accepting self (belief systems), pt.2
Note: this is the second of two parts on accepting self. Go to accepting self (belief systems), pt. 1.
KATIE: “I also had another recent dream. Actually, it was more like a month ago. I dreamt that my father was with me, and he was holding me and praising me for all of my accomplishments and loving me in a way that I never experienced with him in life, and then he told me that there were some coming challenges, but that he would be with me throughout those. Was this actually my father, or was this imagery I created for myself?
ELIAS: This is imagery that you have presented to yourself in conjunction with tapping into energy deposits of this individual – not necessarily connecting with the focus itself, but connecting with aspects of the energy of that focus which are deposited within consciousness – and you have offered yourself this connection to be reassuring to yourself and to be validating yourself in the area that you may be receiving helpfulness through consciousness regardless of the situations that you may be encountering and creating within your physical focus.
KATIE: Okay. The challenges that he described – actually, that he didn’t elaborate on, but mentioned – are they related to some of the difficulties I’ve been having lately, particularly with my roommate?
ELIAS: Partially. This would be an example of these types of challenges as they relate to the identification of belief systems and the movement into the area of viewing and interpreting and beginning to be accepting of the aspects of belief systems, which may be a difficult process, in your terms, for these are the very elements of this shift in consciousness that we identify as being those elements of trauma as associated with this shift in consciousness, which may also be viewed as challenges as you move through these areas of viewing and allowing yourself to be confronting, so to speak, these different aspects of belief systems.
KATIE: Okay. So how am I doing at moving through these? Because right now it sure doesn’t feel like I am, (Elias grins) particularly with regard to the difficulties with my roommate.
ELIAS: (Chuckling) Let me express to you that as you allow yourself to move more fully into the area of viewing all of these different aspects of the belief system of relationship, you may offer yourself more helpfulness, and you may also offer yourself more elements of acceptance of yourself.
In this, individuals may be becoming confused in certain areas related to this subject matter. In your experiences, you may also, in like manner to many individuals, move in the direction of attempting to be accepting of OTHER individuals and their behaviors, and in this action, if you are not viewing the aspects of the belief system that YOU hold, you are defeating the point! (11) For in viewing the aspects of the belief system that YOU hold and addressing to these, you also automatically become less affected by the actions and behaviors of OTHER individuals, recognizing that they have not moved into the area of viewing these particular aspects of belief systems.
Now! I caution you in this, that you do not allow yourself to be moving into the trap of what you in physical focus term to be self-righteousness, viewing that you are more advanced than another individual within your movement, for this also is defeating of the point, for it is merely creating a judgment in another direction. It is merely altering your viewing of one bird and distracting yourself into the viewing of a different bird, but you have not allowed either bird to fly free from this cage of belief system.
Therefore, I express to you that your most helpful engagement with yourself in this area is to be allowing yourself to view each aspect of what you experience in the area of conflict and irritation, and each time you are experiencing these elements, you may express to yourself that you are confronting yourself with an aspect of the belief system, and in that, you may address to the aspect of the belief system that you are viewing and allow yourself to be accepting of that, and therefore lessen your own conflict. As you hold to these aspects of the belief system and justify within yourself, you merely reinforce the belief system and all of its aspects, and in that action, you are moving yourself into what we have designated as the trauma of this shift, which we are offering information to be avoiding that action.” [session 343, November 29, 1998]
JAN: “You’ve mentioned to me before that I hold issues in sexuality, and that these issues are blocking in tension with my partner, and I’ve been trying to identify those issues, and I was wondering if ... and I’m having some problems doing that! What are these issues that I’m holding?
ELIAS: This would be an area that you may be engaging a time framework to be dealing with, for these issues are concerning your own view of self and your acceptance of self.
You are moving into areas that you allow yourself more of a trustfulness of yourself, but you equate trustfulness and acceptance as synonymous, and they are not. For there are many times that individuals may trust their abilities in creating and within their movement, but this is not to say that they are not continuing to grapple with their own duplicity and their own acceptance of self.
In this area, you hold issues and difficulties, many of which are what you would term to be underlying deeply in areas that you do not necessarily allow yourself to view. For surfacely, it appears that you may be quite efficient and quite accepting of yourself in the manner that you are pleased with how you have created your reality, for you offer yourself many objective reasons, in physical terms, to be pleased with how you have created your reality. But these are outward expressions and they also are camouflage expressions, for they camouflage a fearfulness that lies underneath, so to speak, in the lack of acceptance of self; that there is not held a genuine worthiness of self, a genuine adequacy of self. This also manifests itself outwardly in a continuous driving force to be creating of perfection.
If you are allowing yourself to view ... if you are allowing yourself to be viewing and nurturing self, recognizing that it is a beneficial expression to be creating what you term to be vulnerability.... Vulnerability is the same as openness, and as you allow yourself this expression of openness, of vulnerability, you may also view the wondrousness – and I may express to you also a wordage that I do not offer often, but I shall offer to you this day – you may view a sweetness within your focus that you may develop an affection for within self, and this shall offer you more of an ease in acceptance of self.
You block as you do not allow yourself to accept the worthiness of yourself and the viewing of yourself that you are equal in your abilities and in your worthiness to all of those individuals that you view to be more than yourself. They are not. They also are not more efficient than are you. You merely view this in your perception, for you are not accepting of the wondrousness of yourself.
In this, let me express to you, allow yourself to view this sweetness, for I do not express this word in the manner of pleasantness that you attach to, but in the sweetness of nectar ... that although it is pleasurable, it also holds its own quality of sensation and sensual affectingness, and you hold these qualities also. You merely need be allowing yourself to view them.
JAN: That’s wonderful. I will try, but I won’t try too hard.... (Cracking up!)
ELIAS: Ha ha ha!
JAN: I will hope that I can allow this to occur. Thank you, Elias.
ELIAS: You are very welcome.” [session 350, January 03, 1999]
BOBBI: “Well, I have some questions today that I’ve been thinking about for quite a while, and I’ve managed to confuse myself pretty well about them, (Elias grins) and so I was hoping for your input.
My first one would be in the direction of, I’ve had an issue with my weight for most of my life, and I’m really tired of thinking about it, and so instead of thinking about dieting and all that stuff again, I would just prefer to be accepting of self and accepting what I’ve created here, but that’s not been particularly easy either. I know there’s imagery presented in the body type that I’ve created, but I would like to know what exactly the issue is in my case. I’ve identified many of the beliefs I hold about it, but in accepting it and understanding it better, I’d like to understand what exactly it is I’m accepting!
ELIAS: What you are offering yourself the opportunity to view is an expression in objective terms of the acceptance of self, and in this, you present yourself with an issue that you have held for much time framework. The issue of physical form – and aligning with the mass belief systems as to aesthetic beauty concerning physical form – is that which is creating of the belief system, as you are aware. But within this time framework, you are moving in the direction of the realization that in addressing to this issue, it is not necessarily the presentment to yourself to be altering your physical form, but rather to be accepting what you have created and moving yourself outside of the mass belief systems.
This is an element of what you may term to be the process of accepting aspects of belief systems, allowing yourself to move outside of the influence of these mass belief systems and the officially accepted reality, for in moving outside of this, you no longer allow the influence of energy for yourself in these areas, and this allows you to be liberating of yourself in allowing yourself to be accepting of your own creations regardless of your choice in how you are creating them.
Let me express to you that I have recently offered information to other individuals in very similar manner in this same subject matter.
In this, the base line of the acceptance is to be recognizing all of the aspects of the belief system which you are involving yourself with, and in this, as you recognize the aspects of the belief systems, not to be placing judgment on any of the expressions, but rather to be moving in the direction of acknowledging your own movement, your own alignment with certain aspects of the belief systems, and recognizing that you are much more affecting as you allow yourself to be accepting rather than forcing energy in what you term to be ‘against’ certain aspects of the belief system.
Let me offer you an example that I have offered to other individuals also. If you are holding an aspect of the belief that certain elements that may be consumed shall be creating of weightiness within your physical form, my suggestion to you is not to be moving yourself into a thought process of denial of that alignment with that aspect.
Such as: If you view that sausage shall be creating weight within your physical form if you are consuming this element, addressing to this efficiently would not be to view this aspect and express to yourself, ‘This is merely an aspect of the belief system and it matters not,’ for underlyingly, you are aligning with that aspect.
Therefore, as you fight with that aspect, you merely lend energy to its perpetuation. Therefore, if you are consuming of this sausage, it shall be producing of weight, for this is your expectation, regardless of what you are expressing to yourself objectively within your thought process or within your language.
You may express to yourself and to other individuals, ‘I do not believe that this holds truth, and I shall view myself in the mirror, and I shall will myself to be holding a thin physical form,’ and you shall continue to create the physical form that you hold presently, for your underlying expectation is not in alignment with your thought process. In this, as you allow yourself an acceptance and not the judgment of your alignment with certain aspects of these belief systems, they become less and less affecting and less and less important, for you are lending less and less energy to them.
What I am expressing to you is that each time you are concentrating upon the issue of the weight – each time that you are moving in the direction of attempting to be altering this situation objectively without acceptance of self in this area – what you are accomplishing in actuality is perpetuating the creation that you have already chosen. You are reinforcing the aspects of the belief systems and lending energy to them. You are also reinforcing your own expectations.
But as you allow yourself to relax your focus and your hold upon your energy in this area, and therefore allow yourself to be accepting of your creation without judgment – for in actuality, it matters not – subsequently you may be altering of your physical form, or you may not be, but it shall in reality matter not to you, for you shall be accepting of your own choices and creations ... and you shall not be placing judgment upon yourself, and in that, also reinforcing your own duplicity. Are you understanding?
BOBBI: Yes. So, I would guess or I would imagine then, as I am accepting of this and issues come up, then I would just deal with those one at a time, those beliefs, and move through it that way?
I was wondering if there was one particular belief that was ... I guess I’m looking for the key to the whole thing. I don’t know that there is one particular issue that I have with this that’s sort of the basis of the whole thing. I guess that’s what I was wondering.
ELIAS: The key is what I have expressed to you. The basis of the situation and the key to this creation is the expression of lack of acceptance of self, in whatever you are choosing to be creating.
You are placing judgments upon your creations, and this is creating conflict. If you are accepting of your creation, then it shall matter not the physical appearance, for you shall be accepting of that also, in recognition that however you choose to be physically manifesting yourself is worthy, adequate, and glorious!
It matters not that it does not fit into the officially accepted reality and the confines or the narrow parameters of your societal beliefs. These are merely the perceptions en masse that are lent a tremendous amount of energy, but I express to you that although perception may be projected en masse and this IS creating of mass realities, they are all influenced by individual perceptions. Let me express to you that perception itself is highly individualized, and each of you is creating of your reality as through your perception. In this, it is greatly influenced in how you view yourself and if you are accepting of yourself and if you are not accepting of yourself.
I have expressed this many times, and individuals – and yourself – continue to not quite understand that this is the base line to all of your creations and all of your conflicts in every area, involving every aspect of every belief system. The key is to look to self and to allow yourself to begin the acceptance of self in every area of your expression. In doing this, it shall matter not, and you shall eliminate your conflict.
BOBBI: Well ... I do understand that. It’s just difficult putting that to work sometimes.
ELIAS: Quite! [The] most difficult task, so to speak, is to be accepting of self. Individuals are inquiring and questioning of me continuously to be offering them a method of what you term to be easy routes, so to speak, in accepting belief systems, but the key is to be accepting of self FIRST, and subsequently you shall allow yourself to also be accepting of belief systems. But this is the area of the most conflict and the most difficulty, for this is quite unfamiliar to you all in acceptance of self. Although you objectively offer yourselves information and express to yourselves and to each other that you are quite accepting of yourselves, in actuality, you are not!” [session 358, February 01, 1999]
LISSETTE: “I started the vegetarian thing because of health, and now I realize it’s all in your head. It’s not what you put into you physically, but what you think it will do to you. So in a way, I feel vegetarian people come here expecting one thing and I’m giving them another, because I cannot with a passion defend vegetarianism any more, because I believe more in what your beliefs do to you than what food does to you. Is that what you’re talking to me about?
(Vic’s note: Elias starts to get a little ‘cited up here)
ELIAS: You are very correct in this area!
But view now that you hold the opportunity to be using this method, so to speak – which you have developed – to be offering helpfulness to other individuals, and this presents a very good example as to what I have been expressing to you within this session.
Other individuals hold beliefs also. Therefore, you may be helpful and instructive to them in ACCEPTANCE of their beliefs, and offering information and helpfulness to them WITHIN their beliefs, and NOT DISCOUNTING their belief systems, for this is their reality!
(Deliberately) This is the type of different angle in approach of which I am speaking to you of presently.
In this, you may be approached by individuals that hold very strong belief systems in this area, and in these beliefs, they incorporate actions in alignment with responsiveness to what they consume physically. You are correct that this is a belief and is not necessarily in actuality what is affecting of them, but nonetheless, it is their reality, and that is quite real! The action is filtered through their belief system.
Therefore, you may offer to them information coupled with the belief system that may be helpful to them in widening their awareness, and not placing judgment upon whichever method they choose to be helpful to themselves, for in actuality, it matters not. If an individual chooses to be moving in the direction of vegetarianism with the thought process that this shall be helpful to them, they may proceed in this direction and they may be affecting of their reality, for they BELIEVE that they are affecting of their reality, and your beliefs are quite influencing of your perception, which is the element that creates your reality!
Therefore, think to yourself and realize that you may be compliant within other individuals’ belief systems and accepting of this, not placing judgment upon their creation of their reality, and simultaneously you may be helpful to them in offering them more information COUPLED WITH their beliefs.” [session 391, May 04, 1999]
ELIAS: “I offer information generally to groups of individuals, knowing that I am interacting subjectively with each of the individuals that shall draw themselves to the information, and that they shall apply this information to the areas in which their attention holds within each moment.
In this, in general terms, I express repeatedly to you all in literal terms that there is no good or bad or right or wrong. These are influences of your belief systems. I offer this information for the express purpose that you all recognize IN CONCEPT that the reality of essence and consciousness outside of belief systems that you hold within physical focus is that experience is experience. Choice is choice. They are not attached to judgments in the direction of right or wrong.
Now; understand that individually, as I speak to you each, I also hold the awareness that your reality IS real – it is NOT an illusion – and your belief systems are an intricate part of your reality.
Therefore, although I offer you the knowledge of the CONCEPT that you hold a belief system which we term to be duplicity and the CONCEPT that there is in actuality no right or wrong, I also acknowledge simultaneously that within your physical reality, you create a reality which DOES hold right and wrong judgments, and you have moved in the direction of lending very much energy to these judgments for so very long that these actions and behaviors are automatic to you and they are very much a part of your reality.
Therefore, in working within the framework of your belief systems, there is also expressed an understanding and an acceptance of these beliefs and their affectingness within your daily creations of your reality.
In this, I encourage individuals to be allowing more freedom within their expressions, challenging those aspects of their creations and experiences that they deem as bad or wrong and allowing themselves the expression of acceptance in turning that judgment into a right and good judgment temporarily, for as you are aware, within your reality, you all lean in the direction of creating in the manner of the pendulum. You shall swing far in one direction and you shall swing far in the other direction, but eventually you shall swing to the middle and you shall balance.
But prior to your balance, you also are engaged in your method of readjusting your thought process, and in this, you are incorporating new messages and information, swinging now to the other direction with your pendulum, allowing and accepting ALL of your expressions and experiences and deeming them all as good, holding the underlying knowing subjectively that this action shall facilitate the eventual balance and the genuine acceptance which shall swing the pendulum to the middle, and in that expression, you shall let fly free the expression of right and wrong and good and bad, and it shall matter not, for you shall recognize that in actuality, genuinely, your expressions, your choices, your experiences are merely that, and that they are not right or wrong.
I am expressing this to you to be clarifying that within this present now, your pendulum begins to swing to one direction and is not yet in the manner of settling within balance in the middle, for you are addressing to the expressions of duplicity which have gripped you for much of your focus in negativity and judgment, in the direction of bad and wrong and unacceptable behaviors, choices and experiences.
Therefore, you counter that information and those aspects of beliefs with different aspects of beliefs, and lean in the direction of expressing to yourselves the other judgment of good and right and acceptable. This is beneficial temporarily, as you allow yourself to be more accepting of self and more trusting of self. Once you have accomplished the acceptance of self and trust of self, this action shall no longer be necessary.” [session 397, May 18, 1999]
MIKE: “Now, what am I distracting myself from? What has come before me that I’m not ... what is being presented to me that I’m not paying attention to?
ELIAS: You are not being presented, for you are not presenting to yourself, for you are not noticing. You are distracting. In this....
MIKE: I’m what?
ELIAS: You are distracting.
MIKE: Oh, distracting. I thought you said slacking!
ELIAS: (Chuckling) I am not expressing to you or any individual that you are, in your slang terms, slacking! Ha ha ha! This is quite amusing!
MIKE: Okay. That makes a lot of sense, because yeah, I have a conflicting definition as to the word ‘effortless,’ one being what you just described, as something that you don’t put effort into, but it doesn’t mean that ... yeah, everything that you said, but I also believed somewhere in there that it meant no action and whatsuch, so that clears a lot up. So now that I’m realizing of this, doesn’t that kind of poof it out?
ELIAS: Not necessarily! You may be realizing and recognizing of certain behaviors that you hold and actions that you engage and experiences that you create and belief system that you align with. This is one element of your process, so to speak. You may be noticing and you may be identifying, but the noticing and the identifying is not the addressing to.
ELIAS: You may be distracting yourselves and not choosing to be engaging the actions of addressing to issues and beliefs and movement, knowing objectively and subjectively what you are viewing, but also choosing not to be engaging those beliefs and issues or movements and continuing to not be creating what you are seeking.
Noticing is important – identifying is important – for this affords you the objective ability to be addressing objectively to these areas, but noticing and identifying are not addressing to. They are not engaging the action of altering the behaviors and the situations that you have already created.
MIKE: Okay, um....
ELIAS: This is also coupled with your belief system with regard to effortlessness. ‘I shall notice, I shall identify, and POOF! My beliefs shall fly away, and I shall not be engaging any action in this area, for it is effortless.’ (Chuckling, and Mike cracks up)
MIKE: Oh gosh. So basically, by addressing to this new aspect and whatsuch, I’ll start presenting myself with areas to be moving into that won’t be distracting myself?
ELIAS: If you are so choosing.
Let me express to you, Mikah [Micahel], that noticing is very intricately involved in this process that you have designed for your widening, for even within the action of addressing to situations, belief systems, experiences – all of your creations and issues – you continue to be noticing all of your own created behaviors, all of your responses to not merely your behaviors and creations but to other individuals’ behaviors and creations, for this offers you information also, and to be noticing all of the imagery that is presented to you daily, which also offers you more information as to your own movement.
I may not be repeating of this to you enough, and I continue to repeat this to you and shall continue to repeat this to you, to the point that you genuinely understand and begin implementing this type of action. Within this present now, you continue to not entirely objectively understand what I am expressing to you.
Your thought process moves in the direction of expressing to you, oh yes, you do understand! (Mike cracks up) I express to you that I may access your energy and subjective movement, and I may express to you that objectively, oh no, you do not entirely understand what I am expressing to you, which I understand that you do not understand, and therefore I continue to offer to you repeated statements, for as you continue to objectively receive this information, you shall allow yourself to assimilate this information.
One of your most important actions is to be noticing, noticing all that is within your reality – your behavior, other individuals’ behavior, your creations, your lack of creations, your imagery that is presented to you through yourself, through other individuals, through your world. All about you continuously, you are presenting yourself and drawing yourself to imagery that speaks to you in a constant manner. You are merely accustomed to ignoring this information and not noticing. You have placed yourselves upon automatic response, and in this automatic response, you do not notice all of the information that you offer to yourselves.
You do not even notice your OWN creations, your own behaviors. You automatically create behaviors; you automatically excuse behaviors; you automatically justify behaviors. THIS is the area that I direct your attention to, to be noticing and to be identifying WHAT you are noticing.
Once you have noticed and identified, you continue to be noticing, and in your noticing, you also begin addressing to what you are noticing while you continue to be noticing in an ongoing manner within the time framework that you are also addressing to the situation.
Let us look once again upon our shoes. I have offered the analogy of the shoes and widening your awareness.
Now; let us look to the shoes. As you place the shoes upon your feet, you are noticing that they are holding tightly to your feet. They are creating uncomfortableness upon your feet.
You are noticing. You notice that you are uncomfortable. You are identifying that your feet are uncomfortable. You are identifying the reason that your feet are uncomfortable – the shoes press upon them tightly.
Now; in this, you implement action. You do not merely concentrate upon the shoes and poof them away! You implement action, and you engage acquiring another pair of shoes.
In this, you experiment with the new shoes, and you place them upon your feet. You are continuing to notice whether these new shoes shall be creating comfort or discomfort, and if they are not entirely comfortable, you shall discard them and you shall engage another pair of shoes, and you shall continue to be engaging more pairs of shoes until you acquire the pair of shoes that affords you the freedom of movement with no restriction.
In this – the acquiring of the new shoes and the exchange of shoes and the action that accompanies putting the new shoes upon your feet, experimenting with the new shoes – all of the actions that you engage in conjunction with each pair of new shoes is addressing to the situation. But throughout the action of addressing to the situation with the shoes, you are also continuously noticing and identifying.
It is not a situation of one follows the other, and once one has been accomplished, it is disengaged. You are continuing with all three throughout your process. Are you understanding?
MIKE: Yeah, I’m trying to assimilate it. It sounds logical.
ELIAS: Once you have acquired the pair of shoes that you may place on either foot, regardless of left or right, and it shall be worn comfortably with no restriction – you may wear them backwards and forwards, you may wear them sideways, you may wear them on your right foot or your left foot and vice versa – once you have acquired THAT pair of shoes, then you have accomplished the widening.
MIKE: Okay. (Sighing) Notice, notice, notice. Okay.
ELIAS: Ha ha ha ha! And we return to the onset of these sessions within physical focus, in which I expressed that very statement to our initial group of individuals – notice, notice, notice! And I continue to be expressing of this same word now – notice, notice, notice!” (Chuckling) [session 398, May 18, 1999]
MIKE: “The whole thing with the acceptance of the belief or the aspects of the belief – just by acknowledging that you hold the belief and that it’s neither good or bad, right or wrong, better or worse, it allows the bird to fly away and it neutralizes it?
ELIAS: Not necessarily.
MIKE: Okay, now I’m confused, because there’s always something new about the belief systems and stuff that I read in the transcripts, and I just continually confuse myself with it. Please explain to me how you're to be accepting of a belief other than what I just asked.
ELIAS: At times, this may be all that you require within yourself. You may be in actuality – at times – accepting aspects of belief systems merely by recognizing, identifying, and acknowledging them to yourself, but this action occurs merely at times, for I express to you that many of these aspects you hold very strongly.
Now; this is not to say that you may not be accomplishing this very action with a very strongly held aspect of belief systems, but you also hold other aspects of beliefs that express to you that you must be engaging a process and a method to be accomplishing accepting belief systems.
Therefore, although you may be spontaneously, instantaneously accepting an aspect of a belief system, you also may not necessarily allow yourself to be accomplishing in this manner, for it is not expressing of a method or a process, and within physical focus, you have created quite strong aspects of beliefs that express to you that all that you accomplish within your physical focus is requiring of a method. Therefore, as you are moving into the area of neutralizing these aspects, accepting these aspects of beliefs, I express to you that within your process, within your method, you move in what you term to be steps.
Initially, you notice. Once you have allowed yourself to be noticing, you begin your process of identification. You begin to recognize the aspect of the belief system. You are not merely noticing that it exists any longer, but you begin presenting yourself with imagery and situations that shall demonstrate the aspect of the belief system that you are viewing at that particular time frame, and you shall begin to recognize the different forms that that particular aspect may present itself within.
In this, as I have stated, you may be continuing to view the same bird, but its presentment may be offered to you in different angles. You may be viewing different elements, different sides, different positions, different angles of the same bird.
This is expressed objectively in different situations. You are continuing to be viewing and presenting to yourself the same aspect of a belief system, but you are offering it to yourself in many different situations.
This offers you the opportunity to view the aspect fully, that you may not necessarily delude yourself into a thought process that you have accepted this particular bird, and subsequently it may present itself once again with a different face.
Therefore, you create a process or a method of presenting yourself many different situations and behaviors and actions and events that shall present imagery to you, viewing all of the different angles of each particular aspect.
Now; once you have allowed yourself to be viewing different angles of the aspect of the belief – not merely noticing its existence, but viewing and recognizing the aspect in different situations – you move subsequently into your next step, which is to be addressing to the aspect.
Now; this is the area that you become confused, for YOU identify in physical focus that your addressing to the aspect is the action of recognizing. Let me explain.
In recognizing and in the presentment to yourself of any aspect of the belief system, as you offer yourselves these types of situations, you also offer yourselves the expression of conflict, confusion, and difficulties. You may at times express emotional expressions in conjunction with these recognitions of the aspect.
In these situations, you THINK to yourselves that you are addressing to the aspect, for you are involving yourself in what YOU identify as motion or movement concerning the aspect, for you are responding to it. You are creating conflict, confusion; you are creating emotional responses. In this, you think to yourselves that this is the action of addressing to the aspect.
I express to you, this is merely you presenting yourselves with the opportunity of recognizing the aspect, and as you are continuing to be expressing RESPONSES to the aspect in conflict, you are not addressing to the aspect. You are recognizing it, and you are offering yourself many different situations to be recognizing it.
Once you begin your next step of actually addressing to the belief, to the aspects of the belief, you begin to notice a lessening of your conflict.
Addressing to the belief is not the objective action, in a manner of speaking. It is not the DOING – in your terms – [of] some action concerning the aspect of the belief. It is the ALLOWANCE for the aspect to be recognized, and figuratively speaking, in your terms, it is your allowance of yourself to be giving up with the battling of that aspect. Therefore, what you are in actuality moving into is the letting go of holding to the energy with respect to that aspect.
Let me offer this to you in another manner that may offer you a clearer understanding.
First you are noticing. ‘There is a belief that exists. This is not an absolute. It is not some element of my reality which is unchanging or unchangeable. It is an aspect of a belief.’
The next step is the recognition in situations; the presentment of the aspect. In this, each time you are presenting yourself with the particular aspect of the belief, you shall notice and you shall recognize. You shall not merely notice a belief system is in place, but you shall move a little further and you shall allow yourself the ability to recognize, ‘This is a specific aspect of a belief, and this is the identification of this aspect.’
Once you have identified the aspect of the belief system, you begin to present yourself with many different situations and circumstances that shall be offering you reoccurrences of the presentment of that same aspect, that you may view it over and over, for this is your choice of method.
As you are viewing, as you are identifying the aspect, as you are recognizing the aspect and you are presenting it to yourself over and over in many different situations and behaviors, you are experiencing responses in conjunction with it.
Now; in your idea of addressing to the aspect, you think to yourself that you ARE addressing to the aspect of the belief, for you are responding to it. You have already noticed, you have already identified, and now you are responding. This is your logic and your rational thought process in your identification of your method.
Now; I express to you that you are not yet addressing to the aspect in this stage of your method. You are continuing in the recognition stage, for you are continuing to be responding. You are continuing to allow the affectingness of the aspect.
As you move subsequently into the next step of addressing to the aspect of the belief, you begin to notice that you are not responding and reacting to the aspect within each of the situations that it is presented to you. It becomes less and less affecting of you. NOW you are beginning to be addressing to the aspect of the belief.
Addressing to it is the action, the implementation of letting go of your hold upon its energy.
