the belief system of relationships, pt.1
Note: this is the first of two parts on relationships. Go to the belief system of relationships, pt. 2.
ELIAS: “Now; let me express that you separate your ideas of relationships into many different areas. I shall also express to you a reminder that this is one belief system. Each belief system that you hold, as I have stated previously, holds many, many aspects.
“Therefore, I shall reiterate, in my analogy of belief systems in comparison, that the belief system itself is as that of a bird cage, and the aspects of the belief system are all of the birds that the cage holds. These cages, the belief systems, hold many, many, many birds. There are hundreds of aspects to each given belief system.
“Therefore, as you address to the belief system of relationships, this also holds very many aspects. You separate these aspects into different compartments, so to speak. You create individual ideas in differentiating one type of relationship from another type of relationship. You think very differently as to your relationship with your employer than you do in looking to a relationship with your child. You look at relationships involving other individuals romantically very differently from relationships of friendships or relationships that you look to in your parents. There are many different types of relationships that you identify with.
“You also hold relationships with your communities, with your governments, with your world. You hold relationships with what you believe to be your ‘higher self’ or other aspects of consciousness. You hold relationships with that which you may term to be god or other such ‘beings,’ so to speak. This shift in consciousness moves these belief systems into your objective awareness, that you may address to the belief systems and all of the aspects that are connected to these belief systems, that you may offer yourselves the opportunity to be accepting of these belief systems.” [session 301, July 25, 1998]
ELIAS: “Relationships – another ‘truth’ – and each of you incorporates your own variation of this ‘truth,’ of its standards, of its qualifications, how it shall be expressed, of its categories. For you all incorporate categories of relationships. Romantic relationships are different from family relationships. Parent and child relationships are different from co-workers. All of your relationships are categorized in different avenues, but each incorporates its own checklist, all of the criteria that are expected to be qualifying as a particular type of relationship. And if the relationship does not fit those qualifications, there is conflict and it is wrong, and there is a better method to be accomplishing the relationship. These are merely a few of your ‘truths’.” [session 1398, July 19, 2003]
ELIAS: “Many of you have wondered of relationships between family members; children and parents, siblings, and other relationships. These are all, as I have stated, very precise relationships which you have very intentionally specifically chosen within each focus to be manifesting with, to be furthering the accomplishment of your individual intents. Within each focus you hold an intent, and you shall present yourself with influences that shall suggest your intent to you and help to be guiding you into this manifestation. You only hold belief systems of right and wrong and good and bad, and in this you create judgments upon the behavior and activity that is experienced within the relationships; although you have lost sight of the situation that you have created for your own benefit.
Now also, within this choice and manifestation into physical focus, a consideration is also held quite seriously of the influence and benefit which shall be manifest to those individuals that are to be your parents and your siblings. Therefore, they also are contributed to within value fulfillment, within your choice of manifestation. If the individuals that are the parents or the siblings are not benefiting within value fulfillment in your choice to be manifesting in relationship to them, you shall not manifest with these individuals.
Within your physical focus, it does not always physically appear that you are all benefiting. It does not always appear that you are all receiving, but I do not use the word of benefit within a positive connotation. It is an ‘adding to’ experience. You view the word of benefit to be an element that is good. You are benefiting from this relationship. Therefore, you are receiving a good element from this relationship. You are always benefiting. You may not recognize the benefit, but you are always gaining. You gain information from all of your experiences.
You also may choose, within any given focus, to be experiencing what you think of as difficulty. You do not always manifest within physical focus to be carefree and joyous! At times you choose conflict, for this is another physical experience. Therefore, you may also choose individuals that shall perpetuate this experience with you within your physical manifestation. You may choose to engage this action temporarily. You may choose to engage this action throughout the entirety of your focus.
Let us view also those individuals that are choosing, which there are many of, situations within physical focus that to your way of thinking seem negative, or hurtful, or grotesque ... or even evil! You will notice that many individuals choose this type of manifestation to be experienced within young ages. This, to your belief systems, is quite terrible! Within actuality, this is quite efficient; for as you are very young, you have a much greater ability to be focusing subjectively and continuing subjective action and interaction, which as you grow older you define as imagination or withdrawal or whatever; but this provides you the opportunity to experience certain elements within physical focus which mass belief systems consider negative while simultaneously holding the ability to benefit and also be adjusting of self in whichever way you choose, for you hold more subjective leeway within young ages.
We have spoken previously that as you move into physical focus, you incorporate a time period of transition from subjective to objective. You continue to incorporate much of your subjective awareness within young ages, just as you continue within transition to incorporate objective awareness for a time period. As you move into adolescence and adulthood, you also move away from the experiences that you may view within older years as victimization. These are all choices; quite efficient choices, I shall say also! You express to yourselves the resiliency of children. You are quite right, for they hold the ability to drift back and forth between objective and subjective reality. As you move into an acceptance of mainly objective reality, you do not hold the ability to incorporate these actions as well; this being why as adults the same negative occurrences may be involved, and they are much more difficult for the individual to objectively deal with. (Here, Elias pauses, begins to speak again, and then turns to Gail and appears to reconsider, smiling)
We shall break, and you may ask questions as we return. (To Gail) I am not being offensive? (Gail indicates to the contrary) Very well.
(Vic’s note: this particular subject matter hits pretty close to home with Gail. This is an entire book in itself!)
BREAK 8:08 PM.
ELIAS: Continuing; you may be inquiring, if you are so choosing.
DREW: Is the relationship between parent and child always one of counterpart action?
DREW: So if the relationship is one that always benefits those involved, then they must as least know each other’s probabilities.
ELIAS: To an extent. It is similar within your thinking to if you would be studying of a subject matter before entering into this subject matter. Therefore, the probabilities which have already been chosen, which include future within simultaneous time, there is a viewing of these and a studying of these probabilities, and therefore a choice to be incorporating an alignment with this manifestation.
DREW: If the parents always have choice over their probabilities as do the children, wouldn’t it be possible at some point in the relationship that the choices of probabilities would diverge and no longer be beneficial to those involved?
ELIAS: Yes. In these cases, you shall disengage the relationship.
DREW: Is it possible to disengage a relationship between parent and child without disengaging?
(Vic’s note: meaning without dying.)
DREW: Isn’t there always a relationship in consciousness ... Well, we’re all related in consciousness. But just by physically moving away, that’s enough of a disengagement of a relationship to ...
ELIAS: It is not merely a situation of physical proximity and physically changing your location. It is a disentanglement of relationship physically oriented. This would involve a severing of all interaction and emotional connection within the relationship physically.
DREW: It’s hard to imagine a relationship between parent and child wherein even if they have disentangled themselves and haven’t seen each other or communicated in years, that there is still not some emotional connection or affectingness. Particularly in situations where there has been reason to disentangle, it seems like the affectingness continues.
ELIAS: Within consciousness, you are all affecting of all else; but within physical objective reality, there are individuals that may be choosing of this action and may be accomplishing of this action, of complete severing of relationship and dissolving of the entanglement.
VICKI: I have a question. Did you say that sometimes the subjective consciousness doesn’t always enter the body until after birth?
ELIAS: I did not express this, although this may also be a choice, in a manner of speaking. The physical expression may not continue within this element of time period without the subjective interaction. Therefore, the focus may be choosing to be engaging partial interaction with the physical expression and not engage a complete mergence, if they are choosing, until after physical birth. This is not normally the situation. Generally, the individual focus shall be choosing to be entering the consciousness subjectively into the physical body consciousness before the action of physical birth; but it is possible and does occur that the entire mergence is not always accomplished within this time period, and may be postponed until after the physical birth.
VICKI: I have one other question. You said basically the parents agree to have a baby. That’s kind of a new idea for me in my thought process. So it’s kind of like ... a surprise within consciousness?
ELIAS: No, for you have chosen to incorporate a new focus to be interacting with. You are continuing within your probabilities as the parent. You are adding to these probabilities within relationship of the child, as they also are creating of new probabilities with you; for your probabilities of either child or parent are not mapped in front of you. Therefore, you continue together, creating a reality within agreement and choosing your probabilities jointly and individually from the point of manifestation.
VICKI: Okay, thank you. I’ll think about that.
ELIAS: You as the parent choose the experience of incorporating a child. You as a parent also choose the probability of sharing a relationship intimately with another individual as a parent. Therefore, this is your choice within probabilities and directions. The individual choosing to be focused must be aware of much more information, as were you as you entered into physical focus; for the individual focus entering must be choosing many different established alignments. Probabilities within your thought process have already been established.
Therefore, the focus entering into physical manifestation must be aware of these probabilities and realities which have already been established and accepted, and also be choosing if they are desiring to be aligning with those established probabilities within physical reality, and if they are aligning with their individual intent within that focus. You as the parent have already chosen this same action, and have already chosen your direction within probabilities and within your direction and intent. You have already accomplished the same action that the new focus incorporates as the child.” [session 173, May 11, 1997]
CHRIS: “Well, I’ve been going through some changes in my life and I feel like I’m having a lot of emotional difficulties right now. I just kind of wanted to talk to you a little bit about where this might be coming from, if there’s something in my past or whatever ... if you can enlighten me at all, or guide me or something. I have been going to a session similar to this, but it’s with The Course in Miracles. Have you heard of The Course in Miracles? (1)
CHRIS: Everything that I’m learning in The Course in Miracles almost is verbatim what you say, and it just is blowing me away because things that I’ve heard you say I hear this book say, and I’ve come to believe that it’s pretty darn true. They say it was written by Jesus, but it really doesn’t have an author on it, and so I’ve felt very comfortable in staying with The Course in Miracles. I’ve been doing it for a year because I feel like it has a connection with everything that you’re teaching as well, and then I feel that I haven’t lost much of the teachings that you teach because of this. It’s like a parallel, but what I have lost is a connection ... and I’m going to get emotional with you. I hope you don’t mind. (Crying)
I don’t know what’s wrong with me. I don’t know what is happening with my connection with people. Things are happening in my life, where I believe it to be true and then it happens, and I’m finding that things that are effortless happen just like that. (Snapping fingers) I wanted a car, and effortlessly a car came into my view. It’s just amazing. I wanted a house, I wanted to move, my kids are saying we’ve got to move out of here, and effortlessly a house just appeared. So my confusion is that the rest of my life isn’t really effortless and I have conflict, especially when it comes around people in relationships. Are you following all of this, I hope?
ELIAS: Quite. Continue.
CHRIS: And then of course my love relationship now is falling apart and I see a pattern, and it’s like I don’t want to have the same pattern happen because I don’t want this pain in my life any more. I know that everything is an illusion and I’m bringing this on myself. And what I want to know, is it true that things happen to us in our life over again as kind of a chance for us to do it right? Is that true? Is it a chance for us to ... We have it in front of us, we did it one way, right or wrong, and we get to do it again in a different way that makes us not quite so messed up, if you know what I mean?
ELIAS: Your boat shall not dock only once. It continues to come back to you repeatedly. You may view this as that you receive more than one chance to be accomplishing with different choices, or you may view that you are continuing and not necessarily repeating but offering yourself opportunities to be moving forward, disassembling shrines that you have assembled within your past within similar situations. You view patterns, for you offer yourself situations that are similar. They are not the same identically but they hold similarities, and you view yourself as moving within behavior similarly. This is your opportunity, in noticing, to alter your behavior and therefore initiate new choices.
Within physical focus, as you are faced with many emotional situations and feelings which are influenced by your belief systems, this creates confusion while you are dealing with certain issues. It also reinforces your own belief and feeling of duplicity. Therefore, as you all lean in the direction of the negativity, you automatically focus your attention in this direction, not allowing yourself to listen to subjective information and to see what you may view as the positive aspects of these situations.
You offer yourself the opportunity for growth. You have availed yourself of information, which as I have stated previously, each individual shall draw themselves to information which speaks to them. No information offered is wrong. Therefore, if you are benefiting from the information and it is edifying to you, it shall be a beneficial direction. I do not discourage this action at all. In addition to this, I encourage acknowledgment of self.
Within many different elements of information offered presently there is still held slight curves, shall we say, in underlying tones, which are reinforcing of old belief systems such as karma or duplicity. For the most part you may be incorporating information of other sources, and if you are carefully discerning you shall be offering yourself valuable tools in your movement within this present now, and also within your shift.
Be remembering, though, not to be caught in the underlying web of discounting self, for this you automatically do anyway. It is a continuing uphill struggle for you all, to be battling against these belief systems that you hold so very tightly in discounting of self and in lack of trustfulness of self, which creates doubt and confusion and conflict. Each time a situation arises within your everyday life that you question, you automatically lean to ideas of fault and inadequacy. You automatically attempt to be analyzing the situation and not viewing those areas of the situation which are reinforcing of self. You are only analyzing those areas which are questioning self. (Christie affirms)
You have been struggling for much time period within the same issue. You have offered yourself some reinforcing elements to be expressing positive movement, but now you may view that no matter how great your objective imagery or symbolism appears within actual objects physically, you continue to hold conflict, regardless; for these things are not what you seek. We have spoken previously much time ago of the wants that you desired physically. Now, within an attempt to be trusting of self, you achieve and acquire those very wants, and you are still unhappy.
I am remembering of our discussions of a little house and your wanting of movement in this area, but now you offer yourself the opportunity to view that although you may in actuality achieve successfulness in objectifying what you want in creating your reality physically, these are mere parlor tricks! (Christie laughs) They are not satisfactory, for within you are still confused; and although you may hold the ability to express to another that you may create your reality objectively, within you doubt this, for you do not create what you truly seek; this being what you identify as peacefulness and happiness and effortlessness within. Although you may accomplish this effortlessness outside, it is merely imagery; this being what we have spoken of many times, in that you are seeking the answer or the method to be attaining this effortlessness which resides within you already. You need only be trusting self.
This sounds very simple, but this faces you within every moment of every one of your days within every situation. You are faced continuously with opportunities to be trusting self or not trusting self, and acknowledging within that trustfulness that you accept you. This is not to say that you objectively act out, but within do not accept your expression. Within interaction of other individuals, as you express from an area of trusting within self and expressing what is beneficial to you, you must also accept your own expression and not be recoiling this within, although outwardly you continue your expression. Inwardly you are within argument of your outward expression.
These are, I am understanding, very difficult practices within physical focus, for you are accustomed to operating within the confines of your belief systems and those of mass accepted belief systems of acceptable behavior, and also of acceptable interaction within interpersonal relationships of any type. What you do not realize is that within expression of essence, within trusting and accepting of self, you shall be expressing within acceptable and beneficial means to not only yourself, but to all those around you also. As you are continuing to look to outside elements to be creating of your happiness and your fulfillment, you will continue to be disappointed; for you may quite temporarily feel somewhat of a satisfaction and an appeasement by outside creations, but this is fleeting. What is lasting and what shall create your true effortless and your true calm is that acceptance of self, in knowing that you are a worthy and perfect being.
In this, let me offer you a slight example of alteration of perception that you may draw upon, for this is quite common within physical focus. You are interacting with another individual upon very mundane lines. The subject matter may be very small or very large. It matters not. It may be as mundane as removing bread crumbs from a counter. Within the interaction, one individual views a situation and holds thought processes about this situation. In this, let me express, let us choose an absolute situation. I shall present you with a very simple, mundane situation ...
ELIAS: ... but it is applicable to all situations.
Individual number one is walking through their parlor and spies socks upon their floor. They look to the socks and they express, ‘Tsk, tsk, tsk! Why must individual number two always be placing the socks upon this floor? This is irresponsible! This is not cooperative and this is irritating!’ Individual one is operating within the framework of mass belief systems; allowing emotional response, allowing projection of judgment, allowing focus to be deferred off of self onto the behavior of another individual which they deem to be unacceptable.
Now; in altering perception, individual one may instead be inquiring of self, ‘Why is this irritating to me? How is this offensive or hurtful to me? Which belief system am I operating within? Does this matter? How does this hold importance to me? Is individual number two being hurtful to me? Do I feel devalued by the action of individual number two? If I feel devalued, why? For I hold no reason to be devalued.’ For no other individual may devalue you. It is only your only belief systems that allow this occurrence. If you are knowing and accepting of your value within you, it matters not the expression of another individual.
Let us express slightly differently. Within relationships between individuals, there is a consistent, constant striving for each individual to feel appreciated and valued by the other individual. If you are valuing and appreciating of self, you need not value from another individual. The input is not necessary. It may be accepted graciously, but it is not a necessity. Therefore, whatever is offered is accepted for it is not a need within you, for you are understanding already that you are accepting and appreciating of you. Individuals create conflict as they are attempting to change another individual or holding an expectation of another individual, which is the same; for as you hold an expectation of another individual, you are within although not thinkingly wanting their behavior to change and be expressed differently.
In this, we are entirely forgetful of the little sapling, which concerns itself not with the other sapling. (2) The other sapling may convolute itself in as many ways as it may possibly imagine and it affects not the straight sapling, for the straight sapling recognizes that that is its creation. It is not wrong. It is not worse. It is different; and within an acceptance that each individual creates their own reality, which is reality, and that you create your reality and are not a victim, it is acceptable for each to be creating within their own expression.
In this, one does not attempt to be directing of the other. As I have stated, this is not quite so easily accomplished, for you are quite accustomed within your belief systems to operating within different methods. You automatically lean into these belief systems. You automatically allow affectingness. Another individual may approach you and may verbally express a statement to you that you may feel automatically offensive within. You have automatically leaned into your mass belief systems without thought process. It is quite natural. You are attempting now to be altering and widening perceptions that you have held not only throughout this focus, but throughout many focuses. This is unfamiliar. Therefore, it is difficult. It is not impossible!
In this, I express to you that you have offered yourself quite a wondrous opportunity presently, if you be not viewing this in a negative direction. You have created objective imagery within ideals that you have expressed your wishing for. You have in certain areas allowed yourself to view your ability to create your own reality. You also allow yourself to view elements of self that are dissatisfactory to you. This is not negative. This is an opportunity to create new choices.
It is interesting that within belief systems, individuals are continuously concerned with how they are viewed by other individuals. They are also quite protective of their image and their camouflage.
You present your camouflage to the world and are very, very protective of this projection of image, and as it is challenged in any direction by any other individual, you must be drawing of your sword to be in defense of this camouflage! It is merely camouflage. And shall you die within what you think to be acquiescence? And if you shall, it matters not. It is only through the operation of belief systems, individually and en masse, that these elements become mattering. ‘I shall not allow another individual to be walking upon me! I shall not allow another individual to be taking advantage of me!’
CHRIS: So is there then anything to the statement that if someone believes something of you, and then you get your armor up in defense of that, that it’s possible ... the possibility in the belief system then is that it becomes true? Whereas if somebody believes something of you and you don’t defend yourself, you just go ‘Hmm,’ that it actually dissipates and is not true?
ELIAS: Partially. I express to you that you must be realizing of each situation and circumstance and individual that you are dealing with and evaluate each situation, for at times you may be presented with certain issues or circumstances that you may be drawing to yourself as mirror action, that you may be acquiring information for yourself to be addressing to issues that you hold. But within other circumstances you also may not be involved with this activity, and you may be confronted with the belief systems of another individual which are not held by yourself; this being where it is necessary to be accepting and trusting of self, that you may discern which situation you are being faced with. But regardless, within each situation you are not looking to self in chastisement. You are recognizing of your involvement within the situation and you are recognizing of the acceptance of self, and that even within an uncomfortable confrontation of mirror action, this does not pose to you the wrongness of self. It merely offers you an opportunity to view an element of self that you have chosen to be changing.
CHRIS: Okay. Can I throw out a circumstance here? I think I’m getting what you’re saying, in that in my relationships that I’ve had through the years ... It’s like I have a relationship with someone, I start a relationship with someone who I know inside me, this must be myself, isn’t going to work. And something tells me this isn’t going to work, and then I tell myself, ‘We’ll give it a go and see what happens.’ And then years go by, a couple of years go by, and then upheaval! And I think it’s because inside of me, that person that I should have trusted in the first place is going ‘ugh,’ trying to get out of my stronghold of going, ‘I’m going to make this work!’ And I’ve done this over and over and over, in my striving to find that thing on the outside to make me feel better, okay?
So now here I am again. I’m in this situation again. I did pretty good with the Lazslo thing I think, and I recognized that this wasn’t going to work and I went, ‘I’m out of here.’ But I’ve done exactly the same thing. I’ve picked somebody who I go, ‘Well, we’ll see what happens,’ knowing that it’s never going to work! The man is going to drive me absolutely nuts, right? So, in the past I’ve done numerous things. I get out of there, I don’t see them for years, and then I feel better because it’s completely out of my system. It’s like I have to take myself out of the situation to be able to breathe again. And now, it’s the same situation! It’s like ‘Hello again!’ And I don’t want to do this again! I do not want to go through this again!
ELIAS: You allow yourself to be distracted. Think with me carefully. Within the onset of a new relationship, you have moved yourself into an area of building confidence, although not entirely. Therefore, you face yourself and draw to yourself a situation of a new individual.
Now; realize that you may move to a certain point of acceptance of self. As you approach this point which you do not feel you may cross beyond, you begin to seek out, not within thought process but you do within energy, seek out a new individual as partner, to be continuing that expression of acceptance that you may not continue for yourself. Therefore, you have moved to a certain point within self; and as this stops and becomes blocked, you are also realizing that this is not completely accomplished and there is a need for more movement. You do not trust self to accomplish this. Therefore, you begin to look outside, believing that outside will provide the missing element and finish the project.
In this, innerly you do hold a recognition that in your terms this shall not work, for you are understanding subjectively that you are not going to accomplish what you seek by drawing outside elements. It is necessary to be crossing that line and continuing with acceptance within and exploring and acknowledging within, but as this is a very definite blocking cut-point, you move to the area of shifting your objective to outside. In this, within your diligence you attempt all possible to be accomplishing within the given relationship, continuing for a reasonable time period but eventually recognizing that this is not your answer; therefore placing yourself back to your line, expressing inwardly to yourself [that] you must offer this trustfulness and acceptance to yourself, and recognizing that no other individual shall be capable of giving this to you.
You may be accepting of another individual’s expression freely and hold joyfulness in this once you have already crossed your own line of acceptance and have learned the acceptance of self, for you reach a point with other individuals that you recognize that their acceptance is not adequate. It is not enough. You are needing more. There are time periods that they hold no understanding. There are time periods that they are not accepting of your expression. They are not unconditionally supportive continuously, which is what you seek. But you are, to you! (Christie chuckles) Another individual shall never entirely always be accepting of every expression of you, for they are a different individual and their reality is approached from a different perception.
CHRIS: But I can be entirely accepting of me!
ELIAS: Yes, absolutely!
CHRIS: So in accepting of self, you just accept anything that happens. If you do something that in your belief system is say wrong, you just accept it and say, ‘Yeah, well. Oh well! This is me. This is who I am.’
CHRIS: ‘This is me, and it’s not wrong.’
CHRIS: ‘This is me, and it’s pure love.’
ELIAS: Yes, and do not confuse yourself with temporary distraction. As you have come to your line that you will not cross, as you draw to yourself another individual to continue what you will not allow yourself to continue, you very efficiently distract yourself with feelings. You enter emotions of infatuation or excitement. The excitement distracts you from your objective. The excitement is misinterpreted. The excitement becomes consuming, and allows you the opportunity to not be focusing within any longer and distracting yourself away from self to focusing upon another individual. In this, you reinforce yourself by expressing that you hold feelings. The feelings confuse you; but as a candle, within a certain time period it burns away, for it is temporary. Its temporariness is dependent upon how much you wish to be distracting of yourself and how far away from your line you wish to go. At times you are choosing to be extending this time period for quite a while, not wishing to be approaching this line and having to be accepting of self. Now you move to a time period of shorter, and the realization that this is not the direction that you wish to pursue.
I offer you a break, and I shall return to be discussing with you further momentarily.
CHRIS: Okay, thank you.
ELIAS: You are welcome.
BREAK: 6:14 PM.
ELIAS: Continue, Oliver [Christie].
CHRIS: Okay. So I guess then the next step is getting past that wall, getting past that point where then I start looking out for something else to entertain me so that I don’t have to deal with ... So then that’s really what I need. And once I get past that wall, then more things will open up for me and I’ll just ...
CHRIS: ... I’ll get it!
ELIAS: Be remembering that this shall be more difficult than it appears in words; for within your species, once you enter into the throes of your emotional state, many times you disengage your rationality and you allow yourselves to move into the acceptance of the ‘rightness’ of your feelings. You do not always recognize that there are times that you are engaging these feelings to be distracting you.
CHRIS: Hmm. Well, oftentimes it’s kind of hard to discern whether to go with the feelings or which direction to go, whether you ignore what’s going on or you actually go with it.
ELIAS: This being the recognition of the acceptance of self. If you have moved to an area of acceptance of self, you shall not be seeking out this distraction. Therefore, when you do draw yourself or allow yourself to be drawn into a relationship with another individual, it shall hold a different quality. It shall not appear initially so all-consuming. It shall not be so all-distracting. You shall hold a balance in awareness, continuing your awareness of self and your direction while also accepting the relationship and interplay of another individual.
There are indicating factors that you may look to presently that are suggestive to you that you have approached your line and are not willing to be crossing this line, and are now beginning to distract yourself by looking outward. Your objective imagery shall be quite indicative of this, to where you distract yourself initially entirely! You may continue in your activities that you normally engage, but you shall also involve the other individual within these activities. You shall feel the need to be connected to this other individual within all of your activities, and therefore preventing yourself from independent activity.
CHRIS: Okay, I can appreciate that. I’ve been doing that a lot. I’m at a turning point at the moment, okay? Am I up against that wall going, ‘I don’t want to do this anymore?’ Is that what I’m doing? I’m kind of at a place where I just really want to look at myself? (Elias is nodding)
Okay. I belong to this club and I’m involved in the club, and I’m thinking Gaylon also belongs to the club, and I’m thinking of getting out of it completely and not being distracted by that anymore because I’m not sure how to handle that anymore. Is that trying to get through my wall, or is it another diversion? How do I know?
ELIAS: These are indications that you are attempting to offer yourself the opportunity to change your direction. These indicators are speaking to you, in an effort to divert you away from those elements that you normally magnate to for your distraction. You place yourself into situations that allow you a ready availability of distraction if you are wishing to avail yourself of this distraction. In this, presently you are offering yourself the opportunity to create different choices and move away from this situation that you have set up quite efficiently for yourself previously. Within your involvement in this organization, you hold a continuous, steady opportunity to be engaging your distraction. As you move away from one you may engage another, for the availability is present.
CHRIS: Right. And so how do I then stay on track? I don’t have a real good track record of staying on track with things!
ELIAS: You may choose to be continuing with your affiliation to this organization if you are wishing, but be remembering that this also serves you in your method of your distraction. Therefore, it creates another obstacle of which you must be aware. This is not a ‘bad thing!’ It is only that you must hold an awareness of the areas that you place yourself within. You may be choosing to disengage and eliminate that temptation, so to speak. This is your choice. Some individuals choose to be disengaging from those elements which do not serve them and create added obstacles to their course. Some individuals do not choose to disengage. It is entirely a choice. The awareness is there. You are understanding that the situation presents a ready opportunity to be slipping into your method of distraction.
CHRIS: Okay. What can I do? What are some kind of guidelines to do to get over that wall? I mean, are we talking meditation? I can’t analyze myself to death, you know. What exactly do I need to do?
ELIAS: You need not analyze yourself to death! You need be recognizing of your own imagery and your own signals. Be listening to self. Recognize that which you understand. You are understanding of your feelings. They are expressing communication to you. They are not in conflict with your thoughts. When your feelings are in conflict with your thoughts, then you may be evaluating; as when you are entering into a relationship, your feelings are excited and carrying you off. Your thoughts are expressing reluctance. Therefore, they are not in agreement.
