the belief system of sexuality and emotion
ELIAS: “The reason you are manifest within this dimension – your purpose, your mission, your reason – is to experience. You are NOT manifest within this dimension in a school. You are NOT manifest in this dimension to be accomplishing of great deeds, although you may be choosing to be experiencing this. You ARE manifest within this dimension, and ANY physical dimension, merely to experience the purity and qualities of physical action.
“Within this particular dimension, you have created this reality based upon the exploration of two basic elements of physical focus; sexuality and emotion. You experience both of these elements intensely. All of your creations within this particular dimension reflect these basic elements. You may even look to a rock, and this stone shall invoke within you a feeling of male or female and an emotion if you are so tuning into it, for ALL of your reality reflects these elements in this particular dimension.
“In this also, I shall offer to you a comment which shall not be entirely well-received by some individuals, but it is your creation of your reality. Therefore, it is reality in this particular dimension. You manifest with the agreement of manifestation at the very least three times, three focuses within this particular dimension. This is the agreement that you adhere to in choosing to manifest within this particular experience. You manifest once female, once male, once in what I express to be ‘other,’ which shall be interpreted as what you view to be homosexual. All three of these experiences are the agreement that you engage in engaging this reality, for the experience of the sexual aspect of this particular dimension.
“This is not to say that you must be creating of a focus which holds an extended time framework. You may be experiencing female for one year [or] five minutes and you may disengage, or you may be experiencing male for one hundred of your years. You may be experiencing homosexual five hundred focuses, male one, female three. Any combination is acceptable. The only stipulation within this dimension is that you experience three different orientations, for this is the design of this particular physical focus.
“They are different. Male is not female; female is not male; homosexual is completely a different orientation. Physically you may appear the same or similar, but the orientation within consciousness is completely different, just as the male orientation is one and the female orientation is another and they are not the same. Although within your present era you view yourselves to be closer and you wish yourselves to be the same and you attempt to place yourselves in the same roles, you are intrinsically different. If this were not so, you would not be creating of differences in sexuality. You would be creating no sex. There are physical dimensions in existence presently which hold no sexual orientation. Yours is not one.
“In this, I express to you to be exploring the fullness of your orientation and of your creation, the wonderment of what you have chosen to manifest within, as opposed to the denial of the orientation that you choose and the movement into false mergence of the other orientation. Do not confuse yourselves in expressing that you are all the same. You are NOT all the same. Within consciousness, the elements of consciousness are the same, but they are not; for each element of consciousness holds its own uniqueness. Even within essence you hold your own tone, which is unique to you and not the same as other essences. The qualities may be the same, but the tone is different. You each hold your own individual tone in essence, which is the whole of you, the sum of all of your focuses, not merely within this particular physical dimension but all other dimensions and all areas of consciousness.” [session 270, March 19, 1998]
ELIAS: “Emotions are not belief systems. Emotions are an element of your expression that you have chosen to be the method, so to speak, of your expression within this particular physical dimension. This is not to say that other physical dimensions do not incorporate emotion, for some do, but within this particular dimension, it is one of the base elements of your creation of expression.
“In this, the emotion exists regardless of the belief system. The experience of emotion is created and exists and is expressed with or without the belief systems, but you are incorporating belief systems into this particular dimension. Therefore, it is not necessarily a question of which you have created first, for you create them together, but they are functioning differently. The belief systems are influencing of your emotions, but emotion is a translation of a tone quality of essence. It is a translation into a physical dimension for the reason of physical experience. Belief systems are not an aspect of essence. They are a creation, a tool to be manipulating perceptions within physical dimensions that influence and create your reality.” [session 331, October 16, 1998]
ELIAS: “Perception is not the you of you. Your orientation and your emotion, in this physical manifestation – not in all of essence, but in this particular physical dimension – your perception is created by your emotion and your sexuality. Those are the elements that are the you of you, the ingredients that are what comprises you, as you know yourself physically. Your perception is created by these elements, and is that aspect of you that therefore creates your reality.” [session 381, April 09, 1999]
ELIAS: “The present wave in consciousness within this shift addresses to the belief system involving sexuality, which is a very large belief system, a very powerful belief system, and involves much more than merely your identification of physical sexuality, but involves all of your perception. Therefore, it is affecting of every area of your focus.
“This belief system intertwines itself with all other belief systems. It is quite entangled with all of your belief systems, and it addresses to how you view yourself, how you view other individuals, and how you view your world ... and how you interact with all of these elements of your reality. The belief system of sexuality involves all of your reality, not merely that one very small aspect of physical, sexual interactions.” [session 395, May 16, 1999]
ELIAS: “Your emotions are a natural expression that you create within this physical reality. They are not right, they are not wrong, they are not good, they are not bad. They are merely an expression that you create within this physical reality.
“Your beliefs are quite influencing of your emotions, for your beliefs are influencing of your perception, and within your perception, you create definitions and identifications within your reality.
“Therefore, your perception, influenced by your beliefs, views your creation of emotion and assesses certain expressions of emotion and defines to you what that emotion is, in very similar manner to the expression of how your perception evaluates and defines all of your physical creations.” [session 472, September 19, 1999]
ELIAS: “Emotions are never reactions. They are not reactions. They are communications, and they are not presented after an event. They present themselves simultaneous to your objective creation.
“As you offer yourself an objective experience, that is one avenue of communication that you are offering to yourself, and the emotion is another avenue of communication. ... They are both paralleling each other, and the emotion is a communication. It is an expression offered to you as a message concerning what you are creating in the moment.
“The feeling, as I have stated previously, of the emotion is the signal. In the signal is the message. But if you are not receiving the signal, if you are not responding to the signal and receiving the message, the signal continues. ... Or, it may continue in the same intensity or lack of intensity. It may not escalate, in a manner of speaking. It may continue in the same type of expression. At times, it MAY escalate. It is dependent upon the importance of the message.” [session 764, January 24, 2001]
ELIAS: (Chuckling) “... you have designed a physical manifestation that incorporates MANY avenues of communication! Emotion is one, and as I have stated previously, all of your senses are other avenues of communication. This is their function. The function of emotion is a communication. The function of all of your senses, inner and outer senses, is communication. The function of impulses and impressions is communication. You incorporate communication in your physical body expressions. (Pause) It is an intricate expression of your BEING in this physical dimension.” [session 764, January 24, 2001]
ELIAS: “... consciousness is not a THING. This is the point that becomes confusing to many individuals, for you think of consciousness as a thing, some type of endless entity, and it is not. Consciousness is an action. It creates things from no-thing. The action creates things, and you as consciousness create things also. You create yourselves, which is a thing.