This be the reason that I have offered the analogy of the bird and the cage, for within physical visual terms, it is quite easy for you to identify in these terms. You may view that you have set your sights upon one particular bird. In this, let us express, you have chosen a bright red bird.
You notice the belief system by noticing the cage and that it exists. Now, you are not addressing to this cage, and you are not creating any movement in the direction of acceptance of all of the aspects within this cage. You are merely noticing that the cage exists.
Once you have acknowledged to yourself that the cage exists, you view more closely, and you recognize that the cage holds many birds. Now you have recognized that the cage is quite full, and you choose to set your sights upon a particular bird that you wish to be allowing to fly free. Therefore, you begin to open the cage.
In this, you are recognizing this red bird. You are viewing this red bird. You are reaching within the cage to be engaging this red bird, that you may be removing the red bird from the cage. But in the process of removing the red bird, the red bird is flying all about the cage and you are attempting to be catching the red bird, fumbling with yourself to be grabbing at this red bird, and occasionally you are capturing this red bird. But the red bird is also pecking at your hands and it is squirming within your grasp. Therefore, your grip upon this red bird slips, and it may be escaping your grasp.
Therefore, once again, you are presenting yourself with situations to be recognizing, ‘Ah, yes! The red bird has now moved from this location to this location, and I shall move now to be capturing the red bird here.’ And once you have moved here to capture the red bird, it flies to another location of the cage, and you present yourself with a new situation to be capturing the red bird.
Once you have moved through your maneuvers with this red bird, you express to yourself exhaustion in attempting to be pursuing and capturing this red bird. Therefore, in your physical terms, you give up, and as you give up and are not in pursuit any longer, the red bird flies to you and lights upon your hand, and there you hold the red bird.
Now; once the bird has flown and has been allowed to light upon your hand, it is no longer bothersome to you, for you are no longer in pursuit. NOW you have moved into your next step of addressing to the aspect. You are now holding the red bird, and in this, you now offer yourself the ability. As it becomes calm and you are not reacting and responding to it any longer, you offer yourself the ability to be moving outside of the cage with the red bird, holding this bird, and once outside of the cage, allowing your hands to open and for the bird to fly free. The addressing to the aspect of the belief system is not the engagement and the pursuit of it. That is the recognition of it. This is the stage, so to speak, that you move through in your process of conflict, confusion, (coughing) irritation, much pursuit, repeated presentments of different behaviors, of different movements, of different angles, of different locations of the aspect.
Once you have fatigued yourself sufficiently in your pursuit, you shall then allow yourself to be addressing to the aspect, in which you expel much less energy, for it is unnecessary to be creating the vast expelling of energy with respect to the aspect of the belief system, for you are now addressing to it, and in that, you begin to let go, and as you let go, you allow the bird to fly free and you neutralize the effect of the aspect of the belief. If the bird is no longer within the cage, it shall not be affecting of you, and you shall not be responding to it, for you shall not be engaging it.
MIKE: Okay. So what you're saying is that I’m fatiguing myself by going after them, or I’m supposed to allow myself to become fatigued so I expel this energy when I actually get to the addressing of them?
ELIAS: I am expressing to you that this is the method, the process that you have chosen; not merely you yourself, but many, many, many individuals within physical focus. Generally speaking, this is the method that is commonly accepted within physical focus by individuals to be moving into the acceptance of a belief system. Therefore, you, merely yourself, are not singularly the individual that is creating of this type of action alone.
But as to you yourself, you also are engaging this type of movement. You align with this type of creation in methods and processes, and in this, this is not a bad creation! It is merely a choice of movement that you understand. It is merely a familiar choice of movement, and there is no thing that is wrong or bad with this type of choice.
Therefore, in this, I express to you that it is not a question of what you SHOULD be creating, but what you ARE creating, and what you ARE creating is the situation of the recognition of aspects.
You are within your second step. You have noticed within your first step certain beliefs, and you have moved into your second step of the identification and recognition of aspects of the belief, but you are also continuing to be chasing the bird throughout the cage.
Therefore, you have not quite moved into the position of the addressing to the aspects of the belief systems, which is your third step, but you are moving closer, for you are fatiguing yourself in your pursuit.
Therefore, you are beginning to express to yourself that you are tired of chasing this bird, and you are allowing yourself to become ready to merely STOP, and to sit and to wait for the bird to light within your hands, and in that step, you shall allow yourself to move easily outside of the cage and to let go of the bird.
MIKE: (Sighing) Okay.
ELIAS: I must express to you, Mikah [Michael], that you are creating of your method quite efficiently!
MIKE: Yes! (Laughing)
ELIAS: For you DO present yourself with your imagery quite often and consistently over and over again, and you ARE creating of your situation quite efficiently, that you shall BE becoming quite tired of re-addressing and re-addressing and re-addressing to the same situations!
MIKE: (Sighing) Okay.
ELIAS: Ha ha ha ha!
MIKE: (Laughing) I'll work with it.” [session 415, June 15, 1999]
ELIAS: “... I have expressed previously that within acceptance in your movement within physical focus, the process that you have chosen to be incorporating – not merely you, but ALL of you as individuals within this physical dimension – is to be initially noticing – these are your steps that you engage – and once you are noticing, then you allow yourself to move into the step of recognizing and identifying, and once you have allowed yourself to be recognizing and identifying, then you move into your next step of addressing to, and subsequent to your addressing to, you begin acceptance.
Now; you have allowed yourself the noticing, for you engage quite obvious objective conflicts and confusions. Therefore, you may express to yourself that you shall be noticing regardless, and that you have created interactions that are so very obvious objectively that unless you are engaging your action of subjective motion of coma, (Paul laughs) you shall hold a noticing and an awareness of what is being created within your interactions of your relationships. Be they intimate relationships or not intimate relationships, you hold an awareness of the noticing of conflicts and confusions that are created within these.
Therefore, you have engaged your first step of your noticing. Now you have moved into your second step, but you create many obstacles in this second step, and let me express to you that this second step is the most difficult step for ALL of you within physical focus – the recognition and the identification of what you are noticing.
This is an unfamiliar area. It is also uncomfortable, and in this, there is a tremendous allowance for duplicity, and therefore you do not hold a tremendous willingness to be moving into the recognition and identification. In some of these areas you hold a recognition, but you are not entirely identifying, and this is the area that you do not allow yourself to clearly identify to yourself where your confusion and where your conflict lies. In concept and in theory, you may offer this to other individuals, but within self, you retreat and you express to yourself that there is much more ease in identifying situations and creations within other individuals than you shall afford to yourself.
This be the reason that you approach me and you do not formulate a question. (12) I engage addressing to this specifically, for this holds importance. You may not be addressing to your beliefs and your creations and your interactions if you are not allowing yourself to be identifying what they are.
Many individuals may be noticing of many actions within their physical focus, but if they are not identifying what these actions are – how they are being created, why they are being created, what is being created – if they are not identifying these areas, they shall remain in the step of merely noticing and they shall not be addressing to the issues that they hold, and I shall express to you quite realistically, many individuals remain within the step of noticing and do not allow themselves to move into the step of addressing to, for they shall not enter the area of identification, for in this is the presentment of YOUR responsibility, and this is the most uncomfortable area for individuals within physical focus – the recognition that it is not what another individual is creating or how they are expressing themselves or how they are engaging you, but how you are receiving and your responsibility in what YOU are creating. THIS is the identification and THIS is the difficult area.
I express to you quite bluntly, it matters not what any other individual is creating within your physical focus. What shall matter is how you receive it. Any other individual may be creating of any expression within your physical dimension, and you may be engaged with them and you may be interactive with them, and they may be projecting energy in any manner that they are so choosing within your physical focus, and it matters not. What shall be the determining factor is how YOU choose to be receiving and how YOU incorporate that energy, and recognizing – key words! recognizing, identifying – recognizing that you hold choices, that you are not victim, that you are not dictated to, that other individuals do not choose for you; that YOU create your choices, that YOU create your responses, YOU create your reactions, YOU create your thought process, YOU create your emotional expressions. ALL of your physical reality is created by you and no other individual.
Other individuals may be expressing to you and may be projecting energy to you, but you ALWAYS hold the choice of how you shall be receiving that energy and what you shall be incorporating with that energy, for you hold choices in every situation, in every encounter, in every action, in every event, in every interaction. You choose how you shall be responding, or if you shall be responding, or when you shall be responding, and why you shall be responding.
THIS is the direction that I shall offer to you this day to be engaging your thought process in, for you have developed quite keenly your process of evaluation through thought. Therefore, direct your thought process to self and to this concept – that regardless of another individual’s perception, of their reality, of their interaction, of their projection, you always hold choices, and you may be creating the choices that YOU wish to be creating regardless of their expression.
PAUL: ... I do have a question referring back to some of your comments you were making about noticing and recognizing and identifying, and it’s very ... well, it’s clearer. It’s more clear to me that in terms of my own personal relationship issues, that I’m in the second step of recognizing and identifying, and I just wanted to be clear, or more clear anyway, that coming out of that stage of the interaction ... is that when the addressing to begins? Once the beliefs are recognized and identified, then you can address to them?
ELIAS: Yes. You shall notice that as you are continuing to be recognizing and identifying, you shall also continue to be incorporating confusion and conflict, and as you move into your step of addressing to ... and this is NOT an action that necessarily incorporates a thought process or a concentration upon!
But you shall notice, in the action of addressing to these elements within your reality, your conflict and your confusion begins to lessen, and the more that you move into the addressing to, the more the conflict and the confusion dissipates, and as you move into acceptance of any aspect, you move into the genuine expression of it matters not.
PAUL: That’s very clear and helpful to me. I also have a sense that these three steps are not a linear process in terms of cause and effect, but in fact a simultaneous action. Each aspect of noticing, recognizing and identifying, addressing to, and then accepting are all happening in different layers and different parts because we’re addressing ... well, we’re dealing with so many different beliefs in these situations.
ELIAS: You are correct; you are addressing to many different aspects of belief systems simultaneously. Therefore, you may be engaging all of these steps, of which in actuality there are four, for as you incorporate the ‘it matters not,’ you are moving into your step of acceptance.
In this, you ARE engaging all of these steps simultaneously within different layers as you address to different aspects of belief systems. You also, within ONE aspect of belief systems, are addressing to the incorporation of all of these steps simultaneously in different layers, but you are not necessarily actualizing them within your objective awareness simultaneously.
PAUL: And that’s clear. I just have a sense of different ... well, for example, I was talking to Vicki last night and using an example of saying, ‘There’s two hundred and fifty-seven beliefs that you’re dealing with in a situation that you’ve created, and perhaps you can notice or recognize and identify seven or eight in any particular instance, and how you DO move around that bird cage in different parts, in linear terms anyway, as you’re objectively processing the information.’ It’s a struggle, obviously, at times, and there is confusion, as you’ve stated, and that is verified by my experience, but it is at least a clear framework for focusing on self and looking in my mirror of self at me and concentrating on myself, and so it was very helpful.” [session 455, August 25, 1999]
VICKI: “What I would like to discuss is something I picked up in the last transcript I worked on. I’ve noticed a few times you’ve talked to people about holding within their energy in order to not allow oneself to move into the expression of duplicity, and I feel ... this really stood out to me because I’ve had some trouble in this area recently. I think I have some confusion about the difference in holding to one’s energy ... let’s see. How do I say this? In some ways, we talk about it as being a negative thing. In other words, in holding to one’s energy, you can perpetuate a situation. But at the same time, you’ve talked about holding within your energy and not allowing yourself to move into this expression of duplicity. So, that’s not really an actual, absolute question, but if you could maybe speak on that subject, that would be helpful to me.
ELIAS: In wishing to become more efficient objectively in addressing to the subject matter of duplicity?
VICKI: Yeah, that’s a good way to put it, and also in defining what you mean when you say ‘holding in your energy’ to accomplish that.
ELIAS: You are correct in your distinction within your expressions in physical focus that you do view holding to your energy as a negative and as creating an obstacle for yourselves many times within your movement, but you may also at times be holding within your energy. This is a different action.
In this, there is an awareness that you may lean in the direction of duplicitous expressions which also many times reinforce a discounting of self and reinforce a lack of acceptance of self.
Now; as I have spoken recently to individuals in explanation of the steps that you create within physical reality in moving through issues and belief systems into the expression of acceptance, this particular expression of holding within your energy at times may be helpful in conjunction with these steps that I have offered in outline, so to speak, of the process that you have chosen to be implementing within your movement into acceptance.
I may also express to you that this movement within these steps is also created not merely within addressing to belief systems, but in the area of acceptance of self also.
As you are aware, I have offered previously the identification of your first step as noticing and your second step as identification and recognition of WHAT you have noticed in correlation with your belief systems.
In this second step, individuals experience conflict and confusion. This is your objective indication to yourselves that you have moved into this second step within this process.
In this second step, as you begin to allow yourselves an awareness in identifying and recognizing the aspects of belief systems that you have offered yourself noticing of, there is an automatic expression of duplicity which couples with all of these different aspects of other belief systems, and also with your movement in addressing to your acceptance of self. Therefore, this element of duplicity, as we have discussed previously, interweaves itself within all other belief systems. This at times within this step two movement creates much difficulty.
As you are identifying and recognizing, you are already experiencing elements of conflict and confusion, but as you couple the duplicity with the existing identification of the aspects of belief systems that you are viewing, you also create a frustration that merely creates another obstacle and lengthens your process in this step two.
Now; as I am expressing to you – to any of you – to be holding within your energy, what I am expressing to you is to be holding in what you already recognize within yourselves in elements of acceptance of yourself.
Now; be remembering, Lawrence [Vicki], of our analogies of feeding the different dogs. (13)
In this, as you hold within your energy – in moments – and you hold to the elements of acceptance that you have allowed yourself already, you prevent, in a manner of speaking, yourself from moving into a direction of perpetuating the aspect of duplicity.
Therefore, you turn your concentration and your attention to the small dog. It may be small, but it IS present. You are turning your attention away from the large dog and viewing the small dog of the acceptance of self.
In this, you continue to be creating your movement within this step two. You continue within certain elements and expressions of confusion and conflict, identifying the aspects of the belief system that you choose to view and that you choose to be addressing to, but you suspend a further movement of reinforcement of the aspects of duplicity.
Therefore, you move your attention into the identification and recognition of one aspect of a belief system, and you do not complicate that movement with the expression of duplicity. You suspend this action temporarily, allowing yourself to hold in the expression of acceptance temporarily.
Now; within your perception, this may be considered quite shaky ground! (Smiling) But I express to you that even within the expression of your shaky ground – for your acceptance of self may be thin within the moment – it serves as a suspension for the element of duplicity, which merely increases your difficulty and your conflict and your confusion.
In holding within your energy, you do temporarily suspend what you would term to be your forward motion, in a manner of speaking, but at times, suspending your forward motion allows you the opportunity to relax, and as you relax your energy, you also offer yourself more clarity objectively, and in offering yourself more clarity objectively, you allow yourself more of an opportunity to be moving in your forward motion, in a manner of speaking, with less confusion and less conflict within this step two, for this particular step, as I have stated previously, is a very conflicting step. You experience the majority of your conflict and your confusion in that particular step.
Now; look to your storms, your whirlwinds. Your step two is, figuratively speaking, similar to your whirlwinds.
Your attention is confused and easily moves in many directions, for you are creating a movement of the noticing into a movement of recognition and identification. You are coupling your noticing and your experience and your objective imagery with the identification and recognition of the aspects of belief systems that correlate to what you are creating.
In this, as you become confused, figuratively speaking, you scurry about viewing all of your bird cages and furiously investigating every bird, attempting to be identifying which bird correlates with which aspect of imagery. This is the whirlwind, and as you are scurrying about, attempting to identify which bird is correlating with which experience or which element of imagery, certain birds within the cage of duplicity are furiously flying about, in and out of all of the cages, following you and confusing you, and in this, as they flutter quite furiously, they also gain your attention and turn your attention away from your investigation and turn your attention to self, in the questioning of self. This, as I have stated, is the whirlwind, and this creates a tremendous expression of conflict and confusion.
Now; in the whirlwind, as you move into the eye, into the calm, you stop; you hold. You do not necessarily create forward movement; you merely hold temporarily. You return to the motion of the whirlwind, but in holding momentarily in that shaky ground, you offer yourself an expression of reinforcement of your acceptance, and this allows you the ability objectively to be moving back into your whirlwind, viewing more of your choices.
In a manner of speaking, in your quite physical terms, it is your offering to yourself to be regrouping. You offer yourself a respite, a momentary period in which you allow yourself to relax, and in this, you are holding WITHIN the energy. You are not holding TO the energy. You are not pulling your energy to yourself in tightness. You are continuing to allow movement of energy within you and about you. You are merely ceasing to be directing of it temporarily, allowing it to flow free.
This is a different movement or action from that which is expressed in holding to your energy, in which we have discussed previously, individuals that are holding to their energy many, many times are creating of expressions of uncomfortability and what you identify as negative. I express to you that this is not to say that this holding of their energy is not beneficial to them, for it shall offer to them an avenue to be noticing, but it IS creating of conflict. In this, as you have requested, you seek avenues to be eliminating conflict.
I shall continue to be, as I have expressed many times previously, expressing to you each and to you all repeatedly that your KEY is acceptance, and as I have stated recently, you may view – although there are no absolutes – that within your physical dimension, the acceptance of self may almost be considered a prerequisite to the acceptance of belief systems.
In this, I shall also express to you, acceptance of belief systems is a very similar action to that of acceptance of self.
Therefore, in movement into acceptance of self, shall each of you be eliminating of self to be accepting of self?
VIVIEN: No, we’re moving out of judgment, right?
ELIAS: But you express continuously the thought process and the idea of eliminating your belief systems, and this is your identification and definition of acceptance of belief systems.
I express to you that the movement into acceptance of your belief systems follows quite similarly to that movement of acceptance of self, and you shall not eliminate self to be accepting of self!
You shall continue to create your reality. You shall continue within physical focus. You shall continue to identify yourselves as yourselves, but you shall move into an acceptance of yourselves without judgment, without justification, and within trust.
And as you move into the expression of acceptance of self, as it is almost a prerequisite for the movement into acceptance of belief systems, you shall find that your movement into acceptance of belief systems proceeds much easier if you hold the acceptance of self, for MUCH of your expressions of your belief systems are very influenced in how you view yourselves, your perception of yourselves.
It is not merely a one-way avenue – that you create belief systems and your belief systems influence your perception and your perception creates your reality. This is in actuality what you create, but the other element in this process is your acceptance or your lack of acceptance of self, which is also QUITE influencing of your perception and moves your energy in your attention in the reverse – to be influencing of your beliefs and reinforcing your beliefs and creating NEW beliefs! (Grinning, and a pause)
VICKI: I think I understand part of that. (Ben cracks up) I don’t understand all of it, so let me ask you, just on a totally personal level, what I’ve been experiencing a lot recently is very much of a noticing of how automatically ... of an automatic thought process in me that is very discounting of me, which I correlate with duplicity.
It’s something I’ve never really noticed to this extent in my life before – maybe when I was a teenager – and what I find is, just in the course of ... it could be anything, a day at work, that these thoughts are coming up that I’ve never had before. I’ll be getting ready to engage a group of people, say, and I’ll have a thought that says something to me like, ‘Well, these poor people have to deal with ME today!’ (Laughter)
These aren’t the kinds of thoughts I normally have, but I’ve had them quite extensively for the last month or two, and this is kind of why this has jumped out at me, because I do think that this probably ... I mean, this experience I’ve been having, is this similar to what you were talking about a few minutes ago, these birds all flying around?
VICKI: Okay, so this is the whirlwind.
VICKI: Okay, and that’s what I’m experiencing.
VICKI: And if I ... and in that, to hold within my energy, I can turn my attention and focus on areas in which I have accomplished some sort of acceptance?
VICKI: And this will be helpful in the experience?
ELIAS: Yes. Look to your individual expression within your questioning and what you express to me. Your identification moves merely to the duplicity.
ELIAS: And you are not viewing the aspects of other belief systems that are COUPLED with the aspects of duplicity. You merely identify [that] these experiences, these expressions, these thoughts, these feelings are identified within duplicity, and you express quite broadly in merely identifying the cage – not even the bird of the duplicity, merely the cage! This is quite encompassing!
There are many, many, many aspects of duplicity, and they couple themselves with all other aspects of belief systems. Therefore, duplicity is not a belief system that moves independently of all other belief systems.
This one belief system of duplicity moves differently from other belief systems. This one belief system – this one cage holding all of these birds – does not limit itself to itself and does not express itself singularly within itself. It is continuously in motion, merging with all of the other cages and intermingling all its birds with all of the other birds. Therefore, in addressing to duplicity, you do not separate this one cage and view this one cage singularly and identify all of its birds singularly, for all of its birds are intermingled in and out, in your figurative terms, with all of the other cages.
This may be expressed as your ‘magic cage.’ It is quite good at camouflage. It is quite good at disappearing and reappearing, of merging, of superimposing. It may alter its form. But this one particular belief system does not express itself singularly.
VICKI: And I’ve been viewing it singularly.
ELIAS: You are generally viewing the cage and expressing to yourself, ‘This is my identification of duplicity.’
What is duplicity? Which bird within this cage of duplicity are you viewing? Which bird has it coupled itself with within other cages?
But you have not allowed yourself to be identifying and recognizing within step two the response to these questions, for within the whirlwind, your attention has been caught by these birds all fluttering and confusing you, and there are so very many of them that you are merely viewing the entirety of your scene, so to speak, and expressing to yourself exasperation and frustration – which is what I have stated to you, which you shall create – and in this frustration and this confusion, what you create is a holding to your energy in protection, merely viewing all of the chaos that is being created in this whirlwind, but not identifying which aspects are in actuality coupled with the imagery. This is the reason that this step two is quite difficult within your movement.
In this step two, you move within your greatest time framework, your most lengthy expression. You may be continuing within step two for much of your linear time framework. You may engage step two for years within your linear time framework! You may move through step one, in noticing, in what you term to be relative quickness, and once you are moving into step three, of addressing to these aspects of belief systems, you also allow yourself relative rapid movement, for your conflict dissipates and you create less of a thickness, and therefore you allow yourself much more of a rapid movement within step three, and in step three, you move yourselves closer and closer to step four, in ‘it matters not,’ and this is the acceptance. But step two is your quicksand!
VICKI: This is probably why so many of us are presenting ourselves right now with such not only similar but very affecting imagery in situations and experiences that are triggering a lot of different aspects, I guess, like personal responsibility aspects....
ELIAS: Quite! You are moving within an accelerated expression of energy, as I have stated repeatedly. You engage a very strong wave in consciousness, which is not dissipating! You also move, within this time framework of your final year of your century and your millennium, in a heightened intensity of energy, which allows you all the opportunity to present yourselves objectively with the identification of all that you engage automatically as influenced by your beliefs – your automatic behaviors, your automatic expressions, your automatic assessments of self, your automatic expressions in conjunction with your belief systems – and in this, you are lent tremendous energy in this time framework to be pulling surfacely, objectively all of these expressions.
VIVIEN: We do have so much conflict in the world right now, like problems in other countries. Everything is going on right now – [Hurricane] Floyd, hurricanes, all kinds of stuff going on – and there will be more, I expect.
ELIAS: These are YOUR objective outward expressions of YOUR energy. Look to what you create within your reality presently! These are not accidents! These are not expressions of energy within the cosmos! These are not movements of energy that you do not participate within! You are not victims of all that is created within your environment and within your reality!
You yourselves collectively are creating this, and as you are experiencing these whirlwinds within yourselves individually and you are holding difficulty in identifying and recognizing the aspects of belief systems that you are attempting to view and you are creating of confusion, you are also creating of frustration, and this frustration is exhibited outwardly within your atmosphere, within your expression of weather, of your planetary conditions, of MASS EXPRESSIONS. (Pause)
VICKI: Okay, I think I understand better, but just to be sure I do understand, because it’s important to me, in this ‘holding to’ and ‘holding within’ the energy, when I start to notice these automatic thoughts, because they happen quite often these days, if I’m holding to my energy, I’m focusing on those thoughts. I’m trying to do what we call ‘deal with them.’ (Elias grins) I’m focusing on a singular thing. In holding within my energy, I am shifting my attention to focusing on, say, things that I do accept about myself.
ELIAS: Correct, and you are RELAXING your energy.
Holding TO your energy is creating a tension within your energy field. Holding WITHIN your energy is creating a temporary stop-point and allowing of a relaxation of your energy.
VICKI: Okay, thank you.
ELIAS: You are very welcome.” [session 472, September 19, 1999]
JENNIFER: “Elias, Mary and I were talking coming over here about acceptance, acceptance of self and of others, and we were talking about when others are presenting themselves with conflict, and detaching from that to a certain degree.
And it seems to me that in detaching, one can still be accepting, because you’re acknowledging what’s happening in their conflict, but also choosing not to get involved in their conflict. And yet, in being detached, which is the place that I seem to feel stronger and stronger as this year closes, it seems that one is pulled away in the manner that makes it hard to be involved. So my question is, if one is detaching, is that a form of acceptance?
ELIAS: This terminology of detachment or detaching holds quite a negative connotation within your physical dimension, within your language.
In this, I offer to you that what you are creating in actuality is not an action of detachment. You are all interconnected, and detachment is an action of separation.
Now; I am understanding that within your perception, you view in part that you are creating an action of separation, but in actuality, I express to you that you are not necessarily creating an action of separation. What you are accomplishing is the beginning movement into acceptance, for you are turning your attention to self.
In this, you are allowing yourself the expression of acceptance within self, recognizing your choices – recognizing that you HOLD choices – which is, within your physical terms, an accomplishment within itself! (Chuckling)
In this action, you offer yourself permission to be accepting of yourself and your direction, and you also move yourself into the beginnings of acceptance in conjunction with other individuals, for as you turn your attention to self, you may allow yourself the expression of a recognition of other individuals’ choices regardless of your perception, and this creates an allowance.
It is not entirely an expression of acceptance, but it is a movement into acceptance, for prior to this type of action, there is not an expression of allowance.
As you are viewing other individuals’ creations and their choices and their behaviors, and these may be conflicting with your individual perception and your beliefs, there is not an allowance. There is a judgment which is placed, and there is an action in which there is no allowance created for the expression of other individuals’ choices and their reality.
But as you move yourself into a direction of turning your attention to self – which I have been expressing from the onset of this forum – you discontinue concerning yourself and holding your attention in the direction of the other individual.
You view this as detachment, but in actuality, it is not necessarily a separation of yourself and another individual. It is merely a movement in turning your attention and not concentrating upon the creation of the other individual, which creates an allowance with the other individual and also creates an allowance within yourself, that you may be accepting of yourself and your choices, and recognize that an allowance is not necessarily an agreement for participation.
JENNIFER: So the other individual could view you as stepping back or less engaged with them.
ELIAS: Many times this may be the perception of another individual, for they also are not turning their attention to self, but looking to you, and this is the point. This is the reason that I express to all of you so very many times, over and over, that you be turning your attention to self.
It matters not what other individuals choose to be creating. They are their choices, and their choices are merely their choices. Each individual chooses their experiences within this physical dimension for the purpose of experience, and they shall gain their experience and their value fulfillment within the guidelines of their individual intents, and all of their reality in all of that is expressed through the tool of their perception, which creates their reality.
As I have expressed many times, perception is highly individualized, and in this, reality is highly individualized, and as it is very individualized, one individual’s reality shall be quite different from another individual’s reality, and your definitions for your realities are all different. But you perceive that you hold common definitions, for you look to your reality, as I have expressed many times, as an absolute, and it is not an absolute.
