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LETTY: “I wanted to ask you, my sinuses have been really nasty again. And it’s kind of like a validation, and I see myself accomplishing in a lot of moments and then the discounting in many others. But the sinuses – because it seems to be continuous, at least for the last couple of months – is it because I still continue to fight my current, my now, in the sense that I want to create better or different?

ELIAS: Yes, and in a manner of speaking, continuing to struggle with certain directions in association with the continued struggle that you generate concerning what you think you want and what you actually do.

LETTY: Yes. I’m trying to see that my thinking still goes one way and I recognize where my energy’s going a different way, but I haven’t been able to figure out how to bring them back. I know part of it is still working on that relaxation because I’m still tense. But I think – and you can validate this – but I really think that I have lessened that tension that I have.

ELIAS: Yes, you have. But in this, you continue to express moving your attention to thought and generating general translations in thought but not quite offering yourself a clear identification of the direction that you genuinely want. As you are aware, you are generating yet again the struggle in relationships.

Let me express to you, Castille [Letty], you continue to express to yourself the thought processes, but these are merely thoughts. They are not entirely accurate translations. Partially your thoughts are translating accurately, but in a general manner.

The snare in this situation is that you are moving your attention to thought as a communication. Therefore, you rely upon the expression of thought to be offering yourself information, and this is not the area in which information is produced. It is a translating mechanism. Therefore, if you are not moving your attention to communications, the translating mechanism of thought offers you general interpretations rather than specific and clear translations of what you are expressing to yourself, and once again you become confused. For you move in the direction of thinking that you want to be attempting to establish a relationship once again, but you also incorporate the thinking that you do not want to be incorporating the relationship.

LETTY: And I get myself in a knot.

ELIAS: Correct.

LETTY: Can you help me with this genuine direction I want at this present time? I don’t trust my ability in that communication, especially the emotion. I think about the emotion and I try to bring it into a thought process, what I think what I’m feeling. That’s where I get stumped and get lost.

ELIAS: Let me express to you, Castille [Letty], thinking about the emotion is not bad and this is a natural expression, for as I have stated thought is a translating mechanism. Therefore, its function is to be objectively translating to you in images and language the communication that you offer to yourself in emotion or in other avenues of communication also.

Now; in this, what you are not incorporating is a balance between the recognition of the emotional signal and communication, the translation of thought, and the recognition and noticing of the doing. It is important to hold your attention upon self and to allow your attention the flexibility to be moving in relation to all three of these expressions. The most significant is to be generating that flexibility of attention, but in the now. This is one of your greatest challenges.

For in the directions that you engage that you express to yourself are most significant – that of your job, so to speak, and that of relationships – both of these directions that you engage, you incorporate quite similar actions with. In this, your most familiar expression is to be NOT paying attention in the now and to be projecting to the future and also generating comparison with the past.

LETTY: Very interesting how I have my old boss again as of today, which comes back to the past, which I created it, and then I created to a small degree communication with Leezar again. So that’s what I’m trying to tell myself, I’m still in the past.

ELIAS: But you also project futurely.

LETTY: With both of these?

ELIAS: Yes, in anticipation.

Now; this is the area in which you move your attention to your thought mechanism almost to the exclusion of paying attention to communications or to what you are actually doing.

LETTY: Can you explain that a little bit? I’m not sure I understood.

ELIAS: In relation to these two subject matters, you begin projecting your attention to the past and also in anticipation of the future. The manner in which you express this is to move your attention to thought, and you engage thinking, thinking, thinking (Letty laughs), comparing experiences of the past with anticipations of the future and questioning yourself, expressing to yourself, ‘I think I want this, but perhaps I do not want this. What do I want? I want to be expressing a relationship with this individual – no, I do not want this relationship with this individual,’ and you begin your comparison of past experiences and anticipation of what MAY be experienced futurely.

But are you paying attention to what you are communicating to yourself? No. Your attention is so rigidly focused upon the thought process that you are objectively unaware of your communications AND you are not paying attention to what you are actually doing. For your assessment is what you are thinking is more important than what you are doing – and this is the snare. This action is what repeatedly generates confusion within you. For you are not paying attention in the now and you are NOT paying attention to what you are doing and you are NOT paying attention to your communications. In your terms, you are lost in the whirlwind of thought.

Now; does thought generate or create reality? No. Therefore, what are you DOING as you lose yourself in this whirlwind of thought? You are expressing in one direction automatic actions, automatic responses, automatic pilot, and in another direction you are creating an action of merely confusing yourself.

Now; my suggestion to you is to offer yourself one day, one entire day, in which you allow yourself to pay attention to you. Pay attention to what you are actually physically doing in each moment. Do not concern yourself in this one day with what you may be communicating to yourself through emotions. Merely move your attention to what you are actually physically engaging in each moment, regardless of how unimportant it may seem. The significance of this action is this offers you an experience of moving your attention to another function other than merely thought. It also offers you the opportunity to genuinely be noticing and viewing what you actually physically engage in what you term to be an ordinary day.