“In this, if you remove yourself, even momentarily, from what is known, and remove yourself from the experience of what is known in your reality – which is quite attached to emotion, for that is one of the base elements of the blueprint of your reality – when you remove that, yes, you do experience consciousness in a form that is very foreign to what you experience in this reality. It is not necessarily more true, but it is more essential. It is not more real, for that would discount or devalue the reality of what you experience in this reality, and it would also devalue the TRUENESS of the reality that you are creating now. It is different and it is more consistent, for that element of that void, so to speak, is present in every reality, for it is essentially what you are.
“In that, this is the reason that I have offered information in relation to your reality and how it functions, how it operates, how you move and create in it, the significance of energy, how all that you do is interconnected and interrelated, and the significance of recognizing that emotions are communications. Feelings are associated with the objective awareness.
“Within consciousness outside of physical reality, there is no objective awareness. It is not necessary. It is only necessary in relation to physical manifestations, for it is the element of consciousness that allows you to create physical realities, for it is the seat of perception, and perception creates reality, physical reality. Therefore, without the objective awareness, there is no necessity for emotion, for emotion is a communication to the objective awareness. Therefore, without the objective awareness, you are already aware of whatever the communication may be, and it is not necessary to incorporate that form of communication of emotion.” [session 2482, April 04, 2008]
DREW: “Well, let me ask you about the case of a friend of mine who was recently arrested for sexual behavior that society deems inappropriate. He was actually exposing himself, and got arrested for it. Now, there are those who would say that this was not an act of sexual expression, but a symptom of other things that were going on with him. It is possible to find yourself, as he did, in serious trouble, what we would consider serious trouble objectively. So at what point do you decide that your impulses are inappropriate or counter-productive? If you find yourself engaging in activity that can lead to what we would consider trouble, do you address it and try to stop it? Or do you just say, ‘Well, it’s just experience and everything is okay, and if it leads to arrest and prison or whatever may come of it that’s okay, because it’s just experience.’ It seems to me that there is some practical side of this that has to be considered when you take into account the difference between what I call theory and practice. The theory is, ‘Yes, everything is okay. There is no good and bad.’ But in objective reality, in practice, there are, it seems to me, certain behaviors that could be counter-productive, or not the best behaviors to engage in because of mass belief systems.
ELIAS: This may move in many directions. Initially of course, I may express to you that you may choose as an individual to engage these probabilities for the experience, but I am well aware of your direction in thought. I have expressed to this type of issue previously with other individuals also.
You have objectively created collectively a reality which you deem to be official and acceptable. Therefore, if you are choosing to be within alignment of this reality that you all collectively have created, you have established objective boundaries and guidelines within which you are expected, and you hold expectations of self, to be functioning within. This also is a choice. Now; if you are choosing to be functioning within the officially accepted guidelines of the reality that the collective has established, this is quite acceptable. You have created your reality in this way. In this, to more efficiently be functioning within this reality and also be acknowledging of self, you must look to alternatives. Think to your choices; this being why it is necessary to be addressing to belief systems, and identifying those belief systems which do not serve you; for within the continued practice or allowance of influence of these belief systems which hold strongly which do not serve you, they impede your movement and create conflict.
Let us view the scenario of your friend. This individual may choose the action which has been implemented, and these probabilities which are then implemented may be and are this individual’s choice. Let us view hypothetically that this individual chooses a different course within probabilities to be actualizing within this reality; for this individual actualizes different probabilities within another reality, but the reality that concerns you is the one that your attention is focused within, which is this one. Therefore, this individual may have looked to the unacknowledged impulses which were objectively becoming noticed, and may have chosen to be attending to the belief systems attached to these.
You all are taught to be denying impulses. This creates conflict in many areas. Within some individuals, the conflict becomes more extreme, depending upon the blocking of impulses. You are taught not only within your religious belief systems that impulses are bad, but also scientifically. They are animal instincts. They are base and they are unacceptable. Therefore, you automatically deny your natural impulses. As you continue to allow these belief systems to be influencing and you continue to be denying of self and self-expression, energy will be expressed. It will choose a way to express itself. Therefore, it shall find an outlet. Be that acceptable or not, and dependent upon the intensity of the blocking of these impulses, some individuals may create unacceptable behavior; as I have expressed to James [Tom], who manifests geysers within the blocking of impulses.
The individual may have chosen to be addressing the belief system of duplicity and identifying that natural functions of their physical form are acceptable, and in this may have allowed themselves the opportunity to release stored tension and manifest different circumstances; but as the individual does not address to the belief systems and does not acknowledge the oneness of self and also that there is no wrong within self, activity occurs which is unacceptable. Unacceptable expressions are expressed; not for the reason that the individual views that there is no wrong, but for the reason that the individual views very wrong, but cannot deny the energy which is natural to self. Therefore, actions and events sometimes occur within these individuals.
Be remembering also that these are choices. Individuals that create this type of action choose to be creating this type of action. There are many reasons why individuals choose unacceptable behavior within your established, official reality. Some choose to be manifesting extreme situations for their attention; for they shall not address to their belief systems until they have manifest extremely, for the belief systems are extreme. Therefore, they feel they must match the belief system within intensity within extreme events, and this shall attain their attention. This is not always the situation, for there are many reasons why individuals choose behavior that you deem unacceptable.