But as you view your reality to be an absolute, you hold thought processes that express to you that you hold common definitions for certain actions, certain expressions and perceptions, and you do not. Your definitions vary. Even in those expressions that you may view appear to be common, they hold individual variances.
As I have expressed previously, no may mean no within your common definition, but each individual’s interpretation of no and each individual’s perception of no may be quite different dependent upon the circumstances and the expression and the situation.
Therefore, even those terms that you view to be absolutes are not absolutes and do not hold an absolute definition, and this is the area that you create conflict and confusion, for you continue within the belief that there are absolutes, and you continue to attempt to be creating your reality within the guidelines of absolutes.
And once again, this is the attempt of placing the square peg within the round hole, and it shall not fit!
I express to you, many individuals within this time framework are creating much conflict, and many individuals are creating tremendous challenges in struggle with the concept of acceptance.
This, I am understanding, is a very difficult concept within this physical dimension, for it is very unfamiliar. You think in terms of absolutes – black and white, right and wrong, yes and no, good and bad – and I am expressing to you a concept of acceptance which is not an either/or, and this creates confusion.
I have expressed previously to individuals and I shall offer to you also this evening, in the concept of acceptance – with individuals, with situations, with belief systems – I have expressed many times that in the area of belief systems, you are not creating a situation of eliminating belief systems. You are moving within the action of this shift in consciousness into the acceptance of belief systems, and this presents tremendous difficulty in the understanding of individuals within this physical dimension.
Now; let me express to you, I may also say to you that I am encouraging of you to be moving into acceptance of yourselves and of other individuals, and this shall automatically move you into more of an acceptance of your belief systems.
Now; in this, create a thought process now within yourselves: As you listen to myself express to you that you may be accepting of yourselves, do you perceive that I am expressing to yourselves that you be eliminating of yourselves?
As I express to you, ‘Be accepting of your belief systems,’ your automatic direction is that you be eliminating of belief systems, and this shall be creating of your ideal reality. I have expressed many, many times, you shall not be eliminating of your belief systems in this reality, for your reality holds its base in belief systems.
Now; therefore, if I am expressing to you, ‘Be accepting of your belief systems,’ why shall you move in the direction of creating a thought process to be eliminating of belief systems? You do not create a belief system or a thought process within yourselves as I say ‘be accepting of yourselves’ that you shall eliminate yourselves. This is not acceptance.
The reason I am expressing this to you is that detachment also moves in the direction of elimination – it is what you may term to be a softer term of elimination – and all of this moves together, that your idea of acceptance is to be removing some element.
If you are removing of some element or eliminating of some element – the bad element, of course (grinning) – you shall hold the ability to be accepting. What shall you be accepting of if you are eliminating of the element?
Allow yourself the recognition that as you turn your attention to yourself and you are accepting of your choices and you are opening to your awareness, you are not shutting out other individuals’ choices. You are not detaching or removing yourself from other individuals’ choices or their reality, but you may be in acceptance and you may be in allowance, and this is not a dictation to you that you need be participating in the manner that the other individual is creating.
You shall continue a participation regardless that that be expressed objectively or subjectively. You shall continue a participation, but your participation need not be dictated in the direction of the other individual’s creation. YOU hold this choice, and you hold many more choices than you view ... YET.” (Chuckling) [session 488, October 20, 1999]
MIKE: “Now, I would like to ask you, if you will so indulge me with an answer without a specific question in mind, (Elias grins) what is it that’s been affecting my reality so much that I’ve been employing questions that are distracting? What is it that ... you know.
ELIAS: (Chuckling) You are quite distracted, are you not?
MIKE: Yes, I am! (They both laugh)
ELIAS: To the point that you may not even formulate your question!
MIKE: Exactly! (They both laugh)
ELIAS: I shall express to you that you have allowed yourself to move into an area of much confusion, and in this, be remembering of our discussion of your steps into the expression of acceptance.
Now; as you have allowed yourself, to a point, to move into step two – the recognition and identification of certain aspects of belief systems that you engage and that you align with and that you manifest behaviors and movements within – you have also moved into a position, so to speak, of confusion, for you have temporarily allowed yourself to be recognizing and identifying certain aspects of beliefs, but you have also moved your attention into an analyzation of those aspects to the point that you have created a confusion within yourself.
Therefore, what you have also created is a type of little whirlwind within yourself, and you within your attention have placed yourself quite in the middle of this whirlwind, and you may figuratively visualize yourself as sitting within the eye of this whirlwind and continuing to view it moving all about you, but not quite recognizing any particular individual movement, merely just the entire movement, which appears overwhelming and confusing, and therefore you have chosen to continue sitting within the middle. (Chuckling)
ELIAS: Now; let me also express to you that this action is common. This, within the movement of identifying and recognizing aspects of belief systems, is a temporary situation, and it is also quite commonly experienced. For as you begin to view one aspect, your attention moves to another aspect, and then to another, and then to another, and soon you experience an overwhelmingness in which you are expressing to yourself, ‘I know not which direction I shall pursue and which direction I shall hold my attention in, and I know not what to be creating in conjunction with ANY of these aspects! Shall I feed these birds or shall I starve these birds? Shall I be creating movement amongst them or shall I be quiet amongst them?’
And in this, you become overwhelmed, and therefore you discontinue your movement and you sit in amazement!
I express to you that you shall allow yourself movement, and distraction is not necessarily a negative. At times you may be distracting of yourself, for you ARE experiencing an overwhelming feeling.
Therefore, I express to you once again, you are pushing upon yourself and you are not allowing yourself to relax, and if you are allowing yourself to be relaxing, you shall also discontinue this feeling of overwhelmingness and confusion, and in that movement, you shall allow yourself more clarity.
Let me express to you, Mikah [Michael], you hold a tremendous expression of personal responsibility, and as you allow yourself to turn your attention to this expression of personal responsibility, and allow yourself to be relaxing and not continuously pushing so very intensely upon yourself in this area of personal responsibility, you shall also offer yourself much more clarity.
MIKE: Okay. So pretty much, the only way to be relaxing ... what area am I holding personal responsibility in? I mean, I don’t even know anymore. Where am I holding this personal responsibility?
ELIAS: (Firmly) You hold personal responsibility in the direction of any and all individuals that you encounter and you choose to be establishing any type of relationship with.
MIKE: Oh geez!
ELIAS: You also hold a tremendous expression of personal responsibility in the area of relationships of family.
ELIAS: Ha ha ha ha ha! Let me express to you, Mikah [Michael], YOU create your reality, period! YOU create your choices, period! Other individuals create their choices and their reality, period! You do not create other individuals’ reality, period! You do not hold responsibility for the creation of other individuals’ reality, period! Are we understanding each other??
MIKE: Yes. (Laughing)
ELIAS: HA HA HA HA! (Grinning)
MIKE: So, that’s pretty much the only way to be relaxing myself then, is to start letting go of this personal responsibility?
ELIAS: You may be allowing yourself to relax, and that shall be influencing of your letting go of these expressions of personal responsibility.
Let me also express to you that this is a very STRONG expression. This is a very common creation within your physical dimension, and it holds a tremendous expression of energy. Therefore, I hold the awareness of the difficulty that is associated with the action of moving through this issue. Therefore, I am not expressing to you that I hold an expectation that you shall immediately disengage this action, or that you may be expecting within yourself that you shall immediately be disengaging this action.
What I AM expressing to you is that you may be allowing yourself to be noticing each time, in the moment, when you are experiencing or expressing personal responsibility in conjunction with another individual, and in that moment, allow yourself to relax. Allow yourself the recognition that this is what you are experiencing, what you are creating ... and do not be discounting of yourself!
I am not expressing to you that you create a noticing and express to yourself, ‘Ah! I am noticing, within this moment, I am assuming personal responsibility for this individual. Very bad bad bad!’ No! Merely be recognizing.
Notice how you are automatically moving into that expression and recognize how it is affecting, of yourself, of your behavior, of your expressions, and in that, allow yourself to relax and offer yourself permission, merely within the moment, to STOP. As you allow yourself to practice with this type of exercise, you shall also allow yourself more and more of a relaxation.
(Intently) Not holding personal responsibility for another individual is not synonymous with not caring.
You may be quite interactive with other individuals. You may be expressing the fullness of emotion in conjunction with other individuals, that which you identify in physical focus as caring and loving and compassion. You may be expressing and experiencing all of these elements and NOT be expressing personal responsibility. (Pause)
Let me also express to you, Mikah [Michael], a statement that I suggest that you allow yourself to ponder quite seriously: There is absolutely no element within your reality that is broken – not yourself, not other individuals, not situations, not circumstances, not actions, not feelings, not emotions, not thoughts. No thing within your reality is broken. No thing within any other individual’s reality is broken. Therefore, there is no element within your reality which needs be fixed, and there are no mistakes.
Therefore, each action that is created by yourself, by other individuals, each action is quite purposeful. You may not hold an objective understanding of all of the actions that are created within your objective reality in conjunction with other individuals, but they are all purposeful and they are not mistakes and they are not broken.
MIKE: Alright. I will ponder that, and I will most definitely keep that in mind in my interactions. (Elias chuckles) Okay. Is there anything else that I am distracting myself from, if I were to proceed with other off-the-wall questions?
ELIAS: You may proceed.
(Firmly) My message to you this day is to be looking to self and [to be] noticing, and to allow yourself to discontinue the intensity of pushing that you create within yourself. You push very hard, and the harder you push, the more obstacles you create.
MIKE: Okay. I suppose all of this, especially with the pushing, has been mirrored objectively by my overwhelming fatigue, and not even being able to get up some mornings.
MIKE: Okay. Alright, kind of along those same lines, because this state of being is tremendously boring to a point ... I mean, it does have it’s good points. I get to set myself aside and really look at my reactions and interactions and whatsuch, but it does get boring, and I’ve been wanting so bad to be finding something to want to do, to be creating of a job that I would enjoy, and it seems that every time I come up with a brilliant idea of a place to work, I either get sick or the car breaks down or I miss the day to go in for like an interview or whatever, so it’s like even when I find a place that I may even consider, it doesn’t work out. So I was wondering, why?
ELIAS: This is also in conjunction with what we are discussing this day, and this issue of personal responsibility and this pushing that you create within yourself.
How may you engage a direction that shall be fun and pleasurable within yourself, and how may you identify what that direction is, while you are holding your attention so very intensely outside of yourself?
Your attention moves in the direction of responsibility in conjunction to other individuals and what they are creating within their reality. Your attention moves in the direction of your responsibility as an individual in conjunction to other individuals.
And as you continue to be viewing and holding your attention in the direction of other individuals, how shall you be creating what YOU wish to be creating?
You are not paying attention to your own voice, and in the moments that you DO pay attention to your own voice and you DO begin movement in response to your voice, you thwart your own efforts in creating obstacles for yourself, that you may continue to be pushing yourself in the direction of personal responsibility in conjunction to other individuals. (Pause)
This is expressed quite simply in the differences between the ‘wants’ and the ‘shoulds,’ and the identification that the ‘wants’ are not necessarily good or responsible, and the ‘shoulds’ are.” [session 495, October 28, 1999]
ELIAS: “MUCH is occurring within this time framework, in what you would term to be physically as the end throes of your year, your century, your millennium.
Extremes in energy are occurring. Individuals are experiencing new and unusual movements. Some individuals are experiencing extremes within conflict. Some individuals experience extremes within surprise and new wonders, and throughout your planet, there is a heightened awareness to movement in energy.
This manifests in many different types of expressions, in conjunction with the individuals and also collectively, but there is an objective awareness occurring in heightened manner within you all that there is movement happening, so to speak.
In this, you present to yourselves many examples in imagery of your belief systems. You bring to surface awareness, so to speak, many different types of manifestations of expressions of your beliefs.
This allows you the opportunity to view, examine, and evaluate your belief systems. It allows you the opportunity to be assimilating more information in conjunction with your belief systems. It also allows you the opportunity to view some of the limitations that you place upon yourselves in conjunction with your belief systems.
But it not merely allows you the opportunity to view the limitations, but it allows you to view the opportunities that you may be presenting to yourselves in widening your awareness and eliminating many of your obstacles that you place before yourselves in conjunction with your beliefs, and eliminate many of your limitations.
In this, you also open yourselves and your awarenesses to new avenues of acceptance. There are also tremendous expressions occurring that you are collectively creating in rebelliousness in conjunction with this widening of awareness.
The widening of your awareness in this physical dimension, in the terms that you have constructed within the design of this shift in consciousness, are unfamiliar to you, and what you have created to this point within your linear time framework IS familiar to you.
The acceptance of belief systems is an unfamiliar movement. Movement within your belief systems and the perpetuation of them and the expression of them is quite familiar to you. Therefore, there is an element of comfort in the perpetuation of your belief systems.
Now; in this particular meeting, we shall also be discussing three of your terms – of acceptance and of tolerance and of patience. These are terms that you have incorporated for much of your time framework throughout your history.
Many essences – many individuals within physical focus that you identify as teachers or masters or whichever designation of label that you assign to them – have incorporated these particular terms, and you in this time framework, as the energy of this shift in consciousness is accelerating, attempt to be incorporating these particular terms into your focus in what you identify as a type of working manner, in your vernacular.
GARY: This is incredibly apropos for us in terms of my nephew, who has suddenly decided that because we didn’t go to his wedding, he can’t stand us, and he’s been sending me horrible emails, and I have to just ignore that and ... I’m not sure what, but being patient and so on with him is, I guess, something I need to do. (Elias chuckles)
ELIAS: (Loudly) Now; I shall express to you that these three terms appear to be quite difficult for your incorporation within your physical experience. You incorporate conflict in your attempt to be manifesting patience or acceptance or tolerance within different situations or circumstances and moments of your focuses within this physical dimension. They appear to writhe against your natural inclination of movement within your focus.
Many of your beliefs express to you in one manner that you SHOULD be incorporating these actions, and many of your beliefs express to you contrary, for they express to you – or you express to yourselves – that you should be NOT incorporating patience or tolerance, but you should be affording these attributes to self and not incorporating them in conjunction with other individuals.
‘Look to self first. Identify the importance of your expressions first, and do not concern yourself with the expressions of other individuals.’ I myself have incorporated language in similar manner with many of you, expressing to you to be concerning yourself with self and not concerning yourself with the expressions or the movement of other individuals.
Now; in this direction of information, this is correct, for as you are looking to self and incorporating these actions – for these are terms for actions – you shall be also incorporating elements of the same expressions with regard to other individuals as a natural byproduct of the action of acceptance and tolerance and patience within self.
These three terms hold very different meanings – they are very different actions – and one of the difficulties that you experience within physical focus is a lack of understanding of each of these terms. You express to yourselves that these are virtues and that these are elements that are desirable to be incorporating into your focus, but you do not hold an understanding in objective terms of what these movements are.
What is your identification of patience? (Pause)
JOE: The ability to watch and learn over a long period of time without passing judgment.
JUSTIN: Giving the person the benefit of time.
ELIAS: You also identify with patience, waiting; to be allowing yourself a time framework of a lack of movement, a lack of action; a waiting period, so to speak.
I express to you that patience is an action. Patience is a movement.
In this, I have expressed to individuals within different time frameworks that they may be exercising patience and this may be helpful within their movement, and as the movement of this shift has intensified, it has become increasingly clear that within physical focus, your identification of the definition of this word of patience is lacking.
Therefore, it may be expressed to you that you incorporate this action of patience, but you hold a lack of definition of what you are being instructed to be doing. Therefore, how shall you be incorporating the action of patience if you do not hold an objective definition of the instruction?
Patience is an allowance. Patience is an objective incorporation of movement; an intentional, objective action of allowance for the natural flow of energy. Patience is a direct implementation of action in conjunction with the selection of probabilities.
You are continuously choosing and creating probabilities, and in this, each probability that you choose within every moment may not necessarily be immediately or spontaneously inserted into this physical reality, for you have created this physical reality with a linear time framework.
All probabilities are actualized, but all probabilities are not necessarily actualized within this officially accepted objective reality within this physical dimension. You choose one probability to be actualized into this physical reality in conjunction with each direction of movement that you incorporate and in conjunction with your experiences.
You may set probabilities into motion, and in that choice you may be creating the movement for the actualization of a probability, but it has not entirely been inserted into your actual physical reality within the linear time framework yet.
The action of patience is an active participation with the probabilities that you have set into motion in your physical dimension in an allowance of what you have already chosen in conjunction with your acceptance – for acceptance is a different action – and this allowance creates a free flow of energy.
The lack of incorporation of patience is a movement of pushing, which you incorporate in an action of forcing, so to speak, energy that you manipulate.
In this, many times you may place a probability in motion, and you may alter the manifestation of that probability by not allowing the free flow of the energy.
Therefore, you may hold a thought process of an objective want that you wish to be creating and manifesting within your focus. Within the moment of your recognition of that want, you have already set into motion a probability to actualize that want.
You may also alter the actualization of that probability through your lack of trust and acceptance within yourself and your pushing of energy, which redirects the flow of energy, and you may not in actuality manifest that want, for in your lack of patience, you have created an alteration of the direction of energy.
Individuals perplex themselves many times within physical focus in expressing to themselves, ‘I want to be manifesting this particular thing, and I am concentrating and concentrating my energy in this direction to be manifesting of this thing, and I am experiencing frustration, for it is not manifesting, and I know not why it is not manifesting.’
And you also express to yourself perplexities that what you want is not being actualized within your physical focus, for you express that you have received information that you shall manifest what you concentrate upon. Therefore, if you are concentrating, you should be manifesting.
Concentration is not necessarily objective thoughts, but you equate concentration with thinking.
Therefore, if you are thinking, thinking, thinking of what you want, and you are objectively expressing to yourself repeatedly, ‘I shall manifest, I shall manifest, I shall manifest,’ you believe you shall manifest, for this is your expression of objective concentration, and you create what you concentrate upon.
I have also expressed this to many individuals, but your concentration is not necessarily your thought process. Your concentration is the expression of your beliefs.
Your thoughts may not necessarily move in conjunction with your underlying beliefs. One of the most strongly expressed belief systems within this dimension, as I have expressed many times, is that of duplicity.
This particular belief system is quite cunning, and YOU are quite cunning in how you create camouflage within yourselves and how you fool yourselves with your thought processes that you may believe one direction, and in actuality you may hold a very different aspect of beliefs underlyingly. This is the area in which your concentration lies. Your concentration is that which you genuinely believe.
Now; returning to the term of patience, you may substitute the word ‘allowance’ for the word ‘patience,’ for the action of incorporating patience is merely the action of allowing yourself to move naturally and to flow within your energy without complication.
This is also a reason in which you experience difficulty with patience, is that this is a simplification of movement, and you are quite fond of complicating movement within this physical dimension! (Grinning) It is fascinating to you to be complicating ALL areas of your physical existence!
GARY: ... What is the importance of a healthy physical self?
ELIAS: This would be a relative question. It is relative to your intent and your direction within a particular focus.
Within your society, within your belief systems, you place great value upon physical health, but this is merely a choice.
There may not necessarily be an importance to holding health, within your identification of it in physical terms, if this be not your intent for your experience within this focus.
This be the reason that there are individuals manifest within your physical dimension who do NOT incorporate physical health in the manner that you identify as good. This be the reason also that individuals may create dis-ease and NOT move in the direction of cure.
Some individuals DO incorporate that type of movement, to be creating a dis-ease within their physical manifestation and to be uncreating that physical disease within the same manifestation, and this is an experimentation also, and is created for the reason of the individual and what they choose to be experiencing and experimenting with within this physical dimension.
Some individuals choose to be incorporating different elements of dis-ease or dysfunction quite purposefully, and do not alter their manifestation throughout their focus.
Therefore, this question is quite relative to the individual and their perception and their beliefs and their intent and their direction of their manifestation within their physical focus.
It is, once again, an example of mass belief systems that express guidelines that you ‘should’ be manifesting in a particular manner, and this is acceptable, and there are certain expressions of manifestations that are not acceptable within your officially accepted reality.
And this shall bring us full circle to our discussion of these terms of patience and acceptance and TOLERANCE, which is the one term that we have not been discussing this day.
Tolerance is a term that you interchange many times with acceptance, and these are very different expressions. Tolerance is NOT an expression of acceptance.
... You view tolerance to be a noble expression. You strive to be expressing tolerance in conjunction with other individuals, and also at times with yourself, and as I have stated, you equate tolerance with acceptance. If you are being tolerant, you are also being accepting, and I shall express to you, these are very different expressions.
You may be tolerating of behaviors or actions or situations, but tolerance is an expression of temporary. Acceptance is enduring.
Tolerance is an area of expression that you may allow yourself to move into temporarily with yourself or with other individuals, and even with situations and circumstances.
You allow yourselves to move in conjunction with certain aspects of your reality and not be struggling against them temporarily with an anticipation or an expectation of an alteration, a change.
You may be tolerating of another individual or hold tolerance in conjunction with another individual temporarily, and also be holding an underlying expectation and anticipation that there shall be incorporated a change of some element that shall allow you to be accepting. Tolerance incorporates expectations and anticipations. Therefore, it is not synonymous with acceptance.
Acceptance is the lack of judgment, and also incorporates a lack of expectation, for acceptance is a genuine expression of ‘it matters not.’ ‘It matters not’ is not incorporated into tolerance, for there IS a mattering in your expressions in the area of tolerance.
There also is an underlying expression that accompanies tolerance.
If you are tolerant in conjunction with a specific group of individuals, you are also intolerant of another group of individuals, or you are intolerant of certain expressions in conjunction with different individuals. As you incorporate tolerance in certain areas with yourself, you also incorporate intolerance with other areas of yourself.
Acceptance is not partial. Acceptance is inclusive, and is incorporated into all expressions and areas of yourself. It is not separating or excluding of any of your creations or your expressions.
You may be expressing ideas and even behaviors of tolerance in conjunction with other individuals, and you may express to yourselves an acknowledgment of your nobility in these types of expressions and behaviors, and you may be expressing to yourselves that you are quite good that you are expressing of certain elements of tolerance, and that other individuals are deserving of your tolerance.
This creates even more of an expression of nobility within you, and you may elevate yourselves to saintliness in your nobility, that you may be incorporating such tolerance in situations and in conjunction with other individuals, or that you may be incorporating tolerance of yourself.
Now; I shall express to you that your incorporation of tolerance to self is quite different than your incorporation of tolerance to other individuals.
Your incorporation of tolerance to self is a shifting of attention, turning your attention from one area that may appear unacceptable, within your perception, into another area of your expressions that you may be acknowledging of yourself within. This offers you an expression of partial validation.
I am not expressing that the action of tolerance is bad. I am merely offering you an explanation, that you may hold within your objective awareness more clarity as to WHAT you are creating as you incorporate these three actions.
Therefore, you shall not be deluding yourselves or fooling yourselves into the thought processes that you are moving into expressions of acceptance in your behaviors and your expressions when you are not.
This allows you the opportunity of less misunderstanding of your own behaviors, and allows you to recognize what you ARE creating in your expressions and your behaviors.
As you express outwardly your definition and your evaluation of tolerance that you assess you ‘offer’ to other individuals, you are also creating judgments, and this is not an expression of acceptance.
You express that the action of tolerance is good and intolerance is bad, and as you express your temporary movement in the action of tolerance, you hold expectations that either the situation shall alter, you shall alter your perception in conjunction with the situation, or another individual shall alter. Therefore, you nobly afford them the expression of tolerance temporarily, but there is an expectation that accompanies this action.
You may look to a religious group of individuals. You may express to yourself, ‘I am quite tolerant of these individuals and their choice of expression. It is non-affecting of me.’ But as you move into your definition and your designation of how you are tolerant of those individuals, as you encounter another individual that is not affording that same expression, there is a judgment placed. There is an automatic lack of acceptance.
The expectation is that tolerance is right, partially. The expectation also is that within your perception, other individuals shall follow your expression, for your expression is tolerant, and tolerant is right. Therefore, there is an assessment of how each individual shall be creating their reality, and there is a reinforcement of duplicity in these expressions.
Now; I offer to you this information in conjunction with tolerance quite specifically, for within this time framework, as you ARE aware that there is great movement in energy and there are many expressions of what you would term to be upheaval and much conflict, there is a leaning of many individuals in the direction of the expression, ‘I may not be moving into an expression of acceptance. Therefore, I shall move into the middle step of tolerance first, and this shall move me into the expression of acceptance.’ Expectation, once again.
This is important. Each time you are expressing to yourself or to any other individual that you are moving in the direction of tolerance, you also attach an expectation. Tolerance is a temporary expression with an expectation of an outcome. Tolerance is not necessarily an expression that shall automatically move you into an expression of acceptance.
I am not, as I have stated, expressing that your creation of tolerance is bad. It is not, but it may be camouflaging of certain movements in energy with you. It may camouflage beliefs that you do not allow yourselves to objectively view.
Let me offer you an example.
You may express to yourselves that you hold tolerance in the area of a group of individuals that may be manifest within a particular race. Within the framework of this society that you occupy – this physical location, this country, this political association that you hold in this particular reality of your society – in that framework and context, let us express that all of you present within this room may be expressing that you hold tolerance to individuals of African race.
Now; attached to that tolerance that you so generously afford to these individuals that manifest in the design of the race of African, there is an expectation that this is right, and therefore other individuals should be following this same expression.
Therefore, we introduce another individual into your group that may hold different alignment of beliefs, and this individual may not be expressing tolerance in conjunction with those individuals manifest of African descent. This individual holds very strong beliefs and is expressing those beliefs in opposition to the manifestation of the individuals of African descent.
Your response, in conjunction with your tolerance and your expectation, is to be turning to this individual and expressing a tremendous lack of acceptance – and judgment – and expressing that they are wrong, that they are bad, and they are unacceptable.
The individual is no more acceptable or unacceptable than the individual that you hold tolerance to. They are the same, and in the context of the lack of separation of consciousness, they are YOU.
Your expressions of tolerance or the lack of tolerance are mirror expressions of your acceptance or lack of acceptance of self.
Those areas, those behaviors, those expressions that you deem within yourself to be acceptable and right and good, those are mirrored in your expressions of tolerance. Those areas of self that you deem to be the ‘dark side’ of yourselves, those are unacceptable and not tolerated, and these are expressed outwardly to other individuals in an expression of a lack of tolerance.
This moves in the direction of preference, which is influenced by your beliefs also. Your beliefs move in quite specific directions, and in those directions you create preferences, and within those preferences, some elements of your reality are good and some are bad. Some are deserving of your noble expression of tolerance, and some are not.
You shall not be tolerant of the individual that strikes another individual. You shall be tolerant of the individual stricken, but you shall not be tolerant of the individual striking. They are merely choices. There are no victims.
Each time you place yourself in the position of a victim, you limit your choices, for you are not creating your reality any longer, in your perception. Some other element of reality is creating it for you – a situation, a circumstance, another individual.
I express to you, you are creating all of your reality, and you are also creating of all of your choices, to be limiting or not to be limiting.
But I also offer to you the suggestion that you allow yourselves to be noticing and allow yourselves an awareness of self – of your automatic movement and actions and behaviors in these time frameworks of much movement of energy and acceleration of this shift – in your expressions of tolerance, and do not confuse your expressions of tolerance with an assessment of acceptance, for they are quite different.” [session 510, December 04, 1999]
FRANK: “Well, today, the subject I would like to discuss primarily has to do with my employment situation, where there’s currently, I guess, quite a bit of conflict for me, but I think also an opportunity, hopefully. So for starters, maybe I could ask you a few questions.