Let me express to you, all of the actions that you engage in one day, all of the insignificant movements that you generate in one day are all influenced by beliefs. All of the automatic actions and responses that you express in one day are all motivated by your beliefs. But you are unaware of the influence of your beliefs, for you are not paying attention to what you are actually physically doing, and in this, you reinforce the expression of automatic responses and you reinforce all of these expressed beliefs.

As you reinforce all of these expressed beliefs in a time framework in which you create an event such as re-establishing an interaction with your former employer or contemplating re-establishing interaction with Leezar – these are actions that you consider to be significant, important and large – your response to these actions is influenced by the beliefs that are expressed in each day that influence all of the other actions that you engage that you do not pay attention to. (17-second pause)

LETTY: Wow. That’s a thought full!

ELIAS: The manner in which you shuffle your paperwork during your day, the manner in which you engage other individuals, how you interact with other individuals, how you express actions in your lunch hour, what you choose to consume, what you speak of in conversation, time frameworks in which you close your door – all of these actions that you deem to be insignificant and you express no thought in relation to are all actions that are motivated by beliefs that are expressed continuously. These are the actions that offer you the clarity in information concerning what you naturally generate, what beliefs influence these actions.

The same beliefs are expressed in the actions that you generate in relation to the subjects that you deem to be significant or important. The difference is that in all these actions, you are NOT incorporating thought. You are not thinking concerning all of these automatic actions – you are doing. And in relation to the subjects that you view to be important, you are thinking and you are not paying attention to the doing. (Pause)

LETTY: Is this what I was trying to tell myself this weekend in relation to that flexibility of my communication, because my knees were pretty, pretty bad?


LETTY: Makes a lot of sense. Well, Elias, I think that answered almost every dream I had. (Elias chuckles)

I was gonna just ask you about the one from last night. The only thing that was different or that I remembered being different is that it seems like I had the same dream twice in the same night. I felt like I was having déjà vu when I came to visit my grandmother, who is disengaged. But she was there, and I wanted to clean her house or something. Most of my focus was on a gold watch that I wanted to get cleaned, because it should look clean. Based on what you just told me today, it has to do with not just the fixing part of it, which I kind of know that naturally now and I catch myself in the automatic fixing or controlling, but the fact that I wasn’t paying attention that it is a belief system.

ELIAS: Correct.

LETTY: I kind of put that aside.

ELIAS: Correct.

Now; also be remembering these beliefs that influence all of your movements and all of your actions and all of your expressions are not bad. They are not good, either. In themselves, they merely are. But the significance of recognizing what is influencing what you actually do is that you allow yourself to become familiar. You pay attention in the now, and in that you offer yourself the recognition of choice.

LETTY: And freedom.

ELIAS: Correct. It matters not that you choose to continue to express certain beliefs and continue in expressing the same actions. What is significant is that you know that you are choosing that.

LETTY: Along with this thinking, I keep finding myself repeating to myself that nothing is absolute; but again, I was recognizing that nothing’s absolute but not paying attention to the belief system that was making me think that.

ELIAS: Correct. This is the manner in which you generate the actual genuine action of holding your attention upon you and becoming familiar with you. Once you become familiar with you and what influences your actions and your associations, and you allow yourself to recognize your choices, you shall also generate more clarity in relation to what you actually want.

LETTY: All my confusion is that I’m trying to think to come up with the idea of what I genuinely want. If I’m understanding everything you’ve told me, I have to find that in that communication, not in the thinking.

ELIAS: But the thinking shall translate. Therefore, do not move yourself into an association that you must not incorporate thinking, for this is incorrect. This is a mechanism that translates your communications. Therefore, it is significant that you allow yourself to somewhat pay attention to your thinking aspect of yourself, but not to the exclusion of the communicating aspect of yourself or the actual action/doing aspect of yourself. (Pause)

Once you have allowed yourself the experience of one day of genuinely paying attention to every moment of every action that you generate throughout your day, subsequently you and I shall discuss the motivation of the actions that you notice within your day and thusly we shall move into discussion concerning communications.

LETTY: Okay. Well, I see you’re giving me homework! (Elias chuckles) That’s very valid. Thank you so much, Elias. This has been an excellent session.

ELIAS: You are very welcome.

LETTY: You’re putting it back on track, in a manner of speaking.

ELIAS: (Chuckles) Merely offering you what you are requesting: methods of how you may become familiar with yourself.

LETTY: I still find that I’m very true to the common orientation, that I want to see everything physical, on the outside.

ELIAS: Which is quite acceptable – but not to the exclusion of paying attention to yourself. You do incorporate the ability to generate both actions simultaneously.

LETTY: Yes. I have to remember that I CAN trust myself.

ELIAS: Yes.” [session 1204, December 09, 2002]

Digests – see also: | absolutes | attention (doing and choosing) | avenues of communication | belief systems; an overview | choices/agreements | desires/wants | disengage (“death”) | information | noticing self | objective/subjective awareness | relationships | sexuality and emotions | you create your reality |

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