ELIAS: Presently, your thoughts and your feelings are in agreement. As they are in agreement and as you are emotionally-focused, listen to what you are expressing to yourself through your language. You are expressing that you are not satisfied, that you are unhappy. You hold the ability to alter this. Think first of self.
CHRIS: Which goes entirely against our belief system!
ELIAS: Absolutely. Think first of self. Concern yourself with self and be attending to self. In this, you shall be benefiting of others also. This is not to say that I encourage negativity or maliciousness to others, but you express severity to self presently. This is for your attention. You are yelling to yourself presently. Therefore, listen!
CHRIS: Okay. So what I’m coming to believe is that if we are accepting of ourselves, and in that time that we become accepting of ourselves then our life becomes effortless, and because I’ve done a few parlor tricks, so to speak, and what I think I’ve done is recognize the effortless of a few things, and therefore in those respects I have become recognizing of myself.
ELIAS: Correct. You have offered yourself some imagery to be expressing this to yourself and to be validating of yourself. In this, you are moving yourself to the point that you are at now.
CHRIS: Right. And another expression of being able to accept self is living in the present?
CHRIS: As opposed to thinking of the past, wishing for the future, living in the present. I’ve noticed that when I have sat down and actually lived in the present ... there’s been a few times! ... that things happen differently. Things happen to me, and it’s not a trick. It’s just an awareness. Like I will say, ‘Where are my glasses?’ And I’ll be in the present, and I’ll look and I’ll find them. I mean, it’s just amazing. And so maybe I’m being shown a picture of what it can really be like?
ELIAS: You are showing yourself ...
CHRIS: Ah, okay ...
ELIAS: ... your picture.
CHRIS: Of what it really can be like, and that’s maybe why all of this is just kind of hitting me at one time?
ELIAS: Yes.” [session 180, June 03, 1997]
MARCOS: “I have a bunch of questions that I want to ask. I think I’m going to start with the most difficult one for me. Can you tell me what my connection is with my wife? I’ve been separated for two years and I’m having an extremely, extremely difficult time. I have this sense of guilt that has permeated my life for the last two years, and I’ve found out a lot of really wonderful things about relationships and about myself. In a way, my life has been moving in some very positive directions, like being here and meeting the people here, and growing in that sense. But in a very different sense, I’m at a standstill, and I really don’t know which way to turn. I have this wonderful relationship with Paul [Norma], (3) but I have this sense of loss within me that has been with me all this time, and I think even before. I have these dreams continuously, where I wake up with a very strong sensation of loss; just this void, this vacuum, this nothingness. I have been working with therapy for the last year-and-a-half. Can you shed some light on this, Elias?
ELIAS: It is amusing at times that individuals move in directions in the area of going to great lengths to be understanding their own behavior and feelings and incorporating more belief systems within the area of psychology, when they might merely look to the existing belief systems and examine these and offer themselves their answers and their movement through certain belief systems which cause issues, and in this neutralize the affectingness of many of these belief systems; but you choose within your societies within this present now to be adding more belief systems to your existing belief systems within the area of engaging psychology.
These feelings, this dream imagery, this sense of guilt all stem from belief systems that you hold in areas of what you view to be responsible and right. In accepting other individuals’ belief systems in these areas that concern relationships, you also adopt more belief systems to yourself and therefore create feelings of guilt and loss and lacking and void. These stem from belief systems in the area of how people should be responsibly interacting with each other within commitment and within relationships. These are belief systems.
You have all created very intricate belief systems concerning relationships. You guide yourselves through these belief systems and you plan your behavior in accordance with these belief systems. You create so very many belief systems in the area of relationships that you complicate your relationships extensively and you also create an allowance for much non-acceptance within the action of relationships. You do not accept the other individual’s expression. They do not accept your expression. You do not accept the other individual’s thought process. They do not accept your thought process. This all stems from your own individual belief systems and those that you exchange with each other. You bounce belief systems to each other.
One is expressed within your responsibility to this individual: You ‘should’ be acting within this manner. You accept this, but this is the other individual’s belief system. You take this in and adopt this as your own belief system also, and then you chastise yourself if you are falling short of the accomplishment of the belief system. Therefore, you perpetuate this circle of these belief systems over and over and become hurtful to each other within the exchange of non-acceptance, non-allowance, and merely operating within the framework of volleying belief systems to each other. Many individuals grow tired of this action and disengage their relationships, but in this they continue to hold the acquired belief systems, and also are influenced by underlying religious belief systems which express to you that you must be behaving within certain manners, and you reinforce your own element of duplicity in this. This creates the feeling of ‘guiltiness.’
This one emotion, I have expressed previously, other than fear, is the most devastating action that you may engage within yourselves personally. This is the most harmful emotion and action that you may enforce upon yourself. It is also, in a manner of speaking, a waste of energy, in a manner of speaking; for no energy is wasted, but in certain terms, it is destructive and it is very unnecessary and it is extremely hurtful to self. I have expressed many times that no other individual upon your planet may be nearly as hurtful to you as you may be to yourself.
Many individuals experience this same emotion. You have been taught throughout your life and within the belief systems of your religious elements that you must be denying of yourself. Your element of duplicity is reinforced continuously, and within the denial of self and your chastisement of self continuously, individuals such as yourself are continually striving to be ‘better,’ for they are not accepting of self and the perfectness of self within the now. You are always looking for how you may objectify yourself ‘better,’ that you may be a better person, that you may be more of this or more of that. You are perfect within your expression within the now. YOU do not feel this, for you present yourselves with belief systems that you are choosing to engage, to be moving through and accepting.
In this, as you present yourself with these belief systems, you objectify many different behaviors and much unofficial information to be offering you the opportunity to view the belief systems and to be attempting to be accepting of them and accepting of self. There is no need for guilt. You have experimented within an experience of a relationship, and you have chosen to disengage this experimentation and move to a new experimentation with a new relationship. You may alter your behavior within the different relationships and offer yourself new experiences that you may find more comfortable, which is also an indication of moving into a more accepting area with yourself and with other individuals.
At times within your belief systems, you believe that ‘too much water has passed beneath your bridge’ to be accepting of one individual, and therefore you must be disengaging; and you chastise yourself and you feel guilty, for you feel you have failed. You have not failed! You have merely chosen to disengage one experience and move to another experience. In this, you may offer yourself some comfort in knowing that regardless of the acceptance of the other individual, you yourself may be accepting of yourself and of this other individual regardless, and this shall be alleviating of much of your conflict.
If you are acknowledging of yourself and expressing that there is no necessity for you to be feeling guilt – it has merely been an experience; there is no guilt – and if you are accepting of yourself, that you are not underlyingly a failure or ‘bad’ and recognizing that these are merely expressions of your own belief systems, then you may also be accepting of the other individual regardless of expression, and know that these expressions are also filtered through their belief systems and stemming from their belief systems. This is not a reflection upon you. It is merely an expression through another individual’s belief systems. You need not need be holding these. (Pause)
MARCOS: Thank you.
ELIAS: As to your connection with this individual, you have held previous, so to speak – for there is no previous – relationships in other focuses with this individual also. In some, you have created similar actions of conflict; not necessarily within the same form of relationship, but in the form of siblings which held much conflict with each other. This also bleeds through into this focus, for all of your focuses are affecting of all other focuses. Therefore, elements bleed through. You are not repeating actions, you are continuing actions; but this also offers you more choices, for in the continuance of these actions in bleed-throughs, you offer yourselves more information and create new choices, therefore moving away from your conflict and into new areas of experience. Is this helpful?
MARCOS: Very much. Thank you.” [session 218, September 15, 1997]
VICKI: “I do have a question for Mary, and for myself too. I almost conveniently forgot about this question till recently. But the question is, what belief systems are most influencing of mine and Mary’s interaction and relationship presently that have not been identified by either one of us?
ELIAS: You are not identifying strongly-held belief systems of relationships and what you term to be friendships. You both hold different perceptions of these belief systems and you are not addressing to these belief systems, for within your perception these seem to be surfacely, although they are not. You have each held very strong belief systems in this area throughout your focuses. You hold expectations of the action of friendships in relationships, and you hold designs on behavior which you deem to be acceptable and unacceptable. Therefore, you are not addressing to these belief systems, which are very strong.
There are also other individuals that are adjoined within this situation, for you reinforce your own belief systems with your relationships with other individuals which you deem to be close to you; those individuals within the pyramid, and a few outside of the pyramid. But also, there is an affectingness within the pyramid and the non-acceptance of each other’s creations of each of your individual realities. This issue runs very deep. I have expressed this previously many times, but you are not quite connecting with the interconnectedness of all of these issues and the issue of acceptance, which is much greater than you view.
Also, there is an element of issues concerning control individually and collectively and a struggle within this too, for you each hold belief systems that you hold your control to and are not willing to be relinquishing this. Therefore, you may be addressing to these belief systems and allowing yourselves to be accepting of each other in your creations, and addressing to your individual belief systems which are directly affecting of this forum which you have already identified. It is all very interconnected. The base belief system that you are not viewing, though, is the issue of your expectations regarding relationships as friendships.” [session 221, September 21, 1997]
SUE: “Well, the main reason why I wanted this was one particular question that’s been a problem all my life, and I was hoping you could shed some light on it. It’s about men and my lack of relationships with them. I basically get along fine with them as friends, and don’t ever get anywhere beyond that. I wondered if you could talk about why I do this, or how I’m doing it, or how I can change it. (Pause)
ELIAS: This would be a situation of conflicting belief systems. In one area you hold one belief system in regard to relationships and a fascination with this subject, and viewing yourself as female and that you may not be entirely complete without holding this type of relationship. But you also hold a conflicting belief system that engaging within a relationship of male and female shall be threatening to your own independence and identity.
Therefore, you wish not to sacrifice within your belief system your own independence and identify for the sake of holding the relationship, for within the first belief system, in holding the relationship to create yourself as a whole person, you look to a partner to be completing you, but within the second belief system you oppose the first belief system, expressing to yourself that this other individual shall be taking something from you as opposed to adding something to you.
In this, you hold the opposing belief system that you are adequate within yourself and need no completion with a partner. As these two belief systems battle within you continuously, you allow yourself temporary interludes, but you do not allow yourself to move into the area of what YOU term to be in your belief systems commitment within the area of a relationship, for this is threatening.
SUE: That makes a lot of sense.
ELIAS: Many individuals experience great conflict when they are allowing two very, very strong core belief systems to be held in opposition to each other simultaneously.
SUE: Can you tell me how I developed these conflicting belief systems? If that’s worth asking ... I don’t know.
ELIAS: The first belief system is a mass-held belief system. Therefore, this would be what you may term to be almost an automatic acquiring of this belief system, for it is held within mass and it is taught to individuals, male and female.
The second belief system you have acquired within yourself, striving within your own OTHER belief systems, in relation to your other belief systems, of a feeling of adequacy and worth within yourself, therefore developing a belief system that it is ‘better’ to be independent and self-sufficient, creating an opposing belief system to the mass belief system, but also creating conflict within yourself in an inability to reconcile these two belief systems to each other.
SUE: So I developed the second one without giving up the first?
SUE: What can I do to ease this conflict?
ELIAS: Recognize that within this particular dimension, you are emotional and sexual focuses. This is your experience within this dimension. You merely develop belief systems in these areas. In recognizing the belief systems that you hold, you may allow yourself the opportunity to address to these belief systems and therefore neutralize their power that they hold within you, recognizing that many belief systems are also very limiting of you. (Pause)
SUE: Yes. Okay....
ELIAS: Look to an example of a belief system that is limiting that is held within mass. It may not be creating of great conflict and it may not be viewed by you as so very serious, but it may offer an example of the limiting power of belief systems in certain areas.
Within the context of relationships and sexuality, many individuals hold the belief system of age. An individual shall not allow themselves to engage within a relationship with another individual if they are holding great age difference. One individual may be experiencing what you term in your terms to be mid-life, and another individual may be quite young. The older individual restricts themselves within a non-allowance of interaction with the younger individual, for they hold belief systems that this is not right.
‘This individual holds the age of my children. Therefore, I may not allow myself an engagement of interaction with this individual, for this is wrong.’ This is a belief system. You may view how this is limiting of your interaction, for you deny yourself the opportunity to be interactive and limit your choices.
I am not advocating that an individual seeks out other individuals holding great age differences, but I am also not condemning this action. It is merely a choice that is influenced by your belief systems, and within these belief systems limitations are created.
SUE: I see. That’s an interesting example because I tend to think in terms of finding someone who’s very close to my age. I don’t like the thought of being with someone much older or much younger, and I hadn’t stopped to think that it is just a belief system.
ELIAS: Quite, which creates limitations, for you narrow your choices as you create limitations for yourself.
SUE: Okay. That makes sense about the conflict between belief systems because I’ve kind of gone for years thinking that there was something wrong with me, and yet there wasn’t anything wrong with me that I could see, if that makes sense. And I kept thinking that maybe the only thing wrong was that I thought there was something wrong with me! But that makes sense. Okay, I’ll have to think about that. Thank you. That’s very helpful.
ELIAS: You are welcome.” [session 256, January 10, 1998]
TOM: “I had an impulse to talk to you again, a sudden impulse, and have done it quickly here. Sena [Melinda] sends her greetings.
ELIAS: And you may return the greetings from myself.
TOM: And her affection.
ELIAS: And likewise.
TOM: Okay. I guess I have a question for her too, that she wanted me to ask. Her question is about the perspective of the beliefs that are most affecting the situation with her ex-husband at the moment, in case she missed any, if you have any input you could give on that?
ELIAS: Let me express that she may be examining and moving in the direction of noticing her own dealing with Acceptance 102, for there are many belief systems that are involved with the main belief system of relationships. At this time period presently, many individuals are moving into an action of addressing to this same belief system of relationships.
Now; as I have expressed previously, belief systems are as a bird cage, and all of the aspects of the belief systems are elements of the one belief system. The aspects of the belief system or the bird cage are the birds which are contained within the cage.
Therefore, you may look to one belief system, and if delving into the belief system thoroughly, you may find that there are very many aspects that are contained within each belief system. There are MORE aspects to those belief systems that are held en masse. The belief systems surrounding the situation of relationships between individuals hold very, very many aspects in very many directions. Therefore, this also enters into the situation that Sena [Melinda] finds herself in the midst of dealing with.
Relationships are not limited to male/female or intimate relationships in romantic areas, but the belief system of relationships is much broader and much more affecting than individuals allow themselves to view and to notice. In this, all of the different aspects of any type of relationship cross over each other into all other types of relationships. Individuals lean in the direction of separating and boxing different types of relationships into certain categories, and in this action they do not allow themselves to view all of the other affecting elements that are attached to the belief system of relationships.
As you move into the area of examining these belief systems and this particular belief system of relationships between individuals within physical focus, there is also an opportunity provided to each individual to be moving more into the areas of acceptance of self and acceptance of other individuals, for you offer yourselves more information, and in this offering to yourselves you also move in the direction of understanding the information that you are offering to yourself. In understanding, you lend an ease to the action of acceptance, within self and within other individuals.
Now; let me express to you that it is unnecessary for you to hold objective understanding of given situations to be accepting of them, but within physical focus you do move in the direction of leaning into more of an easement if you are offering yourself information, that you may understand situations and belief systems. Offering yourselves understanding through accessing information lends itself to your own belief systems, that you may not be accepting of that which you do not understand.
Now; let me also express to you that this may seem inconsistent in that I am expressing that it is important for you all to be moving into the area of accepting belief systems and not necessarily to be perpetuating belief systems, and in what I have just expressed, I am expressing to you that in moving into an offering of understanding, you are perpetuating another belief system. But at times you may be lending energy into certain belief systems to be addressing to other belief systems that may be more difficult for you to be moving through and to be accepting, and as you offer yourselves the opportunity to be accepting more and more of any given belief system, you also lend energy to yourselves and to all others en masse [in] an easement into the acceptance of all other belief systems.
Therefore, my expression to Sena [Melinda] is to examine all of the aspects of the belief system of relationship, recognizing that regardless of the expression of any relationship, be it that of child and parent or that of friendships or that of romantic entanglements or any other type of relationship and all expressions of orientations within any type of relationship, they all cross over each other and they all have affectingness within every type of relationship.
Therefore, she may address to all of these aspects, and this shall provide her with more information as to the action of how to be moving into a more efficient area of acceptance in this situation.” [session 297, July 14, 1998]
CARTER: “… and my final question is, is there anything that you would like to offer that will assist me in expanding my awareness?
ELIAS: As I have stated previously with all other individuals, presently within this time framework the focus moves in the direction very strongly of being attentive to self and addressing to one’s individual belief systems and moving into the direction of acceptance of self in these belief systems, which shall be helpful in the area of accepting of belief systems. This be the main focus, so to speak, of the movement within consciousness in this present time framework.
In the present now, as to addressing to specific belief systems, which I shall be addressing at our next forum within physical focus, the movement within a consciousness wave presently is to be addressing to the belief system and all the aspects that accompany the belief system of relationships presently. Therefore, this particular belief system is and shall continue to be for a time framework surfacing, so to speak, en masse with very many individuals in their own different expressions of it.” [session 300, July 21, 1998]
ELIAS: “This evening we shall be discussing the present wave in consciousness occurring which is affecting en masse, and in this discussion we shall be focusing upon the belief system which is the most affecting and that which this particular wave in consciousness addresses to presently.
Let me initially express to you that as we move more fully into the expression of this shift in consciousness, these waves shall become more frequent and more intense, therefore pulling to the surface of your objective awareness those belief systems which shall be addressed to en masse and shall be the most beneficial to you within your societies and individually. Within this present now, the belief system which moves the wave in consciousness that you address to is that of relationships.
Now; let me express that you separate your ideas of relationships into many different areas. I shall also express to you a reminder that this is one belief system. Each belief system that you hold, as I have stated previously, holds many, many aspects.
Therefore, I shall reiterate, in my analogy of belief systems in comparison, that the belief system itself is as that of a bird cage, and the aspects of the belief system are all of the birds that the cage holds. These cages, the belief systems, hold many, many, many birds. There are hundreds of aspects to each given belief system.
Therefore, as you address to the belief system of relationships, this also holds very many aspects. You separate these aspects into different compartments, so to speak. You create individual ideas in differentiating one type of relationship from another type of relationship. You think very differently as to your relationship with your employer than you do in looking to a relationship with your child. You look at relationships involving other individuals romantically very differently from relationships of friendships or relationships that you look to in your parents. There are many different types of relationships that you identify with.
You also hold relationships with your communities, with your governments, with your world. You hold relationships with what you believe to be your ‘higher self’ or other aspects of consciousness. You hold relationships with that which you may term to be god or other such ‘beings,’ so to speak. This shift in consciousness moves these belief systems into your objective awareness, that you may address to the belief systems and all of the aspects that are connected to these belief systems, that you may offer yourselves the opportunity to be accepting of these belief systems.
In this, let us examine these belief systems and this particular belief system of relationship, for you place very many judgments in this particular belief system, which shall serve as an example to all other belief systems, for all belief systems hold judgments. Be they in what you term to be positive or negative, good or bad, they are all judgments. Your positive or ‘good’ assessments of any element within your focus is also a judgment. The accomplishment of acceptance of belief systems is to be accomplishing the lack of judgment in any aspect of the belief system.
There is much affectingness that occurs within the belief system of relationships. This be the reason that it has been chosen by you all, within essence and your subjective awareness within physical focus, to be addressing to and therefore creating a wave in consciousness that may lend energy to the accomplishment of your focusing upon this particular belief system. This is not to say that you shall be focusing upon this belief system in negative areas, for you may be focusing your attention in the area of the belief system of relationship and offering yourself information in what you term to be positive directions. But let me also bring to your attention the limitations of this belief system, for you DO move in the direction of MUCH separation with this particular belief system. You shall not be interactive and engaging of a small one – children – in the same manner that you shall be engaging of individuals that you term to be adults. You shall not engage individuals that you term to be friends in the same manner that you shall engage or interact with an authority. As you look to your societies and your governments, you shall not interact with your police state in the same manner that you engage an individual that you are romantically inclined with. And why be this that you engage these individuals so very differently? These are the aspects of the belief system.
Let me express to you that relationships are relationships. They are interactions with other individuals within physical focus. In acceptance of self – Acceptance 102, remedial – and in acceptance of other individuals – Acceptance 101, of which I am the professor (grinning) – you engage other individuals in an allowance of their expression of themselves and their energy, recognizing that they filter their expression through their own belief systems.(Vic’s note: something odd is occurring here with these references to Acceptance 101 and Acceptance 102. When this information was originally delivered, Elias defined Acceptance 101 as acceptance of self, and Acceptance 102 as acceptance of other individuals. Here, he is defining it oppositely. Dyslexia? Dunno! For reference: follow these links to Acceptance 102: session 217, September 14, 1997 | Acceptance 101: session 236, November 08, 1997.)
(Paul’s note: Elias later clarified this “mistake” in session 333, October 19, 1998.)
ELIAS: You are not better than they, and they are not better than you, and you are not worse than they, and they are not worse than you! You are merely different. Your expressions are different. You choose to move in different directions, for your attention moves in different directions for different experiences, but there is no bad or wrong or right or good to any of these expressions.
This particular wave in energy within consciousness presently allows you the opportunity, in addressing to this belief system of relationship and all of its aspects, to drop many of your separations that create limitations within yourselves, within your societies, individually and en masse, for within these separations you also place judgments, not only upon yourselves ... which you do!
If you are not accomplishing within a particular relationship, I shall wager to express that you shall initially turn your attention to yourselves and be questioning what you have created wrong, placing a judgment upon yourselves. And after you have initially looked to yourselves and expressed, ‘What have I created wrong or inefficiently?’, you shall move yourselves into the direction of expressing quite righteously, ‘I have expressed nothing. It is the OTHER individual’s fault! (Laughter) The OTHER individual is creating of massive turmoil and is affecting of myself, and I shall be righteously indignant as to their expression!’ (Grinning, and more laughter) Incorrect!
This is a very good example ... I am aware there is no good! But within your terms within physical focus, this example serves well to illustrate to you how you create judgments, and that this issue of relationship holds much more affectingness than you allow yourselves the awareness of. Let us focus on some of your types of expressions of relationships.
Initially, you enter into physical focus as a small one. You have a relationship with other individuals within physical focus that you term to be parents, and you shall be the child. Their relationship with you is very packed with aspects of this belief system.
Mothers view themselves to be ultimately responsible for your growth and nurturing, and therefore they are quite expressive of this belief system and many of the aspects of this belief system.
Fathers are engaging this belief system in the area of holding the responsibility for your guidance and also to be blocking of your impulses, for we are all very aware that your impulses are unnatural and are very bad, (laughter) and therefore we shall be blocking of these animalistic expressions that you as a small one shall be entering into and guiding you in the path ... one of my very favorite terms: path! You have no path! But you shall be guided upon your path, (laughter) that you shall be engaging appropriately and within your officially accepted reality in your established societies, which also hold very many rules and aspects which are all elements of this same belief system of relationship!
You, as the small one, shall also engage in the belief system of relationship, for you shall turn your attention to these individuals that you term to be parents and you shall be looking to them to be creating of your reality for you, for we also are all very aware that you do not create your reality! Another individual shall create it for you! Very, very incorrect! YOU create your reality from the moment that you enter into physical focus and you draw to you ALL of your experiences.
(Intently) Even as an infant, you are drawing to you the experiences that you choose to be engaging within the beginning throes of your physical focus. Your parents are not creating your reality for you!
But within very small ages, you have already adopted this belief system and moved into the direction of expectation; another very powerful term in relation to belief systems, for where you hold belief systems, you not only hold judgment but you hold expectation, and one of your very first expectations is that other individuals shall be responsible for you, shall be caring for you, and shall be directing of your reality. Therefore, you need not be responsible for your reality, for another individual shall be responsible for you! (Grinning)
As you move through your focus you begin to engage other individuals, other small ones, and once again the belief systems are in full play, for now you enter into the aspect of this belief system which deals with behavior. Your behavior must be appropriate! (Laughter) There is appropriate behavior and there is inappropriate behavior! You may not move to your small companion and be stomping upon his foot! He shall be disliking of this action and he may be knocking you within your head, and this shall be creating of physical conflict!
Now; let me express to you that in this action, outside of the belief system and the dictates of the behavior, you may be expressing an impulse and the other small one may be expressing of an impulse also, and once expressed, the emotion shall be set aflight and shall not be held to.
But you have already been taught that these impulses are bad and are not to be trusted, and that this behavior is inappropriate and not acceptable. Therefore, there is a creation of a perpetuation of emotional response, for now you enter into the area of judgment: ‘You have stomped upon my foot! You are bad! I shall slap you in the head! I am good! You are viewing me as bad!’ It matters not. ‘I am angry, for you are not within compliance to myself! You are angry, for I am not in compliance with yourself!’
Now we enter into the area of holding energy and not allowing for the impulse expression to merely be expressed and fly away. Now you are entering into the areas of learning to be holding to your energy, creating judgments, holding expectations, and now creating separations.
Certain individuals shall not be physically assaulting – your parents – unless you are choosing to be engaging in this action. Ideally within your societies, they shall not be striking you, but your playmate is! This offers you information objectively to be creating of a separation. This is the beginnings of your separating of different types of relationships, and what may be acceptable within one type of relationship and what is not acceptable within a different type of relationship.
As you are adults, you may hold relationships with other individuals in friendships and you may allow yourselves to be expressive in this. You may also move to the area of your employ and you shall not be so very free in your expression with your employer, for this is unacceptable behavior. You may not allow yourself to be freely expressive of yourself. Your societies dictate that this is unacceptable. Your behavior is not acceptable. Therefore, YOU are not acceptable, and if you are not acceptable, other individuals are not acceptable.
And as you address to this belief system and begin to recognize these different aspects of this belief system, you may also offer yourself the viewing of separations and the limitations in these separations. Your separations are created merely in a recognition of differences and a lack of acceptance of differences.
You may choose, in the area of relationship, to be moving into what we express as romantic areas. Within your society – within this particular society – there are many belief systems in this area. There are many, many aspects to the belief system of relationship in this particular area. What is acceptable within your society is to be paired male and female, to be moving into the direction of procreation, to be responsible, to engage a coupling in your ceremony of matrimony. This is your officially accepted area of your belief system as to this type of relationship.
Now; let me remind you, this is merely the physical aspect of this. There are many, many, many birds in this cage that interact with each other as to the action of your relationship and the EXPRESSION of your relationship in this particular area, many, many MORE aspects of this expression as to what is acceptable and what is not acceptable within your expressions in this type of relationship, but now we move into dangerous areas of unacceptable relationships. It shall be quite unacceptable for you to engage a relationship with a female and a female. It shall be very unacceptable for you to engage within a relationship of a male and a male. And let us all shudder for any other idea! (Much laughter) We shall not be discussing those types of relationships this evening! We are horrified enough with the unofficial relationships that are not accepted by the officially accepted reality of societies!
But look now to your societies and the waves and movement. At the onset of this shift in consciousness, any deviation from the officially accepted reality within your societies was not only frowned upon, but the judgment was severe. Within your present now, as you move close to the turnpoint of your new century and you move more quickly into the action of this shift in consciousness, you also experience more of an acceptance. Therefore, I express to you that although you may find yourselves in the thought processes of negativity at times, expressing to yourselves and to other individuals that you move much too slowly and that awareness is not moving in the direction efficiently of being accepting, look to the movement which you yourselves have created within the accomplishment of this century. For within this time framework, which is a mere flutter in all of your linear time, you have created immense movement in the direction of this shift in consciousness and its purpose, so to speak, of acceptance. That which you express freely within this present now, you may have held the expectation of doom at the turn of your last century.