As to yourself, you present yourself here. Therefore, you offer yourself the opportunity to be viewing these belief systems, to be acknowledging of these belief systems, and to be learning of self and the acceptability of self. Regardless, as I have stated, of established, viewed religious belief systems, there is an underlying subculture within all cultures of religious belief systems, and your scientific belief systems are also reinforcing of many of these; all of which point the individual in the direction of viewing self as untrustworthy and flawed. You are not flawed! All that you manifest within yourself is exquisite creativity and quite aesthetic expression. You only believe that elements of your expression are unacceptable, for many reasons. They are distracting. They are diverting. They are time-consuming. They are ‘in the way.’ And have I not expressed to you all, fun is ultimately important? If it is not fun, disengage! For it is unnecessary for you to be driving within self, and not appreciating of self and enjoying self within your existence.
Many individuals within your metaphysical belief systems express that this manifestation upon this planet, which they term your Earth plane, is a learning experience; a practice. You are enrolled in your ‘Earth plane school.’ I have expressed already to you that this is incorrect; although do not look to redemption within other areas of consciousness, for they are the same ... although they are different. They are different countries, but you remain you.
You may choose to locate yourself within this area presently, and you may futurely choose to move your location of existence upon your planet to another country; to which you shall adjust and learn a new language and adapt to a new culture and a new lifestyle, but you shall continue to be you. In this same manner, as you move into other areas of consciousness, you move to another country within consciousness. You may learn new ways of existence and new language, but you continue to be you. Therefore, this existence is equal in importance. It is no less. It is no lower.
It is important that you identify those elements which create conflict, which are belief systems, and address to these; for they shall not retreat, for you have chosen to be addressing to these. If you had not chosen, you would not be here and I would not be speaking with you. Therefore, your choice continues; and in this you continue to objectively provide yourself with events and feelings and circumstances that draw your attention to address these belief systems and be eliminating of your conflict. There is no element of your physical human form and function that is unacceptable. It is a wondrous creation! There is no reason for lack of indulgence of self.” [session 168, April 28, 1997]
RON: “Okay. My issue ... Well, I don’t know if it’s an issue. My secret has to do with my unusual sex habits. (Here, everybody’s attention, which was pretty scattered, is immediately focused on Ron)
For example, I like to go into the dirty chat rooms on the computer and pretend like I’m a girl and talk to guys about sex. I’d probably get bored and quit, but I’m really good at it and they keep calling me back. (We all crack up) So I think the belief system probably has to do with that same good and bad thing. Otherwise, I wouldn’t consider it a secret.
ELIAS: Actually, this may be what we may classify as a secret; for within this seemingly comical expression, there are also latent thought processes and feelings that attach to this and to the manifestation of the expression. You are correct also in your assessment of the belief system, which also continues with the duplicity. As I have expressed, this being a very large issue being addressed presently. This you may consider a wave within your consciousness. As you widen your awareness, each of you shall experience a recognition of this duplicity objectively and address to it.
Within your expression, you have found what you consider to be harmless and entertaining outlet for those unexpressed aspects of self. The duplicity moves into play as you align with mass belief systems, in that certain behavior is unacceptable. Within essence, there is a recognition of no quality of gender. Within subjective movement recently, there is also an identification that these gender qualifications are relative to this physical manifestation within this dimension as you view them, but within this dimension you have created certain official, accepted manifestations of reality. Just as I have expressed to you, if you are choosing to be manifest within this particular dimension, you shall engage at the least three experiences within this type of physical manifestation, this being based upon sexual orientation; for within this particular dimension, you are creating of your reality within a sexual orientation. You identify male and female.
Just as other individuals have experienced bleed-throughs of subjective movement and activity, this is expressive of this also. The belief systems that enter cloud your understanding of the objectification of the bleed-through. Within itself, the bleed-through is a recognition, as stated, of the reality that you are all, and possess no gender. Only within this particular dimension is this relevant; but as you hold deep belief systems that express to you that as a male individual you are expected and you expect yourself to be performing and actualizing and creating your reality in this manner, in conjunction with the accepted, official reality, and you have not chosen a non-sexual focus within this particular focus, you ‘should be’ manifesting within these specific guidelines.
As you deviate from this, you remind yourself of previous thought processes within earlier time periods, which you also look to as wrong; not within the normal guidelines of your accepted reality. Therefore, you are reinforcing of this belief system. You are not recognizing this as a bleed-through. You are attaching a thought process of a throwback or a remanifestation of past thought processes. Therefore, this becomes disturbing and creating of conflict, for you may not fit this into what you have accepted as your official reality.
In accepting that these thought processes are not wrong or bad, and accepting that you hold qualities of both genders within each individual focus, although you magnate to one and therefore manifest physically as one gender, you may allow yourself the freedom to be expressive of self without condemnation, and therefore you may also experience a lessening of attraction to those elements which you view to be bad. They hold attraction, for they hold excitement in acting-out areas that are unacceptable but within a relatively safe environment. This you view to be daring. You may be crossing your line and tempting fates, but you also hold wariness of the acceptability of this behavior, and you hold a lack of trust of other individuals to their understanding. Rightly so, for they also hold this same official belief system. Therefore, not wishing to be invoking condemnation of other individuals, it shall be secret.
Be acknowledging to self that all expressions of self are acceptable. Blocked impulses create conflict. You are multidimensional, and hold many more aspects of self than may be physically visible to yourself or to other individuals. Therefore, why should you not acknowledge all of yourself, for it is all creative? Realize that your conflict or confusion stems only from belief systems which are only relevant within this focus, and also only may be affecting if you are allowing them to be affecting.
ELIAS: You are welcome. (Here, Drew and Gail both start talking at the same time)
DREW: Can I follow up with a question about that? (To Gail) I’m sorry, do you want to go first?
GAIL: Yeah, I wanted to ask about yesterday and my silly crisis with identity, of being around so many males and wanting to feel feminine. Is that sort of the same issue?
ELIAS: This is slightly different, for you identify with the focus that you have chosen and the manifestation within gender that you have chosen, and wishing to be projecting of this within an exaggerated manner for yourself. This is an element of identity. This issue with Olivia [Ron] is not an identity issue. It is an issue with belief systems concerning the acceptability of behavior of each gender. You do not accept behavior of one gender emulating the other gender. You all possess one focus within this dimension that you may consider to be, in your terminology presently, as homosexual; this being one of the three manifestations within the circle that you choose within this particular dimension. You choose male, you choose female, and as I have expressed for those of you of more delicate nature, one other; other being that of homosexuality, for the experience.