First of all, on a subjective level, I am curious to know sort of what is going on. Why did I create the situation that I’m currently confronted with, which as I said, contains both difficulties and opportunities?
Secondly, what I would like to know is if you could give me some very specific advice on what is my best course of action of going forward in the next few days.
ELIAS: Offer to me your impression of what you are presenting to yourself.
FRANK: Pardon me? Can you repeat that?
ELIAS: Offer to me first, what is your impression of what you are creating?
FRANK: Let me see ... okay. I am in a situation with my employer where I commenced working at this company about nine or ten months ago based on a certain agreement about how we would work and what my compensation would be, and just how everything would develop in terms of my relationship to this company. Since then, many, many things have changed within the structure of the company, and now we are sort of in a dispute as to what should the financial arrangements be, and other arrangements. I am in a situation where I am trying to either A, work this out with them, or B, maybe leave the company and go off on my own and start my own company.
Whichever course I choose, there’s a lot of questions as to how this should be worked out in terms of the financial arrangements and other arrangements, and that’s basically what the situation is.
ELIAS: Now; listen to my question once again, for I have offered an inquiry, and you have offered an explanation of the situation.
My inquiry is, what is your impression as to what you are creating and how you are affecting yourself?
FRANK: Hmm. Okay. Well, I guess I am creating a situation where I feel to some degree trapped in this particular situation, and I guess to another extent, I feel sort of unappreciated. I guess those would be the two main things.
ELIAS: Very well. Now; let us examine this situation.
Now; you have continued to offer to me a description of what you are experiencing, and not offering your impression as to why you are presenting this scenario to yourself. Therefore, let us examine this situation, for this shall be a beneficial exercise to you in offering you the recognition of what I have been speaking of previously – in noticing, in holding your attention within the now, in recognizing and identifying your beliefs, in allowing yourself objectively to be assessing why you are creating certain actions, why you are creating certain responses. For all of these move in relation to your beliefs, and your beliefs thusly influence your perception, and your perception, as I have stated previously, creates your reality.
Now; in viewing the scenario, your perception is that you have entered into an action in agreement with another individual. Your perception now moves in the assessment that that particular agreement is not being complied with. Therefore, you also are creating responses within yourself. You have identified specific responses that you are creating in feelings.
Now; you have also stated that you hold some recognition that you may have created this scenario as an opportunity. If you have created this scenario as an opportunity, express to me, recognizing what you are creating in your feelings in response to the situation presently, what do you identify as the possible opportunity that you are presenting yourself with in this creation?
FRANK: Well, this is sort of a situation that has come up in the past, no surprise there, and whatever it is, it’s obviously something I need to get over, to move through, or it would be best if I would move through it, and so on the most obvious level, I think it’s that. Now, what exactly it is, I’m not sure, but ... I don’t know. Perhaps it’s a lack of confidence in myself?
ELIAS: Let me stop you momentarily. I am not asking you to identify right now what the belief systems are that are influencing of your perception. We shall address to that subsequently.
What I am asking is, how do you view in any manner that you may be offering yourself an opportunity by presenting yourself with this scenario? What would the opportunity be?
FRANK: Well, on an objective level, I think there’s an opportunity for me to be quite a bit happier doing what I’m doing in a different manner; in other words, moving away from or changing the situation. I think, again objectively, it would make me much happier to do that.
ELIAS: Very well.
FRANK: Does that answer the question?
Therefore, you identify that in addressing to this situation and identifying the beliefs that are influencing of your perception, you shall allow yourself the ability to be eliminating conflict and not re-creating this type of situation futurely, correct?
ELIAS: Very well.
Let me express to you, this is purposeful that we have engaged an examination of these elements which you have involved in this situation, for within the steps that I have presented previously of the movement into acceptance, many of you, yourself also, hear the terminology that is offered to be engaging these steps, and you objectively, automatically express to yourself that you understand what I am expressing to you.
But in actuality, you hold tremendous difficulty in actualizing this method, so to speak, for you are not quite understanding what I am expressing to you, for you are continuing in your automatic thought processes and you are not genuinely allowing yourself the opportunity to be recognizing and identifying.
In these steps which have been presented as the method, so to speak, in movement into acceptance, first of all, as you may be recalling, step one is to be noticing. You have allowed yourself to be noticing that you are experiencing conflict. Step two is, as you may recall, to be recognizing and identifying WHAT you are noticing.
Now; this step two is the area in which you have deviated.
You may be expressing to yourself that you are recognizing and identifying, and I shall express to you that in actuality, you are continuing to be noticing, for in your explanation, you are replaying this scenario. That is the noticing.
The recognizing and the identifying is to be viewing the scenario and allowing yourself to question why you have created that situation – why you have drawn yourself to the situation, why you have created it, and what is influencing that creation.
Now; as you allow yourself to be within the now, and as you allow yourself to be paying attention to self – listening to your own words, your own descriptions, identifying your own feelings – you also offer yourself objectively the opportunity to view what influences that feeling and that response.
The struggle involves trust in your ability, and acceptance of yourself in value; trusting in your ability to be accomplishing certain activities and tasks, which subsequently you look for an acknowledgment of those accomplishments.
Now; hear this. In an expression of genuine trust of your ability, there is no necessity for acknowledgment from outside.
As you create a feeling that you wish for another individual to be recognizing and acknowledging of your ability or your performance or your choices, the reason that you feel this draw, so to speak, and are wishing for the acknowledgment of another individual is that you are expressing to yourself an element of a lacking in your own expression of trust in your ability and acceptance in your worth.
Therefore, you look to outside for reinforcement to be offering you the expression that you are not offering to yourself.
Now; as you allow yourself to move in the examination of these steps into acceptance, you offer yourself a tremendous volume of information concerning yourself – why and what and how you create your reality, what you draw to yourself, what you place yourself within in the midst of other individuals’ creations, what you design within your perception, how you create different scenarios, why you repeat certain actions, and also why you do not repeat certain actions.
In this, as you allow yourself the opportunity to view and assess your genuine measure of your worth and value presently, you shall also offer to yourself the understanding of why you create certain scenarios and draw yourself into certain situations in which you are looking to other individuals to be providing you with the acknowledgment that you are not providing within self.
You also may allow yourself the viewing of why you have not created movement in what you may term to be, in your common vernacular, bold expressions, for this is requiring of an acknowledgment of your own trust of your abilities. There is a safety in allowing another individual to dictate to you what you shall create and how you shall create it. Are you understanding thus far?
FRANK: Yes, I think so.
ELIAS: In this, another individual does not dictate to you what you shall feel, or your responses in your creation of your emotions or your feelings. YOU create those responses in relation to how you perceive what is occurring, and how that is interplaying with your valuation of yourself.
Now; you do present yourself with an opportunity in this situation. The opportunity is that you may be recognizing that you hold choices. This is a tremendous expression of freedom, the recognition that you hold choices.
(Intently) No other individual may be affecting of you without your allowance for them to be affecting of you.
Therefore, you always hold the choice. The tricky area is that you objectively do not recognize that you hold these choices, and you move in automatic responses. Another individual may be expressing any element that you may perceive as different or not in agreement with you, and once there is a recognition of either of these factors, there is also created an automatic response.
For quite contrary to your objective thought process in general throughout your globe, in which you all for the most part define that you value difference and that you need not be in agreement with other individuals continuously, in actuality, your ideal, philosophically, would be to be in continuous agreement with other individuals and to be the same.
For difference and lack of agreement creates an automatic response that is perceived as threatening. It threatens your assessment of your value of self, for this is exceedingly strong in ALL of your beliefs. You ALL move in a base expression of influence of the belief system of duplicity, which automatically discounts self.
You even create, within your largest expressions of religious belief systems, elements which are comparable to the idea of original sin. It may not be expressed in those terms in some religious belief systems, but the concept is the same, that you enter into this physical manifestation flawed. This is reinforced continuously throughout your focus.
This is a very large, very fat bird within your bird cage! It is moving throughout all of your other bird cages and it is continuously influencing of your perception.
In this, as you allow yourself to be recognizing this very large fat bird and the tremendous influence that it exerts upon your perception, you also allow yourself the opportunity of choice to be creating your reality NOT listening to that bird so very intensely.
FRANK: With respect to the bird, in my case what you’re talking about is lack of trust in self, lack of acceptance?
ELIAS: Yes. This is directly related to the assessment or measurement that you hold of the value of self.
Now; this may be quite camouflaged at times, and you many times may not even recognize objectively the tremendous influence and strength of the lower scale of measurement, in your physical terms, of your value of self.
For objectively, you may allow yourself to be engaging in activities and productivity, which you subsequently credit yourself with and acknowledge yourself in expressing that you do recognize your worth, your value. But your key clue and indication of your assessment of your value of yourself and your measurement of your worth is your objective expressions in your want of validation in outside sources, so to speak.
You may think to yourself, of certain creations that you have engaged within your focus, that you hold no doubt within your abilities, that you express what you term to be great confidence, and in those expressions, it matters not if you are receiving outside validation. Outside acknowledgment is unnecessary. You hold a knowing within you of your ability, and this is satisfactory to you.
If another individual IS acknowledging of you, you shall be unreservedly accepting of their acknowledgment. You shall not be discounting of their recognition of your ability. You shall not be discounting of yourself and exhibiting false humility.
You shall express confidently the acknowledgment – in response to their acknowledgment of you – of yourself, and you shall be accepting and welcoming of their expression NOT in expectation and not in the want for that expression to be offered. Are you understanding?
FRANK: Yes, I am.
ELIAS: This is the difference.
Now; in this particular scenario that you have co-created, so to speak – for other individuals involve themselves also in this creation – you hold choices, but the base element of these choices, in your particular situation and what you are presenting to yourself individually, is to be recognizing your genuine acceptance of self and trust of your abilities, regardless of the response of the other individual. Look to self first. (Emphatically)
Your objective choices, your objective creations or manifestations, matter not. What you objectively create in action or in materialization holds little importance, in actuality. HOW you are expressing that holds tremendous importance, for the actual physical manifestations may be altered from moment to moment.” [session 587, March 26, 2000]
LOU: “I’m also experiencing my noticing of my judgments, and especially here recently in relation to extremes of duplicity. I’m wondering about this judgment thingy, the judgment verses non-judgment. At times to me non-judgmental seems just plain boring. Does that make sense?
ELIAS: Ha ha ha ha ha!
LOU: I like the opposites. Sometimes it gives an excitement, as I’ve told you before.
ELIAS: Quite. I am understanding of what you are expressing.
Now; let me express to you, the reason that you become bored without the incorporation of excitement associated with judgment is that you have not yet allowed yourself movement outside of the automatic association of the lack of judgment. You view this neutrality in the lack of judgment to be boring for this is familiar to you, and you objectively know not how to be exploring your reality incorporating excitement without that familiar expression.
But as you move more into your own recognition of self, and you allow yourself more of an acceptance and are not incorporating the expression of judgment, you may begin the realization objectively that this offers you a tremendous freedom to be exploring other avenues of creating your reality which do not require judgment to be incorporating excitement.
LOU: I see. So how does that relation between a non-judgment within my relationships ... how do I go about incorporating ... I mean, can you give me some sort of practice situation that I could put myself in? I know accepting myself, but ... do you know what I mean?
ELIAS: Offer an example of a situation, and we shall discuss it in relation to your example.
LOU: Okay. Say I see a person doing something. They’re doing something I don’t think is correct, so I make a judgment. Then I have a choice here. I can either be polite about it, but I have also made the judgment. So within that, if I make that judgment, I feel that within the relationship with that person they will almost expect me to make a response that is judgmental. How do I go about releasing myself from that mode?
ELIAS: Now; let us examine more specifically. Choose an actual or hypothetical situation in specific of an action that another individual may create that you shall create a judgment concerning.
LOU: Okay. Say this person is saying inflammatory remarks about myself — you know, they are making judgments. They are making bitter remarks towards myself.
ELIAS: Very well.
LOU: I come back with a response also in judgment, knowing that I’m in judgment, and then I also judge myself in that judgment to the point where I feel bad.
LOU: You know what I mean?
ELIAS: And therefore you have created a circle.
LOU: Exactly. I’m stuck in the circle.
ELIAS: Very well. Now; in this hypothetical situation, allow yourself to view all that is being created — and you may in actuality practice with this method, so to speak, each time you recognize that this type of situation is in occurrence. Your attention, first of all, is directed outside of yourself; therefore the first noticing that you shall present yourself with is the other individual.
ELIAS: This is not to say that this is, in actuality, the first action that is occurring. But this is the area of your attention, therefore this is the first expression that you notice.
In viewing this, let us examine what you associate as the sequence of events. The other individual creates an expression of judgment, you respond in another expression of judgment, and subsequently you respond to yourself in judgment of yourself.
Now; let us examine what is ACTUALLY occurring in this scenario. What is actually occurring in this scenario is that you are projecting energy, and in the projection of that energy you draw to yourself, or create, a scenario of reflection. You present yourself with another individual, and they are the reflection. They provide you with a reflection of you, of what you are already creating.
Now; as you view the reflection or the expression of the other individual, and you receive that expression, you offer yourself choice. But you also do not offer yourself choice, for you are not noticing what is occurring in actuality, and therefore you are creating an automatic response. Your automatic response is to be expressing in judgmental terms in return.
Now; what is actually occurring in your response is defense.
ELIAS: The expression of defense is a protection. It is camouflaged with the judgment in the direction of the other individual and THEIR expression. You have already camouflaged and turned your perception in alignment with your protection.
Now; subsequent to the engagement, there is a questioning within yourself as to why you have created that interaction, and your response to yourself in that questioning is to be discounting of yourself, and therefore you create another judgment upon self.
Now; you do not necessarily offer yourself a genuine response to the question of why you have created that interaction. The response that you do offer to yourself is an automatic response, which is not an answer. It is an association, and your automatic response is the discounting of yourself: I am not wide enough, I am not understanding enough, I am not patient enough, I am creating automatic responses and therefore I am not in tuned enough with myself. These are your automatic responses to the question of “why have I engaged this type of interaction?”
Now; in actuality, all of that interaction sprang from you. Therefore in these types of situations, you may be offering yourself what you may term to be your “shortcut” (laughs) in paying attention to self; and as you engage an interaction with another individual, as you allow yourself to pay attention and notice, the identification [is] that whatever the other individual is expressing to you is a reflection of what you are creating.
Therefore, if the other individual is expressing a judgment...
LOU: Then I am also creating a judgment.
ELIAS: ...you are already creating the judgment, and you are offering yourself the opportunity to view that through the reflection of the other individual’s expression.
Once you allow yourself to notice that reflection rather than expressing to yourself the automatic question of “why am I expressing this or engaging this action” — for you shall also offer to yourself automatic responses to that familiar question — turn your attention in that moment to be examining what you are creating within yourself.
LOU: So as far as this creation, this scenario creation of judgment that I’ve created with this other person who is me, I’m viewing it but I’m also presenting to myself automatic responses, judgments, to myself and a higher judgment to myself in regards to that of the creation itself.
ELIAS: Correct. Now...
LOU: Then what am I to do? Just be quiet, or keep my mouth shut? (Laughs)
ELIAS: I may express to you that as you turn your attention, this may be not boring at all but quite fascinating in holding your attention upon self without the involvement of judgment, for this is a quite unfamiliar action...
LOU: Yes, it is.
ELIAS: ...to be stopping your automatic responses, to be not engaging a response to the other individual, but to be turning your attention to self and exploring within self what YOU are creating, what your communications are in the moment that you are offering to yourself. And in that, as you begin the identification of what you yourself are creating, you also offer to yourself the challenge of responding to the other individual in different, creative manners.
There are many actions that are occurring in this type of scenario, all simultaneously, and this is quite a challenge for your attention to be engaging, for it is quite unfamiliar. But...
LOU: So it would behoove me to take a moment of silence within myself, to view within myself without an automatic response, view within myself this creation that I’ve created in judgment.
ELIAS: Quite, AND recognize what your automatic response is. Acknowledge that for it shall be presented, for that is the familiar expression. Therefore...
LOU: It kind of floats up in my mind, right, that automatic response?
ELIAS: Correct. And in this, do not attempt to be pushing away the automatic response, but rather allow yourself to be acknowledging of that and turning your attention to be examining your automatic response and what is motivating that within you.
LOU: Okay, and that will create a change in perception.
LOU: And once I change my perception, then the other individual will also change, because they are me!
ELIAS: Correct. It is a by-product of your expression.
LOU: So it would behoove me to just take a moment of maybe ... a respite moment that would allow me to gather my senses. (Laughing)
ELIAS: Correct! (Laughs)
LOU: Would that behoove me?
LOU: Okay. Thank you, Elias.” [session 769, January 30, 2001]
KATHLEEN: “Elias, in duplicity is there a remedy in forgiveness, or what is the role of forgiveness, both of self or of others or of others for us?
ELIAS: I may express to you, forgiveness is yet again an expression that is not what it appears to be. There are many aspects of your reality that are not what they appear to be.
Forgiveness, in your definition, is an action that you view to be positive and reinforcing and necessary to be moving into acceptance. I may express to you, this is the wolf in sheep’s clothing, for forgiveness, in actuality, is the discounting of another individual, expressing within yourself that another individual has wronged or hurt or been injurious to you. No other individual may be those expressions to you, for essences are not intrusive, and you create all of your reality. Therefore if you are experiencing injury, you have created that within yourself. Another individual does not create that against you. This is a facet of your perception and the power of your perception.
In this, forgiveness discounts another individual and expresses that there is some element concerning the other individual that needs be fixed, or that they are inadequate in their expression, or that they are wrong – and there is no wrong. It also discounts you, for as you move into an expression of forgiveness with another individual, you are discounting your own choices and your ability to adequately create your reality without incorporating the role as a victim.
KATHLEEN: What is the role of forgiveness of self, then?
ELIAS: It is also another expression of reinforcing ‘victim.’ For if you are a victim, you have created an inability for choice, and your perception of this is inadequate or wrong or bad.
KATHLEEN: Well then, what is the response to duplicity that becomes a healing of it?
ELIAS: Acceptance and trust. These two movements shall be ultimately affecting in allowing you to move beyond these judgments that you place upon yourself or upon other individuals, genuinely expressing trust within yourself and your abilities, and movement within your own individual process into acceptance.
I may express to you also, my friend, that you may hold with yourself. As you create the expression of your focus and the tapestry of your experiences that comprise the exploration of your focus, the shadows are equally as important as the light, for they offer the depth.” [session 848, June 09, 2001]
RODNEY: “In contemplating a recent discussion with you concerning loss, I was listening to a tape by Carolyn Myss. (14) She uses a very colorful language steeped in religious references, and she used the term ‘emptying’ several times. That really struck a note with me.
To lose something, for me, is to be without it or to be empty, more empty. I feel another association, and that is my judgment of that which is good, primarily, and to let go of that there seems to be an emptiness behind it. I know these are poetic words, in a sense. Would you comment? You’ve never used the word ‘emptying’ yourself, and yet it’s really ringing a chord for me, and I would ask you to comment on that.
ELIAS: And what rings a chord in association with the term of ‘emptying’?
RODNEY: This state of pure awareness, this state of being in no judgment has that feeling of nothingness to me, emptiness. Now, I don’t know whether that is what Carolyn Myss is referring to or not. I’m kind of less interested in what she’s referring to and more interested in your thoughts on this, this sense of being in a vacuum, when there’s no... Every thought I feel, sense awareness of, seems to have a judgment on it. So getting in between the good and the bad into that state of pure awareness feels like going into a state – I don’t even know if I’ve ever been there (chuckles) even for a little bit – but it feels like I’m going into nothingness, emptiness.
ELIAS: Define ‘pure awareness.’
RODNEY: (Laughing) I can’t!
ELIAS: Nor may I!
RODNEY: It’s being without judgment, which is the way you’ve defined it. So I look at it more as...
ELIAS: I may express to you, Zacharie [Rodney], I have not defined pure awareness...
RODNEY: Okay! I stand corrected!
ELIAS: ...for there is no pure awareness. Were there to be pure awareness, there would be no necessity for consciousness to continuously change, or for choice or for exploration, which is the nature of consciousness – discovery.
RODNEY: I’ll back off of the word awareness altogether, and go to that feeling of being in no judgment, whatever that is.
ELIAS: Very well. I am understanding of your direction of your questioning. I am merely offering responses also to be reminding you of your alterations of terms, for this is an aspect of this shift in consciousness, altering terms and altering your reality, redefining.
Now; in this, what is duplicity?
RODNEY: Purposeful self-deception.
ELIAS: No. It is a belief system. Duplicity is one of the belief systems. There are many, many aspects and expressions of it. What is the point of this shift in consciousness?
RODNEY: To be more aware, wider.
ELIAS: To be accepting beliefs, belief systems and yourselves, and therefore offering yourselves the objective ability to intentionally direct yourselves without conflict, that you may create what you want intentionally in an objective awareness. This is accomplished in acceptance of your beliefs.
What have you been, to this point, attempting to generate? To change your beliefs or to eliminate your beliefs. You may not eliminate beliefs. You may shed them if you are disengaging this physical reality. If you continue within this physical reality, which is a choice, you shall continue to incorporate beliefs. Even subsequent to the completion of this shift in consciousness, you shall continue to generate beliefs, for it is an aspect of the blueprint of this particular physical dimension.
RODNEY: I’m directing myself to the term ‘acceptance of beliefs’ when I talk about getting a handle on what is nonjudgmental.
ELIAS: I am aware.
RODNEY: So my question does point very much to my attempting to get a handle on what acceptance is...
ELIAS: I am aware.
RODNEY: ...on kind of a feeling level, because thought kind of just leaves me in the cold here.
ELIAS: I am aware.
RODNEY: So what I am saying is, in attempting to do this, the poetic association of emptiness seems to hold some promise for me of understanding.
ELIAS: Very well, and if this is the method that you choose, so be it. I may express to you...
RODNEY: That other people would not experience this ‘no judgment either way’ as a sense of emptiness?
ELIAS: And it is doubtful whether you shall, either.
RODNEY: Oh, really. Well, that answers my question!
ELIAS: It is an attempt to eliminate duplicity, and duplicity is a belief system also. It is not a question of moving into an expression of eliminating, but offering yourself choice and knowing that there are no absolutes.
Individuals have incorporated confusion from the onset of this forum in association with this one belief system of duplicity, and my expression to you all that you may generate acceptance and continue to incorporate your individual preferences and opinions, you view to be inconsistent. How may you continue to incorporate opinions and not generate judgment with acceptance?
The manner in which you accomplish this is recognizing that your opinion is not right or wrong or good or bad. It is your opinion; it is your preference. It is an expression of your choices, and another individual may express quite differently. But your choices are not absolute and neither are another individual’s, and as you accept that there are no absolutes, it matters not and you express acceptance. You acknowledge the belief, you recognize its existence, you allow yourself choice and know that there are no absolutes.
Acceptance is generated in the moment. This is significant, for what you are expressing in your question is quite similar to the directions of every other individual within this room. There is a thought process that is generated that once you move your awareness into acceptance, you shall be DONE! (Group laughter) And you shall never need the expression of attempting acceptance ever after, for you have accomplished acceptance of each belief.
RODNEY: I plead guilty to that. But I’m not sure that I even know what acceptance feels like.
ELIAS: And this is what I am expressing to you. In each moment, you generate the choice of acceptance or not.
This becomes confusing in association with your thought processes, for you express to yourselves [that] if you generate acceptance you need not generate that again, for you are done. But if you are done, you also deny yourself choice, for your perception is continuously changing. Therefore, your association with every belief is continuously changing. Therefore, if you generate acceptance of a belief within one moment and it is solidified and absolute, you have ever after denied yourself choice. For your perception shall continue to change, your association with the belief shall continue to change, but you have now denied yourself the choice to accept.
Therefore, acceptance is an expression that is generated in each moment. There is no finish line. You are not done! (Grinning and chuckling)
RODNEY: No matter how I feel!
ELIAS: (Laughs loudly) And you may be as empty as you please (loud group laughter) and you shall continue to express the opportunities of acceptance. (Chuckles)
RODNEY: Thank you, Mister Elias.
ELIAS: You are quite welcome, sir.” [session 1116, June 16, 2002]
BOBBI: “... my friend Diane, who I’ve spoken to you about, ... is dealing with cancer. I told her at the beginning of her treatments and all of this about two years ago that I would help her with it in whatever way and be there for her, blah blah blah, and go through all this stuff.
Well, I’m finding that it is very wearing at this point. It’s having an effect on me that I just don’t like, so I’ve taken a couple weeks off from it. She has quite a bit more to go. I really don’t care to do it, but I feel a very strong obligation towards her and a lot of guilt if I don’t fulfill that. I know guilt is useless in energy and all that, but still it is there, and I’m having a hard time dealing with that.
ELIAS: Express to myself, Jale [Bobbi], what is your assessment and how do you define acceptance of a choice or acceptance of a belief?
BOBBI: That it simply is. That there is no right or wrong to it, that it simply is.
ELIAS: I am not speaking in concept; I am speaking concerning actual action and reality with you, individually. If you perceive yourself to accept a belief or a choice, how do you perceive that?
BOBBI: Well, I think that is a problem. Acceptance, as much as you have described it and talked about it, is still a very fuzzy concept for me, especially applied to definite physical objective situations.
ELIAS: If you accept, hypothetically, a belief in the moment, and you present yourself with another scenario weeks subsequent which is quite similar and the same belief is expressed again, what thinking are you thusly generating?
BOBBI: That it’s the same belief and if I’ve accepted it, in your scenario, I don’t have to worry about it any more. I don’t have to think about it.
ELIAS: But it has arisen again. Now what shall your thinking be?
BOBBI: That I must not have accepted it, I guess! Or there’s some aspect of it that’s still...
Now; this is the confusion, for this is the snare of absolutes. You have presented yourself with a scenario in which you accept a choice or a belief in the moment and you generate that as an absolute. Therefore, if you have genuinely expressed that acceptance concerning a belief or a choice, that scenario shall not arise again, for you have accepted it and therefore it shall no longer be within your reality, for it has been accepted.
Now; in that association of absolutes, what you are expressing to yourself actually is that you have eliminated something, and this is the seat of the confusion, for acceptance is an action which is generated in the moment.
You are in a movement of continuous change, and in a state of continuous change, if you set an absolute in relation to acceptance, you deny yourself choice ever after, and this creates a domino effect, so to speak. For that expression of absolute touches and collides with many other expressions and beliefs and reinforces the attachment of duplicity in relation to all of your beliefs.
Once again, I express to you, duplicity is also a belief system. It is not being eliminated, but rather recognized and accepted. Within one moment, you accept a belief. Within one moment, you accept a choice. Within another moment, you may present yourself with a very similar choice or the same belief, and you present yourself with the opportunity to accept it again.
This is the expression of free will. This is your innate being of choice, and this is the manner in which you deny yourselves choice, for your attention is not in the now and upon self and recognition of your choices. Each moment is an opportunity to be accepted, and in that expression of acceptance, you free yourself to generate appreciation. Appreciation and acceptance are not the same expression, but you will not generate appreciation without acceptance.
Now; in association with your friend in this discussion, allow yourself to recognize, every moment is an opportunity for acceptance and every moment generates a choice. You are continuously changing. What may be held in acceptance in one moment may change, and therefore acceptance must be expressed in a different manner. Were this not to be, you would not incorporate choice. And you do incorporate choice, for choice is a truth.