Therefore, be acknowledging of yourselves in your movement, but also recognize that you have more movement to be accomplishing, and in this movement be reminding yourselves of this Acceptance 101, that which be the acceptance of other individuals, and be reminding yourself of Acceptance 102, remedial. You have not moved into the area of Acceptance 102 alone. This you find much more difficult to be accomplishing – acceptance of self – than acceptance of other individuals. It is much more fun to be not accepting of self! It is quite easy to be moving into the direction of hurtfulness to self, and you may accomplish this so very efficiently because you can move into the area of quietness. You may be non-accepting of self silently! (Laughter) It is more difficult in the area of acceptance of other individuals to be quite so silent, but you are quite efficient at this action with yourselves! Therefore, you have not yet moved away from remedial Acceptance 102! (Grinning) Let me express to you also that ALL relationships hold ALL aspects of ALL other relationships, for they all cross over each other, for you hold them all within you. Therefore, EVERY relationship that you engage with ANY other individual, AND YOURSELF ALSO, holds ALL of the aspects of this belief system in EVERY TYPE of relationship that you may engage within physical focus, for these are all aspects of your experience and you apply them in some form or another to EVERY relationship that you hold, not merely those of romantic inclination.
Shall we shudder to think that a mother suckling an infant experiences romantic and sexual affectingness with this small one? Oh no! We may not be expressing of this, for this is unacceptable! It is natural within your physical expression. As I have stated many times previously, you have created this dimension expressly for the exploration of experiences in the direction of sexuality and emotion. Therefore, why shall you NOT experience both of these expressions in EVERY aspect of your creations? In ALL of your experiences within physical focus, you shall! You are merely not recognizing of all of this objectively, for you hold the belief system that limits you and blocks your awareness of your expressions in certain areas, for certain awarenesses also are unacceptable.
You shall not allow yourself to move into the area of exploration, even secretly, of all of the aspects of this belief system that you hold with your employer! Oh my! God forbid us! (Humorously) This is not an individual. You do not hold a relationship with this individual. This is a manufactured plastic representation of an individual which expresses orders to you, but holds no reality, of course! (Laughter) For this is not an individual, and you do not hold a relationship with this plastic representation. And I express to you, oh yes you do! (Chuckling) You merely do not allow yourself the viewing of your interaction and all of its aspects with this type of individual.
You shall also not enter into the area of viewing that you hold any business relationship with your daughter or your son of merely five years. They are your child. They are a small one. What know they of any of this type of situation of business? But you engage business aspects with these small ones continuously. You barter with them, (laughter) and they are quite effective at bartering with you! (Everybody cracks up)
You are very quick learners in these belief systems and are acclimated quite efficiently to them, for you all are quite efficient at assimilating information very quickly within a very small time frame. As you enter into physical focus, you acclimate to these belief systems very quickly and you are implementing of them very quickly, and you are accepting of their expressions and that you shall be engaging their expressions very quickly.
Now you move into the area of accepting the belief system, which shall not be occurring so very quickly, for initially you must be looking at the belief system and identifying all of those little birds within that cage, and amazingly so, the cage seems to grow as you address to the aspects. The more birds that you view, the larger the cage becomes and the more birds that it is holding, for each bird that you view becomes ten, for your awareness becomes more heightened. You open to your periphery, and as you initially viewed this cage in this vision (holding hands about an inch apart), you begin to now view this cage in this vision (extending arms to the side.) Therefore, the few birds that you initially viewed that were held within the belief system of this cage (hands together) now become the masses of birds that you may view (extending arms.)
Do not think upon this concept as negative, for as you open to your periphery, you also offer yourselves the opportunity to address to these aspects and to be altering of this and to be accepting of this. How may you be accepting of a belief system if you are not viewing the belief system? You may be engaged within a belief system and you may not hold an objective awareness that it IS a belief system.
You may choose to be engaging physically and placing your right shoe upon your right foot first each day of your focus, holding a belief system that this is better, and this shall then produce a smoothness to your day, for you have accomplished placing your right shoe upon your right foot initially within your day. You may move through the entirety of your focus and not view that this is a belief system!
You may look to this action and express to yourself, ‘It is merely an action. This is not a belief system. It is merely what I do. It is my action.’ It IS a belief system! But how shall you alter the belief system if you do not view that it IS a belief system? And if you do not view its affectingness, then how shall you affect it?
If the affectingness of your belief system that you shall place your right shoe upon your right foot before the left each day is viewed, you may place your left shoe upon your left foot initially, and subsequently then your right, and your day may move in the direction of accidents or misfortune or conflict, and this shall all be produced for the reason that you have placed your left shoe upon your left foot before you have placed your right shoe.
You have created this situation in alignment with your belief system, and therefore you may view the limitations that you place upon yourself and the lack of freedom within your own expression in an element so very small as placing a shoe upon a foot. And how greater shall the affectingness be, in limitation and the lack of your own expression of creativity, in areas that are so very affecting as relationships?
I express to you that all relationships are the engagement of individuals with each other, and the opportunity to be exercising your acceptance of self and your acceptance of the other individual. All else is the placement of belief systems upon the situation.
Therefore, I am encouraging free-for-all – all of you to be engaging in all types of relationship (much laughter) and exploration of all of your different aspects of relationship in this cage, ALL of its elements, without judgments and without expectation, and you may choose whatever particular direction that you may fancy in this!
But also be remembering that any expression of any other individual is also acceptable, for that is their choice of their direction. It is only different within its expression. That is all.
MALE: ... I’ve read some of your statements about Alzheimer’s disease, and about schizophrenia not being a disease.
MALE: I’ve had a very close experience with a daughter who was schizophrenic, and it was very difficult. I did not (inaudible), nor did anybody else, out of a sense of knowing what was going on. I can almost understand the Alzheimer’s condition. I do not understand why anyone would create schizophrenia and I was wondering if you could talk about that, specifically with relationship to my daughter.
ELIAS: Quite. I am understanding that within any individual physical focus ... one moment.
(To another person) You may place yourself physically within this present physical proximity. Come here! (It appears that somebody sits down directly in front of Elias) Now, you may engage physical action! (Grinning, and laughter) (To the man who asked the question) Thank you. Continuing.
Within one individual physical focus, it is quite difficult for the individuals to be holding an objective understanding of this type of creation and choice within physical focus, but let me also move into the direction of reminding you that each individual within physical focus holds many, many physical focuses. Therefore, they also hold many experiences, and each individual within physical focus holds many counterparts, and each counterpart adds to the experience of each other counterpart. In this, there is a multitude of actions that are occurring in the choice to be physically manifesting within this particular dimension.
In one respect, in not holding information as to choices of individuals merely for the reason of experience and in aligning with your officially accepted reality within your societies, it is quite understandable that you shall wonder why another individual would be choosing to be experiencing in this manner, but also be recognizing what you are creating in that thought process.
As we move into the direction of relationships....
(Here, Elias turns to the man directly in front of him) Are we having a relationship presently?
MALE: Yes, we are!
ELIAS: Very good!
In relationships, aspects of the belief systems of relationships are that you shall be creating positively or negatively. And who are the individuals that choose which shall be deemed positive and which shall be deemed negative? Ah, the infamous ‘they!’ And who are the ‘they?’ They are you! YOU are all the ‘they’ that create the officially accepted reality within your societies, and YOU set what is acceptable in behavior and what is not acceptable within behavior, and what is good behavior and what is bad behavior, and what are good experiences and what are bad experiences.
(To the man in front of him) Are you experiencing ‘good?’
MALE: I’m just experiencing.
ELIAS: Very good! (Much laughter) I am quite acknowledging of this response!
There are no good experiences and there are no bad experiences. There are different intensities of experiences. There are likes and dislikes of experiences, as dictated by your belief systems. There ARE good experiences and bad experiences as dictated by your belief systems, but in themselves they are neutral. They are a choice. Therefore, YOU place a judgment upon another individual’s choice of experience, but their choice of experience may not fit your judgment of it.
An individual may be creating of a certain type of experience, and in that experience they may be fulfilling their value fulfillment, and they may be offering themselves much more information in certain directions than they would necessarily be creating in a different choice, depending upon their choice of probabilities within any one particular focus. In this, if they are stepping outside of the officially accepted reality, there are judgments placed upon this.
An individual creating a disease that you view to be painful, why shall they be creating of this type of experience? Why shall they disengage from physical focus in this manner? Why shall they not disengage physical focus by merely engaging their dream state?
MALE: Their what?
ELIAS: Their dream state, and in your view, peacefully slip away – although they are not slipping away – into bliss with no painfulness. Your assessment of their painfulness may be quite different than their actual experience. Their creation of their experience, although they may be choosing to be creating of painfulness, may be quite beneficial to them, and may be beneficial to you also in their offering of energy and information merely within the experience itself.
Let us be recalling of our little sapling story. The point is not to be placing judgment upon another for their creation, but to be accepting, and in this acceptance you offer the example of the expression of essence merely through your experience, without the judgment or instruction to another individual. In this, many individuals within physical focus choose different types of expressions, different experiences, and choose to be moving outside of the officially accepted reality within their given societies. They also choose many focuses that comply with the officially accepted reality.
If you are moving in the direction of a thought process of only one focus, only one choice of experience, then you may be baffling yourself in the attempt to be understanding the why for any such experience, but given that you hold so very many focuses and so very many experiences, why would you NOT choose to be exploring all aspects of physical focus within and without officially accepted reality? Why would you NOT choose to be experimenting outside of the officially accepted reality and playing with your consciousness in physical focus? It is merely a matter of perception and the allowance of officially accepted mass belief systems that are affecting and influencing of your thought processes and your emotional responses to another individual’s choice within their creation.
Therefore, the question moves not in the area of, ‘Why shall this individual choose this type of creation?’, but more in the direction of, ‘Why shall you be placing judgment upon their choice?’
MALE: These choices are associated with much conflict for people who hold a loving relationship with a parent coming down with Alzheimer’s or a child coming down with schizophrenia.
ELIAS: And why do these individuals experience conflict?
MALE: Because they do not know how to hold this, what to do.
ELIAS: No. For the reason that they do not accept this.
MALE: That’s true.
ELIAS: It does not fit within your officially accepted reality. Therefore, it is influenced by belief systems, it is not accepted, and a judgment is placed upon this. And then you may move into the direction of the expression that I have expressed within the very beginning throes of our session this very evening: ‘I am hurt. YOU are causing ME anxiety, anguish, hurtfulness, conflict.’
MALE: All of the above!
ELIAS: Very incorrect! No other individual within physical focus causes you ANY THING. You create that within yourself as a response to your own lack of acceptance and your own belief systems in any given area. No other individual may be affecting of you without your participation and allowance for them to be so, in agreement with your own belief systems, and if you do not hold these belief systems, you shall not be affected. If you do not hold the belief system or the aspect of the belief system of relationship that you may be hurt, this be one of the birds within that cage; one of the birds, a bright yellow bird which is named ‘hurt,’ and it is contained within the cage of relationship, which enters into ANY separated type of relationship that you may conceive of within physical focus. It matters not. This is an example of one of the elements that crosses over ALL relationships, be they parent, child, friendships, romantic relationships, employers and employees. ANY type of relationship that you may be creating of holds this aspect that you may be hurt, and this yellow bird flies quite strongly within this cage! This is an aspect of the belief system.
And what is hurtfulness? It is your own lack of acceptance of yourself and of another individual. And how is hurtfulness a lack of acceptance of yourself? Ah, but it is! For if you are accepting of yourself, how may another individual be hurtful to you? For they may not be penetrating your energy field if you are not allowing this to be occurring.
Hurtfulness is your own lack of acceptance of self and your own duplicity within self that you are not worthy. It is the very expression of your own sense of unworthiness being mirrored to you.
The conflict stems from confusion in a lack of understanding. The lack of understanding stems from the influence of the belief systems, which is creating of the judgment, which is also creating of the lack of acceptance. And in this swirling cyclone of hundreds of birds within this contained cage, there becomes much distress, much conflict, and I have stated from the onset of this forum, from the onset of these sessions, that the one element that your belief systems are quite efficient at creating is conflict!
MALE: I’m a master at it!
ELIAS: And so are you all! You are not singular in this creation! Limitation and conflict – these are the expressions that are so very efficient in the area of belief systems and this be the reason you have chosen this shift in consciousness, for this serves you not any longer, and you now move into the direction of occupying your attention in your own creativity and your own expressions of freedom and liberation and therefore move into the direction of acceptance, that you shall not be affected any longer by the limitations of these belief systems and you shall not be in the direction of conflict and confusion. And you may assimilate this information also, and I shall offer you more information subsequently, if you are so choosing to be engaging.
MALE: Thank you.
ELIAS: You are quite welcome. (To the man on the floor in front of him) And have you experienced??
MALE: Yes, I have experienced! (Much laughter)
ELIAS: And you move into the direction of satisfaction in your experience presently?
MALE: I place no judgment on it. I just accept it for what it is!
ELIAS: Very well! I shall be quite acknowledging of this, and I shall be placing my All-Knowing Blessing upon you! (Chuckling, and everybody cracks up) And we may all now chant! (Grinning)
FEMALE: ... I wanted to come out of no longer being silent about unacceptance in myself, and in the last six years I’ve gained eight pounds, and I guess I’m asking, is it something in my belief system that is struggling? Am I blocking something? My energy is very low. It feels like I can’t manifest what I want to manifest in my life, and I’ve just had a slight (inaudible.) I’m just wanting to do whatever I need to do, or whatever (inaudible.)
ELIAS: This would also be an affectingness of your alignment within this particular focus, which moves in a quite common direction with individuals aligning with this particular family of Milumet in this dimension. Individuals aligning with this particular family within any particular focus hold much of an aspect of their intent which moves in the direction of what you term to be in your belief systems as spirituality. Therefore, there is a creation of much struggle between what they view to be physical aspects, which they also view to be in conflict with that of spiritual; another element of separation within belief systems. ‘If you are truly spiritual, you shall be denying of the flesh!’ Many religions move in this direction. This is not an expression of spirituality! This is an expression of physically-focused held religious belief systems, but these belief systems hold much energy, and although you may not objectively view yourself to align with them, underlyingly there IS an alliance with these belief systems, therefore creating a conflict between the physical form and the expression of the movement into the area of spirituality.
Now; let me express to you that your belief systems of spirituality move in the direction of thought process: how you view your world and how you think in conjunction with it. Spirituality is not your thought processes. It is the recognition and acceptance of no separation of your physical form, your thought process – which you may term to be your mental qualities – your emotional expressions, your creation of sexuality within this particular dimension, and all that is you, from essence. That is the element that you separate most, viewing it as the higher self, which is not you. It is an element outside of you. It is not! It IS you.
Your physical form is not a vessel! Your physical form is a choice of creation, a direct mirror expression of essence. It is not separated as merely a vessel, which is dictated by your religious belief systems; that particular ‘shell’ that is shed at the moment of disengagement. Very, very, VERY incorrect!
THIS IS NOT A VESSEL! (Pounding on the chair with each word) It is an expression of essence within physical form. Your belief systems influence and move you into the direction within your societies that your form and the choice that you have created is unacceptable, and your sciences shall perpetuate this by expressing to you that this shall be affecting of your physical health.
Oh, there are so very many intertwined belief systems within physical focus! And they are so very limiting, and they ALL perpetuate the belief systems of duplicity. ‘I am good, I am bad, I am good, I am bad, I am worthy, I am not.’ You are! And all that you create is a perfect creation, and your form is not inadequate, and your form, in the manner that you choose to express it, is perfectly expressed. It is merely the lack of acceptance of self that dictates to you, in compliance with duplicity, that it is unacceptable, and therefore there is an offering for the rational excuse to be holding energy and to be creating of physical affectingness.
‘My form is unacceptable. Therefore, I shall hold energy and I shall be creating of MORE unacceptableness, and I shall be projecting this to every other individual that I shall encounter in physical focus, that they shall also know and comply with me that this is unacceptable, for I do not accept it, and as I do not accept this form I shall be destructive to it, for I shall be creating of holding energy in different areas of this form that shall be creating of uncomfortableness, that shall be conflicting, that shall be hurtful.’
And the reason that you experience fatigue is that as you hold so very tightly to your energy, this may be creating of much tiredness! It is requiring much energy to be holding energy, but as you are allowing your own energy to be expressive of itself naturally and freely, you also may not fatigue yourself with your very tight grip.
Therefore, my expression to you and my suggestion to you is to be rejoicing in joyfulness of the wondrous creation that you have created, and it matters not that any other little sapling may be very twisted in their expression and allowing themselves to be quite convoluted, for this is not affecting of you, for you have created perfectly in your own expression of essence.” [session 301, July 25, 1998]
ELIAS: “This day we shall continue our discussion as to the subject matter of relationships that I have already begun, but this day we shall move this discussion into the area of your relationship with yourselves.
I have offered information as to relationships with other individuals, as presently within this time framework there is occurring a wave in consciousness which addresses to the belief system of relationship and moves you all into areas of examining aspects of the belief system of relationships. This day we shall move into the direction of the examination of relationship of self.
Your relationship with yourself is the most intimate and continuous relationship that you shall hold within physical focus. It also is your most affecting relationship within physical focus, for it is influencing of all of your other relationships. Every individual that you encounter within physical focus you hold a relationship with, and each individual that you encounter within physical focus is influenced by the relationship that you hold with yourself. How you view yourselves is how you shall project your energy and your acceptance or your lack of acceptance to every other individual that you shall engage with during your focus within this particular physical manifestation. Therefore, it holds significance and importance that you focus upon self and the acceptance of self, and recognize that this is all-encompassing within physical focus as to the affectingness in all of your interactions.
Individuals move into the direction many times of inquiring how they may be more accepting of other individuals in any given situation. I express to you that if you are moving into the direction of acceptance of self and examining your own belief systems and the affectingness and influence of these belief systems within yourself, you shall also be very affecting of other individuals.
I have offered an analogy previously – which you may be inquiring of Michael and he may be offering this to you subsequent to our present session – of two little saplings.
I have offered the example of the straight little sapling which moves through its focus merely concerning itself with the acceptance of itself and its own growth and in this automatically expresses the example of the expression of essence, and its interaction with the convoluted little sapling which grows quite twisted in analyzing all of its movements and all of its growth within its particular focus, but also looking to the straight sapling in the example that it offers and then applying this to itself.
Your greatest affectingness of other individuals, of relationships, of interactions with other individuals, and your greatest interaction within the movement of this shift in consciousness shall stem from your own noticing of self, your own addressing to YOUR individual belief systems, your alignment with mass belief systems, and your participation in these belief systems. In this you offer yourselves the opportunity to view self and to be more accepting of self.
Now; I also shall offer to you that within the action of this shift, you move into more expansive expressions of self. Your definition of self is changing, for you do not only move in the direction of this particular one focus of essence that you identify within your attention as yourself, but you also begin to encompass all of your other focuses. Therefore, as I speak to you of the acceptance of self and the understanding of self and the addressing to belief systems within self, this is also in conjunction with all of your other focuses.
I wish not to overwhelm you in the idea that you must be responsible for the belief systems of all of your other focuses, for you are not. Each focus holds their own choices, their own integrity, their own individuality, and therefore also aligns with the belief systems of their choice and implements the belief systems of their choice. Therefore, you as a focus of essence are not responsible for these choices, but you ARE responsible for your own choices and your own expressions and your own alignment with your own belief systems, and within the action of this shift you are responsible for moving into the direction of addressing to these belief systems.
In this, you also – as you are widening your awareness and opening to your periphery encompassing these other focuses of essence – shall allow yourselves the awareness of the belief systems which are held by your other focuses, for these are influencing of your belief systems within this particular focus.
Let me address also to this action of attention to the acceptance of self in the area of these other focuses, recognizing within you that you yourselves in this particular focus hold the belief system of duplicity already. This particular belief system is very strong. It motivates you in very many areas and it intertwines with ALL – bar none – ALL other belief systems. Therefore, there are influencing factors with all of your other focuses that connect to the belief systems that you hold within this particular physical focus. They are affecting of you.
All of your focuses are occurring simultaneously. There are very thin veils between yourselves and all of your other focuses, and as you move more fully into the action of this shift in consciousness these veils become even more thin, until the point that they are veils no more. Presently within this very now, many individuals have dropped many of these veils that separate all of your focuses from each other. Many individuals have already moved into the area of penetrating the experience of other focuses that they hold within this particular dimension, recognizing other focuses as themselves but not as themselves, recognizing that they are all interconnected, and also recognizing that they hold the ability to move freely in and out of the experience in connection with any and all of these other focuses. (Ha!) This also offers the opportunity to all of you to be noticing the affectingness of the belief systems of these other focuses and how they are affecting YOU within this particular focus.
Many of your other focuses hold similar belief systems to those belief systems that you hold presently. Some of your other focuses – you within this particular focus – hold belief systems about them, for you shall move into the direction of judgment upon them all. You shall create a judgment in line with your own belief systems of duplicity, expressing that certain focuses that you hold are good and acceptable and certain focuses that you hold are not good and are unacceptable. You shall be quite pleased with yourselves if you are discovering that you hold another focus within this dimension of some exceptionally kind and wonderful individual! You shall be pleased with yourselves if you discover that you hold another focus within this dimension of a very famous or powerful individual. You shall be very UN-pleased with yourselves if you are discovering that one of your focuses is a murderer! You shall express, ‘Oh, no! I may not be accepting of THIS individual! We shall place this one far away and not be acknowledging of this particular focus, for this is unacceptable.’
You focus within this particular dimension for the purpose of experience, for the exploration of physical focus and all that it offers to you in every type of physical experience. Therefore, you hold very many focuses which are all simultaneously experiencing all aspects of physical interaction. In this you offer yourselves much information as to your own abilities within physical focus to be creating of your most creative expressions in every direction, but within certain focuses you choose to be aligning with the officially accepted realities and the reality of the belief system of your official societies, and therefore also deeming yourselves to be quite good. Let me express to you that your alignment in the area of expressing to yourselves that you are good is a judgment also. Good is a judgment. Pleasing is a judgment. Acceptable is a judgment which is equally as powerful as any negative expression, for accompanying this positive, so to speak, expression is also the recognition that another expression is bad, for what shall good be if you have no comparison of bad? It shall be neutral.
(Intently) This is what you move into now within the action of this shift. You move away from your judgments of good and bad and you move into the acceptance of belief systems and the recognition that they ARE belief systems, and in this you neutralize their affectingness. IT MATTERS NOT. (Brief pause)
(Very intently) If I shall express to any of you, within all of my engagements with you within physical interaction, any quote that shall be remembered, it shall become ‘It matters not,’ for your expressions are merely those of experience. You are immensely – underline immensely – vaster than your comprehension of yourselves within this one particular physical focus, and this vastness of self is available to you. You are not limited to the understanding of only this one focus. You hold ALL of essence within you. It is NOT a being outside of you. Your relationship with yourself is not a relationship which is engaged with some elusive entity that floats about outside of you. Information that you allow yourselves to connect to is NOT outside of you. ALL of the information is held within you.
I have expressed many times that the only difference between yourselves and myself is that you do not remember and I do. You have chosen to be forgetful, that you may create within physical focus a purity of experience and a fullness of experience in physical aspects. Therefore, you have CHOSEN to be forgetting of all of essence and the vastness of yourselves. I no longer occupy physical focus. Therefore, I hold the remembrance, but you now move into this action of this shift in consciousness and you now offer yourselves the remembrance also. You each are building your bridges from your individual oubliettes across to the recognition and realization of essence.
You do not occupy a planet of lowly accord. You are not within this physical focus as a learning dimension, so to speak, on your way to higher ground. There is no higher ground! You ARE your highest expression! Even within all of your belief systems and within your physical expressions, you ARE your highest expression. You are one focus of an endless essence, and this one focus holds all of the information of consciousness, of essence, of you, and of all other essences. For although you camouflage within physical focus, and you within your thought processes hold to the belief that you may move in the direction of being secretive, for you are so very separate within physical focus, you are not separate at all. You are all intertwined. Your consciousness is all intermingled, and within essence there are no secrets, for all is known to all others.
You amaze yourselves with your own abilities. You present to yourselves different moments where you shall physically express to each other simultaneously the same thought. You shall verbally express the same words within your language simultaneously with another individual, and you shall call this accident! This is a very simple example of the interconnectedness of you all and that you all are participating within a mergence of consciousness collectively, continuously. Your telepathic abilities would be astounding to you, were you merely to open yourselves SLIGHTLY to your own abilities.
Your inner senses are more fine-tuned, so to speak, than your outer senses. You engage your outer senses continuously. You are quite familiar with touch and the sensation of this. You are quite familiar with your sight and the engagement of your sense of hearing. You do not allow yourselves to recognize your inner senses, which move far beyond these outer senses. Your outer senses are outward mirror images of your inner senses, which hold immense power, and you now offer yourselves the opportunity to not only experiment with these inner senses, but in actuality to open to these inner senses and to be moving into the exploration of consciousness within your physical objective awareness, your waking state within this dimension, offering yourselves much more of your own expressions of creativity.
Let me express to you once again: the one prerequisite, so to speak, for this action is that you are accepting and trusting of yourselves in every area of your expressions, in every area of your creations and experiences. This applies to all of the experiences in their mundane expressions within every moment of your waking day. Each time you move into the direction of chastising yourself, even in the area of humor – of expressing, ‘Oh, I have created a mistake! I am wishing I was creating of this situation differently! I could have been creating this situation more efficiently!’ – you have created each situation in the direction that you have created them as the opportunity for you to view your own interaction with your own belief systems and your own responsiveness to the affectingness of them.
Therefore, each expression that you create is purposeful and beneficial, and my expression to you this day, in helpfulness in moving through your focus more efficiently, so to speak, and more effortlessly and with much less conflict – which would be the point – is that I shall suggest to you that you allow yourselves to move in the area of pleasure, for this is the expression that holds the least amount of thickness in energy within physical focus and offers you the most ease in all of your accomplishments.
As you move into areas that are NOT pleasurable, you may also offer yourselves information as to the thickness in energy. Areas that are not pleasurable in your experiences are more difficult! You move more slowly through them and you move into areas of conflict, or you may be experiencing a neutral effect, but you shall not be experiencing the freedom of effortlessness. And as you move into the area of pleasure, you also shall experience effortlessness, for this is your natural expression.
Essence naturally, automatically magnates in the direction of pleasure. It is merely your belief systems that move you away from the expression of pleasure, and in your moving away from any expression of pleasure, you may offer yourself the opportunity to examine the belief systems that are influencing you to be moving away from the expression of pleasure.
These are all opportunities for you to examine and notice those belief systems which are affecting of you and also limiting you and blocking your energy and your expressions and your acceptance of yourselves, for if you are not accepting of this focus, you shall also not be accepting of all of your other focuses, and if you are not accepting of all of your other focuses, you shall not be accepting of essence, and this shall create thickness in energy and this shall also create trauma.
You have already established an agreement within consciousness to be moving into the accomplishment of this shift in consciousness. IT IS ALREADY ACCOMPLISHED.
Therefore, you automatically shall be addressing to belief systems and to acceptance, and in this, if you are not accepting of self, you shall be engaging trauma. And this be the reason that I speak with you, to be helpful in lessening the trauma that is associated with this shift in consciousness, for it is unnecessary. And if you are holding information, you shall be offering yourselves the opportunity to be eliminating this trauma within your individual focuses, and as each individual eliminates elements of trauma within their focus, they also lend energy to all other focuses within this planet to be lessening the trauma collectively en masse in relation to this shift in consciousness.
You may make your inquiries. (Grinning in an interesting manner, almost as if he is pleased with the confusion of the group.)