Within this situation of Olivia [Ron], it is a crossing over of the genders within a bleed-through of subjective movement, in acknowledging that there is no gender within essence and that each manifestation of gender is acceptable. There is no wrong, although there are belief systems held of the wrongness; that each particular gender should be staying within the guidelines of its official manifestation, and not crossing over to be manifesting activity of the other gender. Therefore, this would be a different situation. In this scenario that you have manifest yourself, this is a temporary identification of self within the accepted gender.
GAIL: I’m curious about why I created a male personality. (1)
ELIAS: As I have stated, you hold elements of both genders within you. All of you within this dimension hold both. You manifest physically within a choice of one physical camouflage or the other. You hold elements within you of both.
GAIL: So I just allowed that one to come out.
ELIAS: Absolutely, for it is an intimate aspect of self.
GAIL: Okay, I understand.
DREW: Due to belief systems, all things are not acceptable in this focus.
DREW: And so how is one to deal with impulses, which you recommend we follow, that may go against what is considered to be acceptable?
BOB: (Whispering) You keep them secret. (Much laughter)
ELIAS: No, you do not keep them secret!
BOB: I was teasing! I’m sorry. I thought you were advocating of much fun! (We all crack up, including Elias)
ELIAS: You may within yourself enact your creativity, and you may offer yourself alternatives. All of your choices are not either/or. You have endless probabilities at your disposal. You may create whatever you choose to create. You are not locked into any system. Therefore, you may offer yourself creative choices in all situations, that you may continue within the guidelines of your accepted reality if you are choosing ... for some individuals are not choosing ... and you may also not be blocking of your impulses.
I also express to you that your impulses not blocked shall not be causing you distress. It is as you continue to be blocking and not acknowledging of impulses that they are pent-up energy which shall express itself, and it may not express itself within acceptable behavior within your belief systems, for it shall erupt. This is not to say that your eruption may be destructive or extreme, but it may be unacceptable. As you allow yourself to be acknowledging of impulses and following of your impulses, recognizing that they are natural and that they are not wrong and that they are you, you shall naturally express energy and not be creating conflict within you. You are only distorting of this energy as you deny it.
DREW: Well, let me ask you a question about that energy. For me, sexual energy is extremely intense, to a distraction. We talked about this a little bit recently and we talked about some of the ways to handle it, like you’ve been talking about. But I’d like to know why, for me, the energy that I have chooses to, or why I choose ... I don’t know exactly how to word this correctly ... to direct it that way, as opposed to all of the other myriad ways I could choose to express that energy? Why for me is that such a predominant focus?
ELIAS: For this is an extremely intense experience. (Intensely) As you hold energy that you view and feel to be intense, you seek to express this in what you believe to be an adequate manner which is expressive of your feelings. Sexual energy within this dimension and this manifestation is also an extremely powerful and focused aspect within your creation and within your creativity. You are sexual beings within this manifestation. You have created your reality including this as a very intimate element of your reality. You have created myriads of belief systems concerning this one area! You focus upon this one area very much, for you have created this reality within the guidelines of sexuality. If this were not so, you would not be male or female. It would be unimportant.
You have not only created yourselves within this sexuality, you have created all your creatures within this same sexuality. You have created your vegetation within this same reality. You have male trees and female trees which bear fruit. All of your creation within this dimension revolves around this aspect of your reality. Therefore, why shall it not be a very important channel of your energy?
DREW: What makes it an issue for me is that I feel like it’s out of balance.
ELIAS: But it is out of balance as you choose to create this imbalance, for you have chosen to be denying of this. As you are denying of your natural inclinations, then you shall be creating imbalance; for the energy shall be expressed. This is not unusual or abnormal within your species; for as I have stated, you are sexual creatures. Many individuals within their belief systems choose to be channeling energy into other areas and denying completely of this sexuality, but this shall be manifest within other areas and shall be, in your terms, destructive. As I have stated this evening, this is a part of your being. It is not an element that has been created to be denied and to not be experienced. You have created these focuses to be experiencing. Therefore, experience! (Laughter) If you are choosing not to be experiencing, poof away!
Many of you hold belief systems that you must be curtailing of these impulses; that this is a ravenous animal that must be contained. I express to you that this ravenous animal shall be like these lions within the wild. They may be quite ravenous, but as they consume an antelope they may laze within the sun for days, content within the satisfaction of their impulse being met. You are no different, except that you do not indulge the impulse. Therefore, it grows.
BOB: ... I wanted to ask a question, though ...
ELIAS: You may.
BOB: ... as a follow-up to Olivia’s [Ron’s] scenario. As we move more into the shift and there’s a widening of awareness and periphery, will sexual issues, gender issues, be less important? Because they seem to be held more in essence than in belief system, and because we hold them in essence we create belief systems around them. But it strikes me that as we become more aware of the nature of sexuality and gender and that whole arena, that the belief systems seem to sort of break down naturally and are not as critical to be moved through as certain other belief systems, like religion ...
ELIAS: This has already begun. It is a difficult movement, for you have held strong belief systems within centuries of your history. Therefore, movement away from these belief systems shall appear initially to be sluggish, although they are already moving quite swiftly in an acceptance which grows more and more, of your sexuality and the lack of importance of choices of expression within this. If you are expressing within this area and you are not being hurtful, it matters not what you choose as an expression to be manifesting.
BOB: Why the distinction about hurtfulness, if murder isn’t a bad expression?