In one moment, you may be in alignment with your value fulfillment and you may be generating no conflict and acceptance of beliefs and your choices, and in another moment you may present to yourself the same beliefs and the same choices or quite similar choices and not be accepting of them, and you shall know, for you shall generate conflict. This is not to say that you must be accepting them in the same manner that you accepted previously, for you change; therefore, your perception changes. Your reality changes. Your reality is not static. Therefore, what has been accepted in one manner in one moment may be accepted in another manner in another moment. (Pause)
The expression of acceptance is the recognition that there are no absolutes, that you incorporate beliefs, they exist, and you recognize and allow yourself the choice of your preference in the moment, knowing that your preference is not absolute, is not truth. It is your preference in association with your beliefs in acknowledgment of them in the moment.
This is what is meant, as I have expressed to you all previously, that you may be accepting of beliefs and also continue to express your individual opinions and preferences, which I am aware that as I have offered that information for the most part individuals either do not incorporate an understanding of that concept or do not hear it, period. For your automatic association is that you shall eliminate the one belief system of duplicity and therefore you shall allow yourselves the ability to accept all of the other belief systems.
No, you shall accept the belief system of duplicity, recognizing that you shall continue to express a good or bad in association with your reality, but knowing that that is your individual preference and opinion and that it is not truth and that it is not absolute, and therefore generate the acceptance of difference, recognizing that you choose your expressions and what you want and how you shall explore your reality in the manner in which you prefer, and that other individuals also generate the same. And in that expression, you each create differently.
Your friend has chosen to be creating a dis-ease and continues to choose to generate that dis-ease. You may not alter her choice. You are not responsible for her choices. You ARE responsible for your choices.
BOBBI: I guess my conflict is that I feel like I am responsible for what I expressed to her about being with her through all of this and being helpful.
BOBBI: As far as her choice of the illness, that’s not really where my conflict lies.
ELIAS: But this is precisely what I am expressing to you. You have expressed your supportiveness to this individual and your want to continue, but the manner in which you outwardly express that supportiveness is changing, and this is acceptable. This is the point. This is not to say that you are not continuing to generate what you want in expressing a supportiveness to your friend, but that the manner in which you may choose to express that supportiveness may be different. This does not devalue the supportiveness.
BOBBI: It’s not only supportiveness that she’s looking for. She’s looking for a ride and companionship during these treatments, and that would be her expectation of me.
ELIAS: Correct! And this is not what you expressed. You defined with myself your intention and you defined clearly to myself your want to be supportive to your friend throughout this time framework in which she is creating this dis-ease. It matters not what her expectations are. What is significant is that you allow yourself to pay attention to you. Recognize that you have incorporated a choice. You have clearly defined it within yourself of your intention and your movement to be supportive to your friend. You have translated that previously in physical interaction and in offering and participating in actual physical movements and engagements with this individual. Your expression of supportiveness is no less in choosing to alter HOW you express that and not necessarily incorporating physical interaction.
BOBBI: I will work on this. I’m going to have to think about this a little bit, I think.
ELIAS: Very well. You incorporate a strong association with outward productivity and yourself and your value.
BOBBI: That is true, and I guess there’s some similarity there, like I feel I need to be doing something.
ELIAS: And if you want to be, you may, and you may choose. It is a matter of what is it that you want to be doing.
BOBBI: Which leads back to the beginning of our conversation about paying attention to myself in the moment.
ELIAS: Quite! It is a natural expression to be outwardly productive for you. This is a natural movement of your [common] orientation. But this becomes confused in choosing WHAT you shall be outwardly producing or doing, and whether that production or outward expression is actually what you want or is what you expect yourself to create in association with what you perceive to be the expectations of other individuals.
In actuality, be remembering, all that you view of expectations of other individuals are also a reflection of your own expectations of yourself in association with your beliefs. If your friend expects you to be providing transportation, YOU are expecting yourself to provide that. And in reverse, in paying attention to yourself and not creating the expectation of providing transportation for this individual, you alter your perception and the other individual shall not be expressing the expectation.
BOBBI: I can see that most of this arose from what I think I should be doing or what I expect of myself. Oh dear! (Elias laughs) I guess I should get off my own back, huh? (Laughs and Elias laughs) All right, I will think about all of this and do my best to assimilate it into my real-life objective expressions over here.
ELIAS: (Chuckles) Very well. Begin with what you perceive to be the small expressions.” (Laughs) [session 1124, July 05, 2002]
ELIAS: “This day, we shall be discussing not necessarily your automatic responses but the influence of your beliefs in association with what you do, and we shall be interactive as per our last group interaction in your participation with this subject matter also.
Now; what we shall be examining initially you may be associating with a belief of protection, for many of you express very strong associations with protection and are not even aware of how strong your alignment with this belief is. But what we are actually examining this day is how you move, how you create actions within your day that are influenced by beliefs that influence significant events within your focus. For you move throughout your day reinforcing beliefs continuously, and are objectively unaware of what you are actually doing or what is actually influencing.
I have chosen to begin with Castille, for Castille and I have discussed an exercise of this very subject matter. (Looking at Letty) You may offer briefly to the other individuals present this day your assessment of your successfulness with that exercise for merely one day in paying attention to all of your actions and all of the influences of the beliefs. And what do you assess was your successfulness in that one day?
LETTY: Everything you do from the moment you get up and you brush your teeth or comb your hair, there is a belief system attached to it.
LETTY: The exercise was to pay attention for one whole day to what I was doing every day. So I went along saying to myself, ‘What am I doing? What am I doing?’ It was incredible to find the belief systems that I never paid attention to.
ELIAS: And were you recognizing of many repetitions in these beliefs?
LETTY: Oh yes, many of them.
ELIAS: Correct. Within one day, you engage countless actions, and each of those actions is influenced by a belief.
Now; the point of this exercise is not to be expressing judgment concerning beliefs that are being expressed, but rather to allow yourselves to recognize what beliefs are being expressed and the influence of those beliefs in association to your actions and your choices.
This is not to say that once recognizing the influence of the belief that you may be choosing a different belief to be expressed. You may choose to continue to express the same belief that you have been, but you know that you are choosing and this is the difference. For, throughout your day you express many, many actions, and you are moving in what you term to be automatic pilot. You are NOT paying attention to what you are expressing, what you are doing.
The significance of this paying attention in mundane, what you term to be insignificant actions throughout your day is that the influence of those beliefs in association with your actions in each day are very often the same beliefs that influence what you view as significant events.
You all incorporate events or experiences within your focus that you deem to be uncomfortable and negative and that you express to yourself you wish you had not created; and your automatic response, which we discussed in our previous group session, is to be inquiring of yourself, why have I created this?
Now; we have examined those automatic responses and you have offered yourselves the opportunity to be examining yourselves and evaluating what your most common automatic response may be. Now we shall examine what you express most commonly throughout your day as an influence of beliefs. For those beliefs are the why, in association with the events or the experiences that you generate, that you question, that you dislike.
This also is quite empowering. For as you allow yourselves to become more clearly aware with what you generate even within one day, you allow yourselves to recognize your choices. I may express to you all quite definitely, I have offered information to all of you that you are not eliminating beliefs and you are not changing beliefs – but what are you doing?
You incorporate every belief which is contained within all of the belief systems, each and every one. You incorporate EVERY belief that is associated with all belief systems, but you express few. You choose in association with how you choose to manifest, the culture you choose to be manifest within, what you align with, your families, your orientations, your preferences. You choose certain beliefs that you shall be expressing, and these also are associated with your opinions.
Now; as I have stated many times, you may be expressing acceptance in entirety of your beliefs and continue to express your individual opinions and your preferences. They are not at odds with each other. Acceptance is an expression in which you do not incorporate judgment. This is not to say that you may not incorporate your individual preferences and individual expressions and your opinions, but knowing that they are your opinions and your preferences and they are not better or worse than any other individual’s. They are merely different. The acceptance is expressed in difference, and difference is quite challenging to be accepting. You automatically express the want for sameness, for if you are the same you validate yourself and each other. If you are the same, you are expressing that you understand each other objectively, and this is good.
Now; as I have stated, the significance of recognizing what beliefs are influencing your actions throughout one day is that this offers you an intimate awareness of yourself. It allows you the freedom of choice. Do not misunderstand, automatic responses are choices also but they are limiting, for you are not intentionally directing objectively these automatic responses.
I am not speaking of thinking continuously, for choice does not require thought. Action does not require thought. But thought is a powerful tool that you incorporate within your physical reality. It is an objective tool that translates information to you. It allows you, at times, more clarity in your understanding of what you are creating.
Now; many times it does not offer you clarity. It offers you confusion, for you are not offering your thought mechanism information to be translating accurately. Therefore it translates generally, then you become confused and you spin upon your hamster wheel. (Smiling)
Now; what do you incorporate in your average routine within your day? (Pause) You all awake! (Laughter)
SHARON: All your beliefs?
ELIAS: This is quite general. I am specifically inquiring of your actions.
ARTHUR: A job.
ELIAS: You awake, eat, and...
SHERI: I’ve got to go pee!
ELIAS: Very well! This is your initial action, and how do you approach that action? (Much laughter)
SHERI: Well, I squat down on the seat... (Laughter continues)
ELIAS: How do you arrive at your water closet?
SHERI: I open up my eyes, and I say, ‘Here it is! I think I’ll sit!’ (Laughing) I’m not sure of the question.
ELIAS: Do you incorporate any action between these two? (Laughter)
SHERI: I usually get out of bed before I pee!
ELIAS: Do you incorporate any thought process?
SHERI: After the fact, I go, ‘I guess I had to pee!’
ELIAS: Very well. This is a normal function.
Now; every action that you incorporate is influenced by a belief.
SHERI: A belief in elimination?
ELIAS: Which expresses what? (Pause)
SHERI: You guys can help me! (Laughter)
ELIAS: Quite! (Humorously) For you all incorporate the likelihood of engaging a similar action when you awake. (Laughter)
BEN: That there’s a correct way to do it.
PAT: And a correct place to do it.
WENDY B: And that you have to do it to be more comfortable.
STEVE: And that if you go through the night without getting up and going, you’re going to have a full bladder in the morning. It’s been producing urine.
ELIAS: But you do incorporate specifics in how you express this action. For within your time framework presently, you incorporate what you may term to be modern plumbing.
Now; do you incorporate rules in association with that plumbing?
STEVE: The toilet seat should be down.
PAT: That women don’t stand up! It’s a little harder. (Much talking over each other and laughter, and Elias looks very amused.)
LAURA: Not in the shower.
ELIAS: But are you incorporating your shower immediately, or are you incorporating this elimination first?
LAURA: I usually ... in the shower.
ELIAS: Very well.
LAURA: Because it’s all one, so...
ELIAS: Ah, and what of individuals that may incorporate a belief that expresses that this is an unacceptable action?
LAURA: Yes, I know it is, and I believe that it is, and I know that other people would find it unacceptable that I do that. But I find it economical, I find it ... I’m not wasting the water in the toilet. I go in the shower... (Much laughter, and the group begins expressing varying opinions on this subject)
ELIAS: Ah! MANY beliefs! (Much laughter)
RETA: I might add, medically, if a woman stands up she’s better off.
ELIAS: Ah, another belief. Very well! Once you have eliminated or you have incorporated your shower ... how do you incorporate your shower?
(More overlapping group discussion and laughter about what is involved in taking a shower: taking off clothes, getting hot water, opening and closing the shower door, not wasting water or using up all the hot water, clean towels, not flushing the toilet while someone’s showering...)
ELIAS: Now; we have perhaps your initial one-half of one hour that you have incorporated within your waking state, and you have already incorporated many actions, and each one incorporates beliefs.
Now; what are the beliefs that influence these actions?
RETA: You have to take care of yourself.
PAT: Getting relief! If you have to go, you have to go!
JO: You know you’re going to feel better if you are clean, and Laura’s looking after the environment. (Laughter)
PAUL: Many beliefs surrounding personal interactions, on what actions to take to be less offensive to other people.
ELIAS: Therefore concerning yourself with the perceptions of other individuals.
LAURA: Even at my work, I wash my hands after I pee at work but I don’t do it anywhere else, because the belief is I need to get rid of my germs before I go back and perform my job, and it’s the only time I ever do it.
ELIAS: And what belief influences this action of washing your hands?
(2:35 PM; 8 minutes, 45 seconds of session was not audio taped. Audio tape picks up again at 2:44 PM)
ELIAS: Which generates what action?
KIM: I believe that it would generate protection to focus in a more productive way.
ELIAS: In a manner of speaking, for it is a defense. For it is an action that may be motivated by the belief that you do not incorporate capability of steering yourself efficiently throughout your day. Therefore, you incorporate this action to focus your attention more clearly and more fully and incorporating other energies that shall be helpful to you to steer yourself in an efficient manner throughout your day.
KIM: Exactly. So, what would be the more efficient way to believe about it?
ELIAS: Ah. (Laughter)
PAMELA: What if we do these things out of enjoyment? I mean, what if you go to the bathroom because you like the way you feel afterwards? You take a shower because you like the way your skin feels afterwards, and you eat breakfast because your taste buds enjoy what you eat, and you meditate because you like the feeling that you get with it as a preparation for the day.
ELIAS: Now; this is a clear example of what I began with in this conversation. Your response presently is automatically assuming that any of these beliefs that are influencing any of these actions are bad or negative.
PAMELA: My saying that if I do something because it makes me feel good...?
ELIAS: The manner in which you have presented this statement and this question to myself is defensive, and is expressing what you view to be an opposite opinion in defense of perhaps you merely enjoy engaging any action. I have not expressed that any of these beliefs are bad, or that you may choose to change them.
PAMELA: I was only saying, though, that all of the things you’ve talked about could also just be a preference...
PAMELA: ...as opposed to thinking that we needed to do it.
ELIAS: Correct, but how shall you know objectively whether it is a preference or whether it is an influence of automatic responses to beliefs that you perhaps do not prefer if you are not aware of what you are doing and what is influencing that doing?
And this is the point, not that any of your beliefs are bad. They are all neutral. You attach associations of good and bad, and those associations are associated many times with your preferences, which are not bad. But what becomes confusing and at times conflicting is that you associate your preferences as good, and if you encounter other individuals and express different preferences, they are not as good, and there are automatic responses that occur in association with those expressions continuously.
What do you generally express to myself many, many, many times: ‘How may I be helpful to other individuals? I desire to be helpful in the action of this shift. I am engaging conflict or challenge with my daughter, my mother, my father, my son, my friend. How may I be efficiently interactive and be helpful? How may I be accepting?’ These are questions that are posed within this forum continuously, and my expression to you all continuously is to be accepting. And what is meant [by] ‘to be accepting’?
ELIAS: And how do you accomplish that? How do you accomplish no judgment?
FRANK: Accepting yourself.
ELIAS: Correct, and how are you accomplishing of acceptance of yourself?
FRANK: By not placing judgment; being aware of your own beliefs and not judging them.
JUNE: And not comparing.
ELIAS: A lack of comparison is very strong. This is a very strong belief.
ELIAS: Correct, but the requirement is to be intimately aware of you.
ELIAS: Continuously; but to know, not to judge your own preferences or the other individual’s, not concerning yourself with any other individual but viewing yourselves and not judging your preferences or comparing your preferences to other individuals, for they may not be the same, and in acceptance of your beliefs and your preferences and your choices, and in recognition, knowing of your choices – not automatic responses, not automatic pilot – but recognizing your own individual unique preferences and allowing yourself the freedom of that expression of them without judgment, recognizing that other individuals express their preferences also and [that] it is unnecessary to be judging of another individual’s preference. For how is this altering your reality? Where is the threat?
As an example, in your society you incorporate strong beliefs in association with your physical body consciousness, very strong mass beliefs.
Now; I may offer two examples. One, you may be an individual that is quite aware of what you consume as food, and you may incorporate specific beliefs in relation to what is healthy, what offers you a higher vibrational quality in certain foods. Many individuals incorporate these beliefs. They are not wrong, but they are beliefs.
Now; you may encounter another individual which may incorporate very different preferences and expressions and perhaps consumes types of foods that you view to be quite disgusting and extremely unhealthy. (Laughter)
Now; they are expressing their preference and you are expressing your preference, but YOU are expressing your judgment that they are consuming unhealthily, [and that] this is very bad. And they may be expressing judgment to you, that you are a lunatic for you are incorporating these beliefs associated with lighter energy food. They are merely differences!
But in this simple encounter, you express tremendous judgments. Is the other individual harming you or creating your reality for you if they are choosing to be consuming foods that you view to be disgusting? Are they altering your reality?
PADDY: Not if you don’t let them.
ELIAS: How may they possibly be altering your reality in their choice?
PAT: They could have gas. (Loud laughter)
ELIAS: It is your choice how you shall interact with that.
ELIAS: It is your choice how you interact with that, is it not?
PAT: Eat the right things and we don’t have to deal with it.
ELIAS: Ah! Therefore attempt to be creating the other individual’s reality for them. And your choice is that...
PAT: But their reality, in this case, is directly affecting my reality.
ELIAS: If you allow it.
PAT: Well, apparently in that scenario I would be allowing it, so I would try to...
ELIAS: You may or you may not. You may engage what senses you choose.
ELIAS: In actuality, it is. But as to your comment, how is another individual creating your reality?
PADDY: It’s not creating your reality unless you allow it to be.
ELIAS: Even in this scenario, it is not creating your reality. YOU are creating it in association with your beliefs that you are a victim. The other individual is not creating ANY of your reality, not even with flatulence! (Loud laughter)
PAT: I have a hard time with that.
ELIAS: (Emphatically) You create every aspect of your reality.
PAT: Well, I had this dog, this yellow lab. He was the greatest dog in the world, but man that dog had gas. Now, you’re telling me that I created that? The dog was very efficient at his creation...
ELIAS: If it is expressed within your perception, YOU have created it.
PAT: Wow, that’s hard to understand how I ... he’s gone now. But it’s a very difficult concept.
ELIAS: I am understanding, and this is the point. And this is the shift. (Grinning)
JOHAN: I think the danger of judgment is that it really relies on the personal experience of neutrality. I think one of the things we’ve got to learn is how we experience neutrality, to allow and to be allowed, because I think the job for us while we live here...
ELIAS: The paradox, in your terms, which is not in actuality a paradox, is that you express the neutrality but you also express the preferences, which are not necessarily neutral. It is the allowance of yourself to express your freedom of your preferences and your opinions but also simultaneously not express judgment in relation to yourself or other individuals.
I am not expressing this term of ‘judgment’ to be a negative; judgment is also what you term to be a positive, therefore not expressing the judgment in association with yourself in recognizing your preferences, that they are good or that they are better or even at times that they are worse, for you are comparing with other individuals, but rather to recognize your preferences and be accepting of them, knowing objectively that they are your preferences and they are acceptable, and that the differences expressed with other individuals are acceptable also.
Another example: an individual may be expressing within their focus their preference associated with their beliefs that it is healthy and good to not be incorporating certain substances within your physical body, perhaps one that is commonly expressed within your society of your cannabis, your marijuana. Some individuals incorporate very strong beliefs that this is bad and that you should not be incorporating this substance. Other individuals may be incorporating this substance continuously and functioning quite well. The individuals that may be incorporating the belief that it is not good to be incorporating this substance perhaps shall interact with that substance and generate a very strong response and create unusual experiences. The individual that does not align with that same belief may be incorporating this action of this particular substance and function quite normally and not experience what the other individual shall experience. But both individuals may be generating judgments of each other, or one individual may incorporate judgment and one may not.
The point is to be recognizing where the judgments are expressed and what influences them, as generally speaking, for the most part you generate judgment in association with beliefs, lack of acceptance and difference of choice.
This is merely what is occurring: individuals are engaging in choices. One choice is not good and one choice is not bad, even to the extent of murdering each other. They are merely choices. They are experiences. It is your association with your beliefs that generate judgments.
You may continue to incorporate the beliefs that you are expressing and recognize that they are your preferences, for the beliefs within themselves are neutral. But the point is to be aware of what your beliefs are, what their influences are.” [session 1252, January 18, 2003]
BILL: “... I believe I understand the principal of acceptance and non-judgment. The question, I guess, is best put by an example. Most people would consider genocide as being wrong today because of, I suppose, our belief in duplicity and separation. Now, in accepting the belief in duplicity, I still hold an opinion about genocide. Yet it’s difficult for me in talking with people – let’s say we should discuss the issue of genocide – not using the terms that are so common with duplicity.
How do I relate my opinion without using the terms that so reinforce our views on duplicity, like if we’re talking about genocide? It’s really difficult to say, “Well, it just is,” when someone holds so strongly to that belief. Can you give me some insight on how I might do that, talk to people about non-judgment, about genocide or child murder or any kind of murder?
ELIAS: Offer to myself, what is your direction or your motivation, so to speak?
BILL: The direction when I’m engaged in conversations regarding duplicity?
BILL: Well, I guess part of my direction – that’s something I want to ask you about, because I’m not clear on the term “direction,” but maybe I can get it clear as I talk to you – my direction is hopefully to impart acceptance and how I believe to others. At least that’s what I assume my direction is.
ELIAS: For what reason?
BILL: Because this information has helped me so much that I just feel it would be helpful to them also. A lot of my communications now are an effort to help others sort of acquire... Not that their beliefs are wrong, but in the acceptance of beliefs. But those words good, bad, right, wrong are just such a part of the culture it’s hard to talk without using them.
ELIAS: I am understanding. First of all, let me express to you, it is significant to examine your motivation, for it is unnecessary to instruct other individuals.
Now; there is quite a difference between offering information in association with the motivation of instructing and sharing. You may be engaging interaction with other individuals and you may be sharing information that you have offered to yourself and sharing your experience and your preferences and your opinions without attempting to offer instruction to another individual. You shall know this difference in your examination of yourself, for in one expression there is no expectation of an outcome and in the other there is.
BILL: As you were talking to me, I was getting a picture of having them not judge me for my opinion. So it’s a sort of a fear and a lack of acceptance of...
ELIAS: Self, yes.
Now; you offer the example of this subject matter of genocide. You may be offering your opinion and expressing your preference in association with that subject matter and not necessarily incorporating the terminology of better or worse or good or bad or right or wrong, but merely expressing your belief in relation to the subject matter, acknowledging that what your expression of preference may be may be different from another individual’s and that you may not necessarily agree with another individual’s perception of the subject matter; but this is not an expression of whether you view your preference to be better or worse or theirs to be better or worse, or that yours is right and theirs is not, or vice versa.
BILL: Well, in my opinion – let me express what my opinion of genocide is – is that somehow we shouldn’t be doing it. I mean, it’s not something that I would do. So I hold the opinion it’s something we shouldn’t do, and yet I really think in myself that I’m not judgmental towards the people who do engage in it, even if I wouldn’t do it myself. Is that what you mean by opinion?
ELIAS: This is significant, for this is the recognition of YOUR preferences. Your preferences are your expressions of what you do and do not do.
ELIAS: Correct – what YOU align with, what YOU express or what you do not express – but also recognizing that these are YOUR preferences, your opinions, that they are not absolutes, and that an individual who incorporates a different perception and a different preference is not wrong as they are not in agreement with you, and that neither of you is expressing a right or a wrong action. You are expressing different actions, different preferences, different perceptions and expressing, many times, different beliefs.
You incorporate all of the same beliefs but not all of those beliefs are expressed. As I have expressed many times, within the belief systems there are countless beliefs associated with each belief system. You all incorporate ALL of the beliefs systems and all of the beliefs contained within them – but you express a few.
BILL: I think I understand that. I’ll listen to it again later.
I’m a runner. Is my desire to do better, to run faster, is that an indication of a lack of acceptance of self in the present? I don’t think it is.
BILL: Or else I’ll be kind of stagnant. I don’t hold myself as being bad because I don’t run fast in the moment. So I can wish to do better and not hold myself in lack of acceptance in the present?
ELIAS: Correct, although you may alter your terminology to not be reinforcing some beliefs that do automatically discount you. Rather than expressing to yourself that you incorporate a desire to accomplish better, perhaps you may entertain the expression of challenge – not that you are not generating a “better” action, for this also implies that there is some element lacking – but that you challenge yourself to be accomplishing and to continue to accomplish in relation to the further challenges that you present to yourself.
BILL: I like that. That’s very good!” [session 1262, January 31, 2003]
JIM: “... One of the things that crosses my mind once in a while is why should I bother working with the beliefs and trying to widen my horizon if I’m going to trip over the threshold into disengagement fairly shortly? It’ll all happen then.
ELIAS: Ah! This is an interesting question. But it may be quite purposeful for you to be continuing to address to your beliefs, for what you accomplish within physical focus allows you more freedom once you disengage, for you widen your awareness. Therefore, once you choose to be disengaging, you also incorporate a wider awareness objectively in that state.
Therefore, perhaps as you move into that choice of disengagement and if you are generating a time framework in which you are experimenting with the objective awareness and creating physical imagery, the time framework, so to speak, in which you become aware that you are manipulating all of the imagery is much quicker.
JIM: Yes, I can see that.
ELIAS: This also facilitates the action of nonphysical transition. For the more that you incorporate the action of recognizing and accepting beliefs within physical focus, the less challenging or what you may term to be time consuming it may be to be shedding those beliefs.
For once a belief is accepted, that is not to say that it becomes permanently accepted, for it does not; for you accept beliefs in the moment. But once you have generated the action of accepting beliefs in any moment, you become much more aware of the experience of that action and it becomes easier.
Therefore, once you engage nonphysical transition, as it is not an action of accepting beliefs any longer but shedding those beliefs, the beliefs that you have allowed yourself to be accepting of in different moments within physical focus become beliefs that are easily shed, for there is no matter of examination of them and addressing to them.
JIM: That makes sense. (Elias chuckles) I don’t know if I’ve accepted beliefs or not. I don’t know how to word it, but I think I’ve made some progress.
ELIAS: I may express to you that in certain moments you have accepted some beliefs and continue to do so. Remember, accepting a belief is not an action that is incorporated once and thusly becomes solid, absolute and permanent, for that negates choice. Therefore, it is a matter of accepting a belief in the moment.
You shall recognize your expression of acceptance of a belief as you present it to yourself in any manner, perhaps through an engagement of interaction with another individual, and as you present the belief to yourself, you are not reactive to it. It genuinely does not incorporate any judgment within you and it matters not. You do not react to it in a manner of judgment in either good or bad.
JIM: I think I’m making progress in that direction. I don’t feel very judgmental. In fact, I judge myself for not judging, I guess.
ELIAS: (Laughs) That may appear to be quite ludicrous! Would this not be the point, to be moving into an expression of non-judgment? It appears to be quite humorous to be judging yourself for not judging! Ha ha ha!
JIM: Humor is the way to go, I’ve found. The more humor I can inject, the better.
ELIAS: This does offer you much more of an expression of playfulness and fun! Ha ha ha!
JIM: It does.
ELIAS: Which I am tremendously advocating. Ha ha!” [session 1343, May 15, 2003]
NAOMI: “Another source of what I consider conflict is I believe I am addressing religious belief systems, and it appears that I chose my parents in order to do this. Would you say that’s correct?
NAOMI: I thought I was doing really well with it. (Elias chuckles and Naomi laughs) I had a significant emotional event a couple years ago which I thought was kind of watershed, and I thought helped me step back and be more objective and not let it affect me, but it still does.
ELIAS: (Humorously) Ah, once again the one-time event that shall be the hallmark and eliminate the problem, and therefore it shall be unnecessary to present that ever after!
NAOMI: I know you’ve said many times that we want and need to get beyond the intellectual analyzing and do the experience, and that we need to do the experience many times, but...
ELIAS: It is not necessarily a need, but choice is an inherent expression within you all. It is a quality of consciousness, and in this, let me explain to you that if you are generating an expression of acceptance of any belief in any moment and solidifying that into an absolute, you deny yourself choice subsequently. Therefore, this is not the manner in which acceptance is accomplished.