RODNEY: I understood you to say that if I did something and I thought to myself I could have done it better, that this would be a judgment. And what I hear you saying is that it would be more constructive, worthwhile, etcetera if I were to hold the question, ‘Why did I do it the way I did it?’ Is this what I hear you saying, that there are other ways of holding or looking at my actions that are constructive, and for me to say that I could have done it better is not the best way to look at my actions?
ELIAS: (Chuckling) Although there is no ‘best way!’ (Grinning)
But I shall express to you that you are correct in the direction that you are moving with this thought process. What I am expressing to you is that there are alternate areas to be addressing to yourself without judgment.
In the lack of judgment, you do not automatically create the lack of motivation. I am not expressing to you that you are eliminating your motivation to be moving through consciousness and to be accomplishing within your individual focuses in the directions that you choose and that shall be the most beneficial within your own individual value fulfillment, for the lack of judgment and the neutralization of belief systems does NOT neutralize motivation and desire.
But in like manner to your own expression in this inquiry, I am acknowledging of your expression and am expressing to you that you are correct.
In moving into the direction of placing a judgment upon each individual action, expressing to yourself, ‘I am disappointed with myself, for I may have created this expression better,’ you automatically reinforce your belief system of duplicity. You automatically move into the area of discounting of self. You automatically move into the area of discontinuing your motivation, for you have already created the judgment upon yourself and moved into the area of expressing to yourself that there need be no motivation to move into a different type of expression, for you have already created the wrong expression. In this, you reinforce a LACK of movement.
If you are looking to self and you are inquiring of yourself as to the belief system that has motivated your expression, you automatically motivate yourself to be investigating, which is creating automatically of movement, and in this movement you shall move forward, in your terms, in allowing yourself to experience alternative choices which you shall deem to be more efficient.
If you are expressing to yourself, ‘I have created an expression with this individual. I am wishing that I had not created this expression with this individual,’ you shall automatically also offer to yourself, ‘Oh well, it is done. I may not retract what I have created.’ Therefore, your expression moves into the direction of, ‘I shall be noticing of this action and I shall not repeat this the next time.’ Oh, but you will! (Laughter) For you shall not be remembering, for you have not examined the belief system, and the next time shall approach and you shall approach the situation in the very same expression, for the belief system is still within very strong working order, and IT is what is being expressed! But if you are examining the action that you have created and you are expressing to yourself, ‘Why have I responded to this individual in this manner? What is the belief system that has motivated my response and my action?’, as you identify this belief system to yourself, you may also offer yourself an understanding of your own expression. And in this, as this same situation may present itself once again to you futurely, you have offered yourself the information in this direction and therefore have offered yourself the ability to recall and to be altering of YOUR response and behavior.
Many times in this situation, it is unnecessary for your recall. You shall automatically hold a different response without a thought process, for in the very examination of the belief system and recognition of this and understanding of this, you are automatically altering your own perception, which is also altering of your expression. There be the effortlessness. In the continuation of the belief system and the non-addressing to the belief system, as the situation presents itself once again to you, you must move into the area of much effort to be remembering the previous experience, which you very likely will not. You must expend the energy to be consciously altering your expression, and then you shall be experiencing energy that is in conflict with your expression. For although you may move into an alteration of your outward expression in a similar situation, within you, you shall experience emotional qualities of disliking of your own expression, for you are in conflict with the belief system that is motivating you.
Therefore, as this individual approaches you and expresses, ‘I am not appreciating of this garment that you are wearing,’ your automatic response may be, ‘Well, I am not appreciating of your expression!’ What you have each expressed is a lack of acceptance of self and of another individual, and you have not addressed to the belief system. As this individual approaches you within your next day and expresses, ‘I am not appreciating of your garment,’ you may move into the direction of recalling the previous experience, and you may move into a falseness of your own spirituality, and you may alter your expression and you may express to this individual, ‘I am accepting that you are not appreciating of my garment, but I am appreciating of my garment, and therefore I am choosing to be wearing it.’
But as you walk away, within you, you are expressing conversation with yourself in your relationship with yourself and you are expressing, ‘You are an idiot! You are not accepting of my garment!’ You are creating conflict and you have not accepted the expression, and you are now expelling much energy, not moving into the area of effortlessness, but expelling much energy in conflicting yourself and continuing to hold to your own belief systems which have not been addressed to.
Now; in this same situation, if this individual is approaching of you and expressing, ‘I am not appreciating of your garment this day,’ and you recognize a responsiveness within yourself that you in your language may identify as a defensiveness, you may be examining of this defensiveness and inquiring of yourself, ‘What is motivating my response in this area? What am I not accepting within self?’ Not within the expression of the other individual! ‘What am I not accepting within self that is creating of this response within me? Where am I holding to my own energy which is creating of this response?’
In this, let me also offer you all this day a visualization that you may practice. I have offered this once only, but it may serve you each in your practicing of acceptance of self and also of acceptance of other individuals. Let us enter into an exercise presently that you may also practice subsequently.
Each of you now hold an awareness of yourselves. Allow yourselves to relax your energy fields. Your energy field is that energy which surrounds your physical form. Attempt to be not holding in of this energy field around you. To the best of your abilities presently, within each of your individual states in this present now, I instruct you each to attempt to be noticing and viewing your own energy field that surrounds your physical body. Allow yourselves to be connecting with your own energy fields. See your energy field around you. Allow yourself your own visual of your energy that you expel around your physical form in this very relaxed atmosphere.
(Long pause, and then shouting) YOU ARE ALL INADEQUATE! Now look to your energy fields and view how they have contracted, and view what you experience within you, and view your own uncomfortableness. And why are you uncomfortable? For an energy has been projected to you and has penetrated. It has moved through your energy field. It has been allowed to penetrate your energy field.
Now; in this example, let me express to you: you hold an actual energy field around your physical form. This is a reality. It is real energy. It is tangible. It also functions. In this, let me express to you three words: allowance, penetration, and buffer. Be remembering of these words.
(Softly) I express to you lovingness. Although you have experienced uncomfortableness temporarily, this serves as an example to you as to how you allow other individuals to penetrate energy into your energy field, and this automatically triggers your own belief systems as to protection of yourselves and that another may be hurtful to you, and this triggers other belief systems, that you do not hold the ability to be manipulating energy as efficiently as you deem necessary. This is also a perpetuation of your own issues in duplicity.
Let me express to you that any other individual, any essence, any thing may project any energy to you, and in your acceptance you create an allowance, a recognition that this is an energy ball that another individual expresses to you, and it shall move forcefully toward you, but that you hold an energy field around you which is quite powerful, and this energy field holds the ability to transform any energy which is projected to you. Therefore, as you visualize this ball of energy projecting toward you and it propels forcefully and quickly to you, it also transforms into a bubble as it strikes your energy fields, and this bubble shall pop and dissipate. Therefore, another individual’s expression has not penetrated your energy field, for you have allowed your energy field to be a buffer.
This is not an expression of a lack of acceptance of another individual. This is an expression of the acceptance of yourself and your own ability and also the acceptance of other individuals in the allowance of any of their expressions, recognizing that these are their expressions which are motivated from their belief systems, but this needs not be affecting of you. For if you are accepting of self and of your own abilities and your own energy, the ball transforms to a bubble, and the bubble shall pop as easily and as effortlessly as a physical bubble that touches your finger and pops.
This IS your ability, and you may exercise this continuously. It is merely your belief systems that dictate to you that you shall be hurt or discounted or that you are inadequate or that you may not accomplish, and it is the perpetuation of these belief systems that allows you to accept the penetration of other individuals and the projection of their energy. You may be accepting in the allowance. It is unnecessary for the penetration.
And in this, in what you would term to be the reverse action, you may be remembering of this exercise also and recognizing that your expressions are the very same energy forms that are projected to other individuals, and they may not hold objectively the information that they hold the ability to pop the bubble, and your expression shall penetrate. Therefore, the circle continues.
Are you wishing of questions this day? (Pause)
FEMALE: To clarify that first question, when one is aware that an action has been performed and has said something, one should, instead of judging it, look at it in an inquiring way? Like, ‘That was interesting how I responded,’ and that would be acceptable ...
FEMALE: ... to examine and change? Instead of saying, ‘I shouldn’t have done that,’ it’s ‘Wow, that was interesting! I wonder where that came from?’ Is that what you’re saying?
ELIAS: Correct, and not creating of this judgment. But you may be experiencing a feeling within you of a lack of acceptance of your own expression, and if you ARE experiencing this feeling, this is your indication to yourself to be examining what belief system is motivating you in this direction.
RODNEY: I’d like to carry this just a little bit further. Sometimes I find myself in the presence of someone else and I have a strong feeling inside of me which I sense may be fear because it seems to overpower me. Now, this is an action. It’s not an outward action, but an inward action. There’s a response occurring inside of me that is spontaneous and of ... at least not my conscious making, alright? And you suggest ways that I could mentally hold a question inquiring of why this is happening?
ELIAS: Each time you experience fearfulness, you are creating an objective expression of a lack of trust within self. Therefore, in each given situation that you may be experiencing a fearful emotion, you may inquire of yourself, examining the situation itself, looking to all of the aspects and elements of this particular situation which is perceived to be causing the fearfulness, for in actuality it is merely triggering of a lack of trust that you already hold within yourself.
RODNEY: Can I give you an example? It occurs not infrequently that when I approach the president of my company, I get this sensation. It’s very much located in my chest, and it seems to grip me. I feel this is fear because it does not allow me an easiness of expression, and like you have said, a hallmark of where we want to go is that things should be effortless.
RODNEY: Well, I’m certainly not in a frame of mind to express myself effortlessly when I have this feeling in my chest!
RODNEY: So, that’s a specific example.
ELIAS: And within this specific example, we shall address to this. In the belief system of relationship, which we have been entering into discussions of, I have also entered into areas of relationships of employers as well as different other types of relationships.
Now; as you approach this individual and you begin to experience this feeling, this emotion, which also moves into the area of an actual physical feeling, examine to yourself, ‘What is the belief system that is motivating this particular response within myself?’, knowing initially that the reason that you are expressing this response is that you are experiencing fear, and fearfulness is the outward expression of the lack of trust of self. Therefore, you already hold some information as to the action that is occurring.
Now you address to the belief system that is attached to this. The belief system is relationship. The aspect of the belief system, the bird within the cage, is that of authority. This is a very powerful aspect of this particular belief system, for you all move into the direction of the alignment with this aspect of this particular belief system. You all hold areas within your focus that you look to certain individuals as being authorities, and what is meant by this particular term of authority is that another individual holds more of an ability than you or holds more power than you or is above you, so to speak, or is more of anything than are you. This is your definition of authority, that any other given individual holds more of an ability in any given area than do you. They are different, they are separate, and they are above you. You outwardly mirror this aspect of this belief system of relationship in your objective expressions of creating situations within your physical forms, within your physical societies, of positions. Certain individuals occupy one position. Other individuals occupy a position of authority. This also is a very strong aspect of this shift in consciousness, which shall be very altering of your very creation of your reality.
I have expressed many times that this shift in consciousness shall alter the entirety of your reality, and one of the very strong alterations shall be the lack of authority, for it is unnecessary and for you shall all recognize that you are all the same. There are no individuals within physical focus that hold any ability that you do not hold! There are no individuals within physical focus that may be creating of any element that you may not create also! But you have created this officially accepted reality for millennium in the direction of looking to certain individuals to be the ‘guiders,’ to express to you how to create your reality and what to create in it, and now you move into the direction of recognizing that YOU create your reality and YOU shall dictate to yourselves how to create it and what to create in it, and not be following of other individuals’ expressions. You may align in agreement with other individuals’ expressions, but it is unnecessary to follow their expressions.” [session 302, July 26, 1998]
DAWN: “Okay. The next one I want to ask is, the animals we call spiders are very present for me, both in physical reality and in dream reality. Could you give me some guidance about why this is so?
ELIAS: Recently I have begun discussions with individuals and within our group interactions, addressing to a wave in consciousness and its expressions dealing with the belief system of relationships. In this, individuals present themselves with many different types of imagery and expressions in conjunction with bringing surfacely this belief system and all of the aspects that are connected to this particular belief system. In this, individuals have experienced certain types of expressions or imagery for what you may term to be many years in certain situations. Other individuals are now creating imagery that has not been experienced previously. Either direction is a continuation of this particular wave in energy in consciousness presently.
Now; this imagery that you present to yourself is a physical imagery of the entanglement of this particular belief system concerning relationships. Let us examine this particular imagery and the association that is made within physical focus of this particular creature. First of all, there is the creation of this creature, a web, which we view to be entanglements or a mesh of many different strands. Also, in your physical terms of your language you may identify certain aspects of this creation, this web, as sticky, as a net, as a creation that catches elements, that holds to them.
There are many different connotations that are assigned to this one particular creation that this creature creates. Therefore, there are many aspects that align with the belief system and the expressions of relationships. The creature itself holds its own representation of imagery in alignment with this subject matter also. How do you view this creature? You view this creature as threatening, you view this creature as at times being hurtful, you view this creature as being aggressive, you view this creature as suspicious, and you view your action in conjunction with this creature as withdrawing or retreating from this type of creature.
This creature also, in actual physical size, is presented as very small. Even your very large species of this particular creature of spider, in comparison with other creatures, is manifest very small. Therefore, this is another aspect of imagery in relation to this belief system of relationship, that within the whole of creation and all of the belief systems that you hold within physical focus, this is merely one, and although it holds many aspects and it appears to be an ominously large belief system, within the context of all of the belief systems that you hold within physical focus, it is merely one. Therefore, in the larger picture it is relatively small, and within the whole of essence it is relatively small.
Therefore, you may view that this particular imagery that you present yourself with presently, in the form of encounters wakingly and within dream state of spiders, is directly connected to this particular wave in energy addressing to the belief system and issues surrounding the belief system of relationship, which also appears within your own creations with each other. You merely also offer yourself physical imagery that correlates to the action that you engage objectively, in presenting aspects of this belief system that you may be addressing to and moving though.
DAWN: Thank you.
MICHAEL: Very interesting. Does it mean the spiders are symbolic? I’m trying to figure out the entanglements as they are now, because right now for Dawn and me, the spiders are less of a fearful thing, it seems, and more of a ... they’re very frequent in her dreams and we see them around the apartment a lot. It’s more to help her realize that these are smaller situations and not as sticky as we thought, it seems.
ELIAS: Quite. I am not expressing to you that these creatures hold fearfulness for you. I am expressing to you that they are the presentment in imagery to yourself that is suggestive of different aspects of the belief system of relationships. They are merely imagery that you are presenting yourselves with presently to draw your attention to different aspects of relationship, and that you may offer yourselves the opportunity to view many of these aspects of relationships and recognize that each aspect in itself may be viewed initially as large or complicated or serious or sticky or gripping, but in actuality they are each merely one aspect of the belief system. And as you move into the recognition of these, you also offer yourselves the opportunity to be accepting of each aspect of the belief system, recognizing that they are not so very large at all and that the expression of these in actuality is quite small and holds much less significance than you choose to place upon them merely as an expression of your own fearfulness and lack of acceptance within yourselves, and as you present yourself with the imagery of these small creatures, you reinforce to yourselves the smallness of these different aspects of this particular belief system.
MICHAEL: This actually ties into another question about how we have ants and beetles in our kitchen lately, and I can see ... it’s kind of ridiculous. I can see that where Dawn gets upset at the ants and the beetles and I do not doesn’t necessarily mean that she’s being reactionary to it. It just may actually mean that I’m not being as intent on my ideas about relationships as she is, and that of course would be just in response to our belief systems. The creatures themselves aren’t hurtful. They’re just there to remind us that that’s what’s going on.
ELIAS: Correct, and also an offering to you to be recognizing that individuals hold differences and that this is not right or wrong, good or bad, better or worse, but merely differences in attention, in direction, and in expressions, and this also offers you the opportunity to be viewing these differences and accepting of these differences. And in conjunction with your previous inquiry as to the aspect of Dream Walkers, you also offer yourselves the opportunity to view the affectingness of acceptance of differences, not only with individuals outside of your individual personal relationships, but also with the individuals that you choose to be personally, objectively involved with.
MICHAEL: That makes a whole lot of sense!
DAWN: It does!
MICHAEL: Thank you very much!
ELIAS: You are welcome. Let me also offer to you that many, many times within physical focus, individuals create a very large distinction within their belief system and their behaviors in the direction of allowing themselves to be accepting more easily of differences in individuals that they do NOT engage a personal relationship with. In these personal relationships, there is much less tolerance and acceptance. It is much easier for individuals to move in the direction of creating a separation and expressing a difference, that they are not personally involved with other individuals within their community, within their societies, and therefore they afford themselves the ability and the expression of accepting general expressions. Whereas within their interpersonal relationships, many of these same expressions are NOT accepted, for there is a separation made in this area and there is less tolerance of difference within interpersonal relationships.
This be another aspect of the belief system of relationships, that when you are engaging in an interpersonal relationship with another individual, you shall be accomplishing this more efficiently if you are the same, or if you are of like mind, or if you are what YOU term to be compatible. You use very many different words in your language to express what you consider to be similarities, and this in your belief system is ‘good’ and accomplishing of a ‘proper,’ so to speak, relationship, and this is acceptable. Differences are not acceptable and are not tolerated. This is an opportunity for you to view that there is no difference between the masses and individual expressions, and that they mirror each other. And how may you be accepting of masses if you may not be accepting of what is in your objective awareness immediately directly affecting of yourself? And these relationships are the most obvious expression of what is directly affecting of yourselves.
This also brings surfacely all of your areas individually of the lack of acceptance of self, for each time that you express an intolerance, a judgment, or a lack of acceptance in the direction of another individual, you are mirroring outwardly that expression which is being created within yourself. You are expressing a lack of acceptance of self and projecting this outwardly to another individual, therefore creating two areas of the lack of acceptance simultaneously.
This be the reason that I move in the direction in information so very often of repeating and expressing to you each, YOUR FIRST DIRECTION SHALL BE IN THE ACCEPTANCE OF SELF.
MICHAEL: I can sense at least two conflicting belief systems and the core beliefs right behind them. One of them is, in order to be in a relationship we have to merge instead of be individual, and the other one is, I have to be individual as much as possible to be in alignment with the shift. So I can see a definite conflict there!
ELIAS: Quite! Within your belief systems you create a conflict, but in actuality, within reality there is no conflict, for you may be merged and hold the recognition that there is no separation, and whatever you are expressing to another individual, you are also expressing to yourself. Therefore, there is no separation.
Simultaneously, you hold your own individual uniqueness and your own personality expression, which is your individuality. This is NOT in conflict with the mergence or the realization of the lack of separation, and as you allow yourselves to be more accepting of self, you may also come to understand this situation, that there is no conflict in this area.
Your identity is not threatened by the lack of separation of all other essences and consciousness. It creates no conflict. It merely creates conflict in the area that you are influenced by your belief systems, believing to yourselves that you must be creating of separation and holding to your own individuality in a separated manner that creates your conflict.
DAWN: ... I have another question about my great-aunt who died a few months ago. I noticed while she was ill there was a great deal of psychic communication between us, one being partly that she called me to a great action of being physically ill if I went to work at the corporation, so I called in sick and went home and went to see her. And then a week later she died, and it happened to be on same day that I quit my job at the corporation. My feeling about this is that it was something to increase the potency of those events and propel me out of this job. Is there more to it than that?
ELIAS: It is a lending of energy from one individual focus to another individual focus, a helpfulness within consciousness. This ability very often is expressed most efficiently by individuals that are engaged within the action of transition as they continue within physical focus, as was the case, so to speak, with this individual.
In the action of transition you allow yourselves the ability to be projecting energy in areas that may be quite helpful to other individuals in directing energy specifically for their benefit, which is assumed by the other individual which is receiving the energy, and as it holds a direction that this energy may be used for your greatest benefit, it is also applied in this direction by the individual receiving it, which would be yourself.
MICHAEL: What energy did she lend back to her aunt?
ELIAS: It is not what you consider to be an ‘even exchange.’
Let me express to you that this is another element/aspect of your belief systems concerning relationship, that as one individual expresses to you, you in turn shall also be responsive and express to them. This is not necessarily the situation. This is an aspect of this belief system.
There is no element that is wrong in the action that one individual focus shall express energy to another focus, and that the receiving focus shall receive it and not reciprocate. This is merely a belief system. It is a complete action in itself to be offering and to have that offering which is expressed be received. This is a complete action. It is not incomplete in the reason that there is not a reciprocation.
Therefore, in this I shall express to you that the action has been a lending of energy to you in helpfulness in directing your own energy and there has not been a generation of energy reciprocated, for this is unnecessary. There has been merely the receiving of energy, which is the completion of the action.
MICHAEL: That makes sense. My question totally showed my belief in Dawn’s belief system, and the way she gave energy is very in line with her belief system of giving.
ELIAS: Let me express to you that in your receiving, you are also, in a manner of speaking, giving, for you are acknowledging.
DAWN: Thank you.” [session 305, August 02, 1998]
HOWARD: “I have an image based upon the movie ‘The Bridge Over The River Kwai,’ and as you were speaking and developing the imagery that she had, I had a distinct impression that the metaphor between the bridge of the river Kwai and what is going on now with Mr. Clinton and the special prosecutor is much like what William Holden and Alec Guiness were going through when it finally occurred to Guiness that he was building a bridge that was eventually going to destroy what he was fighting against in the first place. I don’t know which individual represents Bill Clinton and who represents the special prosecutor because they both have brought the nation to a brink of great turmoil and conflict over such a trivial, small issue. I’m of the inclination that the consciousness of the United States is more in line with Alec Guiness building the bridge, which will eventually destroy some sexual taboo, and that William Holden was the one to say, ‘You can’t do this!’ It’s a big metaphor to me, and I think the bridge is going to be blown up, and I think it’s going to be Alec Guiness who does this. But sooner or later, somebody is going to have to say, ‘Oh my god! Look what we’ve done!’ Can you comment on that?
ELIAS: Absolutely! Let me express to you that as of late, I have been offering information in the direction of the subject matter of relationships, for you move into an area in which there has been created a wave in consciousness which addresses to the belief system of relationships, in every aspect of the belief system.
Now; let me express to you that the action and situation that is occurring presently within your society and within your government is not quite so small as you view it to be, for it is quite in alignment with this wave in consciousness which addresses to the belief system of relationships and all of its aspects, ALL of these little birds that occupy this particular cage, which there are very, very many of. In this, your nation, your country, your society is bringing to the surface of its awareness and consciousness elements of its belief systems in this area: how you view your belief system societally of relationships and many of the aspects therein, your religious elements of these belief systems, how you view the action and behavior of each other, your own expectations of each other, your own addressing to, individually and en masse, your judgmental qualities as influenced by the belief systems.
In this, the incident itself may appear to be insignificant or small, but in actuality it is a symbol for the whole of the belief system itself and the strength of this particular belief system. This is another expression objectively and a reflection of what you are all addressing to en masse presently. In this, as you offer yourself an impression of correlation to your film in relation to this action which is occurring within your objective societal reality presently, the imagery of the bridge would be quite correct.
There is an attempt for a bridge of different expressions and different aspects of the belief system to be being addressed, but the final action of this addressing to the belief system in imagery would be that of destroying of the bridge or blowing it up, for the final action is to be neutralizing the belief system itself.
Therefore, in the process of the acceptance of belief systems and neutralizing the power of the energy which is expressed within these belief systems, there are bridges built, metaphorically, in aligning different aspects of the belief system to each other and correlating them to each other, that you may view and hold an awareness that there are very many elements that are different aspects of one belief system and that all of these need be addressed to, to be accomplishing the neutralization of merely one belief system.
Therefore, although the bridges are built within the correlation of the different aspects of the belief system, they are also destroyed, or in other terms – figuratively speaking – allowed to be let go of in the same manner that you allow the birds within the cage to be set free and not occupying the cage any longer, that you may be neutralizing these aspects of the particular belief system individually and en masse and therefore ultimately neutralizing the belief system itself.
HOWARD: Just a corollary here (Elias chuckles) to complete this. On the one hand, I see that Alec Guiness comes to the understanding that the bridge is going to heal a gap between two sectors of our society, and Holden is trying to stop that. On the other hand is the idea that Holden suddenly realizes that in order for the society to go on, to move on, this bridge must be built. It is a win/win situation. The trauma of healing the gap will allow our children to see how silly we were. The more entrenched ‘my country, right or wrong, my belief system, right or wrong’ ones are trying to destroy it so that they can keep the status quo. I guess what you’ve said is that ultimately in the end, whether the bridge stands or is destroyed, it doesn’t matter. Is that correct?
ELIAS: What I am expressing is that the bridge is a stepping stone. It is an element of the created process that you have engaged in your method, so to speak, of addressing to the belief systems.
You are divided within your societies in your official reality. In this you hold certain elements that continue to align with the belief systems that are officially accepted, and there is a stronghold in that alignment, but there is also a tremendous movement away from that alignment. Therefore, you present yourselves with what you may figuratively view as divided camps: one continuing to hold to the belief systems and opposing the movement, and the other pressing on to be addressing to the belief systems and neutralizing the power, so to speak, of the belief systems. Ultimately there shall be a meeting in the experience, and the movement shall be accomplished in the area of addressing to the belief system and the neutralization of the belief system, for this is the action of this shift in consciousness which you have agreed upon.
But you are correct in your recognition that there does occur trauma in these actions, which I have been stating from the onset of the engagement of this forum: that there shall be the occurrence of trauma in many areas associated with this shift in consciousness. For as you address more and more to your belief systems and you recognize how very tightly you hold to the energy of these belief systems, you also create trauma – or elements of trauma within yourselves in conflict – in your not holding a willingness to be letting go of these belief systems, for they are familiar to you, and the action of letting go of these belief systems or ACCEPTING these belief systems is very unfamiliar to you within physical focus. Therefore, there is a resistance objectively to this action. But regardless, it shall be occurring, for you have chosen this action to be creating within this dimension.
HOWARD: ... I have the vision of the tumor now. I’ll move on a couple more days, and I’m on the brink of a CAT scan and some other things. I have shared also with many people the idea of using the techniques that Jade has taught us, of how to focus in meditation using tobacco. I came to an understanding, or I found a young child, a young boy about 12, 13, 15 – (his voice breaks) this is kind of emotional for me – who was attempting to take on the cancer of his grandmother. I recall vividly all the months of trying to die before she did. It didn’t work.
So I decided on this night, probably mid-April, that there really didn’t need to be any more of this child keeping this death/ending experience with him any more, since the proof was that the grandmother died in spite of all the prayers in intercession that I was trying to do when I was a kid. So we talked about this cancer or this tumor, and we decided that it wasn’t cancerous. It could have been. It might have been a life-ending situation had I not done some other things previously in my life, such as meeting Margot and enjoying fresh air and living my life. We both agreed that we needed more or less to get on the same page, so the following day I went to the oncologist, and he was going to review the CAT scan with me, and he says, after giving us the litany of ‘You’re going to die quickly or later,’ ‘You’re going to have to have a colostomy,’ and blah, blah, blah. And I said, ‘It’s not cancer, it can’t be cancer, and if it is cancerous, then that’s the way it is.’ I was prepared at that moment, and the whole month of April was preparation. He did a quick analysis because the cancer or rather the tumor was so close by way of anal probing, and he says, ‘Oh, gee, it’s a lot smaller than it was before, so maybe you don’t have a problem.’ And he went back to the CAT scan, and he came back again, and he was really befuddled.
I have a feeling that if I wasn’t ... well, I will say that getting hold of this 15-year-old at that time changed my history on April 15, 1998, and I think this is a good thing for other people to know, that they can do that. Can you comment on it?