ELIAS: This being an expression of essence; and as you are moving into your shift and widening your awareness and knowing of this, you shall be moving into an area that you shall not be intentionally being hurtful to each other. Within your belief systems presently, you continue to view this as not an agreement; as victim and perpetrator. Therefore, I qualify that until the time of acceptance of this shift, hurtfulness is unacceptable.” [session 171, May 04, 1997]
ELIAS: “Within agreement to be entering into the cycle of physical manifestation within this dimension, you choose to manifest three times at the very least; therefore offering yourself the experience of sexual orientation of male, female, and that which you deem to be ‘other,’ or homosexual. This physical dimension incorporates great emphasis upon sexual orientation and the experience of that ... also of emotion. In this, you offer yourselves the experience of each of these orientations. You may not choose to be engaging a lengthy focus within certain gender orientation or within the expression of homosexuality. This is your choice, but you shall manifest within one each of these orientations for the experience.
... Be remembering also that all of your focuses are simultaneous. They are all beside each other. They are not ‘in front of’ or before each other. They exist presently within the now, for this is what exists within consciousness is the now. There is no past or future. It is merely a perception within your creation of your time framework, which appears to be moving in a linear motion; but this being also why you may experience ease in viewing other focuses of your essence, for they are occurring simultaneously. As you are, they are also.
As essence is choosing to be entering any physical manifestation, they are all choices. An essence may be choosing to enter only one physical dimension. An essence may be choosing to be entering thousands of physical dimensions. The choice to be entering physical manifestations occurs at once.” [session 202, August 02, 1997]
ELIAS: “Very well! (To David) You may open our discussion this evening if you are so choosing, as this be YOUR subject matter.
DAVID: Well, I think I opened it last week, so I’ve done it!
ELIAS: And you are wishing to be knowing of the quality of orgasms?
ELIAS: And their significance to what you view as their non-physical counterpart?
ELIAS: In significance to non-physical counterpart, there is none!
DAVID: So, it’s just a physical....
ELIAS: All that you present yourself within sexual experience within this dimension is relative to this dimension, although I shall express to you that within physical expressions, you are mirroring elements that are known to you within essence. You are creating imagery that you insert into your physical focus that mirrors elements within non-physical aspects of essence. Therefore, within your creation of sexual intimacy, you are creating imagery physically that mirrors a knowing of the lack of separation within essence and consciousness.
DAVID: So the feeling then ... when somebody says, ‘Oh, I wonder if heaven is what orgasm is all about? When we die, heaven is going to feel just like an orgasm all the time!’ (Laughter) That’s where they go! People go there in their belief system! This is what I’m trying to find out.
ELIAS: They are sorely misled! (Much laughter)
DAVID: So heaven is not like that at all?
NORM: It’s much better than that, right? (Laughter)
ELIAS: First of all, there is no PLACE of heaven. There is merely all of consciousness, and all of consciousness has no need for orgasmic states; although your state of being and your joyousness within consciousness non-physically focused may be termed to be rapturous. Therefore, you may compare your state of orgasmic rapture, which you view to be the epitome of the heightened of senses and joyfulness within your physical focus, as very weakly comparable to non-physical elements. (Pause)
HELEN: Obviously, a long time ago, through religious factions and different things, we’ve created a stigma around sex. Can you explain why we did that?
ELIAS: This also reinforces your movement into separation from essence. In your movement throughout your history of becoming more separated in your attention and your forgetfulness of essence for the purity of your experience within this dimension, you also divorce yourself from elements of essence. Therefore, even within your imagery you create belief systems that shall be separating of you.
In this, you have created belief systems to be placing taboos on sexual activity. You also create this as another barrier in your lack of remembrance of essence, that there is no gender within essence. Therefore, to reinforce the purity of the experience within this physical focus – of emotion and sexual orientation and experiences – you separate, that you may more fully experience each manifestation of sexual orientation.
HELEN: I don’t understand. You’re saying for the purity of sex, for the purity of the experience, that we ... I don’t understand.
ELIAS: Within essence, there is no gender. Within essence, there are no taboos. Within essence, there is no right or wrong. Within your belief systems that you have created within this dimension, you separate. Therefore, you separate into creations of genders. Within your manifestations, in agreeing to participate within this dimension for the sexual experience, you choose to be creating within three manifestations at the least for those experiences: one being male, one being female, one being homosexual. Within these experiences you have created many belief systems, but these belief systems serve to separate you from the remembrance of essence, therefore allowing you the purity of the experience. If you are not holding the belief systems of the taboos of homosexuality, for example, you shall not allow yourself the purity of the experience.
Also, you hold belief systems that serve as motivation for you. If you are being instructed that any element is taboo, it creates an automatic fascination within you. Therefore, you are motivated to explore. You move beyond your confines and limitations of duplicity and you allow yourself permission to explore these areas that are taboo. Although you may be exploring privately and to your thinking secretly, you continue to be motivated to explore.
In an instance that any individual expresses to you, ‘You may not do this,’ you shall automatically naturally within you respond with, ‘I SHALL do this,’ for within essence you hold a knowing that there is no element that may be denied to you. You also hold the knowing that there is no right or wrong. This provides you, in spite of your belief systems, a very strong motivation to move into areas that are denied to you as resulting of your belief systems.
This is not to say that your belief systems have not limited you within many areas and also within your sexual orientations, for you also hold fearfulness of damnation of your immortal souls, that you may enter areas that cross the line of taboo and this may not be acceptable. But you enter now into information and a knowledge that there is no limitation for yourselves, and there is no area that is unacceptable for your experience.
You have also been told that pleasure is good. It provides you with an ease within your value fulfillment. You may be accomplishing your value fulfillment without pleasure, but in moving in the direction of pleasure you accomplish your value fulfillment with less thickness. (Humorously) Therefore, you may all engage within an orgy, indulge yourselves with pleasure, and accomplish your value fulfillment with much less thickness! (Grinning, and much laughter)
DAVID: So what about sexual diseases incorporated in things like orgies and people getting other people’s diseases by sexually being promiscuous, so to speak? I know that be a belief systems, I guess, but....
ELIAS: Sexual diseases are generated by belief systems. Just as you may create any dis-ease within you which is influenced by your belief systems and your own issues that you hold, you may also be creating dis-ease within areas of sexuality. As you DO hold religious belief systems that suggest to you that sexual activity is not acceptable, you create dis-ease to be reinforcing of these belief systems.
DAVID: This becomes a vicious circle with regards ... like AIDS. A person will say, ‘I’m not going to get AIDS,’ and get it.