You continue to be generating your process of exploration and experiences, and in that process you present to yourselves many times similar situations as an opportunity to continue to express that acceptance for it is not generated in solidity, for that would deny you choice. That is contrary to the BEING of consciousness and it also denies you change, which is also the being of consciousness. Therefore, in creating that type of an absolute in association with acceptance, what you would be expressing is the denial of your very existence and the nature of what you are.
This is the reason that this is not expressed, but I am quite understanding the unfamiliarity and the automatic association of eliminating beliefs that you view to be negative or limiting or beliefs that you do not agree with, which may be also confusing. For, you may incorporate beliefs as expressed beliefs and not agree with your own expressed beliefs. That is not to say that they are not expressed; you may merely intellectually disagree with your own expressed beliefs.
This is the reason that it is important to be paying attention to yourself and becoming familiar intimately with yourself and what are your expressed beliefs and what are their influences, and in that, recognizing which influences you prefer and which influences you do not, and therefore allowing yourself to choose to manipulate your energy in the direction of your preference rather than in the direction of automatic responses of the limitations.
NAOMI: That’s what you mean by turning your attention. It is simply a matter of turning your attention to your preference?
ELIAS: Yes, and allowing yourself permission to express that in your own freedom, recognizing that they are YOUR preferences and therefore they are not absolutes, and that it is not bad or wrong if other individuals express different preferences.
Regardless of the strength in which they may be expressing them, once you genuinely are accepting and trusting of yourself and what you express, the threat of the differences of other individuals no longer is expressed, and therefore you move to the balance of generating the awareness that you may cooperate with other individuals without acquiescing and without generating agreement.
NAOMI: I know that I say that I don’t judge, but I still do a lot. The really difficult part for me seems to be not so much what I prefer to believe but pressure from the outside. Sometimes it’s just hard to deal with that without being judgmental.
ELIAS: Which is also a familiar action, to be allowing other individuals to dictate your choices. That is a very familiar expression, and it is unfamiliar to be directing yourself without incorporating an automatic association of arrogance or of selfishness or of uncaring. There is quite a difference between caring and concerning.
NAOMI: I have read that in some of the sessions and appreciate that difference. So basically all I need to say is, “This is my preference,” and let it go, and whatever they choose to do with it, that’s their thing.
ELIAS: (Nods) But remember, as you continue to practice trusting yourself and trusting your allowance of your preferences, and you genuinely allow yourself to experience that trust, what you shall reflect to yourself is the same, and you shall not be encountering the opposition. Even if you are encountering some opposition, you shall perceive it quite differently, and you shall not respond to it genuinely. For you shall automatically reconfigure the energy, which also is received by the other individual, which reconfigures their energy for they are also reflecting; and in their reflection, they are receiving YOUR energy expression, which is what influences them in their blueprint of you.
NAOMI: Isn’t that amazing how that works! (Laughing)
ELIAS: (Chuckling) Quite efficient!” [session 1450, September 28, 2003]
DON: “I know I’ve been addressing to my truths in the truth wave. All I’ve been doing so far feels to me like I’ve been generating imagery to show me how strong they are.
ELIAS: Ah, but do not discount yourself, my friend.
DON: I don’t mean to discount myself with that, but I just kind of wanted to confirm and see if you agreed that that’s pretty much what I’ve done so far.
ELIAS: Yes, but this is quite significant. For without allowing yourself to identify and recognize them, you also cannot address to them.
DALE: I’ve been trying to remember to look at it as my opportunities to myself.
DALE: Not always successfully, but sometimes I do get the glimpse of oh, yes, this is me giving myself the opportunity to view it and have choice.
ELIAS: Correct. Even if you do not move into an expression of objectively recognizing that you incorporate other choices yet, it remains significant that you are offering yourself information and you are allowing yourself to realize the strength of your truths. For that in itself generates a movement in energy in which eventually you shall allow yourself to recognize your choices and also your power.
DON: That sounds good. I guess that feels like that’s exactly the direction I’ve been heading.
ELIAS: Yes, I am in agreement.
Now; let me also express to you that another element of this wave concerning truths involves the reality of power, and this is an expression that is somewhat fearful for many, many, many individuals. You are not accustomed to experiencing the tremendous power that you actually incorporate, and there are fears associated with how that shall be expressed and doubts of how each of you shall express it, and whether you shall express it in the right manner or not. For the duplicity moves in with those identifications, and although in some respects you may find yourselves generating an excitement and a desire and an attraction to allowing yourself the expression of that power, there also is an underlying skepticism concerning the right and wrong expression of it. There are many, many factors that are involving in this particular wave, but ultimately this particular wave may prove to be your most empowering one.
DON: You mean that generally, right?
DON: Is that correct? You mentioned once, I think, that during this wave we will, as a generalization, tend to address to one of our major truths. Is that correct?
ELIAS: In any particular time framework, yes. Not to be addressing to all of them simultaneously, for that would be quite overwhelming. Therefore, in an automatic expression of recognition of that, you address to them individually, one in one time framework.
DON: I’ve been feeling like I’m addressing to two simultaneously. One would be my truth of co-creation, particularly in relationships, simultaneously with my materialist truths.
DON: Maybe I’m skipping back and forth between them.
ELIAS: Yes. And you may begin to recognize that many of these truths intertwine with each other.
DON: Exactly. Those two do, for example.
ELIAS: Yes, and therefore you may be addressing to one more strongly than another. But you also shall recognize that there are other truths that are intertwined with one main truth that you may be addressing to more strongly. Are you understanding?
ELIAS: This is the reason that I expressed to you previously that it is not necessary to be strongly addressing to more than one. For in addressing to merely one truth, as they are intertwined, you automatically are also addressing to others and other beliefs that may not necessarily be as absolute and may not necessarily be classified as a truth.
In a manner of speaking, it generates a type of domino effect. By addressing to one that incorporates a strength, you automatically are also addressing to many others, but without the effort. This is what I expressed to you previously, that you shall begin to notice different expressions within your movements within your focus that may have been an issue previously, and almost magically, they are no longer.
DON: Oh, I’ve had that happen, I think!
DON: I don’t even pay attention, because they’re gone.
ELIAS: Correct. They are not gone; you have moved into an acceptance and therefore have generated an allowance. In your objective perspective you perceive them to be gone, for they are not an issue any longer. They continue to be beliefs that are held, but they have been accepted and continue to be accepted, and therefore not an issue. And that is generated effortlessly and without any actual objective thinking or action, for you are creating the action in association with addressing to the truths. The other beliefs are automatically also addressed to and therefore become less significant and neutralized.
DALE: We’re quite efficient!
ELIAS: Quite!” (Chuckles) [session 1456, October 17, 2003]
SHARON: “... So I have a question, Elias. Back when we weren’t so well informed and knowledgeable, why did it seem to be so much easier?
FRAN: Why has everything gone to hell in a hand-basket? (Laughter)
ELIAS: For you have not quite generated an understanding of how incorporating your own responsibility offers you freedom. That is the key. You are correct, your perceptions – many of you – you view your reality now to be much more difficult, for you incorporate no other individual to blame. (Laughter)
But the key is not concerning blame, but that is the familiar and automatic response. Therefore now you blame yourself rather than other individuals; although at times you continue to blame other individuals also, but less so. You have merely turned the action from blaming other individuals to blaming yourself, which is not the point. This is not an offering of freedom. It is an offering of more struggle.
Now; as you continue and you move these concepts from intellectual understandings into experiential knowing and reality by allowing yourself to EXPERIENCE the actions of these concepts, you move into a genuine expression of recognizing your responsibility to yourself and how, in that responsibility to yourself, this is not bad. It is not blame-worthy, it is an acknowledgment and it allows you freedom. For if you are genuinely expressing that responsibility to yourself, you shall never be a victim and there is no need for blame, for you are choosing and you know genuinely that you are choosing.
Presently you incorporate enough information to be moving in that direction, but you have not quite accomplished yet. You are moving more, all of you, into acceptance in different expressions and you do express acceptance at times of different beliefs, and in some situations you are moving into expressions of genuine acceptance on-going, continuing to be accepting of different beliefs, and therefore altering your perceptions and altering your reality and genuinely generating more of an ease in some directions.
But I may express to you repeatedly over and over how tremendously challenging it is to move into the unfamiliar, and this is received intellectually. You view yourselves differently, for you incorporate the knowledge intellectually and therefore you also automatically express that you know. But knowing and intellectually understanding are different. You express to yourselves and to each other, ‘I KNOW this,’ but you generate actions that contradict that, and in generating the actions you also generate the automatic response of blame.
But now you incorporate information KNOWING, not merely intellectually understanding, but knowing that other individuals are not to blame but not knowing how to turn that blame and generate it into a different expression and reconfigure your own energy and generate a different perception in which you accept what you have created. And even if it is uncomfortable, or even if it is unsettling, or even if it is some action that you deem to be distasteful or that you do not like, you may recognize that this has been your choice and that you are not to blame, either; that in the moment this was your choice and it was purposeful, regardless of whether it was comfortable. But what is familiar is to continuously strive for utopia. And you do not genuinely recognize in a knowing yet, although perhaps at times.
SHARON: I get a little lost. (Laughs)
ELIAS: But not continuously, and in that you do not continuously recognize that beneficial is not always comfortable and that value is not always expressed in comfort or in what you deem to be positive.
As we have discussed previously in questioning what you value, your automatic responses, all of you, initially express all positive associations. No individual automatically expresses, ‘I value pain. I value heartache. I value uncomfortableness.’ No. These are expressions that you automatically attempt to eliminate, and you do not recognize that you do incorporate value in them also, and if you did not, you would not create them, and you do.
This is another truth that is being strongly addressed to, and many, many, many individuals are incorporating frustration and difficulty and challenge and conflict with it, that of eliminating. You all express to yourselves intellectually that you understand that you are not eliminating. But in paying attention to what you do, you shall recognize that you are continuing to attempt to eliminate in some area, and this presents conflict for you cannot. You can if you choose to disengage, which is also a choice. But if you choose to continue in participation in this physical reality, it is the blueprint and you cannot eliminate.
Therefore this presents a conflict for it is an automatic response, and I shall express once again in reiteration, automatic responses are precisely that, automatic. You do not notice them for they require no thought. You are becoming much more accomplished at recognizing some of your automatic responses, which is to be acknowledged; but this is not to say that you do not continue to express them, for you do. And this is not bad, but it is limiting.
You may continue to express automatic responses once you identify what they are, for they may be your choice. You may prefer some of your automatic responses, and that is your choice also.
But the point in our discussions is that you request information to allow yourselves more freedom and less conflict and more of an ease in your movements and in your manifestations, and therefore we discuss and we identify.
And I shall express to you all one very important point before we break. In all of this identifying and discussing, the one expression that I may offer to you each now, as I have previously but in more strength now, is to genuinely allow yourselves not to discount yourselves if you fall short of what you perceive to be the best. Every action you incorporate is purposeful, and there is no necessity to discount yourself or to devalue yourselves merely that you have not attained the measure that you expect of yourselves.” [session 1468, November 08, 2003]
STEVE: “Elias, I’ve been trying to adopt a mind-set of chronic acceptance of everything that comes down the pike: other individuals, conditions in my life, what I think are my beliefs. But you say we all create perfectly and for our best value fulfillment, and then I think to myself, does Elias mean I create perfectly including the influence of my belief systems or not including them? Because you don’t speak that well of our belief systems, and if we’re creating perfectly with them, that seems to contradict how you feel about our belief systems.
You’re going to say, ‘I don’t feel negatively about it; I don’t pass judgment on them, but they are less efficient than other methods of creation.’ So if it’s perfect, how can it be less efficient? Or are you not speaking of creating perfectly including our belief systems being part of the influence?
ELIAS: Including, with your beliefs being an aspect of influencing.
What do you define as a more efficient method of creating within your reality, considering that your belief systems are an aspect of the blueprint of this particular physical reality?
STEVE: They’re your words, when you speak of ‘try to accept your belief systems, but at the same time if you wish to alter them because they are not serving you as efficiently as you’d like...’ You speak of that, that if they’re not serving you efficiently then you can change them. Would you agree as you sit here that our belief systems are holding us back from the shift? I’d like to get into the shift...
ELIAS: (Patiently) No, your belief systems...
STEVE: ...and my belief systems are holding me back; therefore I don’t think that well of my belief systems. I get a negative feeling about them when I think they’re holding me back from the thrill of the shift. So how can that be said to be perfectly created?
ELIAS: They are not, in your terms, holding you back from participating within this shift, and you are not eliminating them. They are not negative, but some influences of some beliefs may be limiting or may be hindering; but those are also choices.
They are moving perfectly in conjunction with what you are creating in the moment in conjunction with your intent in the moment; but in conjunction with your awareness and widening your awareness, they may be somewhat hindering in some of their influences – not the belief itself, but the influences that occur in relation to the belief.
There are many influences associated with every belief. There are many beliefs associated with every belief system, and in this some influences are what you may term to be good, for they are expressed in conjunction with your preferences, and some you may consider to not be good, for they are not in conjunction with your preferences.
Now; if your direction in the movement of this shift and in widening your awareness is to be objectively directing yourself in what you want, in creating what you want, it is significant to recognize what the influences of your beliefs are, for some influences may be expressed in influencing your perception and your choices to be generated in opposition to what you want. But what is significant first of all is to be aware and to be clear as to what you want.
STEVE: Elias, since you’ve now said they are a hindrance to us achieving certain things that we may want or they are a hindrance to us passing into this shift in consciousness, how am I ever going to get myself to the point where I can accept these belief systems, meaning passing no judgment on something that is a hindrance?
ELIAS: For once you are recognizing that one belief incorporates many different influences, you may also recognize that you possess the quality of choice and you may objectively, knowingly, choose.
You are objectively choosing, but this is not to say that you are objectively aware of what you are choosing in any particular moment for you may not be paying attention to what you are actually doing, and therefore you are not necessarily aware of what you are choosing.
Every action that you incorporate is a choice, but you may not perceive it as a choice. You may perceive it as merely an occurrence or you may perceive an action that you incorporate as being dictated by some outside influence and that it is not being generated by yourself. You may also not recognize how all of your actions are interrelated and interconnected, for it is the projection of the type of energy that you are expressing outwardly that generates the different choices that you create and that you implement.
Many, many, many choices may be generated in a relatively short time framework and they may appear surfacely to you to be quite unrelated and that they do not generate any association with each other; but in actuality, it is the type of energy that you project outwardly through your perception that generates a general expression of energy which is affecting of every direction that you engage within your day.
Now; if you are allowing a belief that is expressed that concerns not being in control of your reality or not creating all of your reality and co-creating your reality, you shall be projecting a type of energy that allows for your choice of many actions that appear to you to not be your choice. If you are generating and allowing yourself through automatic responses and not genuinely paying attention to what you are expressing, if you are allowing yourself to be expressing a belief that there is some other outside influence or even inside influence that is directing you without your permission, you shall be generating a perception that moves with that belief and projects an energy that shall validate that belief and shall generate that reality.
Beliefs are real, and they influence what you create, and they influence your perception. Your perception creates your actual reality. It creates you, your physical manifestation; it creates your building; it creates your chair; it creates the other individuals in the room. It creates every aspect of your reality that you experience, and it is influenced by your expressed beliefs.
You incorporate all beliefs within all of the belief systems. You choose to express some, not all.
Now; in your terms of ‘changing a belief,’ you are not actually changing a belief. You are not transfiguring it into another belief or a different belief. You are not eliminating one and creating a new one. What you are doing is redirecting your energy through your awareness and allowing your attention to move to the expression of DIFFERENT beliefs. They are all already incorporated...
STEVE: Through acceptance of the belief system, right?
ELIAS: Yes. In acceptance of the belief, you recognize that you continue to hold that belief. It has not been eliminated.
STEVE: And am I recognizing that it is a hindrance?
ELIAS: You recognize that there are influences of that belief in some directions that may be what you view as a hindrance, but you also recognize...
STEVE: I don’t accept hindrances!
ELIAS: (Patiently and slower) You also recognize that there are some influences that you prefer. Therefore, in association with that recognition, you choose what influences you shall express and that you shall allow.
STEVE: So give us a sentence to use...
WILL: Excuse me, Steve; I have an example related to what you’re talking about. I’m trying to understand what both of you are talking about and just to see if I understand this. My name is Will.
I have three teenagers at home. Earlier you were talking about the twinge, when the dog was running around. ((15) When I come home I experience twinges as I see clothes draped around the couch, and I see food out. I have all these twinges and frustration about why this house isn’t more clean. What I began to reflect on a few weeks ago is that I have this belief that a clean house is a better house, and if my house was clean my life would be better. So that became conscious for me, which it wasn’t before. That was step one.
The second step was I began to have this idea that the house was perfect the way it was. That just came to me; I’d never thought that before. So I came to the house, it was the same way, and all of a sudden it seemed that sock is supposed to be there, that glass is supposed to be there, and the twinges went away for me.
Now from what both of you are saying, what I’m hearing is that’s an experience for me of this isn’t right or wrong, but of acceptance.
ELIAS: Yes. For this is what I have expressed to many individuals, that many times you may be generating an acceptance and you shall experience that, but it is not necessarily an action that necessitates an analyzation through thought. You merely do, and it automatically occurs. This is an interesting and a valuable example that you have offered, for it is a simple example of an action that did not necessarily incorporate tremendous thought but did incorporate a recognition of a truth.
Now; the recognition of the truth may not have necessarily been generated entirely clearly in thought. You may not have expressed in thought to yourself, ‘Ah, I have recognized a truth, that regardless of your status or your position or your wealth or your poverty within your society, the measure of your worth in your expression of acceptability is in cleanliness.’ You did not even generate that much of an identification, but you did offer yourself somewhat of an identification, a translation in thought, that a clean house is a good house. This also is a religious belief.
Now; in this, you have not evaluated or analyzed in conjunction with thought all of these elements of this belief, nor have you identified it as a truth per se, but you identified it clearly enough and recognized the strength of it enough that you have identified this as one of your truths.
Now; in recognizing that, without analyzation, without incorporating all of these steps in thought that many of you incorporate, for it is familiar to you for this is the manner in which you have addressed to other waves, you merely allowed yourself to recognize your responses, your action, and what you were generating within yourself, your automatic response. That was an identification of automatic responses.
In that recognition of the automatic response, you allowed yourself to relax and move your attention in a different manner, not to hold to the original perception as an absolute with no other choice, but recognizing you prefer the house to be clean, but it is not and that is not necessarily bad. It is an identification of your preference and your opinion, but not an absolute. Therefore, you allowed yourself to perceive the house differently, moving your attention.
This is not an elimination of the belief; you continue to incorporate the preference that the clean house is better, which is not wrong and is not bad and need not be eliminated. It is your preference, but you recognize that it is not an absolute and that other individuals may not express the same preference or the same attention in that manner, and that other individuals may express that whether the house is clean or not matters not, and their preference may be not to pay attention to whether the house is messy. But as you accept that this is your preference and you recognize that it is not an absolute, the perception changes.
Now; the belief, as I have stated, remains. It is not eliminated. It continues to be expressed but it is NEUTRALIZED, for the judgment concerning differences no longer remains.
Now; this is generated in the moment. You may return to your home another day and you may express that same twinge, for acceptance is not an action that is generated once and forever; for that negates choice and it also negates change. Therefore as choice and change are innate qualities of consciousness, which is what you are, that is your free will, and in that you present yourself with the opportunity to be accepting of any belief in any moment.
At times you may be accepting of a belief and the experience within your perception may be powerful enough that you easily generate that acceptance repeatedly, and it does not become a challenge any longer. It becomes familiar to repeatedly be generating that acceptance.
At times it may be more challenging. You may be accepting of a belief in some scenarios, and in other scenarios that same belief may be expressed and you may experience more challenge in generating that acceptance. That also is a matter of energy and whether the energy that you are expressing is familiar with energy that other individuals are expressing, and whether you are genuinely allowing yourselves the ease in the acceptance of differences, which is a tremendous challenge in this wave, for you are presenting yourselves with many examples of differences and this is what generates absolutes. You recognize or you notice YOUR preferences, and this is what you expect in the expressions and behaviors of other individuals.
Now; in this also, a recognition of your own energy expression is quite significant. For if you are not recognizing that you are generating these expressions, that you are generating the twinge, that it is your truth that is creating this scenario, that it is your perception that is generating these feelings, these communications, these responses, you do not allow yourself choice and you express a type of energy that does not incorporate responsibility for your own choices.
Responsibility is not a bad term. It is a very liberating action. For if you are responsible, you are directing and you cannot be a victim.
STEVE: Elias, if I could ask one last question on that theme I was asking you about? Could you finish this sentence so I could maybe understand what kind of mind-set I’m supposed to attack this with, if you’ll pardon my expression. ‘Although my beliefs are a hindrance to me entering the shift in consciousness in the immediate future, I accept them anyway because...’ If you could finish that sentence for me, how you would want our mind-sets to be. (Pause)
ELIAS: ‘Because I offer myself choice.’
Now; I have completed your sentence and I shall clarify the beginning of your sentence: you already ARE participating in this shift in consciousness.
STEVE: Okay, but I want to complete it; I want to get to the end. That’s the goal!
ELIAS: There is no end to the shift in consciousness.
STEVE: ‘Because I have choices,’ is your answer. I wonder if any of us could get into a true acceptance of things that are causing us hindrances by a mind-set of ‘okay, I may have hindrances but I have choices.’ I’m trying to understand what that means, exactly. I’m trying to wrap myself around what that means exactly. I have choices, therefore I make no judgment about the hindrance because I have choices not to be hindered by it, is that the idea?
ELIAS: Offer an example of a belief that you identify.
STEVE: I’ll tell you what. It would be helpful to us if you would tell us what is the reason, what is the payoff, for us to be in this area of consciousness which does not include the shift. What is the payoff for us in being stuck in a non-psychic, non-clairvoyant, non-telepathic, non-aware world?
ELIAS: (Quietly) But you are not.
STEVE: That’s the belief that’s hindering us.
ELIAS: You ARE participating in this shift in consciousness.
STEVE: Well, before that happened, before 1900. What was hanging us up? What’s hanging us up now from getting as far as we can with the shift?
ELIAS: It is not...
STEVE: We’re still being hindered by whatever the beliefs are. Why did we create these beliefs in the first place? What was the payoff for us to have created these beliefs that keep us in this narrow focus?
ELIAS: (Gently) To experience, to explore.
STEVE: So that’s my example, that’s my belief. My belief apparently is I want to be exploring a narrow limited world.
ELIAS: Is it?
STEVE: Well, you said it was.
ELIAS: I did not.
STEVE: That’s why we created it, you said.
ELIAS: To explore, not in limitation.
STEVE: That’s what it is, you think. You think that.
ELIAS: I do not. (Scattered laughter)
STEVE: You find it limited. You use the word all the time, ‘limited.’
ELIAS: I am reflecting you.
STEVE: You only use that word because we think it’s limited?
ELIAS: You do. And this is your collective choice, to be moving into this shift and offering yourself information concerning WHAT you are actually doing. Therefore I am responding and expressing to you an identification of what you are actually doing. You are not asking me how to do it; you are doing it. You are choosing what you are choosing. You are asking me what you are doing.
YOU generate the judgments concerning what you are doing. YOU express the evaluation concerning what you are doing, whether it is good or bad or acceptable or unacceptable. I do not express to any of you any valuation if whether what you are doing is good or bad or better or worse. It matters not; it is what you are doing.
STEVE: I’ll leave you out of it, and I’ll just say that that’s the belief system I’d like to get rid of. That’s the reason you’re saying we created this, to explore – and I won’t use a charged word like ‘limited’ any more – to explore an awareness that apparently is not the widest that we can achieve. That’s what’s hindering me, that mood, that’s...
ELIAS: That you are not participating in this shift?
STEVE: I suppose everybody you say is to some degree, but we haven’t gotten very far so far, right?
ELIAS: It is dependent upon the individual and how each individual widens their awareness and their willingness to be incorporating an openness to unfamiliar.
Now; what is familiar to you? All that you have expressed. You express to me that your identification of this shift in consciousness is to become more telepathic, more psychic.
STEVE: That’d be good! (Laughter)
ELIAS: That is what your identification of what this shift in consciousness is, and that you are not participating in this shift in consciousness for you don’t offer yourself evidence of those expressions.
STEVE: I think that that part of me is being blocked by my beliefs.
ELIAS: And what influences that association that you are being blocked?
STEVE: It’s obvious I can’t do it; at least I don’t know of any method of doing it, and I would like to do it.
ELIAS: But what is your belief?
STEVE: A wider awareness would create that ability more easily; it would facilitate it.
ELIAS: Not necessarily.
STEVE: To be clairvoyant equals a wider awareness – it’s the same words, really.
ELIAS: Ah, are they? Individuals have incorporated clairvoyance, as you term it, for centuries and have not incorporated the wideness of awareness associated with this shift in consciousness.” [session 1496, January 17, 2004]
GEORGE: “Elias, if I may, it seems like acceptance balances a lot of these extremes, at least for myself. Once acceptance comes in, judgment flies out the window. As long as one is open and just lets it be somehow, there’s a lot less conflict coming one’s way.
GEORGE: There’s not energy that one has to fight off.
ELIAS: Yes. Acceptance is a significant key, but acceptance may be challenging at times if you are presenting significant differences to yourself that trigger your own truths and generate a threat. Differences generate automatic threat, and if the difference is what you term to be big enough, the expression of acceptance may be challenging to incorporate.
This is the reason that it is important to notice what your truths are and therefore incorporate the ability to identify those differences and why they trigger within you, and in that generate an awareness within yourself, a reminder within yourself, that your truths are true for you and that they are your guidelines. Therefore, for you they are right and good.
Duplicity is not being eliminated any more than any other belief system. It is being expressed differently, it is being incorporated differently, but it is not being eliminated. You continue to incorporate your opinions and your preferences. I have expressed that from the onset of this forum. You shall, even fully shifted and in complete acceptance, continue to incorporate your own opinions and your own preferences and your own guidelines. That is an element of your uniqueness, each of you.
But the expression of the good and the bad and the right and the wrong shall be different, for you shall apply it to yourself and not necessarily to other individuals. You may view actions or choices of other individuals and you may express within yourself that you do not agree or that you do not like them, that you do not prefer them, and you recognize that your choice is to move with your guideline. Therefore, YOU shall not express in that manner for it is not your preference, but not incorporate the judgment of the other individual if they choose to be expressing in a particular manner. That is the significance of being aware of your own truths and recognizing that they are only true to you.
CATHY C: ... I want to know how to figure out what your preferences are. I know it sounds easy...
PAUL H: After all this time? (Laughter)
ELIAS: I am aware. In this, it is an appearance of simplicity but it is also a very unfamiliar direction. You are not familiar with moving into actually identifying your preferences and recognizing what your preferences are.
Now; in this, if you are allowing yourself to be aware of your beliefs and your truths more specifically, within all of your truths there is some element of preference. In the evaluation of what your truths are, you may recognize what your preferences are and what your preferences are not.
Your preferences are also associated with your opinions. What you express in your opinions are generated in association with your preferences. Preferences are merely preferred beliefs. In that, some of your opinions are stronger than others, and those would be stronger preferences than other preferences. Remember, preferences also change, which is also reflected in your opinions, for your opinions change as your preferences change.
That is a strong key to discovering what your actual preferences are and also paying attention to what you do. Your automatic directions, your automatic natural flow of energy is also a reflection of your preferences.