ELIAS: Let me express to you in response to this situation that in alignment with this wave movement in consciousness, you have also offered yourself the opportunity to be objectively creating and expressing an opportunity for yourself to be not only viewing but actively participating in the movement into the recognition of belief systems in the area of relationship and addressing to many aspects of this belief system.
Now; let me express that in your creation of this particular, physical affliction, I have expressed to you in your creations of physical affectingness in several directions that these creations that you engage are directly influenced by your own holding to energy which is influenced by your belief system in the area of relationships. I have expressed that you hold energy in the area of relationship with family.
Now; in your terms, family is not limited merely to those individuals that remain within physical focus and it is not necessarily limited to individuals that you view to be what you term as blood relations, for your partner shall also be considered an element of your family. This creation that you have offered yourself physically has served quite well in attaining your attention and directing your attention into these areas that have been expressed to you previously.
Within your particular choice of probabilities, you choose to manipulate energy into physical manifestations that shall be your wake-up call, that shall create movement with you, for they shall be creating of your own individual, personal little earthquake within yourself. In this, you have held to very strong belief systems and therefore you offer yourself very strong expressions to be addressing to these belief systems, for within the strength of belief systems, there is held much strength in energy. Therefore, you match this energy with the expression of physical creation and offer yourself a temporary affectingness of fearfulness which shall jolt you into a recalling of what you term to be past experiences, and it shall also jolt you into an awareness of the belief system in the area of relationship and the ASPECTS of this belief system.
Therefore, you look to your relationships with other individuals, with your partner, and you are recalling your relationship with your grandmother; but not merely the relationships, but the ASPECTS: the actions, the behaviors, the thought processes, which are all aspects of the belief system itself.
It also addresses to your feelings and your senses and your emotional responses to choices and how they are affecting in the belief system of relationship, for this small one, this child, moves in the direction of assuming another individual’s creation to be preventing of their individual choice of disengagement. It is not accomplished, but the expression is created regardless. In this you offer yourself the opportunity to view this aspect of the belief system of relationship, that you are experiencing separation from an individual that you hold emotional attachment to within physical focus.
You also allow yourself to address to the aspect of this belief system that you or any other individual may be altering of any other individual’s choices within any focus, which you may hold influence at times, but you may not be altering of any other individual’s expression of their reality and their choices within any physical focus. It also addresses to the aspect of right and wrong and good and bad in the element of choices of individuals within their expression of disengagement.
You also present yourself with the same elements of aspects of belief systems in relation to your own expression of creating this type of situation or affliction or dis-ease within your focus and its affectingness of other individuals that you engage relationship with, and your own aspects of the belief systems that these are unacceptable expressions. ‘Dying is bad and is hurtful to other individuals.’ You view this as being hurtful to yourself in other individuals’ choices to be engaging this action, and you also view in your belief systems that your own creation of this choice shall be hurtful to the individuals that you hold relationship with presently.
Therefore, there is a value judgment placed, and also in this you offer yourself the opportunity to view the areas in which you hold tightly to aspects of this belief system concerning relationship.
Let me express to you that as I move more fully into this discussion presently that I engage with individuals within this forum in the subject of relationships, you may view that as I have stated within this particular session, there are very many aspects that occupy this particular cage, this particular belief system of relationships, and it is all intertwining with other belief systems, and all of the aspects of this belief system are very intertwined with each other and spill into many different areas and expressions of your focus that you do not even attribute to the belief system of relationship.
But within this wave in consciousness, you are ALL offering yourselves your own expressions of this particular belief system, that you may be offering yourselves the opportunity to address to this belief system and therefore lend energy to the acceptance of this belief system, individually and en masse.
MARGOT: When did this wave start, Elias? Can you tell us that in earth years or time?
ELIAS: This particular wave in consciousness has begun within this particular physically focused year of your time framework and has been building through the succession of this particular year. It moves into the momentum of almost cresting presently, and therefore I have chosen to be addressing to this particular belief system, for now it moves into an area recently and continues to be expressing itself in this area of much of an intensity and becomes much more objectively obvious, not only individually but also en masse in its expression. Therefore, it also becomes necessary to be addressing to this particular wave and offering explanation as to not only its movement but its affectingness, for in many of its expressions there is being created actions and events of trauma, not only individually but also en masse, and this is an example of the trauma which shall be created in relation to addressing to belief system[s] in regard to this shift in consciousness, and as this shift in consciousness accelerates in its momentum, this action of trauma shall increase and shall also be moving more expressively in its own momentum.
Therefore, this offers you an example of the very elements that I have been offering to you throughout the course, so to speak, of these sessions, of this shift in consciousness and of the trauma that is associated with it, for it shall continue and it shall increase as you move more fully into the action of this shift if you are not offering yourselves information and a widening of awareness, that you may be understanding and addressing to your belief systems more fully and more efficiently.
MARGOT: It seems to me then that from what you’ve been saying about this, and I’ve been really interested in this wave that you’ve been telling folks about, it seems to me that this wave is the crux of the shift. Is that right?
ELIAS: It is a very large element, for you move in the direction within this particular dimension of physical focus of surrounding much of your behavior and activity and creations around the belief of relationship and all of its aspects. Therefore, it holds tremendous energy, and if you are moving into the direction of designating certain belief systems as larger than other belief systems within your physical terms, this particular belief system may be in your terms designated as one of the largest belief systems that you hold within physical focus and one of the very most intensely affecting throughout the entirety of each of your creations of your physical focuses. Therefore, it holds much significance and importance in relation to this shift in consciousness.
MARGOT: In earth years then, wouldn’t you say that this won’t crest, this wave won’t crest until at least a quarter century has passed and we’re that far in the shift.
ELIAS: Not necessarily, for it is not the ONLY one of the very largely held belief systems that you hold within physical focus. It is ONE of the large belief systems.
I am not expressing to you that in addressing to this belief system that you shall be accepting of this belief system in its entirety immediately, but that it shall not be requiring of tremendous time framework to be cresting, and subsequent to this crest it shall begin to ease down into its movement of ebb, and that action shall be within probabilities requiring of more of your time framework than its actual peak.
HOWARD: ... I’d like to talk about the July 4th party. On July 4th, as you may have heard, we went to the coast and had a wonderful time meeting Paul and Jo, and I wanted to know – I’ll try to make this as brief as I can – about the situation that occurred on the couch.
I’m sitting next to Jo, and suddenly David shows up with a book of Oscar Wilde, and in it was a picture of Aubrey Beardsley. Margot and I exchanged looks of complete shock and dismay because ... well, I wasn’t aware that Aubrey was a compatriot or friend of Oscar Wilde at the time and I still held what I considered to be a mythological metaphor, a mythos, regarding Aubrey and his incredible talents of pen and ink drawing, which brought me to him in the first place. Beyond that, I know nothing of his life.
I excused myself from the couch and I went outside, and I was incredibly distraught because the last thing I wanted to do was be sitting next to an individual ... Jo at the time was identified by David as being the Aubrey Beardsley of my dreams. I really had a difficult time coming to grips with this because I had other images in my mind, including Ayn Rand and Victor Hugo. It’s very convoluted and complicated here, but it’s something that I’ve lived with for about thirty years, and I was comfortable with that.
So, to bring this question to an end, I was so distraught that I was actually sitting next to a hero that I’ve worshipped and admired that I was considering just getting in the car and driving away, and that’s the childish reaction, which I’ve done many times in the past. I’ve stopped doing that. I’ve realized that you can’t run away from these things. You’ve got to face it.
I processed that situation for that night and during the following week and a week after that, and I finally realized that Jade had told us we base our behavior upon the heroes that we establish, the little pedestals that they establish that we see them as, and we kind of try to achieve what others have brought forth in their lives. Beardsley, to me, was the supreme illustrator of pen and ink, and he’s unequaled. He was also a very brazen man. He was doing things that Gauguin and other contemporaries of his tried to emulate. I just really wasn’t ready to see him, and I was disappointed to find that he had flesh and bones and that he was a woman, and then this and this and this and this.
It hurt me deeply because what was going on was some penetration into some inner part of myself that I held secret, that was mine. I’ve since learned that Jo has asked the question, was she Aubrey, and you said no, but I think the lesson here for myself and others is that what I experienced was incredibly traumatic, and I see a future for the next decade or so of a lot of folks meeting their heroes on the street, literally strangers, and if my reaction is symptomatic of what others are going to go through in terms of deeply-held secret beliefs, wow! We’ve got a lot of turmoil ahead of us! At the same time, I must say that I’m incredibly thankful that I was able to work through this thing on my own with my own self – and Vicki was incredibly helpful – to recognize what the heck was going on.
The last thing I want to say is, Jo suggests that I was Aubrey. I cannot validate her feeling. I feel, of everybody that I know, it would have to be my youngest son. But even so, I don’t think it matters, but I would like you to help us out here on seeing our heroes unmasked before ourselves in such a casual way. It was really incredible.
ELIAS: This is your presentment to yourself in alignment with this subject matter that we have been discussing within this particular session, of recognizing different aspects of this belief system which is being addressed to presently.
In the belief system of relationship, the aspects that are being addressed to not only involve aspects of relationships with other individuals, but those aspects of relationship that you hold with YOURSELVES, for THIS shall be your very MOST influencing relationship that you shall hold within any particular given physical focus. It shall be your most intimate relationship and most affecting, and in this you offer yourselves the opportunity to view the affectingness of the belief system in this area, and also how it is intertwined with the belief system of duplicity in that you create what you term to be heroes, individuals that you elevate above yourselves and you attempt to emulate throughout your focus as opposed to emulating YOURSELF or creating your OWN expression in its OWN greatness, but looking to other individuals as role models, so to speak, and reinforcing your own aspects of belief system in the area of duplicity and your own unworthiness and inadequacy.
Therefore, this also is a presentment of another aspect of the belief system of relationship and how it is affecting not only of yourself within yourself, but also of your interaction with other individuals as you look to them and assume that they occupy a certain position.
It also offers you the opportunity to view that although you may view other focuses of your own essence or of other essences, this individual that occupies the same space arrangement physically within the same time framework as yourself is the same essence as another focus, but is NOT the other focus. Therefore, there is also a distinction in this area which needs be recognized.
(Intently) You are not a reincarnation, nor is any other individual. You are new manifestations, and all of the manifestations are occurring simultaneously. Therefore, you are NOT another focus.
Tyl [Joanne] is NOT another focus. Tyl is the essence, and Joanne is one focus of that essence, holding all of the qualities and aspects of that essence of Tyl, which contains, so to speak, the focus of any other manifestation, but is NOT the other manifestation, in a manner of speaking.
Now; I may also express to you that you also do not hold the focus within your essence of this other manifestation or other focus of Aubrey, but you are correct that this is an example to you all of elements of the trauma associated with the action of this shift that you shall ALL be engaging, within the addressing to your belief systems and all of the aspects and affectingness of your belief systems.” [session 306, August 09, 1998]
(Margot’s note: I thoroughly enjoyed this following session, one reason being that the group was so responsive, and another being Elias’ delivery. He was so animated! A good one to listen to, as well as read!)
Elias arrives at 7:46 PM. (Arrival time is 22 seconds)
ELIAS: “Good evening. (Smiling)
GROUP: Good evening, Elias!
ELIAS: This evening we shall be continuing our discussion in regard to this present wave in consciousness that is occurring now and that you are all participating within, and the belief system that it addresses to. This would be the belief system of relationships. I shall be addressing slightly differently with this discussion this evening, as I have chosen to be involving you each within this discussion and involving your participation in this subject matter.
As you will be informed as my scribe (4) offers you our information, I have been delivering a series of discussions that involve this belief system of relationships in many different areas and all of the aspects of this particular belief system, for as I have expressed to all of you, each belief system is as a bird cage holding very many aspects or elements of that belief system, which would be all of the birds that are contained within that particular cage. This belief system which is being addressed presently within this wave in consciousness occurring now is that which addresses to relationships and all of the aspects contained therein.
Initially, before beginning with our discussion this evening, I shall also be addressing to the reason that we focus upon these belief systems, for many individuals hold some confusion in this area and are questioning the purpose, so to speak, of these discussions that we engage in within this forum. As I have stated many times, the purpose is that you become aware of your belief systems and therefore offer yourselves the opportunity to be accepting these belief systems, and in this action neutralizing their power.
Now; this has come to be interpreted as a neutralization of your emotional state and involvement with belief systems and a disengagement of your participation within belief systems.
Let me clarify for you all that neutralizing a belief system is NOT the action of disengaging your emotional state. It is merely the action of accepting a belief system, which then places you in the position of freedom, for you no longer place a judgment in any direction attached to any particular belief system.
I have stated many times that within this particular dimension, you have created this reality for the exploration of the experiences within physical focus of sexuality and emotion, and in this it would be inconsistent for you to be disengaging from either of these particular directions by neutralizing your belief systems. Therefore, this be a misunderstanding that individuals have created in focusing upon this material and not allowing themselves a full understanding of that which we are speaking of.
In this, let me be reminding you that your emotional involvement and experiences within this dimension shall continue in full blossoming as your shift in consciousness comes to fruition. It shall not be disengaged. You merely shall allow yourselves more freedoms and more fullness in your experiences, for you shall not be blocking yourselves and your creativity and your expressions as an influence of your belief systems.
You also shall offer yourselves much less conflict as you move into this shift in consciousness, for your belief systems and the judgments that you create through your belief systems are that which create your conflicts. The point of this shift in consciousness is to be moving into a direction of more of your own creativity and freedom and much lessening of your own conflicts. This is what you have agreed upon and chosen to be creating in the direction of a new fullness of experience, NOT a new limitation of experience!
That being stated, we shall move into our discussion this evening and engage our group participation, which I am quite sure you are all so very anticipating of, (grinning) for I am very aware that you each are so very enjoying of sharing and expressing yourselves, (laughter) and ultimately, within a group forum! I shall not enter the area of ‘secrets sessions’ yet, but we shall be participating this evening, for I shall be addressing to each of you, and you shall be addressing in kind to me, and to each other. (5)
We address to the belief system of relationships. Relationships enter all areas of your focus. There are many different types of relationships, but as I have stated previously, they are all interconnected and they all merge and cross over each other. Therefore, it matters not that you separate relationships into categories with distinctions of differences, such as parent and child in difference to employer and employee, for all relationships hold many aspects that are the same and they all cross over each other.
You interact with other individuals, and your interaction with other individuals is based and influenced by your own belief systems and all of the aspects of the belief system of relationships that you individually hold. Therefore, you create the limitations that you place upon yourselves with your interactions, for you are aligning with the aspects that you hold of the belief system of relationships.
In this, I shall begin by asking each of you to be calling to your thoughts what each of you shall designate as your most difficult or conflicting or confusing aspect of any given separation of relationship. It matters not which type of relationship you choose, but that you identify to yourselves what you view to be your most conflicting area with regard to any particular relationship. Be remembering, there are many, many, many aspects of this belief system of relationships. They move in the direction of children, of parents, of friends, of siblings, of individuals that you participate within the workplace with, with individuals that you view to be acquaintances, and also yourselves, for you hold a very intimate relationship with yourselves. Therefore, you have a wide range of subject matter to choose from this evening! (Grinning)
Relationships and the aspects of relationships span many, many areas of your focus. They encompass much of your focus: how you view other individuals, how you view yourselves, how you view choices, how you view actions, how you view situations and circumstances. Many individuals hold aspects of the belief system in the area of integrity, hurtfulness, justification, honor; many, many different aspects of this belief system. Death is another aspect of this belief system. Appearance, or how you appear outwardly within your camouflage to other individuals, is quite influencing. How you view that you appear to yourself is quite influencing!
Understanding, lack of understanding, communication, lack of communication, feelings, emotions, thoughts – MOST of your focus within this dimension centers around your interaction in some area or another with respect to this belief system of relationship. It is one belief system that holds countless aspects, and this particular belief system rises to the surface within this particular wave in consciousness that is occurring presently. Therefore, there are aspects of this particular belief system that also rise to the surface with each individual in different manners and different expressions, but you ALL are and shall be experiencing aspects of this belief system moving into the forefront of your attention in some manner. Therefore, we address to this belief system, that you may allow yourselves the opportunity to view your own expressions, other individuals’ expressions, and allow yourselves interaction with each other that shall offer you more information and shall also offer you the opportunity to be moving into the direction of acceptance of this belief system.
And shall we begin? (Grinning at Sally)
ELIAS: And what shall be your most conflicting or confusing or concerning aspect of this belief system?
SALLY: You mean me?? (Laughter)
CAROLE: I think so, Sal!
SALLY: I think that the most troublesome relationship that I have in my life is with my mother. All my life I’ve had this difficult relationship with my mother. Presently she has been diagnosed with Alzheimer’s disease, and all the personality traits that I feared as a child and disliked in her so much are now twice as intensive, and that troubles me very much because I always feel off-balance in my relationship with her.
ELIAS: And this offers you the opportunity to be viewing this aspect of relationship and examining your participation in alignment with the belief system, and offers you the opportunity to be more accepting of this situation as you offer yourself more information as to what is occurring within this situation and how you view this situation in relation to the belief system. This offers the situation of what you term in physical focus to be an aspect of illness within relationship.
Now; I shall express to you that this is NOT an illness. It is held within belief systems within your societies – some of your societies – as an illness or a dis-ease or a dysfunctioning of individuals. In actuality, what is being created by the individual is a moving into the action of transition within physical focus fully. In this, the individual experiences, within physical focus, simultaneous time.
Therefore, to YOUR objective viewing and lack of understanding, you witness a bouncing of the individual’s consciousness in objective awareness. The appearance is a lack of coherency, a lack of understanding of objective reality, for there seems to be a lack of focus within the individual. In actuality, what the individual has created is a choice to be engaging the action of transition BEFORE disengaging from physical focus.
Each individual disengaging from physical focus automatically moves into an area of consciousness, which I have expressed to be that of Regional Area 3, which is designated for an action that we term to be transition. In this, the action is a re-acclimation to simultaneous time, for within consciousness non-physically focused, there is no linear time framework.
Therefore, although this be familiar to you within essence, as you choose to focus within any particular physical dimension, you also choose and agree to be experiencing within the creation of that particular dimension.
Within THIS dimension, you have created linear time within a specific movement. In this, you also choose to be focusing your attention quite singularly, that you may experience the fullness of this particular creation within this dimension. Therefore, you choose to not hold the remembrance while participating within an individual physical focus.
As you move into non-physical focus by disengaging physical focus, you enter into an action which is termed to be transition. In this action of transition, you shed the belief systems that you have held within the physical focus and you engage the remembrance of simultaneous time. You also engage the remembrance of essence. In this action you present yourselves with all of your focuses simultaneously, that you may view them all, and this offers you the remembrance of essence; the REALITY of essence, not merely the concept.
Therefore, you are participating in all time frameworks simultaneously, but within physical focus you remain within the reality of linear time physically. Therefore, although your consciousness is participating in many different time frameworks simultaneously, objectively what is expressed outwardly seems to other individuals to be gibberish, for the individual is expressing thoughts and experiences of many different time frameworks simultaneously. Therefore, within one statement may be several different actions. To your viewing – outside, so to speak – this seems to be quite confused, and nonsense. To the individual expressing, it is all quite sensical, for they are not merely viewing different time frameworks, but are participating within different time frameworks.
The beginnings of the full throttle, so to speak, of this action address[es] to the individual focus, the present individual focus in which the individual’s attention is focused. Therefore, they shall be experiencing all of the time frameworks within this one particular focus simultaneously. To your objective viewing, at one moment they are addressing to you as though you be a child. Within the next moment, they address to you as you are within your present objective awareness now. Within the next moment, they are participating in a conversation with you that you held the age of twenty years previous. They are not merely recalling all of these experiences, but participating within all of these experiences simultaneously. Therefore, they view the reality of all of the aspects of you before them, and interact with all of these aspects simultaneously.
I have stated previously, you are much more multi-dimensional than you view yourselves to be. You look to yourselves; you view one physical form, one solid body. You are much more than this one form, for each and every experience and age that you have created within this physical focus exists simultaneous with you presently, and continues. You merely focus your attention very singularly. Therefore, you view one body, one singular thought process, one you. But you are much more than one you, for each moment does not disappear. It is continuous. Just as you have not begun and shall not end, each moment has not begun and shall not end, for this is the nature of consciousness. It is only your perception within this dimension that creates the camouflage of a progression of successive moments. In actuality, all moments are now, and there is no other but now. There is no future; there is no past. All is present.
Individuals engaging transition participate in an objective awareness of this simultaneousness of time. Therefore, you view them as quite confusing, but they do not view themselves as quite confusing UNTIL they are confronted with the onslaught and the strength of the energy of the belief system concerning their behavior and choice. And in this, as the judgment is created that the behavior is unacceptable, the energy is projected and the individual questions themselves and creates in like kind a judgment upon themselves, for they accept the belief system which is projected to them, in alignment with it. Therefore, they reinforce their own belief systems of duplicity, for energy is also projected to them that their behavior is unacceptable and that their choice in engaging their creation within physical focus is unacceptable.
In this, you offer yourself, in the area of this aspect of relationship, the opportunity to examine this energy and this aspect of relationship, recalling other aspects that move in conjunction with this aspect, for you have held other aspects of the belief system of relationship in what you view to be acceptable and unacceptable and what you view to be right and adequate, as the presentment of the parents’ relationship with respect to the child.
Therefore, in this viewing of the aspects of the relationship of your parents, do not merely focus upon the confusion that you view presently – although this be a fascinating creation to be viewing – but also allow yourself to be viewing other aspects of this relationship that have moved you in their influence into the area of creating a judgment upon other individuals’ choices, and this shall be helpful to you in allowing you the movement more into the area of acceptance. And the point of acceptance is that you shall eliminate your own conflict and allow yourself the freedom of joyfulness, and not hold to your own conflict and confusion. I wager to express to you that your mother experiences far less conflict within her choice of expression than you experience in the viewing of expression!
I shall express that there IS held confusion, for within physical focus it is unfamiliar to be moving into the direction of transition and simultaneous time, although this becomes acclimated to quite quickly in this particular choice of manifestation. But temporarily, there is an element of confusion, but not quite the conflict that individuals create around her! (Grinning)
ELIAS: And the point is to be addressing to your OWN conflict, and eliminating of that!
SALLY: So, could I just ask you one question about this? Let me give you a ‘for instance.’ For instance, Mother will not bathe, okay? And basically, she has body odor. So therefore, we have a definite conflict right there! And if I’m understanding what you’re saying, I need to accept her, which I think, yes, now that I understand I can accept her more, but I cannot accept B.O.! (Much laughter) So therefore, how would I deal with this, Elias?
ELIAS: I shall be expressing to you to be engaging your exercise in clarity (6) if you are viewing this to be offensive to yourself, and you may disengage your objective sense of smell! (Grinning)
SALLY: Really? Wow! And here I thought you had a magic formula for getting her to bathe!
FEMALE: Aha! (Everybody is cracking up)
ELIAS: Although I shall also express to you that within the acceptance of other individuals, you may also amaze yourself in your tolerance and in the area that those elements that you have found offensive previously hold little significance and do not hold the offense that they have held before. Elements hold offensiveness, for there are belief systems and judgments being created.
This in itself [is] an aspect of relationship, one that you view quite small and that you may not even allow yourselves to think of: smells. You shall not engage a relationship with another individual if their scent is offensive! And you hold strong belief systems within this society, of scents.
FEMALE: But if it’s a physical reality thing like that, and we’re here for the experience, then why doesn’t it matter that you like the smell of one person over somebody else?
ELIAS: It is not the situation that you like or dislike ...
ELIAS: ... a scent of one individual or another. This be your choice, and there is no right or wrong within your choice. It is the reason that you create certain choices, the influence; for although you do not allow yourselves the thought process ... for you do not identify certain elements as belief systems at all! You merely move in the direction of expressing to yourselves matter-of-factly: ‘Certain situations merely are. They are not belief systems. They are not influenced by belief systems. They are solid and they are reality and they merely are. There is no influence of a belief system. I walk; I walk forward. This is not influenced by a belief system. It is merely an action. It merely is.’ Incorrect! You hold yourselves in certain manners. Your posture is directed in certain manners. Your countenance about you is held in certain manners, and these are all influenced by your belief systems.
Therefore, in acceptance of the belief system, it matters not a scent of another individual and that you may choose to be viewing one scent as fragrant and one scent as not fragrant, but you do not place a judgment upon either. You merely allow yourself to move in the direction of enjoyment and pleasure with one scent or you choose not to be engaging another scent, but you do not evaluate that one is bad or offensive and that one is good. You view both to merely be the experience of your physical outer senses; a stimulation. You may hold an opinion of one or another, but your opinion reflects no judgment.
This be what I have expressed at the onset of this session : the confusion that many individuals have moved into in this area.
Let me express to you all that although the nature of consciousness is continuous change, and the nature of your physical focus is in alignment with this and is also continuous change, your belief systems resist change. Therefore, you are continuously within an inner conflict, for you view change to be creating difficulty, for you are resistant of change, and in this there is much resistance to the change of this shift in consciousness. And your automatic movements in the direction of change and your resistance to change is to be rationalizing, is to be justifying, and your expression of non-acceptance is to move into the area of what you view to be logic.
And I shall express to you that even your scientists move in the direction presently of viewing that what you think of as your universe is not so very logical or rational! It is not chaos – it is quite ordered and deliberate and immaculate in its creations, for YOU are quite ordered and deliberate and immaculate in your creations, and you are what create your universe! But you are not quite so logical and rational as you believe yourselves to be, for consciousness is not logical and rational. That is a creation and a belief system of this dimension.
There are other dimensions also that engage this same type of creation, but not ALL physical dimensions create this action and consciousness does not create this action, EXCEPT as directed by you for the purpose of creation within physical focuses.
As I have stated, your action is not to be eliminating of your belief systems. You shall continue to hold belief systems within this shift in consciousness, for this is an aspect of your reality within this dimension. ALL of your reality is influenced and based upon belief systems within this dimension. You shall merely move into the direction of accepting that you create belief systems, that all of your reality IS based upon belief systems, and that they are not good or bad; they merely are choices. Therefore, they are not warranting of judgments.
And as I have stated previously, each time you are creating a judgment of ‘good’ you are also creating a judgment – which is NOT acceptance – therefore moving into the direction of viewing all of your belief systems and expressing to yourselves, ‘These are all very good! I am quite pleased with all of my belief systems, and I hold none that are distasteful to me!’ (Laughter) I shall express to you that you have not accepted any of your belief systems moving in this direction, for you are creating a judgment that they are all good.
Belief systems are not good or bad. They merely are. They are your creations. They are created for the purpose of your experiences. Some unpleasant scents may be quite stimulating also, in equal manner to very pleasant scents. It is merely dependent upon your perception.
Therefore, the point is to be eliminating much of your conflict, for you move in the direction of creating judgments in areas of negativity that create conflict for you, and you ALL move into the direction of the judgment that certain situations are bad and unpleasant and you do not enjoy them and you do not wish to be participating in them or creating them or experiencing them, and that other situations are pleasant and fun and that you wish to be creating of these. But more importantly, you move into the direction of a desire to know HOW you are creating your reality, that you may offer yourselves the choice objectively of your experiences.
Therefore, if you choose to be creating of unpleasantness, you shall objectively know that you have created this choice and you shall move willingly into the experience, for you shall have created it purposefully with an objective knowing. You already create these experiences purposefully, but you do not hold the objective awareness of what you are creating. You hold some of an awareness of what you are creating in what you believe or perceive to be a positive direction, [but] not all! You surprise yourselves many times with your positive creations also!