ELIAS: Although as I have expressed to you, at times certain dis-ease(s), as with AIDS, are not merely influenced by belief systems. These are epidemics which are created as a mass statement. Although individually each individual creates this dis-ease within themselves for their own reasons and are influenced by their own individual belief systems, en masse there is another reason for the creation of this dis-ease.
DAVID: So our other physical focuses, you say, are affecting of each other. Is it correct to say that in two of mine that I recalled vividly in a dream, one where I was a high-class prostitute of a period where then or there it wasn’t considered like prostitution is today ... I was actually a high priestess. This was a vivid dream that I connected to as one of my focuses. Was this correct? (Elias nods) And another one also was involved purely as a focus of sexual experience that bleeds though. Would it be correct in affecting of this focus?
ELIAS: All of your focuses are influencing of all of your focuses. As I have stated, at times certain focuses may be more influencing of other focuses. Now; I may also express to you that another focus may NOT be more influencing, but YOU may choose to be drawing energy from another focus to be reinforcing of your focus presently and your belief systems within this focus.
DAVID: Okay. So do we all in this room have focuses presently going on that are very sexual oriented?
ELIAS: Yes ... as is this one! (Grinning)
DAVID: Right; but whereas some people in this room would probably choose to believe that they are walking the ‘path of righteousness,’ so to speak. Therefore, they would not think of themselves as being promiscuous, yet another focus of theirs would be promiscuous.
ELIAS: This is correct, but your mere existence within this physical focus places you in the experience of being a sexual being regardless of your actions. Your thought processes magnate to your sexuality. Your physical feelings reflect this regardless of your actions.
DAVID: Okay. If an individual experiences what they call impotency, a doctor would say that’s a problem with their psychological imbalance or chemical imbalance. What is impotency?
ELIAS: This also is an action influenced by your belief systems. In lack of acceptance of self, an individual may image this with this action of impotency in not believing that they are worthy and imaging a lack of what you term to be ‘performance,’ for they hold very strong issues and belief systems in the area of lack of acceptance of self and duplicity, and they may image this in this manner.
DAVID: So for example, body consciousness is involved. The mind may say, ‘I want a woman,’ but the body may say, ‘No, it’s a man I want.’ Therefore, they fear impotency, and that mirrors conflict between the conscious mind wanting it and the body consciousness ... do you know what I’m saying?
ELIAS: It may be at times. This is not a rule. For the most part, individuals experiencing this situation experience this as they create an instruction to the body consciousness to be not performing in its most intimate fashion, for the individual holds a great lack of acceptance of self and may not be intimate with self.
HELEN: So that would be the same with an orgasm? Like if you have a hard time having an orgasm, that’s lack of acceptance of self?
ELIAS: Correct. You do not allow yourself to share with another individual; which as I have expressed, this is the physical mirror action of the interconnectedness of essence, and you do not allow yourself to engage in this action and share physically with another individual and loosen your hold upon your separation, for you do not accept yourself. Therefore, this creates a situation of fearfulness. If you are not accepting of self, you shall be guarded. You shall limit yourself, for you shall also not accept that another individual shall be accepting of you.
You hold very DEEP belief systems in these areas. You guard yourselves very carefully. You hold to your individual energies very carefully and very seriously, for you hold very strong belief systems of hurtfulness. You also hold very strong belief systems in what you THINK of as love. You do not ‘give away’ love and you do not receive love easily, for this is an element to be guarded, and if mistreated it appears to be extremely hurtful. Better not to engage this area than to engage the hurtfulness.
I express to you, you do not GIVE love. You do not RECEIVE love. You do not ENGAGE love. You merely experience. It merely is. It is not an entity. It is not a thing that you may pass to each other. It is a state of being, and in it there is no hurtfulness. It is merely your belief systems that create the illusion of hurtfulness, although within your belief systems and your feelings, your emotions within this dimension, it is reality of this hurtfulness. You do FEEL this, but this is dictated by your belief systems. You have created many situations in the area of your sexuality, in limiting yourselves with regard to your belief systems.
HELEN: So I have a question. So if as a child ... sorry if this makes anybody uncomfortable here, but this is the sex session! I’m gonna get my twenty bucks! (Big grin from Elias, and much laughter) So if as a child you were molested by a family member and you perceive this to be a traumatic experience as a child, that’s a belief system? It’s not ... I mean, it’s not a damaging experience ’cause there is no right and wrong? Are you saying ... what I think you’re saying is that ... I don’t know. I don’t know!
ELIAS: Within your dimension, you DO HOLD belief systems of right and wrong. Therefore, they are reality. I am not expressing to you that this is non-reality. It IS reality within this dimension. But I express to you that it is a direct reality influenced by your belief systems. Therefore, I may also express to you that if you are assaulted or molested as a child and engaging in sexual activity with another individual, this is not IN ESSENCE right or wrong. It is merely a choice of experience. It is your belief systems that suggest a right and wrong to you.
You may engage in sexual activity as a small one and if you are not holding belief systems that this be wrong, if other individuals about you within your society are not suggesting to you that this be wrong, you shall not bear psychological affectingness. You merely are affected in what you term to be psychological aspects for the reason that you also dwell within a society that expresses mass belief systems to you that this activity is unacceptable.
As you engage within sexual activity at ANY age, as you begin initially, is it not creating discomfort physically?
HELEN: You mean when you first start to have sex with someone? At the beginning of the actual action?
HELEN: Physical discomfort?
ELIAS: At your very first encounter.
HELEN: Oh yeah! You mean when I was a virgin!
ELIAS: It matters not what age you are, but you place belief systems upon small ones and you reinforce these belief systems by expressing that this is more hurtful to a small one.
HELEN: You’re talking about physically, when you have sex for the first time ever?
ELIAS: Correct. You reinforce this belief system also by including psychological hurtfulness. Without the belief system, the small one is not psychologically affected.
HELEN: So you’re saying that there have been, in this physical focus on Earth, children that have had sex with adults that have gone unscathed from the experience?
HELEN: Because no one told them that it was a shameful, wrong thing?