Let me express to you, one of the reasons that individuals generate such challenge and difficulty in discovering their preferences is that they are looking for large expressions. Many of your preferences are expressed in each of your days in simple actions that you incorporate. You are attempting to discover some significant important preference, but the preferences are actually expressed in mundane activities that you incorporate daily, which in some situations and in some circumstances may appear to be a large expression but it is influenced by those small preferences that you express in each day.
As an example: you may incorporate an action each day of tidying your house and assuring yourself that you have dusted every corner of your house. In that action, you are not thinking concerning preferences, but that is an action that is satisfying to you. It generates a satisfaction within you. It generates somewhat of a comfort, but do not be confused for at times preferences may also involve a lack of comfort. But in that action, you are automatically expressing a preference.
Now; that may be associated with a belief that may be strongly expressed, but you are not noticing, for this is a small action that you automatically do and you do not incorporate much thought process with it. But if another individual enters your house and pours a large bucket of dirt upon your tables, you shall be responding and you shall be responding in a significant manner.
Whereas the preference appeared to be small in the dusting, it now appears to be quite large in the experience of another individual pouring dirt upon your tables. And you shall strongly express that this is NOT your preference, and it may even incorporate opposition and conflict. For you may automatically respond to the other individual in opposition and in strongly expressing an elevated tone: ‘DO NOT POUR DIRT UPON MY TABLE!’ You are not likely to express to the other individual, ‘This is not my preference that you pour dirt upon my table. It is my preference that my table is dusted and clean.’ You shall merely generate an automatic response and oppose.
Opposition is also an indicator of what your preferences are through what they are not. If you are opposing in a particular situation, some action has occurred that moves in opposition or threat to your preferences, and therefore your automatic response is to oppose or to defend.
Defense is also another manner in which you may discover some of your preferences, for defense is a shielding. It also is a discounting of yourself. But in that, you have generated some type of expression that is not a preference, and many times in identifying what is not a preference you may discover what is a preference, for generally speaking they are merely different sides of the same coin.
CATHY C: Does balance play a role in this, too? If you can find a balance between all that?
ELIAS: Quite, and the balance would be the acceptance of the difference, and the recognition of your own truths and the acceptance of your own truths, not opposing your own truths either, but offering yourself the freedom to express your own truths, but also recognizing the different influences of those beliefs that are your truths and choosing the influences that are more preferred, that are less conflicting to you individually, but not generating the expectation that other individuals that express differently are wrong, and not opposing or matching energy with the other individuals, for it is not necessary.
Individuals express differently, that is not to say that they are wrong, but it is also not to say that you prefer how other individuals express and thusly you incorporate the choice of whether you shall interact with them or how you shall interact with them.
PAT: I have a question here. Because of the last couple of weeks and some experiences I’ve had with an individual, I’m curious. My preference is not to interact with them because they twinge me like crazy. When they twinge me, I have a choice of ignoring them or matching energy. If I choose not to match energy but I’m still twinged, will my cat throw up more? (Laughter) Everyone knows about my cat!
ELIAS: It is quite possible, yes.
PAT: Is it better to match the energy, get it out in the open, say what I have to say and then feel better about it, or just say I don’t want to match energy, and therefore not say anything and my cat is vomiting all over the house? What is the way an individual goes about this in the best or the nicer manner or preferred manner?
ELIAS: I am understanding.
PAT: Cleo throws up every time I’m upset.
PAUL T: Get a new cat! (Laughter)
ELIAS: First of all, it is important that you evaluate what generated the twinge.
PAT: It’s discounting of other individuals as well as myself in an open forum, and this irritates the crap out of me. To me, this is rude behavior. I have all those rights and wrongs and all those beliefs, so what I’m asking is...
ELIAS: I am understanding what you are inquiring, and I am expressing to you what is significant is that you recognize what generated the twinge. Once you recognize what generated the twinge, if it was a significant twinge it is most likely what has been tapped is one of your truths. In that, evaluating that this is one of your truths, it is the process of you addressing to your truth and recognizing that that is YOUR guideline but it does not necessarily apply to other individuals.
In matching energy, what are you doing? What are you accomplishing? In matching energy, what you do and what you accomplish is to express a judgment of the other individual that they are wrong, that you are right, that your truth is better. In this, also you not merely discount the other individual but you also discount yourself, for what you are expressing is that you are defending your truth as the better truth.
PAT: So if I choose not to defend my truth, knowing it’s only a truth of mine...
ELIAS: It is not ‘only’ a truth.
PAT: ...but it’s still inside me and it’s still a twinge!
PAT: I’m still twinging like crazy!
ELIAS: It is not ‘only’ a truth. Truths are QUITE strong and they may be very affecting. It is real, for you have generated it as your reality. Therefore, it is quite real.
But the manner in which you diffuse that is to recognize that that is YOUR guideline. Therefore, you shall not express some exposure of other individuals in a public or group atmosphere, for this is your guideline. You do not believe that that is good. To you, that is evaluated as bad; therefore, you do not incorporate that action. Another individual may.
PAT: Do I ignore them and then it’s still inside me as a twinge and my cat still throws up?
ELIAS: And how do you ignore an individual? Do you genuinely ignore an individual?
PAT: Say I do not respond to the other individual.
ELIAS: You do not respond, but that is not ignoring.
PAT: So how do I not match energy with someone that is tweaking me so much?
ELIAS: By evaluating YOU. Eliminate the other individual. In the situation in which you perceive that the other individual is incorporating some action, is doing some action that is offensive to you, eliminate the other individual. Pretend the other individual disappears momentarily. Now there is no opposition. There is no other individual that is generating this. You are generating it. What are you generating? What are YOU doing?
Now; also, the reason it is important to generate this evaluation is to not move in the direction of justification of yourself. I am not expressing to you that you should not express yourself or that you should not express your preferences, and you may. You may express your preferences and you may choose not to be continuing interaction with the other individual. I am not expressing to you that you acquiesce or that you compromise, but there other manners in which you may accomplish.
You may recognize your truth and that it strongly is affecting of you, and it is quite definite and it is quite absolute in your reality – and it is not being eliminated. You are not eliminating your truths any more than you are eliminating any belief. But you accept that, you acknowledge, ‘This is my truth. Therefore, it is also associated with some element of my preferences, and that is acceptable.’ And you may express, but you may also express in not matching energy, and generate some type of appreciation and cooperation.
PAT: Easier said than done.
ELIAS: I am aware. But I did not promise any of you that this would be easy!
PAT: I know that. Thank you.
STELLA: Elias, I have the perfect example because I’ve gone through the same thing with my mom. My mom has been my greatest teacher. She’ll ask me a lot of stuff like how’s Letty doing – she’s fine. How’s Rosario doing – she’s fine. But she wants more, and I don’t want to give her more and she keeps insisting. The energy that I’m projecting to her as she’s asking me those questions is ‘leave me alone; don’t ask me those questions.’ Then I say to myself, why doesn’t she read my energy? My energy is stronger than my words. But she continues and continues, and I just go crazy.
The interesting thing is I find myself asking my husband what about this person and what about this, and he says to me in a very kind of like, ‘I’m sorry I didn’t tell you,’ and I say, ‘Oh my god, I guess I shouldn’t have asked.’ I realize that what she’s doing with me, I’m dancing with him. So we’re dancing the same dance...
ELIAS: A reflection.
STELLA: Totally! Then at night I say, my mom, I love her, I just adore her, and when I wake up I’m going to say, ‘Mom, I really love you whether I show it or not.’ But then I get up and we’re having coffee and she’ll say, ‘What are you going to do today?’ And I go off the handle because it’s like what do you care, what do you want to know for? I don’t have to tell you everything! You do your life and I do my life! So we start all over again. So there’s a constant dance, reflection going on. And I’m tired, Elias; I don’t want to analyze anything anymore. I just want you to tell me a magic word.
ELIAS: Stop! (Laughter)
JO: I’d like to state my preference here, that if you’ve already had a comment or a question or two, that you allow the floor to be turned over to people who haven’t had a chance to ask a question. Not that everyone hasn’t had really great comments and questions, but there are people here who have come a long way, and I’d appreciate it if they’d have a chance to do that.” [session 1695, January 15, 2005]
ELIAS: “What we shall be discussing: motivation, why bad things happen, energy, and your favorite subject, truths. Identifying truths, which is what we shall begin with.
Who has identified a truth?
ELLA: Does it qualify if I realize that certain beliefs from my childhood that I never analyzed or questioned, I realized that they were beliefs and that they (inaudible). Is that true?
ELIAS: Not necessarily.
JEREMY: I have one. I have a belief that love requires sacrifice.
ELIAS: Very well. And in that, what do you view are the influences?
JEREMY: So far, I’ve viewed it relating to one of my religious beliefs about self-worth and deservingness.
ELIAS: And how do you view that is affecting of you in your daily actions?
JEREMY: I’ve noticed in addressing to that belief or that truth that I usually tend to forfeit my choice to the other individual by discounting my own expressions in viewing the other individual’s wants or expressions as more deserving than mine.
ELIAS: And how does this truth influence you in mundane actions that you engage yourself?
JEREMY: Usually I notice I tend to hold back and create a lot of restrictions, even in playing video games. Sometimes crossing the street, I might create a lot of traffic and I view cars holding more dominance over the road than me, so to speak, because they’re bigger and can kill me.
ELIAS: In identifying this truth and recognizing its influences, do you recognize how often in one day there are expressions that are generated or actions that are generated that are associated with that truth?
JEREMY: Many, many times.
ELIAS: And what do you do?
JEREMY: Since I’ve become aware of it and allow that awareness, usually I present myself with choice. Sometimes I offer a fluctuation, where I seem to want to create both the familiar – which is going back into the forfeiting of my choice – and also moving into the new choice. It just depends on the moment and the specific expression, where in that moment I am choosing to place my trust – if I actually trust the new information or the new direction, which is the trust in myself and the validity of my expression, or if I choose to go back into the familiar and not do that.
ELIAS: Very well. (Looking at the group) Another?
ELLA: I don’t know if it’s a truth, but recently I realized that I have a thought in my head that I talk a lot. I’ve never analyzed that as being my truth. But lately I am seeing how, like you said, through the day it influences my beliefs so that internally I tell myself that I have to control, that I am doing something that affects other individuals in ways that they don’t feel comfortable with, and it also leaves a negative connotation of myself to me. But lately I’ve been more aware of that and also of the generating more choice of accepting myself just the way I am rather than fighting it, and feeling that maybe I am not worthwhile to be listened to. Is that the thing that you are describing?
ELIAS: Yes. Another?
VERONICA: I am in conflict as to the foods that I can safely eat – do I need to eat organic food in order to maintain my health. At times I say it doesn’t make a difference, because if I believe that potato chips are good for me, I can eat them. But I’m caught between eating foods that I think are good for me and foods that are not good for me.
ELIAS: What is the identification of the truth?
VERONICA: The truth is that I hold conflict as to what to eat.
ELIAS: That is an influence. What is the truth?
VERONICA: I am what I eat, and if I want to be healthy I need to eat what I label as good food or what is labeled as good healthy food.
ELIAS: The truth would be concerning health.
VERONICA: And the food that I eat?
ELIAS: The food is an influence. The truth is health. In this, a strong influence of that truth with you is food and what types of food you eat. How does this truth affect you in relation to other individuals and differences?
VERONICA: I will try to convince others as to their choice of diet rather than allowing them to make their own choices. So I’m kind of controlling their choices rather than just saying let them eat their choice and don’t interfere.
PAT: A belief in limitation, a truth of limitation, in a way that for me is that I must not be wasteful: waste food, waste water, waste power, waste energy.
ELIAS: And how do you view that to influence mundane actions that you generate within your day?
PAT: I’m very careful not to leave the faucet running or saving things from dinner. I have to save things, not to throw away things that have value to maybe someone else, that I shouldn’t throw that away; that’s wrong.
ELIAS: And how does this influence you in relation to other individuals and differences?
PAT: I make judgments about people who do waste things. How could they leave the water running? How could they leave all the lights on? How could they throw that away?
ELIAS: (Nods) Another?
KEN P: I am a focus of awareness and consciousness, and where that relates to day-to-day life is that I can be focused anywhere, not just in this body, but I can be focused in a dream, I can be focused in other altered states. What is becoming aware now is that there can be other focuses focusing through the body.
ELIAS: And what is the truth?
KEN P: The truth is that I am a focus of awareness and consciousness.
ELIAS: No. That is not a truth.
KEN P: It is not?
ELIAS: No. Another?
KEN M: The situation where one would feel that productivity that involves struggle would create an outcome that is more valued or valuable. Interestingly enough, sometimes for instance if I look at want ads in the paper, I will see ad after ad where somebody is looking for a hard worker – ‘we want a hard worker’ – but to me that would imply hardship. I was curious as to why they would not put they’re looking for a vigorous worker, which would be the same thing and would not have that same kind of belief attached to it. I’m kind of curious about that.
I just feel that has been ingrained in us all our lives to work hard, work hard. But if something is acquired easily, it’s almost like you had that easy. So it’s like definitely a belief attached to that, in terms of productivity.
ELIAS: Do you view this as one of your truths?
KEN M: Yes, very much in my life I’ve done that and still find myself doing it. When I find myself thinking in terms of that, I’ve decided to just realize, wait a minute, I’m doing the old ‘this is valuable because I worked hard’ and that it’s not necessarily a truth of reality. It’s just basically a belief that is entertained by many people.
I believe less thickness would be produced for me by looking at this as ‘I put forth a vigorous effort,’ because that has kind of a neutrality to it. Vigor is just vigor, as opposed to ‘hard,’ which always makes you think of hardship or twenty years at hard labor, that sort of thing.
Almost, in a way, it’s kind of like a thing that Seth once said about bridge beliefs, the same kind of thing, and I was wondering if it might have been kind of a precursor to your concepts of acceptance.
JEREMY: Would that also be an example of struggle being more noble?
KEN M: Yes, that same sort of thing.
ELIAS: It is a belief. But we are identifying those beliefs that have been generated into absolutes that are being identified as your individual truths.
RODNEY: I’ve had these conversations going on in my head for my whole life. I create dialogues between people, between myself and people. The other day I said what’s with these friggin’ dialogues? They just go on. They get triggered and I don’t know what triggers them, although I’m improving as to discovering what does trigger them. In doing that, I realized that what motivates these dialogues in my head is a lack of trust in my own decision-making, in my own choices.
I love butter. I put butter on my bread four times thicker than anybody you ever saw. So I have a dialogue in my head about butter’s good for me and I don’t give a damn what other people do. But why am I having that dialogue? It came to me that there’s a very strong belief that I have to justify myself, period. (Elias nods) That’s draining an awful lot of energy out of me.
ELIAS: What is the truth?
RODNEY: That’s what I’m trying to see. It’s gotta be a truth because it’s so prevalent.
ELIAS: You expressed it already. (Smiling) What did you say?
RODNEY: I said a lot of things.
RODNEY: Yes, I see that very clearly.
RODNEY: So what’s the truth?
ELIAS: That IS the truth.
RODNEY: That I have to justify myself?
RODNEY: So the antidote to that...
ELIAS: We shall proceed in that direction shortly.
RODNEY: You can’t just say? (Laughter)
ELIAS: We shall continue in that direction shortly. (Looking at Alicia) Yes?
ALICIA: I’m almost embarrassed to say this, but I think it’s a truth because it feels absolute to me. I don’t pay attention to it but it influences me. I think I still hold that creation occurs outside the self. Things will happen to me and my immediate response is somebody’s doing that TO me, this is happening TO me, as opposed to I am generating this. (Elias nods)
Actually, one of the things I’m finding is – I don’t know if this is typical – I don’t think I like any of my truths or my beliefs. I feel like I live them and I’ve been raised by them, and all of a sudden I don’t like any of them. So when you talk about preferences, they’re not my preferences but I still live by them. It’s very frustrating.
BILL: One of mine, I believe, is a truth that I need to fill time, like I need to do something. It doesn’t need to be a struggle; it’s just that I need to be doing something, like sitting there meditating, which I don’t like doing. Maybe I don’t like it because it’s one of my truths. That seems to be a truth that I’ve never really thought about before.
ELIAS: (Nods) Yes.
PAUL: How about respect? That’s a big one I think.
ELIAS: Yes, and how does this influence you?
PAUL: I think I go through a process of judging others if they don’t respect either themselves, other people, me. I fall into this trap of judging.
ELIAS: And how do you view that influencing you in mundane actions that you generate within your day?
PAUL: Unknown; I don’t know. I haven’t processed it fully.
ELIAS: Very well.
ELLA: Elias, what I thought of as my truth, which is that I talk a lot, does that concern self-worthiness and also caring what other individuals think of me? Is that what I would identify as the underlying truth?
ELLA: My self-image?
ELLA: But you don’t leave it to self-worthiness? I don’t understand. I understand that it’s not the maybe the best (inaudible), but doesn’t it deeper relate to self-worthiness?
ELIAS: That can be an influence, that can be an avenue, but the truth is image.
KEN P: Are you working to get a distinction here between truth and belief? Is that part of what this exercise is?
ELIAS: No. We have established that your truths, your individual truths ARE beliefs. They are merely beliefs that have been generated into absolute. The point is that they are challenging if not quite difficult to identify, for they are so unquestioned and they are generated so automatically. Generally, you are unaware of what they are or how to identify them, but they are very influencing.
And now we address to the second part of your question, in that they are NOT your enemy. They are your guidelines. In your terms, they are good.
RODNEY: Boy, they don’t feel that way!
ALICIA: No, they don’t!
ELIAS: The reason that you make this association that they are bad is that you are not aware of the expressions and influences of them in mundane actions that you engage every day that you ARE comfortable with. What you notice is influences that are uncomfortable or that are automatic responses that limit your choices.
When you identify a truth and recognize a truth genuinely and begin to view how that truth is associated with many, many actions that you engage within your day, you begin to recognize that there are many expressions of that truth that ARE comfortable for you. They ARE preferences and they are your guidelines. They become conflicting and what you view as your enemy when you are not aware of these influences or when you are not aware that they are a guideline for you, or when you are discounting your own guideline and expressing to yourself that it is bad.
Not being wasteful – this IS a preference; it IS a guideline. But that guideline can also create conflicts in association with differences.
If you are not aware of your guidelines and that they are YOUR guidelines and that they are not necessarily other individuals’ guidelines, what occurs is – as it is an absolute and it is not questioned, unless it is being questioned in discounting yourself – there is an underlying expectation continuously expressed within you that other individuals shall respond in like manner to yourself in any given situation.
This blocks the acceptance of difference, for you are automatically generating a personalization of those differences, for they are absolute. There is no other means or manner to engage in certain actions. You must and all other individuals must also, for this is the absolute established method. But it is not. It is your own absolute established method, and that is not necessarily bad.
Truths are all associated in some capacity with your preferences, but many of you are not aware of your preferences. In this, those same truths that generate conflict are also the same truths that influence you to behave in certain manners, to engage certain actions in certain capacities, in certain directions. You engage actions within your day that are mundane actions that do not incorporate thought, and you do not generate any recognition of any association with those actions.
Do you wash your dishes?
ELIAS: Do you wash your clothes?
ELIAS: And each of you shall engage these actions in a particular manner. You will each engage these actions with your own method. Do you fold your clothes? Do you hang your clothes? If you do or if you do not, every action that you engage is being associated and motivated by your truths, by your guidelines.
The manner in which you engage these actions is an expression of energy. In that expression of energy, if you are not aware of your truth and how it is influencing you and you encounter another individual that washes their clothes differently than you do, your automatic association shall be the other individual is wrong, or my method is better, or the other individual should do this, or you shall confuse yourself and express to yourself a lack of understanding and express, ‘Why do other individuals do this?’
ELLA: Or you could say maybe I’ve always done it wrong and maybe they are doing it right, if you are not that comfortable with yourself.
ELIAS: That also can occur. The point in this is that this wave is intensifying. (Group comments, mostly of the ‘you’ve got to be kidding’ variety) And why would it not intensify, as most individuals are not actually addressing to truths?
JEREMY: Is this related to the truth in despair also in the not addressing to it, it will exist until the addressment to?
ELIAS: In what capacity?
JEREMY: In transitioning to the addressing to, depending on how a group of individuals are responding to their own truths and their own actions. Regardless of whether there is an allowance of this information or not, some of them might feel lost or confused or even depressed, and based on their allowance in viewing these types of things in whatever manner they’re choosing, that might create a type of despair, which I’ve heard discussed previously. So I’m asking if that would be in relation to the intensifying of the truth wave.
ELIAS: Yes, you are correct.
PAUL: Are we going to see a physical manifestation globally that will mark this increase in the truth wave?
ELIAS: You already are.
PAUL: I’m thinking like a catastrophic event.
ELIAS: You already are.
JEREMY: Like with Bush, for example – many people have varying opinions and beliefs about his approach to things. Would that be an example of viewing truths as well?
ELIAS: Yes, and differences and the intensification of the lack of acceptance of differences. For the lack of understanding of differences, the lack of realization that in association with your own truths you yourselves are creating or initiating the conflicts in not being aware of what they are and not identifying them, most individuals, as I have stated, are not addressing to them and they have not even identified them.
RODNEY: This mass event taking place right now over the immigrant issue with Mexico – we’ve got 11 million unidentified Mexicans in this country, and there are big street protests taking place. (!)
Why is it that when they do polls you find that almost 50 percent of the people disagree on an issue and 50 percent agree on an issue? In other words, one half of the people say yes and one half of the people say no, and that occurs again and again and again and again. A lot of our elections are very close. They differ by only a few votes.
RODNEY: Yes, but that’s indicating that our truths are mirrored 50-50. Why is that? Why would half of us see it this way and half of us see it that way, instead of 80-20? It’s almost like you get into a discussion with someone and you go so far, and then you come to the place where I see it this way and the other person sees it that way.
ELLA: Maybe because there is a stalemate right now. (Inaudible) ...because the majority was then, and right now the forces are almost equal. You have stalemate. You can’t move anywhere. One side pulls at the same force as another, and you block and suspend this way.
ELIAS: Which is also associated with this wave. It is polarizing, and that is allowing very little leeway and much rigidity and extremes.
ALICIA: Elias, I’m confused. I want to go back a little bit. I said that one of my truths was that creation occurs outside the self. Where I’m confused is how does that influence how I wash my dishes or launder my clothes or whether or not I hang them up or leave them on the floor?
ELIAS: This is the point. This is the point of clearly or correctly identifying a truth, for a truth will be influencing of almost every action you engage.
ALICIA: So then that is not a truth of mine? I guess I’m not seeing how it influences.
ELIAS: That is an influence.
ALICIA: What is?
ELIAS: That there are occurrences that are generated outside of you, that reality is created outside of you, or that elements of your reality are being created not by you.
ALICIA: So that’s not a truth, that’s an influence? (Elias nods in agreement) So what’s the truth?
RODNEY: If it’s an internal thing, how does my truth of ‘I need to justify everything I do’ influence how I wash my clothes?
ELIAS: How DO you wash them?
RODNEY: Soap and water in a washing machine, the same way everybody else does.
ELIAS: Is it?
RODNEY: No, probably not. There are different ways to wash clothes.
ELIAS: Yes, there are. In that, how YOU do this action will be somewhat influenced by your truth...
RODNEY: ...that I need to justify myself.
RODNEY: Maybe I use a little bit more soap than I have to...?
ELIAS: Not necessarily. The influence shall not be obvious unless you are presented with a difference. If another individual visited your home and engaged your laundry for you in an entirely different manner than you do, you may not necessarily appreciate their effort.
RODNEY: I’d say, ‘Why’d you do it that way?’
ELIAS: Correct, and in that, you shall justify your method.
RODNEY: Yes. That’s the influence, the justification?
ELIAS: The justification is the truth, and in mundane actions that you incorporate there is an association with that. It is your truth. It is your guideline. Therefore, you do not view that action as bad. It is the manner in which you do it. But if that same action is done differently, you shall justify your method.
RODNEY: I would feel the need to protect, because justifying is associated with protection. It seems to me that I’m hooked into protecting myself constantly or to protect my ideas. Am I going too far afield with this?
ELIAS: No. That is another influence and can be quite affecting in association with your interaction with other individuals.
Generally speaking, your truths become tapped when you are presented or when you present yourself with a difference. The difference threatens your truth, for your truth is absolute and there are many avenues of your truth that are comfortable and that are not conflicting.
JEREMY: Is this where conflict would come into play? For example, he’s washing his clothes, and for him the truths he holds based around washing his clothes as the thing that is threatened, so to speak, by the other individual, is that threat and that justification also motivated by the belief that another individual’s reality or truths are more valid? Is that where the threat or the conflict is?
ELIAS: Not necessarily that the other individual is more valid or that their method or their beliefs or their behaviors or actions are more valid. In actuality, quite the contrary, that your own is more valid, that your direction IS the direction.
IOANNA: Like when I rearrange the dishwasher after my mother. I won’t say anything to her but I’ll go in and put everything how I like it. Is that discounting her when I do that or is that just expressing my preference without bringing it to her attention? I know one of my truths is that there’s a certain way that has to be done to make sure everything is clean.
ELIAS: In that, yes, in a manner it is discounting of the other individual, but it is also generating that action of figuratively placing that energy into that container, which this is why bad things happen.
In association with your truths, in mundane actions that you incorporate within your day that you are NOT actually addressing to within self and recognizing the potential of these mundane actions, you are placing that energy into your invisible container that you pull with you in every direction that you move, with every step.
As you continue to place that energy in these small actions into that container, as it fills and begins to overflow, you shall blast that container with an equal strength of energy in opposition to it, and you will create some occurrence that is uncomfortable or that is conflicting or that you do not like. In this, it may be in any type of expression. It may be that you generate an occurrence of some possession that you own is damaged.
IOANNA: Like the ceiling coming down after we just repaired it.
ELIAS: Yes, or your window may be broken or your vehicle may be stolen or you may engage in a significant conflict with another individual or you may be frustrated that you cannot accomplish a particular task or that you are not accomplishing generating what you want.
The energy that is generated in creating those types of occurrences, bad things happening, the same truths that influence those types of occurrences are the same truths that you engage every day, many times within your day, and you do not notice, and they are not recognized, and you do not think. For what is to think – why?
DANIIL: How many truths on average does an individual have? Is it hundreds and hundreds, or is it a few major ones?
ELIAS: I would express that each individual incorporates many truths, but that each individual may incorporate a few that would be considered the core truths.
DANIIL: So it may be that washing my clothes, for me, I would have a different truth than someone else?
ELIAS: Yes, yes. Your truth may be...
NATASHA: Washing may be a major truth, how you wash your clothes?
ELIAS: It is not the washing of the clothes that is the truth. It is associated or motivated by a truth that may be appearing to you to be far removed from the action of washing your clothes.
As this individual expressed, one truth of respect, one truth of consideration, this may appear initially to you to have no association with an action of washing your clothes. But you wash them in a particular manner, and when presented with a difference, you may generate an association with consideration or respect, for it is not being expressed in the manner that YOU express. You shall generate this association, for you automatically interpret the expression of the other individual in relation to your truth.
You shall automatically express within yourself the identification ‘this individual is expressing in an inconsiderate manner.’ The individual may not be expressing in an inconsiderate manner, but you shall interpret it in that manner for that is your guideline, and it is unquestioned.
Another individual may not be expressing disrespectfulness, but YOU shall interpret in that manner for that is YOUR truth, YOUR guideline, and you automatically interpret the other individual’s expression or behavior in association with your truth, your guideline. It is unquestioned.
GEORGE: So if I find myself making a judgment about another person, at that moment, if I begin to then focus on that judgment and work backwards and attempt to use that as a way of discovering the truth that’s causing me to make that judgment...?