In identifying your belief systems, in recognizing what you are creating, you also shall offer yourselves information as to HOW you are creating your reality, which offers you new horizons in your creativity to be expressing much more fully of yourselves within a new freedom that you do not block yourselves.
Within your situations presently, you block yourselves as influenced by your belief systems quite often, for you automatically move into the direction of not assuming responsibility for your own actions.
(Humorously) You look outside of yourselves and you express responsibility to outside: ‘Circumstances have created this situation for me.’ Quite ludicrous! (Laughter) And what be a circumstance? Shall it be an entity that approaches you and addresses to you, ‘Excuse me. I am a circumstance, and I shall be creating your reality this day!’ (Much laughter) I think not! YOU are creating of your circumstances, and you project outwardly and express that this entity of circumstance has created your reality for you!
Or, within the area of the belief system of relationship, you move into the area of expressing that another individual has created your reality for you. How very powerful, that any other individual may create YOUR reality FOR you! They may be quite creative!
And THIS be the area that you create your gods, offering YOUR abilities outside of yourselves to any other source that you view to be greater than yourselves. And this be what you are creating each time you express that another individual has ‘made you’ anything! You have just created a new god, and they shall be thanking you! (Laughter) I shall be thanking you!
You may express to me that I have created great sadness within you, and I shall be elated, for I have been given such ultimate power of creation that I may create your reality for you! And each other individual shall thank you as you express to them, ‘YOU have hurt me.’ And I shall whisper within their ear, ‘Express great thanks and gratitude that you have been afforded such great power that you have created this individual’s reality!’
(Intently) No other individual creates your reality. No individual hurts you or commands you or creates for you or annoys you or irritates you or conflicts you. YOU create this response within yourselves as dictated by your own belief systems and your own response to your own judgments. ‘I am hurt, for you have expressed unacceptably to me. I am angry, for I do not accept your action. And I shall justify’ – and we shall underline this word of justify, for this is a very, very LARGE bird within this cage! – ‘for I hold my own integrity and honor and you have violated me!’ Once again, how very ludicrous!
No other individual may violate you. No other individual may penetrate you. YOU respond to any other individual as influenced by your OWN aspects of this belief system, and you create language such as justification, and this offers you your stance. You may stand firm in your aspect of your belief system and hold tightly to it and be not accepting, for you are justified.
How may another individual take from you that which does not exist? If you are glorious within yourself, what shall you fear that shall be robbed of you? If you hold tremendous wondrousness and creativity within yourself, if you are a perfect being, how may you be diminished to be less than perfect? You may not. And if you are each other, for there is no separation, what may any other individual take from you that shall be separated from you? For they are intertwined with you. There is no separation, for that which is taken from you is within you. (Pause, smiling at everybody)
MERYL: Excuse me. Hello, Elias. The fact of neutralizing a belief system, isn’t that a belief system in itself?
ELIAS: It is an action. You may build a belief system around the action within your thought process, but the neutralization of the belief system is merely an action. You are allowing yourself to accept the aspects of the belief system, recognizing that it is unnecessary for the conflict that is associated with these aspects.
The belief system itself is neutral. It is an action itself. The aspects of the belief system are those elements that influence all of your behavior and that are creating of conflict. Relationship is merely an action. It is not good; it is not bad. It is an action that you choose for experience within physical focus. The aspects of the belief system are what influence you in all of your different directions.
This be the reason that I have offered the analogy of the bird cage. The bird cage is neutral. It is merely a cage. It CONTAINS something; it contains the birds. The birds are that which flutter and fly and peck at each other and at you, and hold much energy and are very affecting and are at times quite fascinating also, and quite colorful! But once the cage is empty, the cage remains; but it holds no affectingness, for it is empty. It then becomes ornamental. You may place the cage wherever you choose. You may look within your home and you may express, ‘I am pleased with this cage upon my mantel.’ ‘I view that I shall move the cage to a table.’ It matters not. The cage remains the same. It is merely a cage. The birds may be quite messy, and you may be quite careful where you shall place the cage with all the birds contained inside! (Chuckling)
We shall break, and you may continue briefly upon our return.
BREAK 8:55 PM.
ELIAS: Continuing. On to our next victim! (Chuckling) And who shall I choose presently? (Looking around) You!
FEMALE: I’d like to know about my own duplicity. Why do I sometimes feel I can move forward, but part of me says, ‘No, I can’t do that.’
ELIAS: This is quite common within physical focus and is also much more emphasized presently within this shift in consciousness, for your belief systems move more surfacely. Therefore, they are also more obvious to you within your recognition of your own self and your own behaviors.
Let me express to you that duplicity is the strongest of your belief systems within physical focus. This particular belief system permeates all other belief systems that you hold within physical focus and influences all of your belief systems. It intermingles with all of your focus in its entirety. This has been established for millennium within your creation of this particular reality.
Let me express that in what you would term to be your beginnings within this dimension, an aspect of this duplicity was created through your own wonderings of self and your abilities. This would be what you would term to be the beginnings of this particular belief system. As you chose to be fully objectively physically focused within this dimension, you also chose to be not recalling all of essence, and therefore separating the focus from essence in an objective awareness. In this, you became aware of limitations, so to speak, or what you viewed to be limitations, for you did not allow yourselves the remembrance of all of your abilities.
This particular aspect of your creation within this dimension has followed you, so to speak, throughout all of your creating of linear time framework in this dimension. Therefore, it is underlying in all that you create within this particular physical focus, for you do not hold the remembrance objectively of all of your abilities and all that you know, and in this, as your attention is so very singularly focused, you also view yourselves to be limited. You are only limited in what you do not remember, but this is a continuing state that you create with yourselves, and this has been perpetuated very strongly with the addition of your religious and scientific belief systems, for both of these areas move in directions of perpetuating the belief system of duplicity.
Within the area of religious belief systems, it is expressed that there are elements outside of you that are greater than you, and that you are ‘less than.’ Within your new religion of metaphysics, it is stated that you occupy a state in consciousness in this dimension upon this planet, which is your working class planet, your learning planet, (humorously) which is of the lowly third dimension, and that you shall aspire to the fifth or seventh dimension if you are creating quite ‘good,’ which is another perpetuation of your belief system of duplicity.
Your sciences also perpetuate this belief system of duplicity and reinforce your own alignment with it, for you look to your sciences for your answers, so to speak, of your existence. Your sciences express to you that you do not hold abilities to be creating, that you are an accident, and that your planet is an accident which has occurred within explosions of creation and of that which you term to be life, which you differentiate between life and that which you term to be non-life or non-living. A rock is non-living. You are living. A plant is living. In actuality, they are all consciousness. They are merely formed differently and function differently, but within energy, they are all consciousness and are all comprised of the same links of consciousness that you are comprised of. But your sciences express that there ARE differences and that you, although being the most intelligent of life upon your planet, you hold inadequacies and you are not all-creating. You have accidentally evolved from that which you term to be ‘lower’ species upon your planet, and although you have aspired to some greatness, in your assessments, you are not great. You are capable of temporary greatness, but you are not wondrous, for all has been created accidentally.
In the area of your science of psychology, your issues and belief system of duplicity is MUCH reinforced, for this science is continuously, creatively inventing new areas to be expressing to you how very inadequate you are and how very uncreative you are, and narrowing and narrowing and narrowing the avenue of acceptable behavior. Therefore, there are many, many, many areas that reinforce this belief system of duplicity, which creates in the individual the energy of questioning continuously, ‘Am I creating adequately? Am I moving in a correct direction? Am I right?’ In this questioning, you are reinforcing yourself and you are spinning upon your wheel continuously, for you are not stopping long enough to be expressing to yourselves, ‘Stop! I AM great. I need not question or look to other individuals or those that I view to be authorities, for I am my own authority.’
This be one of the reasons that I speak to you; not that you be looking to me and following me, for I do not advocate that any individual be a follower or disciple of Elias, but that you be the followers and disciples of yourselves, for you hold the knowings within you. You merely are presently requiring of a little encouragement, that you look to yourselves and that you be accepting of yourselves and not so very questioning of yourselves.
You have been taught for very much time framework to be questioning of everything, and this is good. ‘You shall be skeptical. You shall be analyzing. It is good to be expressing this behavior. It is good to be questioning and moving into the direction of rationality. It is good to logical. Intuition is fantasy. Fantasy is delusional. Delusional is bad!’
I express to you that there is a purpose for your rationality, for you have created it purposely. There is also a purpose for your intuition and you have created this purposely, and these two elements of your objective expression have been at odds for much of your time framework, for your belief systems have set them at odds.
And now you move into the direction of bringing into balance these aspects of your reality and accepting both, knowing that your rationality is a creation to serve your understanding and also knowing that your intuition is your language to yourself, and in this, one may not function properly without the other.
There is an imbalance, and this perpetuates also your duplicity and your questioning of yourself, that you move in the direction of your thought process and your rationality and your logic and your questioning and your analyzation. And in all of this thought activity, you are ignoring this small voice which motivates you, and you question that motivation, for you have learned well not to be trusting of self, for yourself shall betray you, for it is untrustworthy. And you may verify this through all of your authorities: your sciences, your physicians, your clergymen, your psychologists. They shall all be expressing to you not to be trusting of self, for in trusting of self, you shall move into the direction of trusting your impressions and your impulses.
(Humorously) Oh, no! We must not be trusting impulses, for these are quite animalistic and very base! And the element of self that you need be discarding and ‘rising above’ ... I am so very fond of this terminology! Rising above! And what shall be above? I shall be wondrous to discover what is above, as I have never experienced above! (Laughter) Sideways, but no above! Beyond, but no above ... and no below! And how shall we have above if we have no below? (Chuckling)
Therefore, let me express to you that each time you are battling with yourself, allow yourself the moment of quietness to focus upon your language to yourself, your inner voice which motivates you, and in this afford yourself the opportunity to question, that in how shall it be harmful to you? For you shall not be harmful to you if you are listening to you. You shall be harmful to yourself if you are moving in the direction of your influences of your belief systems which stem from outside of yourself.
Example: Many, many, many individuals approach us and express inquiry to the situation of physical form. It is posed to this essence: ‘Elias, I am discontented with the physical form that I have created. I am experiencing overweightness.’ This is quite amusing to us! (Laughter) ‘And this is unacceptable, for it is unacceptable to other individuals and it is unacceptable to myself, for it is causing me great conflict and anguish.’ And I shall express, ‘Why are you experiencing great anguish in what you have created within your form? And what is unacceptable in what you have created in your form?’
And I shall express to you, what is unacceptable is outside of you, for within you, you shall create what you choose to create, but you shall also align with other individuals’ judgments and you shall subsequently place judgments upon yourself, in the same manner as the dis-ease – or the belief system of the dis-ease – of senility, which is not a dis-ease. It is a choice, but the individuals creating of this choice also align with the belief system that their behavior is unacceptable, for they look to outside of themselves and they accept the judgment of others. And within this small example of physical form, individuals accept the judgment outside of themselves and are not listening to their own small voice.
This is not to say that many individuals do not create this overweightness ... which is not overweightness at all, but this would be your term for this creation. This is not to say that many individuals experiencing this situation are not creating this situation in alignment with the officially accepted belief systems and their own issues of duplicity and holding energy in this area, for they are not accepting of themselves. Therefore, they are creating an outward image, a camouflage which mirrors their own lack of acceptance of self, that they may project to other individuals and reinforce their own lack of acceptance.
(Intently) They are not accepting themselves and therefore they shall willingly accept the non-acceptance of other individuals also, for they are deserving of this, for they are unworthy of any else, and this is an example of duplicity.
But many individuals merely are creating of this physical display of what you term to be overweightness for they choose to be creating of this, and they are not holding an issue. But they allow themselves to be affected in what you term to be negativity, for they accept the judgment of outside and are not listening to their own little voice, which is expressing, ‘You are choosing to be creating of this form, for you choose to be expressing yourself in this manner, and it is pleasing to you. And you are enjoying of consuming substances and therefore you are experiencing pleasure, moving through your focus with less thickness, and this is acceptable to you.’ (Laughter)
No, YOU shall move in the direction of placing many, many judgments upon yourself and expressing, ‘Some element is quite wrong with myself, for I am not creating in the manner of the officially accepted reality.’ And who is creating of the officially accepted reality? The ‘they.’ And who are the they? The you! YOU are the they! YOU are the ones that are creating of the officially accepted reality! Therefore, you are merely expressing outwardly your own battles with duplicity.
And what be so very wrong with what you may term to be plumpness? (Laughter) This may be quite attractive, and may be quite enjoyable to many individuals! It is merely a choice for experience. It is an indulgence of physical senses, and be this not one of your reasons for your creation within physical focus, to be experiencing physically? Why shall you not experience physically if you are physically focused? If you are not choosing to be physically experiencing, you need not enter physical focus. You may be experiencing non-physically.
This offers you a small example of the battles that rage within each of you in the silliest areas (laughter) that you create such trauma in regard to, for you hold such deep influence of these belief systems. THIS be your reason why you choose to be neutralizing – not eliminating but neutralizing – these belief systems, to be quelling these raging inner conflicts and confusions that you create continuously, not only within yourselves, but with each other.
And let me inquire of you, how many of you have moved through – let us focus – this time framework of one month with absolutely no conflicts with any other individual? (Much laughter)
FEMALE: I don’t think so!
ELIAS: And absolutely no conflicts with yourselves? There be your reason. One month – a very small amount of your time framework, and you are not accomplishing one month of no conflict ... but you may!
And beyond this statement, you may also offer yourselves the new freedom of experience, that you may be engaged within a particular conflict and it shall not appear to you within your perception any longer as negative. It shall be within your perception as a purposeful experience that YOU have created and participated within willingly and purposefully, which creates a very large difference. Not that you may eliminate all of your experiences – what be the point in this? – but that your perception of your experiences shall be dramatically altered, that even within a creation of conflict it shall not hold the same meaning to you, for it shall not be conflict within the definition that you assign to it presently. It shall be a purposeful experience for your gaining of information.
And you shall not be responding and reacting to this conflict in automatic manners as you do now, for you shall understand what and how you are creating of it all. And your necessity for creating of your conflicts shall become less and less and less, for you shall offer yourselves the information that it is unnecessary to be creating of conflict.
And this is NOT moving into the area of your psychology, which expresses to you that you shall pound your fists upon your ground or upon a cushion when you are experiencing great anger! I am NOT offering you an alternate route to be ‘channeling your energy into more productive areas!’ This would be quite common of your psychology!
I am expressing to you responses to your own questions, to your own concerns, to your own thoughts that you view to plague your own selves: ‘How do I create my reality? What am I creating? How shall I create my reality more effortlessly, with less thickness and less conflict?’ For this is the direction that you are moving into.
You have created much conflict throughout your history, and you have bored yourselves with it. You have created it and created it and created it, and you have batted this dead mouse (7) enough, and you move into a new direction of chasing a flying bird, which moves much more freely and much more excitedly than the dead mouse! And this be what you offer yourselves now, and I participate in helpfulness for your accomplishment of this choice.
You look to the label of ‘happiness.’ It is merely the elimination of your own inner conflicts, and as you trust yourselves more, you eliminate these inner conflicts.
And I shall be repeating of this ‘trust of self’ ten-thousand-and-one times, until the point that you each are accepting of the reality of the acceptance of self and trust of self and the discontinuation of looking to authorities and outside of self for your truths, for they are within you! And you need no Elias and you need no government and you need no churches and you need no sciences and you need no authorities to offer them to you, for you hold them already within yourselves.
And shall it be that one discarnate essence shall continue to be repeating of this, to the point that you view the gloriousness of yourselves? And I shall offer it willingly to you, for you ARE worthy and you ARE creative. You need merely be listening to your own small voice! (Chuckling)
We shall move to one more, and I shall be discontinuing this evening. And around ... shall we spin the arrow at will? To you!
FEMALE: To me? Okay. Lately I’ve been in communication with my inner selves ... or I say inner selves. I’ve been wanting to speak to the emotions, and also the part of me that controls the physical body. One of the problems that I have is that I may have to rush to bathroom at an inconvenient time! So, I’m trying to make a deal with my inner selves: Could we please give ourselves a little more time and be a little more reasonable about this? And I’m trying to make that work, almost like in a non-conflicting and cooperative type of situation, and that’s one thing.
And the other thing is, today I was speaking to my emotions, and they were very childish and said, ‘We want to express ourselves!’ – this is all my inner voice – ‘We want to express ourselves, and you won’t let us do it sometimes.’ And I said, ‘But I’m a little afraid in society to just release you completely because I don’t know what you might do!’ So, I’m having these little conversations and I’m not sure where it’s all going to come out, but I suspect that it should come out where the emotions, and perhaps a creativity through the emotions, could be expressed in a way that won’t disrupt. Like, say I work in an office or something and yet allow them to come out, and maybe I just need a little help along these lines.
ELIAS: Let me express, many individuals move in the direction for much of their focus of stifling their impulses, and this also is reinforced through the belief system of duplicity. As individuals move into the action of this shift in consciousness, these impulses become stronger. They are recognized more objectively. Elements that have been stifled within the individual focuses now become more obvious, so to speak.
Our focus is the belief system of relationship. The aspect of this belief system that you involve yourself with and draw your attention to is the relationship that you hold with yourself, and what may be acceptable and unacceptable behavior to yourself and outwardly to other individuals.
Within you, the expression moves in the direction of gleefully desiring a freedom within your own creativity and your own expressions in exploration of emotion and sense experiences, but the aspect of the belief system which appears before you is that these expressions are unacceptable. Therefore, other individuals may move in the direction of viewing you to be expressing lunacy if you are allowing this freedom to occur.
You also address to yourself in your own relationship with you, and in this you are quite obviously expressing the opportunity to view yourself and the elements that are not accepted by yourself. There is a tremendous lack of trust in what you MAY express, which you view to be out of your control.
Control is another bird in this cage. Control is a very big, colorful bird in this cage, for individuals desire to be controlling not only of other individuals, but very much of themselves. You shall move much more strongly in the direction of expressing control of yourself than you shall control other individuals, for you shall afford other individuals certain elements of their own freedom – quite liberal of you! – but you shall be quite focused upon the control of yourself! For oh, horror....’
(Vic’s note: Here, the tape ends at 10:12 PM., which is too bad ’cause Elias was really on a roll! I don’t imagine the session lasted too much longer though, as Elias rarely goes over two hours these days.) [session 307, August 14, 1998]
JEN: “So, relationships. We’ve been talking about relationships.
ELIAS: There is great movement presently and has been within this time framework action of a wave in consciousness which moves quite strongly presently and addresses to the belief system and all of its aspects concerning relationships in all of its different forms, and as this wave gains momentum, it becomes more and more affecting and therefore has become noteworthy for addressing attention to its movement and offering explanations to individuals within physical focus, that they may more efficiently be addressing to the aspects of this particular belief system as they begin to surface more and more.
Individuals that are privy to this information that I offer may be holding slightly more of an awareness objectively as to the action which is occurring and shall lend themselves to addressing to this belief system, and this lends energy to more of an easement for other individuals to be moving through this wave in consciousness also.
All aspects of relationships are surfacing, so to speak, within consciousness and being addressed to. This is causing much confusion for many individuals and also much conflict in many different areas. The conflict arises with individuals in the direction of relationship that they focus their attention the most within objectively. Therefore, whichever type of relationship occupies more of their attention is the area that they shall be addressing to, and in this there shall be brought forth from themselves aspects of the belief system that are creating of conflict and confusion, that they may be addressing to these and lending energy to the acceptance of this particular belief system.
This belief system shall be being addressed to for a time framework within your physical focus, for as I have stated previously within this subject matter, this particular belief system is one of your strongest belief systems, holding the most energy individually and en masse. Therefore, it shall be moving within this wave for a time framework.
ELIAS: You have already been addressing to this particular belief system within this wave for many of your months, in your terms, and as it moves closer to its cresting, the intensity of this wave increases. This also creates confusion for many individuals, for they inquire, ‘Why now shall these aspects be appearing from nowhere?’ But they are not from nowhere, for the action of this shift is to be addressing to belief systems, and in this you address to very strongly held, very large belief systems presently.
This particular belief system holds very many aspects. Therefore, it is quite involved and therefore requiring of much attention also. There are very many questions individuals hold with regard to this particular belief system and all of the aspects that are contained within it.
JEN: And what would be this belief system.
ELIAS: This is the belief system attached to the action of relationships.
JEN: Relationships: monogamy, marriage – those are intimate relationships – communication, giving of one’s energy....
ELIAS: All of these that you express are all the aspects of the one belief system. I have offered this analogy several times within this discussion of relationships and I shall continue to be referring to this particular analogy, for it serves well in helpfulness to individuals to be understanding the concept of the belief system and all of the aspects that the belief system contains.
I have expressed that the belief system is the bird cage. The cage itself is the belief system of relationship in any of its forms. All of the birds contained within this cage, of which there are hundreds within this particular cage, are the aspects of the belief system. You may express those elements such as you have – monogamy, expectations, integrity, ethics, justification, hurtfulness, joyfulness, death, birth, behaviors, sexuality, love, emotion – any of these are all aspects of the belief system itself.
(Intently) The aspects are what influence you to be moving in any given direction. The aspects of the belief system are those elements which are to be addressed to, that you may be accepting of the belief system. And as you address to each aspect and you accept each aspect of the belief system, you allow that little bird to fly away, and you continue to accept the aspects of the belief system until all of the birds have flown from the cage and the cage remains empty, and this would be the action of accepting a belief system.
But as you may allow yourself the information, you may also view that there are very many aspects of each belief system, this belief system holding many more aspects than some of your other belief systems, and as you delve into this belief system and allow yourself to view the aspects, you find more aspects hiding behind other aspects, more birds within this cage that you were unaware objectively of their existence within this cage. These are all elements of the belief system.
It is quite interesting, the web that has been woven with this particular belief system and how very tightly you all hold to these aspects of this belief system, and in your holding to these aspects, you also quite efficiently compare your bird cage to another individuals’ bird cage and you express to yourselves, ‘Ah! This individual holds more colorful birds within their cage than do I! Therefore, I need not be addressing to my own birds, for I shall be waiting for their addressing to their birds!’
JEN: You still learn by viewing their birds and their scenarios ...
JEN: ... about the beliefs and letting them go, ACCEPTING them, understanding that that’s what they are.
ELIAS: Indeed you do, for you offer yourself information and you offer yourself the opportunity to be addressing to your own aspects in viewing other individuals and their actions and their addressing to or not addressing to the aspects that they hold.
JEN: And without assuming that there’s a right or wrong, or placing those kinds of beliefs.
ELIAS: Correct. In this, you inquire as to the aspect within romantic relationships of singularity, that which you term to be monogamy; the singularity of individuals, within your language and your terms, creating commitments to each other in singular fashion. Quite interesting! The very language itself lends to aspects of the belief system.
JEN: Oh, quite.
ELIAS: For what shall be the terminology of commitment but another aspect, another bird within the cage? Within your society it is accepted en masse and created in accepted behavior that individuals shall pair. Within your religious belief systems, this is reinforced for the purpose of procreation.
ELIAS: Underlying, this aspect holds great strength, for it has been accepted for much of a time framework. Therefore, it has accumulated much energy.
JEN: It’s a hard thing to break away from.
JEN: It’s a nuisance.
ELIAS: Recognize that each aspect of the belief system is a choice. It is not an obligation; it is not an absolute. It is a choice which is influenced. You have created all of these aspects of the belief system for different reasons. This is not to say that any of these aspects are efficient or non-efficient. They are choices that you have chosen to be aligning with and accepting as you create en masse an officially accepted reality. This be one of the reasons that there is much difficulty and trauma in moving into the area of accepting belief systems, for you have set forth a design of officially accepted realities that you create en masse, and the individuals within each given society agree to be following in the direction of the officially established reality.
JEN: This is to strengthen it.
ELIAS: It has created much strength within your societies, but you now move into the direction of self within the action of this shift. You move into the direction of the individual, which is influencing of the mass but not dependent upon the mass.
JEN: Because the mass doesn’t accept self-exploration as very positive. That’s deemed to be selfish.
ELIAS: Correct, and this is the mass expression of duplicity.
JEN: Yeah, resulting in depression.
ELIAS: At times, you are correct.
Let me express to you that within this action, you may also be noticing the pull which occurs now, which is also creating of the movement into the area of trauma which is related to this shift in consciousness, for two actions occur. The individual moves in the direction of self-remembrance and lessening their hold upon their individual issues in duplicity and acknowledging more and accepting more of self, widening their own individual awareness and therefore also creating of more of the focus of self and abilities of self and not moving so readily into the area of the officially accepted rules ... but the mass is comprised of the individuals.
Therefore, you look to self and you view objectively, surfacely that there is a separation of two actions occurring separate and independent of each other. There is a mass expression of societies which moves in the direction of specific, accepted behaviors which have been created in agreement en masse as the whole of societies. You also view the individual expressions which move away from the mass expressions, but the mass does not exist without the individual! Therefore, they are not separate, and in actuality what is occurring is the struggle of two elements occurring within the individuals which is also reflected within the societies.
You notice that your societies move in the direction of narrowing more and more their officially acceptable behavior. It becomes more and more narrowed, what shall be unlabeled within acceptable behavior. Your psychologies grow stronger and stronger in their strength, for you look now more to your sciences for your validations than to your religions, and in this your psychologies move in the direction of more and more labelings of behaviors that need be modified, for the window of acceptable behavior becomes smaller and smaller. But the individual expresses greater and greater awareness and therefore allows more and more expression of their individuality and creativity and their own remembrance, which reinforces your sciences in narrowing and narrowing the acceptable behavior, for they view more and more behaviors....
JEN: Oh, so it’s fear. It’s a reaction, but what causes narrowness is fear of what they see as so expansive.
ELIAS: It is a lack of understanding, but it is also a mirror action of the individual expressions, for societies are comprised of individuals, and therefore the movements of societies are a mirror reflection of what is occurring within the individuals. And within the individuals, as they widen their awareness they also confuse themselves and frighten themselves, for they do not hold the understanding of what they are creating within their reality, and they question themselves.
JEN: Why wouldn’t the individuals’ expansiveness result in ... okay, I understand.
ELIAS: It shall.
ELIAS: Correct, but within this time period you are beginning to move more swiftly and therefore much more of your awareness floods to you, and in this it becomes confusing and you question your own behavior. You view physical movement. You have viewed energy yourself! Other individuals view this same energy passing and become quite frightened. (Vic’s note: not sure of the word ‘passing.’.
JEN: Well, how come I don’t become frightened? It seems to make perfect sense.
ELIAS: For you are allowing yourself the openness and the awareness and you draw yourself to information that may be helpful to you for your own understanding. Many individuals do not open themselves [to] objective information that shall be helpful, and therefore they move themselves into familiar areas of superstition and fearfulness and this is creating of trauma, for they do not offer themselves the information. Therefore, they do not acquire the knowledge, and in this they do not hold the (inaudible) objectively.
JEN: Well, that makes sense, where I would want to move into the more.... (Vic’s note: I cannot decipher the rest of this.)
ELIAS: This is trusting yourself and not allowing yourself to succumb to what you view to be pressures or influences of other individuals that continue to align with officially accepted aspects of the belief systems, and in this you address to aspects of your own belief systems of relationship within the area of trusting self and not allowing yourself to be influenced in the direction of accepting other individuals’ directions which may not be in alignment with your own influence.
JEN: So probably being drawn to someone like Tim, whose essence name I can’t remember, seems to be helping open this awareness at this time. Hmm. It’s interesting.
ELIAS: And offers you the opportunity to view more aspects of the belief system of relationship also.