VICKI: But you’re not talking about instances where people force themselves on children and hurt them?
ELIAS: I am not speaking of what you term to be violent acts.
VICKI: Right. We’re talking two different things here.
ELIAS: This would be a different situation. This is a choice of a victim and a perpetrator.
HELEN: So if you didn’t grow up in a society like that, like most of us didn’t, and you suffer emotional or psychological scars from that ... well, I have a feeling I know what you’re going to say, but how do you get past that and go on to being free sexually?
ELIAS: By allowing yourself to be accepting of self, and recognizing realistically that you create your reality within every moment. There are no victims. I am quite aware that this may seem to you within your belief systems to be harsh and also to be quite difficult to accomplish. I do not express to you within physical focus that you may not be experiencing difficulty in objectifying an acceptance, for this is requiring of your addressing to your own belief systems and accepting all elements of yourself. There is no one element of yourself that is worse or better than any other element of yourself. All of your experience is that which is you, and all of this is acceptable. It is merely your belief systems that suggest to you that SOME of your experiences, some of YOU, is not acceptable.
HELEN: Because ... I mean in actuality, we choose what to experience when we’re here, right?
HELEN: So, nothing happens without an agreement?
ELIAS: Correct, and this be one focus. You hold countless focuses with innumerable experiences. I am aware that THIS focus is where your attention be. Therefore, it is all-consuming to you; but you may find comfort in knowing that this one focus is not all of you, that you hold countless experiences in countless focuses.
HELEN: So is there a way to summon strength from other focuses in that area?
ELIAS: You may if you are so choosing, although it is unnecessary, for you are being lent energy by all of your other focuses and all of essence. You receive this energy, and it reforms to be the most beneficial to this particular focus that it may be.
NORM: Now, you’re talking about the probable focuses of Norman, not the other focuses of Stephen [Norm]?
NORM: All. That was going to be my question. All taboos stimulate curiosity and conceptualization, and all conceptualizations create other Normans, right?
ELIAS: All that you allow as a thought creates another probable self.
NORM: Right. Now for example, we have discussed one of these that I felt I knew, and it was the vase artist. Is he sexually oriented?
ELIAS: (Accessing) Not necessarily.
NORM: Dilettante, huh?
ELIAS: Correct. (Grinning)
NORM: Okay. (Chuckling)
DAVID: Is it true to say that all men and women carry homosexual tendencies with them in this focus now?
ELIAS: No. Each focus has created a choice for that experience. If you are choosing to be engaging as homosexual, this shall be your choice for that experience within that focus. If you are choosing not to be engaging homosexually and you are choosing to be experiencing merely within male or female, this also shall be your experience. In actuality, homosexuality is an incorrect terminology for this ‘other’ focus. This be the reason that I have expressed at the onset of these sessions that you choose to manifest as male, female, or other, for you are not choosing to be homosexual. You are choosing NOT to be aligning singularly with female or male gender and sexuality.
RETA: At one time didn’t you go as far as to say that your practice of your sexual orientation could be non-practice, and that would be your homosexual? Not having desire for female or male, but just going through life without a push for a sexual desire, and that would be non-sexual? Like maybe a monk or a person who ... it isn’t their prime focus in life. That’s just something that they happen to be.
ELIAS: Incorrect. This also is a choice as influenced by belief systems. The individuals are not manifest into this physical dimension without sexual orientation. They choose to DENY their sexual orientation through an influence of their belief systems, believing that the lack or denial of sexual activity or orientation is more spiritual; the denial of the flesh. These are merely belief systems that you have created. Why create a sexual dimension and deny your experience?
RETA: Well, I guess it’s just another choice!
RETA: But then that being one side of it, and the other side could be completely, openly homosexual. I mean, there’s all the varieties in between. It’s not ... that ‘other,’ to me, takes a lot of space.
RETA: Not female, not male, but that ‘other.’ You could be from one range to the another in that particular....
ELIAS: You are quite correct. Some individuals choose to manifest within this particular dimension within a focus creating genitalia of both!
RETA: Yes, right. And some of them want to be very open about it, and some of them just go through their life and that’s just part of them and they don’t have to be.
ELIAS: This is a dictate of their belief systems.
CATHY: What about people that are ... say someone is born a man and always felt they were a woman, and then when they’re forty they go through all these changes to become a woman?
ELIAS: This be their choice also. Just as you may alter any element within your focus as any moment, you may also alter your sexual orientation and choose within a focus to change.
CATHY: That puts these people in the ‘other’ category, or no?
CATHY: No. They’re not, because if you’re in the ‘other’ category, that’s where you are.
VICKI: So you could do the male and the female thing in one focus?
VICKI: Then you’d only have to come here twice! (Laughter)
ELIAS: (Grinning) Ah! Cheating! (Laughter)
HELEN: So is bisexual ‘other?’
ELIAS: Yes, at times. At times it is not ‘other,’ for an individual may be experiencing one sexual orientation or another, and merely CHOOSES to be engaging within sexual activity of more variety.
NORM: Is this going to continue in the shift?
ELIAS: It be your choice!
NORM: No, I mean the three ... I’m curious again. Why is there such a rule that you have to be male, female, or homosexual?
ELIAS: It is not a rule! It is a CHOICE. It is an agreement that you have chosen, to be creating this particular one dimension with this sexual orientation. Therefore, if choosing within essence to be entering into the participation of this particular physical focus, you also choose to be agreeing to the manifestation of three sexual orientations, therefore allowing yourself the spectrum of experience of the sexual orientation within this particular dimension.
NORM: Why? (Somebody starts to say something) No, why?? I mean, it wouldn’t HAVE to be!
ELIAS: (Intently) You hold countless – underline – countless physical dimensions. Each of them hold guidelines. It matters not that you choose to enter guidelines into this one dimension, for you hold all other experiences within all other dimensions. This is what you have created within this ONE dimension.
NORM: It seems like a constraint, and I don’t like constraints!
ELIAS: You are not constrained, for you are experiencing every other possible experience!
NORM: I want them all!
