over. You concentrate upon it continuously, and the more you concentrate upon it the more you create it.

This is the point of what I am expressing to you in relation to paying attention to what you are actually doing and what type of energy you are expressing. This is the point of posing the question to you all of what irritates you and what you fear. For in posing that question to yourselves, you may evaluate more clearly what you are actually doing and what type of energy you are actually projecting. Not in what you think of as significant important events but in what you do in each of your days, for that is what creates those important significant events, such as important significant conflicts.

CATHY: I have a question. You’re talking about locking the door and noticing that you’re locking the door and noticing your protection beliefs. When I think about that, I automatically move into a position of thinking I shouldn’t have protection beliefs or I shouldn’t set up polarization. So I become polarized against polarization in general.

ELIAS: Correct! And the point...

CATHY: I imagine a triangle and there’s two opposed sides, polarized – I can see it clearly – and I’m just polarized in general and I shouldn’t be doing that. So then the question becomes say I lock my door and I’ve got this protection belief. As opposed to having my protection belief, what should I do?

ELIAS: What have we been discussing?

CATHY: I know, but spell it out again!

ELIAS: Not oppose!

CATHY: Right.

ELIAS: No, not ‘right.’ Not oppose!

CATHY: What’s the opposite of oppose?

ELIAS: Not words! Not words! Receive this energy from me, not words. Not oppose – what do you do if you do not oppose?

ELLA: You acknowledge and accept, right?

ELIAS: Allow, acknowledge. You do not ‘do.’ It is unnecessary to do. That is your automatic response, that you automatically expect yourself to do some action. If you are not opposing, what should [you] do? Not do.

CATHY: Accept and allow.

ELIAS: Yes! Acknowledge it. Allow yourself to experience it, recognize it, identify it – do nothing.

ELLA: I have a question about the paying attention exercise. You recommended that exercise in private and public sessions. As a Sumari I like to try things. But what I did notice was that when you try to pay attention to everything that you do, you put yourself in a situation as a caterpillar that analyzes which foot to put down but forgets how to walk completely! (Group laughter) I try to do that but I get completely crowded in my head and I say, ‘The heck with it! I don’t know what I’m doing!’ Is there any alternate approach to that?

Let’s say you take a normal day. Most of us work. Maybe it’s better do it on a weekend when you’re not as required to pay attention to...

ELIAS: Not necessarily.

ELLA: If I had to concentrate on my work – I do take a lot of actions at work, interacting with other people or concentrating on what I’m doing – but then I have to concentrate on that also. Then if I self-analyze myself, I completely disintegrate! I just feel very, very crowded in my head.

ELIAS: This is not a matter of self-analyzation.

ELLA: But it is! It becomes.

ELIAS: No, that is what you may generate with it, but that is not the point and that is not what I am expressing.

ELLA: But I’m asking myself questions all the time: ‘Why am I generating that?’

CATHY: Aren’t we all on that page?

ELLA: You have that same problem? See, we’re in agreement! (Laughter)

ELIAS: Let me express to you a clarification. Very well, let me clarify. It is not necessary that you analyze or that you evaluate in the moment in that day. The exercise is not to be analyzing but noticing.

ELLA: To me it’s the same.

ELIAS: It is not the same.

ELLA: I’m trying to notice, while noticing and practicing the information, while automatically doing...

ELIAS: And that is complicating.

ELLA: It is. In a way, it almost feels like maybe I shouldn’t self-analyze but it results in that. What do you suggest? Maybe I should go through my day and then before I go to sleep analyze that day in retrospect?

ELIAS: Not necessarily. Perhaps in your subsequent day you may generate a recall and allow yourself to evaluate. What did you experience? How did you experience? What was your motivation?

ELLA: How do you distinguish between noticing and analyzing? Where is your distinction? Because to me they’re almost synonymous.

ELIAS: They are not synonymous.

ELLA: Could you extrapolate on that?

ELIAS: Noticing is merely noticing. Noticing is paying attention – ‘I closed the door.’ No other thought.

ELLA: If I closed the door because...

ELIAS: Not because! (Group laughter) Not because!

ELLA: I got to the point that I said the heck with it! I closed the door because I have a belief, I acknowledged the belief, I can do whatever.

ELIAS: Not because!

ELLA: Not because?

ELIAS: No: ‘I closed the door.’

CATHY: So the analyzing is the doing that you’re telling me not to do.


ELLA: Then what is the point of noticing that I closed the door without thinking why?

ELIAS: You do actions continuously. You do actions continuously that you do not analyze, that you do not incorporate ANY thought in relation to what you do.

ELLA: That is correct.

ELIAS: This is not to say that you are not continuously feeding yourself information. You are continuously inputting information. You are not THINKING of that information, but you are assimilating it. In that assimilation of what you do, in noticing what you do, you are generating directions.

ELLA: Let me ask you a question. I just go through my day and I interact with people and I’m noticing, as you suggest. I’m noticing that I generated a judgment. So I’m telling myself I generated a judgment and I should go home. I basically offer myself information of every action that I take during the day.


ELLA: Okay, I’ll do that. (Group laughter) What would that result in at the end of the day? It would seem in my subconscious I would process all of this information...

ELIAS: You are continuously processing...

ELLA: I understand that, but even by noticing the result without self-analyzing or without putting a judgment on myself, it helps me somewhere in the purple center. (1)

ELIAS: Yes, it is beneficial, for what you do for the most part is not notice most of what you do. The mere action of noticing what you are doing is enough. That shall spark subsequent evaluation. It shall offer you information concerning what you do, what motivates you, and it allows you to become more familiar with you.

All of you may generate a thought that you know yourselves very well. I may pose many questions to each of you, and I may express to you that for the most part the likelihood that with any of my questions you would answer, ‘I don’t know,’ for you do not pay attention.

But if you pay attention to what you are doing even in one day – without analyzing, merely noticing – you do offer yourself considerable information. For even without analyzation, you surprise yourself and you express in that noticing, ‘Ah, I have not recognized that I do that previous to this moment’.” [session 1742, April 02, 2005]

End Notes:

(1) Paul’s note: Ella refers to her purple energy center, located in the top of the head, according to Elias.

Digests: find out more about the energy centers.

Digests – see also: | accepting self | attention (doing and choosing) | belief systems; an overview | essence families; an overview (Sumari) | fear | information | noticing self | victims/perpetrators |

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