JEN: ... That’s nice to hear. Okay, so I want to ask a question about the exchange of energy that comes through sex as we know it. It’s my inquiry into what we term as monogamy and why it’s necessary. I’m curious about the energy that ... how can I say it? ... the way energy comes together in this act. It’s not so much the significance of it ... well, maybe it is. But what’s that all about in connection with essences, the connection of different energies.
ELIAS: It is dependent upon your expression.
JEN: Is it a way for energies to get to know one another at a level much greater than the communication that we know.
ELIAS: There are many areas that may be explored in the aspect of sexuality with respect to relationships. In physical terms, you may place this action as a physical experience that you create to be facilitating of new focuses to be physically entering into this physical dimension.
Now; you also attach significances to this physical action, and within the belief system of relationship you attach certain aspects of the belief system to this physical act, for within this physical act you are physically merging two physical forms, and in this action you may be creating of another physical form. Therefore, you attach great significance to this action. This is not to say that your attachment of significance is right or wrong. It merely is.
In this, you also allow yourselves certain openings. Let me explain.
Just as within certain actions you create focal points to allow yourselves more of an opening to self and to your own awarenesses and to energies, within your objective expressions such as your cards, your crystals, your astrology, your numerology, your rituals, you use these as focal points, as actions that you allow through your belief systems an opening to consciousness and to energy. In like manner, you create a focal point of an action of physical mergence in the area of the action of sexual intercourse.
In this, at times individuals allow themselves to move into an area of opening to their own awarenesses, and in this action of opening to their own awarenesses they may also within agreement allow themselves to open to each other. In this, they allow themselves to experience an exchange of energy and at times a mergence of energy which exceeds physical action.
Within the attachment of your symbolism, which is an aspect of the belief system, you also allow yourselves the ability to be accessing other areas of consciousness, other aspects of self, other aspects of other individuals. In this, if you are choosing and if you are allowing your own openness, you may access other areas of consciousness together that may be quite enlightening to you, so to speak, and may offer you an opening to a remembrance of self and of essence and of the energy of essence, and you may also allow yourself the excitement and exhilaration of not only a physical experience of energy, but also the knowing of the powerfulness of your OWN energy of essence which may be expressed THROUGH you.
You may experience this also individually, but belief systems lend themselves, in the accumulation of energy en masse, to an easement of accomplishment in certain areas. This be the reason that I express to you that belief systems are not bad. They may be limiting, but they are not bad, for in many aspects they lend themselves to your own accomplishments.
In this particular area, the aspect of sexuality may be quite lending of itself in areas of widening your own awareness and your own experiences. You may allow yourself the experience of mergence of essence and not only feel this within energy, but also physically, within your physical senses and within your nervous system of your physical form, if you are opening yourself to this awareness within this sexual activity. For you have created the aspect of the belief system to lend itself in this direction as facilitating to you as a focal point, in like manner to any of your props that you use within physical focus for your attention. They hold symbology, and where you attach symbology you also allow yourselves openness, and you allow yourselves more of your own widening in awareness.
Now; let me express to you that another aspect of this particular area of this belief system is that you attach to this that you need be singularly focused with one other individual. This may lend itself to the actualization of your widening of awareness, for you may allow yourself more of an ability if your attention is singularly focused, but this is not to say that this is the actuality of the situation. It is merely an aspect of the belief system. It matters not. You may be accomplishing of this same action with ANY individual.
Now; let me also offer you another aspect of information in this. You also in physical focus move into the direction of identifications of soul mates. Now, this is a different action. This is not to be promoting of monogamy or singularity in attention with one particular individual, but essences do create similar tones, and in this creation of similar tones they may choose to enter into physical focuses in conjunction with each other, and in this action they may also choose to be creating of many focuses shared between them for many shared experiences.
In this, this creates a situation that you within physical focus identify as soul mates. It is a knowing, a familiarity, and in this familiarity there also is created an easement in energy, and within this easement of energy at times, as you DO hold the familiarity of another individual that you may term to be a soul mate, this lends itself in each individual allowing themselves to move more easily into a trust and acceptance of self and of the other individual, which also lends itself to more of an easement of their joint creations.
Therefore, if you are expressing the inquiry of expanded awareness in areas of sexuality and what you may be accomplishing within energy in your remembrance within experiences of sexual activities, you may allow yourself more of an ability to experience within physical focus with an individual that you view to be a soul mate, for you move more easily into areas of trustfulness. This is not to say that you may not be accomplishing this same action with other individuals or that you need be singular within your attention. It is merely expressing that you generally shall be allowing yourself more effortlessness in the direction of the individual that you identify as soul mate.
JEN: Seems like there’s a lot of it out there.
ELIAS: Quite, and I may express to you that even within one given focus, you hold more than one soul mate.
JEN: And that that’s not necessarily a male.
ELIAS: Quite. It matters not. Gender is merely a choice of the individual focus for the purpose of experience.
JEN: I feel lucky to have been attracted to so many soul mates, or so many people that I seem to have such a high comfort level with.
ELIAS: And this be not luck, but the accomplishment of your creation.
JEN: I’m pleased with this creation.
ELIAS: Very good! I am acknowledging of you in this!” (Chuckling) [session 308, August 21, 1998]
ELIAS: “Let me also offer to you another bit of information in the area of addressing to belief systems and the aspects within belief systems in regard to the subject matter that we have engaged as of late in the area of relationships, that one very strong aspect of this belief system which is quite affecting and is appearing objectively more and more within individuals’ awarenesses presently is the aspect of expectation.
I express to you that this aspect is quite large, and this particular aspect shall be showing itself, so to speak, more and more presently as individuals bring to their objective awareness more and more instances and situations that shall show this particular aspect in many different situations, and this one aspect may be quite affecting in what you term to be negative areas or the creation of conflict.
TOM: Right, I understand what you’re saying there. That’s one area that’s been in my consciousness a lot lately.
ELIAS: This is also one aspect of this belief system that is quite difficult to be addressing to, for many times this aspect may hide itself, so to speak, upon a different floor and not be so easily viewed, for it may be camouflaged in many different forms, creating much difficulty in viewing how it is being expressed. It is a very, very large aspect and holds much conflict and much difficulty in addressing to this particular aspect. Expectation may not always be so very obvious to you, but may hide itself in many, many insidious manners. Therefore, it is requiring of much attention.
TOM: Exactly. I guess I have been calling it the sneaky bird.
ELIAS: Quite, although it is quite interesting that this very, very large vulture of a bird may be so efficiently camouflaged, and as you express in your vernacular, sneaky! (Grinning.
TOM: Exactly! It is amazing how such a large one can be! (Elias chuckles) I have a couple of other questions on impressions of focuses. I was going to ask you how many focuses Malhai has within this physical dimension, for one thing. The other was that I have the impression that one focus uses out-of-body and the inner senses in a military fashion and is quite good at it, and another is what we would term into magic or witchcraft using out-of-body projections and inner senses, those abilities. Are these impressions correct.
ELIAS: You are correct in your impressions of these focuses. I shall also offer to you that within this particular dimension, you hold four, one ... forty-one focuses within this dimension.
TOM: Very busy! (Elias chuckles) Now, the impression that I have of this person in the military, I guess I’ve discounted myself sometimes in viewing, but he seems to be rather well-known, and I was wondering if this is correct, but I discount myself on this impression for the humility reasons, I guess.
ELIAS: Ah, humility! This be another interesting belief system.
TOM: Yes, it is! (Laughing.
ELIAS: And quite unnecessary, although it is quite coupled in the area of duplicity with its partner of arrogance! What an interesting pair! (Grinning) I shall express to you that you are correct that this individual holds recognition of many other individuals, in their awareness of him.
TOM: Okay, that’s a correct impression. I will have to be looking at these areas, aspects of humility and arrogance.
ELIAS: Be remembering also that in your viewing of other focuses and your addressing to arrogance or humility, individuals hold many focuses, and although there are many, many essences focused within this physical dimension, there are also very many individuals throughout your globe, throughout your history, that are well-known, so to speak. Therefore, it is very likely that MANY essences focus in at least one physical focus that may be in the area of fame or popularity or well-known in some area. This is NOT unusual. In this, you are not so unique in your choice of creation of a particular focus that holds popularity with other individuals. Therefore, it is unnecessary for you to move into the area of the belief of humility! (Grinning)
TOM: Okay, I guess I understand. (They both laugh)
ELIAS: Arrogance also is nothing more than the acknowledgment of self, and I am QUITE encouraging of MUCH arrogance within physical focus!” (Grinning) [session 311, September 01, 1998]
ELISABETH: “How am I able to help my son? Because he is making his life so difficult! How am I able to make a better ... (speaks to Gerhard in German)
ELISABETH: ... relationship to him, to help him.
ELIAS: This be another aspect of the belief system of relationships which is quite prevalent and quite common within physical focus, especially in the area of mothers and children. There is a great affectingness in the area of this aspect of the belief system of relationship, for there is a felt responsibility and a tremendous desire, which is quite genuine, upon the part of the parent to be offering to and helpful to their offspring, so to speak. Therefore, I am acknowledging of what you are inquiring.
Let me also express to you that in this, your greatest supportiveness and helpfulness to your children, so to speak, shall be in your own expression of the little sapling, for this shall be assimilated and accepted much more than any other of your expressions or your communications with your child, for you shall look more to example and the projection of energy and the FEEL of energy than to any other expression.
Do not be discounting of other individuals and their awareness of energy, regardless of their expression. Individuals feel energy and hold an awareness of energy much more strongly than words, and energy projected in alignment with this little sapling story may be much more affecting than you realize, for other individuals look to examples. Even without uttering a single word within your language, you may be very affecting within your actions, for individuals are noticing, and within consciousness you lend energy to their own movement in this expression. Therefore, look to this analogy of the little sapling, and this shall be helpful to you in being supportive to your child.
ELISABETH: Thank you.
ELIAS: You are quite welcome.” [session 319, September 17, 1999]
LAURA: “I have a question, Elias, about oneness, how we’re trying to become the one consciousness again and not separate from everything. Do you have any suggestions on bringing ourselves back to one.
ELIAS: Let me express to you that within the new rising belief systems – what we term to be the ‘enlightened era’ (grinning) – individuals move in the direction of a new type of separation which is camouflaged with the identification of oneness or wholeness.
Within an actual sense of the term of eliminating the separation, or LESSENING the separation, I express to you that your most efficient movement is to be addressing initially to self, and in this addressing to self, allow yourself to recognize your own belief systems and your own actions of separation, for your own behaviors shall express to you each time you are separating yourself from other individuals and from all that you create within your physical focus.
Let me also express to you that as you manifest within physical focus, there shall always be an element of separation to an extent, for you are choosing to be manifest within a physical dimension. ALL of essence may not be expressed within ANY physical dimension. This is not to say that you do not possess all of essence, but all of essence may not expressed through physical focus.
Therefore, in a manner of speaking, within physical dimensions, regardless of which physical dimension you are speaking of, there shall always be an element of separation, but as you move more fully into the action of this shift in consciousness, this aspect of separation lessens more and more, and you allow yourselves more and more of a remembrance of essence and therefore more of an incorporation of essence into your physical focus.
In this, as I have been expressing, the greatest movement of this shift is to be accepting of belief systems. I may not be emphasizing this to you enough! As you begin to allow yourselves to move in this direction [of] acceptance of self, trust of self, and addressing to the belief systems that you hold – NOT eliminating these belief systems but addressing to them and accepting them – this shall be the most affecting action that you may incorporate, in your moving in the direction of less separation and incorporating more of an interconnectedness objectively with all that is created within your physical focus.
Let me express to you, I am aware that you view these concepts to be quite elementary and that you view this to be quite simplified. In actuality, these concepts may be your most difficult actions to be accomplishing.
You may move easily in the direction of expressing to yourself and to other individuals, ‘I am one with my planet. I am one with nature. I am interactive with all other individuals. I am one with all that is within my physical focus, within my universe.’ These are words easily said. The reality of these words that are so very easily said is not so very easily accomplished, for you have created millenniums of separation. You have created much time framework with many belief systems that reinforce all of your separations.
As you walk upon your physical earth, you may feel a bond to this planet, but you do not view yourself to BE it. You do not feel its rhythms within your physical form as an element of yourself ... not as ITSELF, but as YOURSELF. This is truly a lack of separation.
As you interact with another individual, you do not interact with another individual as yourself. You interact with another individual as separate from yourself, outside and apart, for you view yourselves in physical forms.
You hold a physical form, a physical body. You are a female. You are a certain height, a certain weight, a certain color. You move in certain manners. You grow in certain intervals. You view a tree to be certain height, a certain color, a stationary creation. You view another individual as outside of you, different, separate and apart. You do not view the energy that is intermingled with you all. You view a collective awareness, or what you may term to be a collective consciousness, as some elusive element outside of yourselves. It is not within you. It is some element outside of you that you reach to attain, as if you may grasp this elusive, floating, cosmic element. It is within you! You ARE, in actuality, ALL intertwined and interconnected.
This be the reason that I express to you, as you move in the direction of the influences of many of your belief systems: as you hold a judgment upon any other individual, you ARE placing this judgment upon yourself. For every action that you move in the direction of creating, that you view to be outside of yourself, is merely a mirror objective image of what you create within yourselves. For in actuality, there is no separation. There is only the separation of your objective awareness, your perception within your physical focus. But in actuality, your energies are all intermingled and are not separated.
I have been speaking within this forum often as of late in the direction of relationships. I have offered much information in this particular subject, in addressing to the belief system of relationships. This subject matter has served well in instruction to very many individuals. Not only do you move in the direction of a wave in consciousness presently, which IS occurring and affecting of ALL of you, which addresses to the belief system of relationships, but this discussion of relationships offers you the opportunity to view much of your own creations and your own movements within physical focus, for it is not so very narrow as to only be viewing individual relationships, but also that belief systems hold very many aspects. There are few belief systems. There are very many aspects within each of these belief systems.
The belief systems themselves are very large and encompassing, but they are also neutral. This be the reason that I have offered the analogy of the bird cage. The belief system is the bird cage. The bird cage is quite large. Within the bird cage are all of the aspects of the belief system, and these are the birds, and each of these bird cages hold very, very many birds. Accepting a belief system is to be opening the door of the bird cage and allowing all of the birds to fly free. You continue to hold the bird cage, you retain this bird cage, but it is now ornamental; diffused. It is not a living, squawking, fluttering, demanding element any longer. You need not feed what it contains, for it is empty.
You have not eliminated the cage. You continue to hold the cage, and you may place the cage wherever you are choosing and you may view the cage and you may hold an opinion of the cage, but the cage holds no thing within it. It is empty, and therefore it holds no power. THIS is the direction of accepting a belief system.
(Emphatically) The belief system of relationships holds very, very, very many birds! You may choose ANY direction that you fancy, and we may address to the belief system of relationship! You may speak of friends, you may speak of family, you may speak of employers, you may speak of acquaintances, you may speak of your earth, you may speak of yourselves, and they ALL are encompassed within this belief system. ALL of your interactions within physical focus, with any other individual upon your planet, is influenced through aspects of the belief system of relationships.
How you are interacting with your planet itself is an aspect of relationships, for you hold a relationship with your planet. You hold a relationship with yourself. You view yourself to be two individuals, this objective self that sits before me presently and your higher self, and both of you sit before me presently, although there are no both of you! There is merely the one, for it is all-encompassing and there is no separation.
Your spirituality encompasses all of you. To address to the lack of separation is to address to all of you, to not be attaining to the elusive spiritual that you view to be beyond you, but to be encompassing all of you that is physically present now and all of your interactions and all of yourself and other individuals.
I have begun discussing also fear, which we shall continue within another meeting, for it shall be requiring of an entire forum of its own, for it holds very many aspects also! But fear is quite influencing in many directions within your physical focus also, and is a very insidious bird, a very large bird! You may classify this bird as an ostrich, it is so very large! (Laughter) But it also is quite camouflaged, and holds the ability to be invisible. Quite a magical bird! For you may be responding to this bird and not even hold the awareness objectively that it is there, but this very large bird is very influencing, and as you become more accepting and trusting of self, you also allow yourselves to be viewing this bird and noticing and holding an objective awareness of this bird more and more, and its camouflage shall become less and less, and it moves into the light of being more obvious. But do not discount the cunningness of this particular bird, for within its camouflage it may be known by many different terms, and it may move you quite easily and unsuspectingly into very many areas, and they may be disguised by justification – another very insidious bird which is quite friendly with fear, another very large bird in you, I suspect! (Laughter.
You may continue with your inquiries.
NATHAN: Elias, whereabouts are we, as far as on the wave? Have we crested? Are we on the way up.
ELIAS: I shall express to you that within this particular wave in consciousness which addresses to this particular belief system of relationship, you now move in the direction of ALMOST cresting; not quite, but the momentum and the energy of this particular wave has almost reached its peak, which you all may view in objective obvious terms if you are looking to your own objective imagery in the areas of relationships.
Each of you may view within your own individual focuses different examples of heightened intensities in different relationships. It matters not which type of relationship may be being affected presently and has been being affected within what you may term to be your recent past – VERY recent past – but in certain areas, you shall each notice within your individual focuses certain elements of relationships, be they with family, friends, different individuals, acquaintances, groups, partners, employers, employees. It matters not. The development is a heightened sensitivity, an intensity in the relationships.
This is not necessarily to express an intensity in what you term to be negativity or conflict, although you do move in this direction more often than in expressing what you view to be positive, for this holds your fascination more efficiently.
Therefore, you shall be noticing more in the directions of conflicts, but it is not necessarily designated as the showing of conflict or increase of conflict, for it may be an increase in intensity of a feeling of interconnectedness, of joyfulness, of what you term to be closeness, or you may be experiencing a combination of these elements simultaneously. In some directions you may be feeling and experiencing great closeness, and in other areas you may be experiencing and feeling great conflict.
This intensity is a reflection of the peaking of this particular wave. As this wave descends and begins to arrest its intensity, you shall view a smoothing, a lessening of turmoil, so to speak, an evening of questioning and confusion and conflict. It shall move in the direction of balancing.
Look to your own society and the tremendous tumultuousness that occurs presently within your own government! And what is the direction that such great attention moves within but that of relationships, and many different expressions of relationships in many different directions.
Your objective imagery is expressive of this very wave in consciousness, addressing to family, to employers, to employees, to friendships, to acquaintances. The spectrum is encompassed within the objective imagery that is presented, and this is not imagery that is presented merely individually, but also en masse, and it is not limited to your culture. It is quite actively in motion within many other cultures also. These are all evidences of that which I have spoken for much time period, allowing you to objectively view the great movement of energy that encompasses your globe presently and shall be increasing continuously.
You inquire of events within your future: your Mayan events predicted and your calendar, or of solar alignments, or of other predictions that move into your upcoming century. I express to you, much energy is being lent in the direction of these creations. Waves of energy are moving, in much similar manner to your tides upon your planet. Therefore, be realizing that these waves move into more of an intensity, and individuals ARE moving in the direction of addressing to belief systems regardless of the information that they present to themselves. They need not draw themselves to my information. It is all about you in every direction, and many essences offer very similar information, and you all access your own information in these areas. You ALL hold the awareness of this movement, and you present yourselves with much imagery and evidences in these areas.” [session 320, September 18, 1998]
FEMALE: “Regarding relationships personally, I’m a wreck! I’m torn in my current love relationship, and wondering if staying in it would be the best possible thing for me to do.
ELIAS: Let us examine this situation, and this may be helpful to you in your addressing to the present situation and also to other situations. Identify what you view to be the most affecting area in this situation of this relationship.
FEMALE: I’m not sure what you mean.
ELIAS: What be the action or the element of this relationship that you feel is creating of your most conflict.
FEMALE: I’m torn between security and lack of passion.
ELIAS: Now, let us examine these two aspects of the belief system of relationships. You have identified passion and security. Both of these aspects involve emotional responses within you.
Security, security in relationships; this is an expectation. This is a projection that you project outward from yourself which is stemming from a lack of acceptance and trust within yourself, and in this lack of trust of self, you project outward to another individual and to situations with an expectation to be providing you in an outward manner what you may not be providing yourself inwardly.
Therefore, as you are not allowing yourself to be trusting of self and accepting of self, which are two very different elements, you look to other individuals to be supportive in all aspects: emotionally, mentally, what you view to be spiritually – which is another belief system in itself – physically, financially.
All of these areas are supportive and these are all providing you with what you term to be security, stability, an element that you may depend upon, but this action of dependence is misplaced, for the direction is to be placing this in the area of an expectation of another individual. In actuality, the placement belongs with self, for if you are offering yourself your own trust and your own acceptance, it is unnecessary to be holding an expectation of another individual. It becomes a situation of ‘it matters not.’
Now, also in line with this, you present that another element of conflict is a lack of passion, which is another indication of the very same action – a lack of trust in self and a lack of acceptance of self – and this is projected outwardly, which is creating of an influence, and this may manifest either in the situation of the other individual holding a lack of interest, so to speak, or more commonly, of yourself holding a lack of interest or passion.
And why shall you be projecting a passion if you are moving yourself fully into alignment with the belief system of duplicity and not feeling your own worth? If you are not accepting of yourself and you are not acknowledging of your own worth, then you shall not be projecting outward to other individuals of your own worth, and you shall not be generating within yourself a passion, for you hold no passion for yourself. (Whew! I don’t know about anybody else, but that sure hit home for me!
Why shall you hold a passion for another individual if you do not hold this within yourself? For you do not feel your own worthiness in this area, and in this, if you are not acknowledging of your own worthiness, you shall be creating of reinforcement in this area. You shall project energy that shall be influencing of other individuals to also not be accepting of you, for you are unworthy of their acceptance. You may not accept yourself. Therefore, no other individual may accept you either.
Within your history, many teachers have moved in the direction of expressing to you all, through many different belief systems and many different manners, that in order to be loving another individual, you must be loving of yourself first.
Now; I may express a similar concept, but not entirely the same concept, for you hold an innate ability to be naturally projecting an acceptance of other individuals in certain areas that you may not afford yourselves, and by the very nature of your beings, there are aspects of you that you shall be nurturing and loving to other individuals where you may not be loving and nurturing of yourselves, for these are all belief systems, and the mass belief systems move in the direction of discounting of self and creating of the martyr.
You are a very good individual if you are selfless. If you are always giving outwardly, you are a very good person. If you are receiving, if you are accepting for yourself, if you are concentrating upon yourself, if you are SELFISH, you are a very bad person. THIS is duplicity, the holding of two perceptions simultaneously, that you are good and you are bad at the same time, and within yourselves, you move in the direction of holding to this belief system very tightly, and you shall move in the direction repeatedly of discounting yourselves.
(Intently) I have expressed previously that you each may be very much more harmful and destructive, so to speak, to yourselves than any other individual within your entire dimension may ever attempt to be to you, for no other individual may be affecting of you without your agreement, but you may not always be within agreement to yourself! You may be within conflict and struggle within yourself, and individuals are QUITE hurtful to themselves.
You are creating of physical ailments, of dis-ease, of holding energy which is painful. You are creating of emotional trauma, dissatisfaction, dysfunctioning, lack of balance, misharmony, and fearfulness and unhappiness. And I express to you, in all sincerity, BE SELFISH. Look to self first, and offer to self all of the elements that you may offer to another individual, for you ARE worthy, and you are a magnificent creature and perfect in all of your expression.
And it matters not that you do not believe me, for I KNOW, for I hold the remembrance and you do not. Therefore, I may express to you with confidence: you ARE perfect, unflawed, and you need merely be acknowledging this of yourself.
For within your expression of acceptance of yourself and trust of yourself, you automatically shall project acceptance of other individuals, and they automatically shall magnate to you, and the natural byproduct of this trust and acceptance is your own joyfulness, which is quite easy! It is merely requiring of your own acceptance.
As to your choice – shall you continue within this relationship or shall you not continue – this is a choice. It is merely a choice. I shall express to you, you may continue within this relationship or you may discontinue this relationship. It matters not. And you may move into another relationship, and you shall experience the same action, for the relationship is not the conflict. The relationship that you hold with yourself is the conflict.
For although you may express your accomplishments to yourself and to other individuals, and you may express many wondrous elements of yourself, appearing to be accepting of yourself, within you, you are not accepting of yourself. But this you view to be painful to be viewing. Therefore, it is easier to be projecting outwardly and looking to other individuals to be offering the acknowledgment and the validation that you shall not offer to yourself.
Let me express to you, what shall be so very dark within you that may not be accepted? Within essence, there are no secrets, and there is no element of you that is unacceptable.
You may create infinitely. All that you desire may be at your very fingertips. You need merely be trusting your own ability to be creating of it. Are you understanding.
FEMALE: (Whispering) Yes. Thank you.
ELIAS: (Warmly) You are very welcome. I am quite acknowledging of you, and offering much energy to you in your choice.” [session 324, September 23, 1998]
BEN: “I started a new health treatment thing yesterday, and I was wondering, are my current belief systems aligned with this treatment to where it would be beneficial for me at this time? One of the things I liked about it was that it seemed to deal with energy blockages, which is something that I know you’ve spoken about before. So I was thinking, ‘Oh, this might be something that is good, in becoming aware of energy blockages and letting them go and becoming more healthy.’
ELIAS: It is efficient to be noticing energy that you hold and you create blocks with, but I may also express to you that as individuals hold energy and are blocking in certain areas and creating of physical affectingness, they are creating this in response to issues that they hold and to belief systems that they choose not to be moving through.
Therefore, you may engage your new healing method – your system – (grinning) and if you are moving in the direction of believing that this shall be affecting, it shall be. If you are not believing that it shall be affecting, it shall not be. It is merely a question of your own beliefs.
I am not expressing to any individual that they be NOT moving in any directions of their own methods in conjunction with their belief systems in the areas of healing. Individuals misunderstand and interpret that I express to them that their belief systems in these areas are bad. I am not expressing this! I am not expressing that ANY of your belief systems are bad. They may be affecting in what you term to be limiting directions and they may be blocking of your movement, but they are not within themselves bad.
I also hold an awareness that within belief systems, individuals magnate to the thought process that they shall not engage in their methods or their medical sciences, for they address to this as a belief system, and belief systems are bad, and therefore they shall not engage the actions of these belief systems. And they may be affecting of their physical form quite intensely, for they DO hold these belief systems.
Regardless that they do not acknowledge them or move in the direction of not acting within them, they continue to hold these belief systems. Therefore, they are not affecting of any alteration merely by expressing that they hold a belief system in the area of methods and medical sciences and that they shall not engage this.
It is quite ludicrous that individuals move in the direction of ... let us express an injury for an example, and they shall break a bone within their foot and they shall not engage their physicians, for they shall express to themselves, ‘I have broken a bone and I shall concentrate upon this bone and it shall mend itself and I shall not engage my physicians, for I do not believe in medical sciences any longer!’ (Chuckling.
And their foot shall not mend, and they shall incorporate not only a bone broken within their foot, but their walking shall be affected and they shall be creating of great physical pain. Very good in accomplishing dramatically, but they have not altered the belief system and they have not eliminated the belief system. They have merely created viewing a different aspect of the belief system.
In this, I am acknowledging of belief systems that you hold and encouraging you to be moving in the direction of allowing yourself to engage your methods for a time period, as you learn to address to your belief systems and you allow yourself to notice the aspects of the belief systems that are affecting of you.
In this, as you move into the area of noticing energy which is held in different locations of your physical form, this may be quite helpful to you in noticing what behaviors and actions and issues that you hold that are affecting of this energy.
I may also express to you that you may incorporate movement with your energy centers in conjunction with your new method and this may be helpful also, for in aligning your energy centers and balancing these energy centers, you shall also lend energy to yourself in unblocking energy that may be held in certain areas.