ELIAS: Yes, yes.
JEREMY: I’ve been in discussions with some common individuals and some soft individuals about relationships. In some of these conversations I’ve had, I’ve noticed that some of the conflict comes into play when a common individual might hold a truth that to be in love with someone or to be expressing in a romantic intimate manner, you have to be outwardly expressing, like hugging or kissing or things like that, whereas a soft individual may be expressing in a different manner. It’s not that they’re not holding those feelings, but it’s just more that the common individual has that truth.
ELIAS: Yes, and how differences trigger. But it is not the other individual or the difference that is actually triggering. It is YOU, for you have already set into motion that trigger before it even occurs, for you are continuously expressing your truths. They ARE your guidelines. They ARE NOT bad.
You express your truth of respect. This guides you in how you shall behave and how you shall express. But in not being aware of how many actions you engage that are also associated with that truth, you cannot view the choices that you can engage to not create bad things happening.
PAUL: So one way we could look at this is, let’s say we identify our truth, whatever it may be, and then start looking at our day’s activities. In my case, I could have a place-card saying my truth is this, and then I’ll carry it with me or have it posted somewhere where I’ll see it daily, and I’ll try to stop myself and notice aspects of that truth that will influence that given set of activities and beliefs in the moment.
PAUL: Then as we do that, that’ll start diffusing some of that energy we’re carrying around in our bucket?
ELIAS: You begin to empty that container and not continue to place the energy in that container, for you diffuse it. You allow yourself to notice, and you begin to recognize that you do not incorporate merely one choice. You incorporate MANY choices, and it is a matter of choosing the choice that is not expressing your own triggers, that allows you to move in a direction that you continue to appreciate your direction, your guidelines, but you do not set yourself in the choices that shall trigger your own truths in relation to differences.
CAROLE: I have a very developed understanding that I’m creating my own reality 24/7. I never think that it’s coming from outside of me. However, I’m just beginning to understand that one of my truths is still the old religious truths of right and wrong, sin and retribution, crime and punishment.
Because I really, really always think that it’s always me, no matter what’s going on in my life. When I create something that I don’t like, it feels like somehow I’m to blame or I’m wrong or I’m bad, because I know that I created it. I never think it’s anyone else or anything else. So that brings me to the point of realizing that one of my truths is still that old-time religion – good and bad, right and wrong, I do something and I get punished. So I create a whole little string of minor physical ailments, and I think, ‘Why am I doing this to myself?’
ELIAS: Cause and effect, in any direction, any expression, which does incorporate the influence of good and bad, right and wrong, and crime and punishment. But it is the truth of cause and effect.
CAROLE: So that’s the truth?
ELIAS: Yes: every action that I incorporate, there shall be a consequence.
RODNEY: That’s a truth?
ELIAS: This is this individual’s truth, of cause and effect. As I have expressed, you each incorporate several core truths that shall influence you in all that you do.
RODNEY: Wouldn’t you say that a belief in cause and effect as an absolute truth is probably core to most of us?
RODNEY: It’s universal.
ELIAS: Not necessarily universal, but yes, many, many, many individuals incorporate this as a core truth.
GEORGE: For most of the people in this room, cause and effect is a core truth?
ALICIA: Elias, if you could help me? I think I’m having difficulty identifying a truth, and I think I had a couple of experiences in the last couple of weeks that probably are eliciting to my attention what the truth is. I’m having a hard time figuring it out because it involved conflict and it intensified.
It was interesting. You said that with the boss that I was describing to you that her being there was to help me see my own responses. So right after that, we had two big fights. They seemed to be around her thinking that I am not doing my work and her coming in, and in my experience, being very intrusive to me, not trusting me, constantly wanting to know every little thing that I’m doing, questioning the things that I have on the floor by my chair thinking that it’s not work material, looking over my shoulder to see what I have on the computer because she doesn’t think that it’s work material. Finally I just sort of told her to get off my back, and we got into an argument.
I’m thinking that I must have a truth there. It happened twice in two weeks, and has been occurring, not as intense as the last couple of weeks, but it’s been occurring in the last couple of years that I’ve been with her. So is there a truth somewhere that I...? I don’t know. (Laughs) I’m one of those people who are struggling in being unable to identify their truths. I can see just the influence, and that’s obviously why it keeps happening, from what you’re saying.
ELIAS: This is the point.
ALICIA: Right, I am the point! (Group laughter) At that time you said that to me, and I know I’m one of those people! So use me as a guinea pig. How do I begin the process of identifying the truth, moving beyond just understanding...?
ELIAS: Paying attention to what YOU are doing...
ALICIA: I’m becoming defensive, is that what you mean?
ELIAS: That and what you are physically doing, paying attention to ALL that you are doing within your day – genuinely paying attention and allowing yourself to question what is your motivation.
ALICIA: I’m still confused. How can I begin to break this apart this particular instant to see what my truths are? You said by paying attention to myself, but I guess I’m not paying attention to myself!
ELIAS: I did not express ‘pay attention to yourself,’ I expressed ‘pay attention to what you are doing.’
ALICIA: You mean before the conflict happens?
ELIAS: And during. What associations are being generated? What are you doing?
ALICIA: I’m talking.
ELLA: Maybe you don’t like your job or something. You go to work thinking you don’t want to go there, trying to understand how you relate to your work.
GEORGE: What you’re doing, actually, right now is related to this issue, and what you were doing a few moments ago. I noticed that you had your hand up, and I was looking at that for a while, and then it occurred to me that’s what I used to do when I was in grade school to get the attention of the teacher. I was thinking one of your truths is that you’re a student in relation to Elias and also perhaps in relation to this other person with whom you’re having this conflict.
RODNEY: It’s almost a statement of a question of authority, because there’s a half a dozen people here that would simply interrupt the conversation at what they felt was an appropriate spot, and that seems to flow. But you’re standing there with your hand up, waiting for some outside authority to say it’s all right for you to speak.
CAROLE: All right, I’m going to interrupt then, now that everybody’s wanting to interrupt. Can we get back to cause and effect?
CAROLE: I don’t feel that was developed enough, because it sounds like it’s ubiquitous. It also sounds like it’s related to a lot of the things that are going on here. Because if you move away from cause and effect, what you move to is having each action be a choice regardless of any preconceived notions of an effect of that action, right?
CAROLE: I can keep talking, but I’d rather listen to you. (Elias chuckles)
RODNEY: But we ARE getting to the issue.
RODNEY: The cause and effect is paramount, in my mind, because if you took the energy out of the box that you’re filling with that, you would become very, very, very powerful...
ELIAS: Precisely. And this truth...
RODNEY: ...because that truth controls every single thing that you do. Everything has a cause; everything has an effect.
ALICIA: Something tells me, though, that what I thought about wasn’t so different from what you’re talking about. If there’s a belief of authority, isn’t that cause and effect?
ELIAS: The expression that you are generating, the truth that you are generating is not concerning authority.
ALICIA: Well, then what is it? Please tell me!
ELIAS: It would also be respect – you being respectful and you expecting respect in the manner that you express it.
ALICIA: So the raising of my hand is respect?
ALICIA: But how is that with the boss and the conflict? Is that also respect?
ELIAS: For you interpret the other individual in her differences as disrespectful, and that generates conflict for that is threatening to YOUR truth, to your guideline.
ELLA: May I express that I had a person trying to supervise me every moment? I saw that that person was insecure. He wanted my report every 30 minutes, but I would give it every 15 minutes. That person seemed very comfortable that I know what I’m doing, that I am cooperating in a very appreciating manner. I didn’t do it with attitude. I genuinely wanted him to be more secure, so I reported twice as often as he expected. It lasted two days, and he never wanted to monitor me again! (Group laughter)
ALICIA: Except in my case, it’s the opposite. I’m giving her logs, and now she’s wanting more.
ELIAS: ... In association with your truths, it is important that you recognize how they interplay with your movement, how they complement you, how your truths allow you to move in your directions in a comfortable manner, and it is important that you acknowledge the value of them. The automatic response is to perceive them as bad and to merely focus upon the influences of them that hinder you. But there are many more influences that do not hinder you, that allow you to move in your own natural expression and allow you to interact with yourself in a manner of comfort. They ARE precisely your guidelines.
(To Carole) It is not bad to incorporate a core truth of cause and effect. It guides you: it guides your behavior; it guides how you think; it guides how you interact. It prevents you, many times, from generating an action that you may regret.
(To Paul) It is not bad to incorporate a core truth of respect. It guides your behavior, how you interact with other individuals.
(To Rodney) It is not bad to be incorporating a core truth of justification. It guides you in allowing you to accomplish what you want in the fashion that you want.
(To Jeremy) It is not bad to incorporate the core belief concerning relationships or your experience in relation to other individuals and moving in the direction of placing other individuals first or valuing other individuals. It guides your behavior.
(To Lynda) It is not bad to incorporate a core truth of consideration. It guides you in how you behave.
None of your truths are bad. They do incorporate influences that limit you, but only in association with automatic responses. You become so very familiar with your truths that in being unquestioned, they incorporate many, many automatic responses.
Some of your automatic responses you would evaluate as good and you would not change and you would appreciate. Some of your automatic responses lead you into conflict and lead you into bad things occurring, in your terminology. This is the reason that it is so very important and significant that you identify what your truths are, and that you not merely identify what your truths are but that you recognize what the influences are, and in that, allow yourself to recognize that you incorporate choice.
Let me also express to you, when you genuinely recognize [and] identify your truth, the element of ‘you do not create all of your reality’ becomes a moot point, for in accepting the responsibility of your own truth, you begin to recognize and perceive in reality that you ARE creating all of your reality. You are not a victim to circumstances, to scenarios, to situations, to other individuals, for YOU incorporate the choices and you can choose different actions to allow yourself to continue in the expression of your truth but not be dissuaded by other individuals’ choices, expressions or behaviors. They literally move into the expression of ‘it matters not.’ You shall incorporate no judgment associated with differences, for you shall offer yourself choices that open new avenues, even in association with washing your clothes. Even in the mundane actions that you generate each day, you shall not be placing that energy into that container, for you shall allow yourself to engage choices that circumvent that expression of setting yourself into motion to trigger yourself.
Other individuals are merely a catalyst in reflection; they are not actually DOING the action of triggering you. YOU are doing the action of triggering you, and you began that before you presented the scenario to yourself in which you become triggered, for you engaged choices that set you in a direction to be triggered. But if you are aware of your truths, you are intentionally directing and intentionally creating.
What is the intention of every individual within this room or within this Forum? The intention of every individual is to be aware of themselves objectively to the point that you can objectively intentionally create your reality in the manner that you want, whether it be associated with relationships or money or home or family or children or your employment; it matters not.
What you want is to intentionally direct yourselves to create what you want. That being such an intense desire, it is motivating you to be generating all of these experiences, the experiences that you do not like, the experiences that generate discomfort. The reason that you generate these experiences is associated with that desire. But you lose sight of that desire and you express to yourselves, ‘Why can I not create what I want now?’ Why can you not create what you want now? You are not aware of what influences you NOW in all that you do.
I have been expressing for an extended time framework the significance and the importance of paying attention to all that you do. There is NO element hidden from you. There is no subconscious. ALL is available to you. It is merely a matter of paying attention and not placing yourself in the position of the co-pilot of your airplane, with no pilot. Without the pilot, it is quite a guess where the plane shall fly, and you incorporate no sense of control! In that, you open the door to be the victim of situations, of circumstances, of other individuals – even of yourselves! You sabotage yourselves, for you are not directing.
The question in each individual is ‘How do I direct? What does this mean? And what do I pay attention to?’ You wish to be incorporating a formula. You wish for me to offer you the formula. I HAVE, repeatedly. (!) But the formula is too simple, and without the complication, the formula is not being received, for you continue to look for more of the formula: ‘Complicate it, Elias. Generate more of it, Elias. This is simple. This cannot be accomplished; it cannot be all that there is.’
I express to you to pay attention to what you are doing, and you incorporate questions in your mind. ‘What am I doing? I am sitting, I am listening; I am doing nothing.’ You are never doing nothing. You are always engaging choices and you are always doing in many more expressions than you allow yourself to be aware of. Your body consciousness is always doing. You are always generating choices, every moment. Each of you in this moment is generating a choice to sit, to listen...
RODNEY: To munch! (Group laughter)
ELIAS: And are you aware of what you are doing, what associations you are generating as you are listening?
PAUL: Yes. I am processing.
ELLA: I also notice that I automatically distract myself and then I recall that action. I just noticed I was sitting doing this. It was my action to distract myself, and especially what you were saying, I can see the difficulty. I tried paying attention and it’s especially difficult. It’s simple – the formula is simple; the action is difficult. So I start distracting myself, and then I recall.
I also analyze. While you were reciting every truth, I was noticing my body’s response to each of the truths. For me, it was an opportunity to see if I can identify more of them, and from that I deduct that probably cause and effect and consideration are more prominent than respect, and justification comes somewhere in the middle, for me personally.
ELIAS: Yes, and image.
ELLA: Image is the first one you identified, so I knew I didn’t have to analyze that. I was trying to identify what I didn’t identify myself. So that’s what I’ve been doing. Do you commend? Do you concur?
ELIAS: I do. I do concur, and I am also acknowledging. I am acknowledging of you all that you ARE participating and that you are noticing what you are doing. You are not merely listening. You are paying attention that there are other actions that you are engaging also, regardless of whether you are moving physically or not.” [session 1970, April 01, 2006]
ELIAS: “Let me express, you all incorporate what you term to be values. Values are a part of your guidelines. They influence your behaviors, they influence how you interact, they also influence how you see your world, and they influence how you see and interact with other individuals. Many of your values are associations.
An individual may express in their own comfort the choice to be generating a relationship with another individual of the other sex, of the other gender, therefore a man and a woman. That individual may not generate a thought process in relation to any other type of intimate relationship or romantic relationship, but they may incorporate an association that any other type of intimate romantic relationship is wrong. If they are presented with an individual that is a man or a woman that creates an intimate romantic relationship with an individual that is an adolescent, not what would be considered as an adult, the individual may generate an automatic association that this type of relationship is wrong. It is not in their comfort, and therefore their automatic association is that it is wrong.
An individual may commune with nature, and another individual may destroy forests. That would generate an automatic association that it is wrong. The reason it is wrong is that it threatens your comfort, and you push away. Whatever threatens your comfort, you oppose. This is the reason that it is so very important to be present, for being present allows you to identify what your associations are and whether they are valid.
In the example of an individual that chooses to engage a romantic relationship with what you would term to be a child – and I would express that most individuals in this room would be in agreement that they would view that as wrong or inappropriate – you are not engaging that action. Therefore, it is not threatening your comfort, for you are not doing it. You are not involving yourself with the action, even if you are privy to it. But to justify your comfort, you judge the actions of other individuals, and these are the expressions that interrupt your comfort and that block acceptance.
All of you engage much time and much effort attempting to be or being accepting. You interrupt that each time you justify your comfort and make a judgment in association with another individual’s actions or choices. I have expressed many times, it is not necessary to be in agreement with any other individual to be accepting. You each continue to incorporate your own preferences and your own opinions and your own guidelines that are good or right for you. But in expressing the judgment of other individuals in their choices, you block your acceptance, and I would express that every individual in this present room wants to be accepting.
RODNEY: You’re using the word ‘accepting’ to mean accepting the other person, correct?
ELIAS: In actuality, it is both.
RODNEY: I’m hearing two sides, acceptance of myself and acceptance of them.
ELIAS: Yes. For when you are accepting of your own comfort and not allowing that to be threatened and being present with it, you are being accepting of yourself and thusly can be accepting of other individuals in their differences.
LYNDA: Can I give an example of what I think you’re saying? When I first started to talk to you, I was threatened by Mary’s sexual preference. As I grew closer to a friendship with Mary and knew I was moving in the direction of a working relationship with her – I know this may sound crazy and looking back it is, kind of, now – but I used to say to you, ‘Does this mean I have to become gay?’ and you always said, kindly, ‘No, Ruther [Lynda]. It does not mean that.’ But I was threatened because I admired Mary, I admire the Elias information, and in my funny brain I thought that to be accepted in this group, I would have to become gay. I know that probably sounds ridiculous, but it was very real to me at the time. Over the years, I realized I could have my own sexual preference. Mary’s personality and her choices became a delight to me, because I stopped being threatened by them. So our relationship changed, and if possible, we’re more intimate than a relationship I could have that’s heterosexual. We are friends with no boundaries or demands, and I don’t feel threatened. But I did feel threatened.
ELIAS: Yes. This is a fine example, for it is an illustration of how you rob yourself of your comfort. You generate a judgment in association to another individual, and your comfort is threatened. Rather than acknowledging it or protecting it, you rob yourself of it. You push your own comfort away.
LYNDA: You deny your comfort.
ELIAS: Yes, for the concern overrides the expression of the comfort.
FEMALE: I hear what she said about the gay issue, but I’m fine with that; I have no issues about that at all. As a matter of fact, I wish was gay! (Elias laughs) But the example that you used with the child, I have a problem with that because I would feel protective of the child. Even though it’s over my boundaries, I think it’s wrong, and there’s an innocent child at stake. I think I have an obligation to judge and to try to protect the child, so I’m having problems with that example that you gave.
ELIAS: But this is also a fine example, for it will invoke those types of thoughts and those types of feelings in most individuals, and that is the point. It is an illustration of how you respond, how you react. It is not your responsibility to protect the child. It is not your responsibility to fix a situation. You are not the child. You are not experiencing what the child is experiencing. You are not generating the choices that the child is generating.
I did not express an example, although I may have, of a child being molested, which I recognize would invoke even stronger opposition with all of you. What I presented was an individual engaging a romantic, intimate RELATIONSHIP with what you would term to be a child.
Children express choices also. You as adults are not the only individuals in your reality that generate choices. Every individual within your reality, from the moment they are born, is generating choices. I would express to you, if any individuals encounter very small ones presently, you will notice how strongly they express their choices and how directed they are.
In this, I expressed that example purposefully, for this is an example that you will notice your automatic response and your association. This is purposeful, for you each do this in many, many different expressions. You incorporate automatic associations, and you justify them. Just as you may be an individual that values peace and harmony and calmness, if you are presented with a terrorist, you will automatically generate an association that they are wrong, and that will invoke in you promptings or wantings to protect.
When you can genuinely be present with yourself, it is not a matter of being indifferent; it is not a matter of not caring. It is a matter of recognizing what is your reality and what is another individual’s reality. If they generate different choices from yourself, that is not to say that they are wrong. In their reality, they are equally as right as you are in your reality, and they can present as many other individuals that will agree with their choices as you can present that will agree with your choices. In that, what is right? Who is right?
BILL: I’m thinking, as human beings, we seem to latch onto thoughts – let’s say stamping out terrorism. What is the difference between an individual that no longer judges terrorism, yet their value is that they wouldn’t like to see it in the world? What action or inaction does that person take, and how does that look compared to a person who judges terrorism?
ELIAS: It would be similar to yourself. You do not agree with terrorism, but you are also not wielding a gun in opposition to it.
This is what I have expressed. It is not necessary to agree to be accepting. In that, you can incorporate your opinion that in your preferences, in your opinion, this is a wrong action. But regardless of whether you express in your opinion that it is wrong or not, you are not actively engaging actions to oppose it.
ELLA: Elias, ever since I’ve been involved with your material and progressing (inaudible), more that I feel I’m in my own little world. (Inaudible) I’m not agreeing with everything, but I’m not investing energy in it. I’m aware that it happens (inaudible), but it’s just that I’m in a different world, a world where I want to be (inaudible). Is that (inaudible)?
ELLA: (Inaudible) Does that make me an uncaring individual? But then I tell myself (inaudible).
ELIAS: Correct, yes. That is not to say that you are not caring. Even in the example that has been offered with the child, you may not agree, and you would not engage that action; therefore, you are not participating in that. You may generate a judgment that in your reality, in your opinion, that is wrong, but you also are not engaging it.
ELLA: So that would be wrong for myself, but not to concern myself with what other (inaudible).
ELIAS: Correct, precisely. Even with the subject of terrorists, the individuals that are terrorists believe as strongly as you that they are right. As strongly as you believe they wrong, they believe they are right, and this is the reason that they engage the actions.
Duplicity is not being eliminated, but in being present, you can relax it. You can relax it in recognition that you are creating all of YOUR reality. In that, you are generating choices to express your comfort and not allowing other choices to threaten that, which creates this domino effect, in which once your comfort is threatened, you generate automatic associations. You justify, you judge, and you ignore acceptance, for acceptance is no longer an option at that point.
DANIEL: (Inaudible) Let’s say I find myself in the situation that something’s happening. Let’s say, for example, that somebody’s drowning. Three people are there – one is Hindu, one is Buddhist, and one is an Elias person. So the Hindu says it is karma, the Buddhist says it is an illusion, and meanwhile someone is drowning. So the Elias person, like myself, says it’s his choice to be drowning right now, so I accept it as his choice. All three come to the conclusion that we might as well let him drown. But isn’t there an aspect of it that I was there for a reason? I created that situation for a reason. It may be my preference to try to help, and it may be foolish of me not to. If I decide not to help because of some theoretical concept, I may regret it for the rest of my life.
ELIAS: Quite so, and I would agree. But you are correct, you have placed yourself in that situation. Therefore, you have created that in your reality. Therefore, you would most likely automatically respond and attempt to help. This is not what I am expressing. This is not the point, for you ARE in that situation, in that scenario in that example. In the example that I have offered, none of you are in that situation, and you have not created that type of scenario in your experience.
DANIEL: So it is not black and white; it is gradual, right? For example, I wasn’t in the World Trade Center when it happened. I wasn’t right in that situation, but I was very much involved in it. Many times we are in smaller situations where it may be very close to us, and it may be our preference to do something about it.
DANIEL: I realize it is better to do something in the spirit of acceptance as opposed to opposition. But some people go so strongly in the direction of artificially accepting that they don’t do anything, regardless.
ELIAS: And that is precisely correct: ARTIFICIALLY accepting. Genuinely accepting is recognizing what you are actually creating, what you are actually drawing to yourself, what you are doing.
You are correct, in these types of scenarios you have placed yourself in that position; therefore, you will respond. Expressing other individuals create their reality and therefore I need not concern myself with whatever they are doing, this is a false acceptance. This is an excuse. This is not genuine acceptance. If another individual presents themself to you and requests help, will you express to them no, I will not help you for you create all of your reality and therefore it is not necessary for myself to help you? You have drawn that individual to yourself. I am not expressing that if you drew a scenario to yourself in which you placed yourself in a situation in which a child is being assaulted and you are present – or perhaps not even a child, another individual and you are present – you have placed yourself in that position, you are correct, for a reason.
But this is not the point of what I am expressing this day. What I am presenting to you this day are associations and how your own guidelines influence you in events that are not occurring. Regardless of whether you are actually presenting yourself with a situation or not, many associations interrupt you and your comfort, and they are not occurring. They are assumed.
RODNEY: Are these associations you are referring to within our state of awareness, or are we unaware of these associations? Lynda talked about her fear of a gay relationship being required, and it seems to me if she was totally unaware of those associations in the back of her mind, that would not influence her being comfortable or uncomfortable. If I’m aware that I had those associations, then I could see where that would interfere with my comfort.
ELIAS: Yes, you would...
LYNDA: Excuse me for throwing this in. The associations that I would experience that I’m aware of come with a strong emotional punch.
RODNEY: But you were aware of them.
LYNDA: Yes, I think that’s the definition for me. In noticing associations, they are very fast and they come with an emotional feeling for me that is difficult to sort through. I do sort through them, but they come with quite an emotional association that makes it okay somehow. It makes it more real, because it’s so emotional.
RODNEY: I understand that. My question is how important is the state of awareness to the interference?
ELIAS: I am understanding.
RODNEY: It didn’t make sense.
ELIAS: I am quite understanding what you are expressing. Some associations that you generate you are quite aware of. Some you may not necessarily be entirely aware of. You are aware, but it may be covered; it may be camouflaged. Therefore, it may not be as obvious, but it will be triggered by some outside expression, generally when another individual generates some action that triggers one of those camouflaged associations. These are the associations that can interrupt your comfort and can be dangerous, for they are not associations that you generate continuously. Just as beliefs, they are always present, but you may not always be expressing them.
This is the reason that I chose the example that I did, for it would be unlikely that any of you would present that type scenario to yourself in a continuous manner. Therefore, without the presentment of it in another individual’s choices, you may not necessarily be continuously aware that you do generate such a strong association with that action or with those choices, for you are not presenting it to yourself in your reality. But you may present it to yourself in an example with another individual, and in that situation, you may generate a response or reaction and not know what the mechanics of it is. You will merely generate the assessment right or wrong, but not know what motivates that or what the association is, what the mechanics of that action, of that reaction, is. It becomes very black and white. It is either right or it is wrong, and in that, there is no room for acceptance.” [session 2377, October 20, 2007]
Note: this is the second of two parts on accepting self. Go to accepting self (belief systems), pt. 1.
(11) Vic’s note: I have changed “their” to “your” in the following sentence, as indicated by [your]: “In their [your] experiences, you may also, in like manner to many individuals, move in the direction of attempting to be accepting of OTHER individuals and their behaviors, and in this action, if you are not viewing the aspects of the belief system that YOU hold, you are defeating the point!”
(12) Paul’s note: earlier in this private session of mine, I was struggling with some personal issues and had difficulty formulating an adequate question.
(13) Paul’s note: Elias uses the metaphor of feeding a dog each time we discount ourselves and reinforce our own duplicity and lack of trust. By not feeding this dog we experience less conflict.
(14) Paul’s note: Carolyn Myss, Ph.D. is a well-known medical intuitive who holds the ability to diagnose patients in proximity or at a distance. Her work with Dr. Norman Shealy legitimized her abilities, since they defied conventional scientific explanations, and still do. Coinkidinkily, Carolyn started Stillpoint Publishing in the mid-1980s and published Jane Roberts’s Seth, Dreams, and Projection of Consciousness (1986).
(15) Paul’s note: Will refers to Mary’s dog Polly, named after American painter Jackson Pollack, who earlier ran back and forth and growled and played during Elias’ opening comments. This caused much amusement and chagrin in various folks. Naturally, Elias tied the imagery into his talk on paying attention to self and accepting self.
Digests – see also: | absolutes | acceptance 101 | acceptance 102 | appreciation | attention (doing and choosing) | belief systems; an overview | blueprints | camouflage | about children | choices/agreements | counterpart action; individual | Creating Universal One And Whole/all of consciousness | desires/wants | dimension | dimensional veils | dis-ease and healing | disengage (“death”) | distortion | Dream Walkers; an overview | duplicity | effortlessness | energy exchanges; Elias, Paul (Patel) | energy centers (body) | energy deposits | energy fields | essence; an overview | essence families; an overview | essence families; intents | expression of essence | fear | focus of essence; an overview | forum | fun & pleasure! | hamster wheel | imagery | impressions | impulses | information | love | mass events | mirror action | noticing self | objective/subjective awareness | officially accepted reality | Paul (Patel) | perception | engaging periphery | personal invalidation | probabilities | prophecy | Regional Area 1 | Regional Area 2 | relationships | religion (spirituality) | remembrance of essence | separation | shift in consciousness | shrines | Source Events | stop-points | transition | trauma of the shift in consciousness | trusting self | value fulfillment | victims/perpetrators | waking state/dream state | waves in consciousness | widening awareness | you create your reality |
Note: this is the second of two parts on accepting self. Go to accepting self (belief systems), pt. 1.
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