EDWARD: ... When I met you the first time, you had given a talk on relationships, and I took away some very, for me, positive information out of that. But when you speak about how other people do not affect us, we only affect ourselves, how do we ... I mean, I have a hard time sometimes breaking away from that, where it’s not, ‘Oh, they made me mad. They’ve done this.’ When it’s ME, if I took it correctly. It’s MY perception of the event. It’s my....
ELIAS: You are correct. These are very, very strong aspects of this belief system of relationships. These aspects have been accepted for centuries, and just as energy bleeds through to you from other focuses, which influences you in more of an intensity in directions that you choose to be moving into, energy also bleeds through in the area of belief systems.
You are not immune to all of your other focuses in the area of belief systems. You do not enter into a physical focus with no affectingness of the belief systems which are held within all of your other focuses, for they are all influencing of each other.
This is not karma! You are not moving within a linear direction. You are not repaying debts and you are not carrying over, but energy moves freely. Energy is consciousness; consciousness is energy; and there is no element that is not consciousness. Therefore, all is interconnected and there is no separation. In this, all of the energy is intermingled.
Your belief systems also are energy, for they are a creation within your physical focus. In this, these belief systems and all of the aspects of these belief systems are influencing throughout all of your focuses, creating a tremendous strength of these aspects which are contained within each of these belief systems.
You have generated much energy in the direction of the aspect of hurtfulness and your thought processes surrounding hurtfulness of one individual to another individual, and in this, as I have stated previously, you also incorporate your other very large, well-fed bird within this cage of justification. Another individual may project to you, and you perceive this to be hurtful, and you automatically justify yourself, for this is your defense.
These are interesting terms, justification and defense, and what need be the action of defense, as no other individual may be hurtful to you WITHOUT YOUR PERMISSION.
But YOU do not view this in this manner, for you do not view that you are giving of your permission. You are a victim! Another individual is thrusting upon you an unwelcome and unwanted projection of energy within a hurtful manner. Not so! Another individual may be projecting energy in this manner, and if you are experiencing hurtfulness, you have chosen to be accepting of their expression and to be responsive within your own defense.
(Intently) The reason you move in the direction of your own defense is that you do not accept and trust yourselves, and THIS be the base line of all of these actions, for if you are trusting and accepting of self truly, it shall not matter.
You shall understand that another individual may project energy in any manner that they are choosing, and you shall also understand that although you may create the allowance for their expression to be moving in your direction, you are not compelled or dictated to that you must allow a penetration of this energy into your energy field. You may be accepting of other individuals’ expressions and belief systems and you need not be allowing the penetration of energy, for you understand, within your own acceptance of self, that it is unnecessary.
Another individual may express to you, ‘I am irritated with you. You have been bothering of me. I have moved in the direction of inquiries with you, and YOU have created negative attitudes with me. Therefore, I shall not engage inquiring of you any longer.’
And why shall you move in this direction? For you are expressing your own lack of acceptance of self and your own lack of trust of self, and as you express this outwardly, your creation is a defense.
You create a shield about you, but you view this shield to be the element that shall protect you and that no energy shall penetrate, but this is not the shield that shall be protecting of you, for all energy may pass through this shield quite easily, and does! But within the recognition of your own acceptance of self, you reinforce your energy field which surrounds you, and THIS may not be penetrated without your permission.
(Intently) Each time you move in the direction of defenses, you are offering your permission to engage another individual in the very manner that you do not wish to create.” [session 327, October 03, 1998]
RODNEY: “I have another question! (Laughter) There’s a rather large bird cage down in Washington D.C., and it’s called ‘inappropriate sexual behavior.’ (Laughter) There’s a lot of birds in this cage!
ELIAS: Ah! THIS is an aspect of the bird cage that we have been discussing recently, of relationships! These are not the bird cages. These are the birds within the cages! (Grinning)
RODNEY: Is this kind of activity on such a large scale – I’m talking about the discussion on a national level of these kinds of relationships; it’s rather new and unique to this country – is this in any way a part of this shift?
ELIAS: Absolutely; yes. This is lending energy to mass awareness and is moving many individuals into directions that they may not have perceived themselves moving into previously and into more of an acceptance in many areas and many directions, for the more that these political individuals create attention in this direction, drawing your focuses to the unacceptability of certain behaviors, the more they are affecting in moving within consciousness the lending of energy to all of you to be more accepting of behaviors within physical focus, recognizing that it matters not.
Therefore, I express to you that there are many times within your physical focus that mass expressions and mass movements may be occurring that appear, upon what you term to be the surface, as moving in one direction, and in actuality they may be accomplishing of a very different action, and the action that they may be accomplishing may be quite beneficial to you all en masse.
RODNEY: Would you say the same thing about the current economic climate of the world?
ELIAS: This would be quite in compliance with this information that I have expressed that you may access, of this one session that I have offered in the direction of the alteration of your reality within this shift in consciousness and its completion, for this is a beginning movement in evidence of this shift in consciousness and the alteration of your reality, and it shall be quite affecting!
Within your present terms, it may not necessarily appear to be ‘getting better’ within your belief systems and within your expressions of duplicity, for if it is returning to its accepted state of being, it shall not be altering of future probabilities, which are altering of your economic status and exchange, which shall be quite different futurely!” [session 328, October 03, 1998]
BETSY: “I was listening to the tape of the private session that I did with you, and we were talking about relationships and aspects of needs as opposed to desires. My question is that I’ve been in conflict around relationships that I’ve had with men, my family, and being in the middle of a divorce, and within the last week or so, there seems to be a lot of judgment around that, and part of what I’m doing is, I’m looking at what I believe and how I buy into, if you will, the beliefs around the judgments, around actions of things like fidelity and commitment and promise, and I’m wondering if you can comment on some of this.
ELIAS: You have developed many words within your language that are definitions of aspects of your belief systems. Recently we have moved into the area of discussion of the belief system of duplicity as the next belief system that we are addressing to, which this particular belief system is interactive with all other belief systems and all of the aspects of all other belief systems.
This be the reason that this particular belief system is so very strong, for it does not limit itself to itself – its own cage with its own birds – but these birds also intermingle with all of the birds in all of the other cages.
In this, within the belief system of relationship and the aspects of that particular belief system, what is quite affecting in reinforcing the aspects of that particular belief system is the element of duplicity, for you may move in any particular direction within the belief system of relationship – you may identify any different aspect – and it shall also be coupled with an aspect of duplicity, which reinforces the aspect of the relationship.
Fidelity: this is an aspect of the belief system of relationships. If you are engaging in an individual relationship with a partner, so to speak, you also hold an expectation – which is the aspect of the belief system – that you shall comply in this area and that you shall hold to your fidelity. In this, you place the judgment of good. Infidelity is the judgment of bad. Acceptable/unacceptable.
These, as I have stated, are directly influenced by duplicity, for if you are separating the duplicity from the aspect of the belief system of relationship in this example of fidelity, it matters not whether you are complying or whether you are not complying, but coupled with the aspect of duplicity, it becomes important to you, for you align with these aspects of belief systems.
As you are already aware, you are viewing very many aspects of belief systems. You are holding your attention to these aspects of relationships and attempting to offer yourself information in this area, that you may allow these birds to fly free and be accepting of this. This also is creating of difficulties at times within your physical focus, for not all individuals are viewing these aspects also. Therefore, you may be offering yourself information, but other individuals may not be viewing this same information.
In this, they continue to move in alignment with all of the aspects of the belief systems, and as you begin to move outside of this alignment, you may notice that your opposition, so to speak, increases, for the individuals that are not moving in this direction yet view this as unfamiliar and as threatening. They do not hold an understanding of what you are viewing and the movement that you are creating, and in this movement they may view, but in their lack of understanding they also rebel, so to speak, against your movement.
Now; individuals move in this direction for the reason of fearfulness. You view unfamiliar areas as areas that hold fearfulness. You do not easily move in the direction of unfamiliar.
Individuals also do not easily accept any other individual movement into unfamiliar territory, for they view this within themselves, and as you ALL hold one aspect of your perception similarly, you look to yourselves and your own perceptions, and you project your perception outwardly to other individuals.
In this, you hold an expectation that other individuals hold the same perception as do you, and create their reality the same that you create your reality. Therefore, you create an automatic assumption that you all are quite understanding of each other and that you are all creating by the same rules, but you are not. You are each creating differently. You each are creating through your individual perceptions, and your perceptions are all different.
This be the reason that I have expressed to you previously that at times it may be quite beneficial to you to be engaging your inner senses and to be engaging your empathic sense, for this allows you to merge with another individual and experience their experience, which is their perception, which is their creation of their reality, for you shall not entirely understand objectively another individual’s perception if you are not allowing yourself to be experiencing another individual’s perception. In this, you may also view yourself in this situation and express to yourself that it matters not the other individual’s perception of what you are creating, for you are creating your reality.
Now; I am quite aware that this holds the tone of sounding quite simple and also quite unrealistic, for how shall you be interactive with other individuals and express to yourself it matters not their thought process or their feelings, for this also is unacceptable. You have created an immense hamster wheel within your belief systems, for you attempt to move in one direction, and your duplicity pulls you back to your hamster wheel and shall divert your attention at every avenue.
You offer yourselves information and you move in the direction of this information and you face yourselves with opposition, and in this opposition you turn other individuals’ perceptions to your own and you create blame and you create guilt and you create accusations to yourself, all of which is the lack of acceptance of self, and in this expression you perpetuate the lack of acceptance of self and you block the acceptance of self, and then you move into the acceptance of self once again and the whole cycle begins once again, for you face yourself with opposition once again and you repeat the pattern.
And in this immense hamster wheel, you experience frustration and confusion, and you express to yourselves and to other individuals the impossibility of all of your situations, for you may not escape your hamster wheel, for it is continuously presenting itself again and again to you. The SOLUTION – in your terms (grinning) – to this situation is the acceptance of self.
In this, you may view the expression that I offer you initially to be uncaring, to be unfeeling, to be selfish, to be self-centered, to be arrogant ... my, my! We have so very many terms to express all of these very nasty elements of yourselves, (laughter) and every one of these expressions are reinforcements of your own duplicity.
In this, I have offered many times to individuals the expression to be selfish; not in the terminology that you assign to this word within your definition, but within the definition of looking to self first – accepting self first – regardless of other individuals’ expressions.
All that I have expressed to you, within all of the sessions that I have offered to you all, move[s] in this one direction. I offer many different analogies, many different stories, many different angles to approach this one subject of acceptance of self and the selfishness of self in the terminology of essence, which is to be viewing self first, for in this you automatically begin to be accepting of other individuals, and you shall find also that within your own acceptance of self, the expression of other individuals matters not, for you begin to offer yourself the understanding of other individuals and their belief systems and their motivation in their behaviors.
This is not to say that I express to you to be uncaring, to hold no compassion, to hold no sensitivity, for these are elements that you have created within your emotions within this physical dimension, but you may be quite expressive of these emotions and these creations, and you may also be offering all of these to yourself.
We have discussed this, that you be offering to yourself all that you offer to other individuals, for in your offering to yourself, the automatic byproduct is the expression to other individuals and the acceptance of other individuals WITHOUT the responsiveness within yourself of hurtfulness, of guilt, of lack of acceptance, of lack of trustfulness.
I offered recently – which you shall be privy to soon – an analogy (8) which illustrates yourself and your perception and your belief systems. In this, I have also offered the example of interaction of more than one individual participating in your games within physical focus, your ‘game of life,’ so to speak, for this is what you are playing.
You ALWAYS hold choices. In this, as the stick is your belief system and the ball is your perception, another individual’s perception may collide with your perception. Their ball may strike your ball, which has been directly directed by their stick, their belief system. In this, you hold choices. Your ball is not pasted to your ground! It is not stuck in one position. It may move. You may move your ball, and your ball is not limited to the ground. It may be moved into your air. It may move in any direction, but as you choose to place your ball within the path of another ball, so to speak, it may be struck.
(Intently) In this game, you do not control the movement of another individual’s ball, and it is not your responsibility to be offering direction for another individual’s ball. Your responsibility lies in directing your own ball, but if you are moving in the direction of concerning yourself and your attention with another individual’s ball, you are neglecting your own ball! How shall you direct your ball if you are so very busy directing some other individual’s ball.
They shall not allow you to direct their ball regardless, for they shall be directing of their ball and they shall be pushing their ball with their stick where they choose, and you may be expressing many, many, many times that they may be pushing their ball in a different direction, and without agreement, their ball shall move in the direction that THEY choose. It is not your choice, it is not your control, it is not your responsibility.
In this, as you turn your attention to your own ball and allow your own stick to be pushing your own ball and directing of that, other individuals also hold the choice to move alongside of your ball or to follow your ball or to not play, and it matters not, for your attention is placed upon your own ball and your own stick.
The point is to be moving in the direction of pushing your ball with your finger and not with your stick any longer. (Staring at everybody very intently)
This requires much of your own attention and your own concentration and your own energy. Therefore, it is unnecessary for you to move in the direction of concerning yourself with other individuals. THIS is your aspect of selfishness, which I am quite advocating of, for in this expression there are automatic expressions to other individuals.
Do not concern yourself with the convoluted little sapling. It shall straighten itself if it is so choosing. It is not your responsibility. Your responsibility is with yourself and to be concerning yourself with YOUR expressions.
I am understanding that the expressions of other individuals are viewed as hurtful, and this may be causing you distressfulness. This also plays into your game, for you are holding to your own energy and allowing the penetration.
As I have stated, I have offered many analogies of how you create within your reality and how you allow all of the aspects of your reality that you view to be distasteful, but you are creating them, you are allowing them, and you are experiencing distress in what you are creating! I have also offered you the solutions to these situations, but you are not listening. They are not so very difficult, but you continue to place yourselves and draw yourselves to the situations that shall be reinforcing of your own duplicity.
(Firmly) Look to this belief system and all of its aspects, for it is very affecting and very strong. The belief system itself holds much energy. It has been lent and offered much energy, and as I have stated previously, has become almost an entity within itself, for it holds so very much strength.
In this, each time you view that you are distressed or uncomfortable or hurt or saddened with the expressions of other individuals, you may look to your own aspects of duplicity and express to yourself that the reason that you are experiencing what you view to be as painfulness is that you are expressing to yourself that you are bad, that you are unworthy, that you are inadequate, that you are wrong.
And you counter this by producing within you anger and projecting outward to other individuals what you may express in your terms as retaliation, and what is this expression but the mirror action of what you are expressing to yourself: the lack of acceptance of yourself. And in this lack of acceptance of self, you do not even accept that you do not accept yourself! (Laughter)
And therefore, you project outward to other individuals justification for yourself, that you are right and you are being victimized, and this expression is the lack of acceptance of themselves also. It is your projection of the mirror action of your own lack of acceptance of self. Were you moving in the acceptance of self, there would be no penetration of other individuals’ expressions, for you would not allow the penetration, for you will hold to your own acceptance and recognize that their expression matters not.
Interesting that you create terminology within your language, within your nursery rhymes, that you do not comply with and you do not believe. Let us examine ... which we shall also offer to another essence which shall be privy to this session, of Giselle [Margot].
You express your children’s song of, ‘Sticks and stones may break your bones, but words may never harm you.’ Very, very, very incorrect! Your sticks and stones may not harm you as efficiently as your words.
Another individual may physically strike you. That shall not hurt you in the same manner that another individual’s words shall hurt you, and the reason that these words shall hurt you is not that the other individual is hurting you, but that YOU are hurting you.
And I have expressed from the onset of these sessions, no individual may be as hurtful to you as you may be to yourselves. You are quite efficient in this area, and you have learned quite well.
Another individual may express what they may, but you are that which creates the hurtfulness, in the same manner that another individual may breathe upon you and be creating illness within themselves, and you shall not catch the illness as a ball! If you are contracting the illness, in your terms, you have not received this from another individual. They may be expressing energy, but you shall be creating of the illness by your choice. It is not thrust upon you.
Another individual, in like manner, may express ANY type of what you may perceive to be hurtful expression, but you are that which is creating of the hurtfulness, for you are allowing your own duplicity to dictate to you your lack of worth and your lack of acceptance of self.
An individual may express to you, ‘I find your shoes very distasteful.’ You hold the choice, within acceptance of self, to be creating laughter and acceptance of self, to be creating laughter and acceptance of their expression and responding in fashion of, ‘I am accepting of your expression, and I quite fancy my shoes. It matters not that you are not fancying my shoes. You need not wear my shoes!’ But if you are allowing your duplicity to be influencing you, your expression may be, ‘Oh my! There is an element wrong with my shoes, for you find them distasteful. They make my feet look awful! They are too large, they are too small. Do you perceive that they may be causing me discomfort?’ And you shall question your own experience, for you have allowed another individual to dictate to you how you shall push your ball, in which direction. Are you understanding?
BETSY: Hmm. I like the analogies. Thank you, Elias.
ELIAS: You are quite welcome.
CAROLE: It seems helpful for physical focuses to get away from other physical focuses and their sticks and balls, to kind of regenerate and connect up with essence. I know that I require and crave that periodically, and then I feel more energized and stronger to go back into the playing field with the other sticks and balls. But the more sticks and balls there are around you, the more difficult it is to keep tuned in to your own perceptions. And it seems as though a lot of people, with the belief system of relationships – we’ll use male and female, a love relationship – decide that it’s not worth what you have to go through to be in that close proximity with someone else’s stick and ball on an ongoing basis, and end up choosing instead not to partake of that. Can you shed any insight on that.
ELIAS: These would be more aspects of the belief systems. Within physical focus, as you are experiencing frustration and not opening yourself to all of your choices and also not being accepting of self, you move in the direction of viewing that if you are creating singularity, you need not be creating in relation to other individuals, and this shall be eliminating of your stressfulness and of your conflict, for you are not creating your conflict. Other individuals are creating your conflict, for other individuals are creating your reality! In actuality, other individuals are influencing of your conflict, for you are not looking to self and you are not paying attention to how YOU are creating, and listening to self and what you are expressing to yourself in what you desire to be creating.
You may be creating quite efficiently in the midst of the playing field with many, many other individuals with all of their sticks and all of their balls, and your ball may be hopping over all of the other balls, being untouched and not removing itself from the playing field, for it shall recognize that it is unnecessary to allow itself to be colliding with any other balls.
This is not to say that it removes itself! This at times is an aspect of individuals not accomplishing their value fulfillment, for they do not allow themselves to view their choices and they continue creating within their conflict, being extremely influenced within the lack of acceptance of self and their own duplicity, and this is creating many times of individuals removing their ball from the playing field and disengaging.
CAROLE: What about the fact that if a person is beginning to have self acceptance and trusting themself, other players seem to be angered by that and aim their perceptions with their belief systems directly at the person who appears to be having self acceptance.
ELIAS: Quite, and as I have expressed in the onset of this session, this is quite common. You are not all moving in the direction of acceptance of belief systems at the same rate, so to speak. You are not all directing your attention in the same manner, and you are not all drawing yourselves to the same information. Although you ARE all drawing yourselves more and more into this shift in consciousness, you may offer yourselves information in different manners.
Now; as you offer yourselves information in different manners, you also automatically create new belief systems: that your method is more efficient than another individual’s method, that your path is straighter than another individual’s path, that you are creating of great acceptance and other individuals are not.
Now; why shall you draw yourself to participate within this situation of the lack of acceptance of another individual and the extreme or intensity of opposition of another individual – which you ARE participating within – if you are not offering yourself information of what YOU are creating? YOU ARE VIEWING A MIRROR ACTION.
Therefore, if you are experiencing opposition in intensity, this is your opportunity to view this and to recognize that you are presenting yourself with the opportunity to view yourself and your own lack of acceptance of yourself and your own creations, and therefore your own lack of acceptance of the other individual, for they are not solely participating in this situation.
Another individual may be expressing to you, ‘You are unacceptable! I am experiencing unhappiness with you!’ And what be the thought process that you are creating within you.
CAROLE: Well, I would be hurt, probably.
ELIAS: And what shall you create? You shall be creating of your hurt feelings, and you shall create your retaliation and your justification: ‘I do not like you either!’ (Laughter)
CAROLE: I’m leaving the field with my stick and ball! I’m going.
ELIAS: ‘I am creating of great acceptance, and you are not!’ My, THERE is an accepting statement, which appears to us quite blatantly as a judgment.
‘I am expressing to you that I am trying, trying, trying, and you are not!’ Another expression of judgment.
‘I am expressing caring and compassion to you, and you are not reciprocating!’ Another judgment.
‘I am very good and you are very bad, and I may justify this statement, for YOU have begun this cycle and this agitation by expressing to me your lack of acceptance of myself!’ Now you have created a judgment and a justification, and another judgment and another justification, and you have very successfully climbed upon your hamster wheel.
ELIAS: And your solution is to remove your stick and your ball and depart from the interaction and the playing field.
Now; if you are accepting of yourself genuinely, another individual may be expressing in what may be perceived to be a hurtful or non-acceptance expression, but it shall not be received in this manner.
As I have offered the analogy of the allowance and the penetration and the buffer, what have I offered to you in this expression? That as another individual expresses outwardly, there is an allowance of the expression, but as the expression, visualized as a ball, projects in your direction and approaches your energy field, if you are accepting of self and not holding to your energy, the ball becomes a bubble, and as it strikes your energy field, it pops, and the particles of the bubble may reconfigure themselves into whatever you choose. You may be creating of water, you may be creating of colors, you may be creating a flower from the expression of anger, for it matters not the projection, but what you allow in its configuration and how you receive this and what you construct it into. You may construct it into biting jaws that shall be hurtful within you, or you may construct it into a lovely flower that you may engage to your benefit.
You may be choosing at times to be moving into a different direction. I am not expressing that you continue to be, within your playing field, paralleling another individual’s ball if you wish not to play with that particular individual. There is a difference between removing your ball and pushing it into a different direction, and in pushing your ball within a different direction, if you are engaged in a partnership relationship, the other individual also holds choices and may follow your ball or may not, but your choices are not dependent upon their choices, and their choices do not dictate your choices. Therefore, you create your choices within yourself, and you allow other individuals to move within harmony with you, and if they are not choosing to be within harmony with you, you may choose to move your ball in a different direction.
You are not bound to any element within physical focus. These are ALL aspects of your belief systems, and they are your limitations, and they are your blocks of your freedoms.
CAROLE: What will we use to make choices when we recognize belief systems as belief systems.
ELIAS: As I have expressed previously, you are not eliminating your belief systems. You are merely disengaging the aspects. You retain the cage, but the birds have flown free. Therefore, you may continue to play with your cage, but the influences – within their strengths and their blocking abilities to you in your expressions and your freedoms and your creativity – are eliminated.
You shall not be eliminating your belief systems. They are a base element of your creation within this dimension and are elements of your experience within this dimension. This is the misunderstanding that individuals hold in drawing to this information.
I do not express to you instruction to change your belief systems or to substitute your belief systems or to create new belief systems, but to be accepting of the belief systems that you hold, for you shall not be eliminating of your belief systems! I have expressed this many times. They are an element of your physical reality within this dimension. Without your belief systems, you shall not be creating this particular reality, for they are a base element of it.
CAROLE: When you recognize something as a belief system and continue within that action, it seems just like a game and like you’re play-acting. That’s what it feels like.
ELIAS: You ARE engaging a game! You are creating to be experiencing physical reality, with the desire to be experiencing certain specific aspects of created physical reality. It is playfulness! You are all much too serious.
BETSY: Elias, to draw an analogy ... I mean, it feels like right now, with the conflict, and with conflict comes change, and that doesn’t necessarily mean that’s bad, but I feel like a bird in a cage, batting on the sides. Now, I could choose to fly out of that cage and view the cage, but the belief system is still there.
BETSY: So, how do I choose? How can I get to the point where I’m not in conflict about the belief system? I know it in my head, but how can I change that to not be in conflict and to come to a point of self acceptance, so that I can just view the game and enjoy it.
ELIAS: Let us view a very small belief system. Let us return to your shoes! (Laughter.
You all engage the practice of wearing shoes. This, within your belief system, is acceptable. You hold no conflict with engaging this belief system that you wear shoes. You may wear shoes, you may not wear shoes. It is acceptable to you for your feet to be covered, for your feet to be bare. You may all choose to be wearing many different types of shoes or you may choose to wear not any, and this offers you no conflict.
The practice of placing the shoes upon your feet is a belief. It is unnecessary, but you hold no conflict in placing shoes upon your feet. The belief continues, but there is acceptance of this, even to the point of how you shall be wearing your shoes and how you shall place them upon your feet.
Now; if you are placing your shoes upon your feet, your right upon your left and your left upon your right, you shall be creating conflict, for this is not in agreement with the belief. The right belongs to the right; the left belongs to the left. You may continue with the belief and acknowledge its existence. If your shoes are wide enough, it shall matter not that you place them upon the left or upon the right. As your shoes are too narrow, they shall constrict you if you are placing them upon the opposite feet, and they shall hurt and they shall be creating of discomfort. But as you create shoes that are wide enough, they shall not be creating of discomfort, and it shall matter not which foot you are placing them upon.
The belief continues, but how you are constructing the belief matters not and is creating of no conflict, and as you widen your awareness, the belief continues, but it matters not, for it does not hold its power and it is not affecting.
Is this more helpful.
BETSY: Much! Thank you.
CAROLE: That was a brilliant analogy.
ELIAS: Of course! And you are anticipating LESS?? For I am quite brilliant!” (Chuckling, and everybody cracks up) [session 339, November 13, 1998]
Note: this is the first of two parts on relationships. go to the belief system of relationships, pt.2.
(1) Paul’s note: in 1965 Helen Schucman, a professor of medical psychology at Columbia University, began “channeling” an inner voice that she later identified as Jesus. Whether that “voice” was from the historical Jesus or some greater aspect of her own inner self doesn’t really matter. The point is that Helen produced an inspired book containing perennial ideas filtered through her own consciousness. That book, A Course in Miracles, is used by a growing number of people in various self-realization programs.
(2) Paul’s note: a reference to the “straight little sapling” allegory that Elias often refers to when he discusses our need to trust, accept, take full responsibility for only ourselves.
Digests: find out more about the sapling story.
(3) Vic’s note: there is a distinction between Paul/Norma and Paul (Patel). Paul is Norma’s essence name. This is not the same essence, so to speak, as Paul (Patel). Patel is Paul’s essence name. Quite often, Paul is what we call Patel, but Paul is merely a name from a physical focus held by Patel.
Digests: find out more about Paul (Patel).
(4) Paul’s note: Vicki Pendley oversees the transcription of the Elias sessions. He sometimes humorously refers to her as his scribe.
(5) Vic’s note: there have been several “secrets sessions,” all of which inspired a certain amount of nervousness and/or fear within the participants. The point of the “secrets sessions” is to reveal something about yourself that you consider a deep, dark secret, thus diffusing the energy that is attached to the secret. During these sessions, some of us discovered secrets that were even secret to ourselves! These were very helpful sessions.
Transcripts: find out more about a secrets session.
(6) Paul’s note: the clarity exercise is a tool that sharpens the physical senses by enhancing our ability to concentrate, observe, and focus in the present moment. While fine-tuning the five physical senses, its purpose is also to maintain the clarity of focus in altered states and projections of consciousness.
Exercises: find out more about the clarity exercise.
(7) Paul’s note: Elias uses the metaphor of a cat playing with a dead mouse to represent our endless fascination with creating and experiencing conflict, fear, and trauma.
(8) Paul’s note: Elias presented a stick and ball analogy in session 331, October 16, 1998 to help describe the relationship between belief systems – the stick – and our perception – the ball. The point is that the stick is neutral, but the action of our perception in relation to our beliefs is a whole other story.
Transcripts: find out more about the stick and ball analogy.
Note: this is the first of two parts on relationships. go to the belief system of relationships, pt.2.
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