ELIAS: You have them! (Laughter)
RETA: Would be it outlandish to ask you, like for instance in maybe another dimension, what they have chosen for, I guess, the equivalent of re-population?
ELIAS: It holds no bearing to you within this physical focus.
RETA: I know that, but I was just curious about another dimension.
ELIAS: (Grinning) If you hold curiosity you may investigate and you may view yourself, although you may not understand and it shall hold no meaning to you within this dimension!
VICKI: I have a question regarding something David was talking about ... about if you consciously think to yourself that you want to have sex with a woman, but your body feels a draw to have sex with a man, or something like that. My question is, is that possible, that you would subjectively direct your body consciousness to argue with you? Does that make sense?
ELIAS: You subjectively instruct your body consciousness to be conflicting with you continuously! If you were not, you would not experience pain! This be no different. You are holding to energy. You are not accepting of self and you are responding to your belief systems. Therefore, you may be creating in this area of sexuality. It is no different than your creation of a dis-ease. It is merely directed specifically. The belief systems are specific, and are involved with sexual belief systems. You shall not be creating of these types of actions without holding sexual belief systems that are influencing. You may create many dis-ease(s) and the belief systems involved may have no thing involving sexuality, but you will not be creating of sexual dis-ease or dysfunction without holding belief systems in the areas of sexuality that are limiting of you.
HELEN: So you’re saying, anyone that has any type of sexual disease holds belief systems that are limiting of their sexual experience?
ELIAS: Correct, and they are also holding to fearfulness within these belief systems.
DAVID: So would sexual experience be a good way of releasing many of these geysers that we hold within ourselves?
ELIAS: This be another belief system that you hold! (Laughter) You hold belief systems in regard to sexual activity as an ‘energy release.’
VICKI: But if we believe it, it’s true, right?
ELIAS: You are not releasing energy.
VICKI: But you could be releasing your own stress or confusion or whatever.
DAVID: So it’s healthy, in that area! Better than going to a doctor and getting a pill!
ELIAS: I express to you that in your belief systems of health, your sexual activity within this dimension is quite healthy, and the denial of such is quite limiting!
DAVID: I agree! (Laughter)
ELIAS: You also have created your sexual activity as pleasurable. Therefore, it holds more of an attraction to you!
DAVID: It’s also good for the imagination!
ELIAS: If you are allowing.
DAVID: For expanding the imagination?
ELIAS: If you are allowing. I shall express to you that this activity also may be quite enlightening to you in what you view to be your spirituality, for there are more elements involved with this activity than you allow yourselves to experience. If you are opening within your awareness and consciousness, you may also use this activity to manipulate your awareness and to be a vehicle, so to speak, for experiencing other elements of consciousness.
NORM: Ah! A method!
ELIAS: Ah! A method! (Grinning)
DAVID: As in taking you past the physical and allowing yourself to go into other areas other than the physical? For example, I believe I’ve gone there with another person sexually. I’ve gone past the physical feeling of the sexual experience and experienced deeper and further. Is that sort of similar to what you’re saying?
ELIAS: In a manner of speaking.
NORM: The physiological reaction that occurs in the brain, does that cause or is that because of this spiritual interaction? For example, a hormone release then that occurs. I think that’s what I’m talking about, in that it releases energy and nervousness.
ELIAS: The physical does not create the spiritual. The physical does not create the subjective. The subjective creates the response, and is directing of the response within the body consciousness.
We shall break, and you may continue with your questioning.
BREAK 7:54 PM.
(Vic’s note: The conversation during the break was fascinating – too bad we don’t have it on tape! Here’s one thing we do have on tape …)
MARY: Just make sure you don’t ask any questions for me ’cause I’d rather not know!
(Vic’s note: this was Mary’s last comment before resuming.)
DENNIS: I have a general question. I’ve noticed that – it’s kind of a two-part question – that if all your focuses that you have ... you experience let’s say a little bit of everything within these focuses. How come in this society now, there seems to be some cases that people are not accepting of alternative lifestyles, so to speak? They’re not accepting of someone who is homosexual or transsexual or a transvestite, to the point that they want to do violence against these people for the simple reason that they don’t agree with what they are. The second part of that is, it seems to me now, because I have a teenager, that kids his age and my daughter’s age tend to be more accepting of alternative lifestyles, and I was wondering if that’s part of the shift that’s happening?
DENNIS: And then the other part basically is, why are people drawn so much to violence against someone because of what their sexual orientation is?
ELIAS: This would be the choice of the individual focus. Although you are influenced and draw energy from all of your other focuses, as I have stated previously, that energy is reformed to be beneficial to you within this particular focus and redirects itself to be in alignment with your individual intent.
There are some individuals, many individuals, that choose within their focus to be unaccepting and intolerant within their experience. They are indulging their belief systems. These individuals shall be those that experience more trauma within the action of this shift, individuals that hold so very tightly to their belief systems and create much intolerance, for this is in direct contradiction to the action of this shift.
DAVID: What about somebody who is heterosexual, but in their dream state has a homosexual dream experience?
ELIAS: This merely be imagery that an individual may offer to themselves in subjective activity, in recognition that there is no incorrectness within this action.
DAVID: So they don’t necessarily have to wake up and think they had a nightmare?!
ELIAS: Although they may, (laughter) as their belief systems begin to be kicking in! (Grinning)
I have stated to you previously that within your dream state you are allowing your subjective activity in imagery, and you relax your belief systems within your subjective awareness. This is not to say that you do not HOLD belief systems subjectively within this dimension, but you allow a relaxation of these belief systems. Therefore, you may engage in more activities within your dream state than you may allow yourself within your objective waking state.
DAVID: So with regards fragmentation, supposing I met somebody who was an aspect of Mylo [David] and I was drawn to them sexually. That is possible, to have like a sexual encounter with your own essence, so to speak?
ELIAS: Essence incest! (Laughter)
DAVID: It happens, yeah?
HELEN: Is sexual attraction to another person ... is that purely a physical thing?
ELIAS: No. You attract yourself or you draw yourself to another individual for many reasons. Your physical form does not respond to ANYTHING without direction from your subjective awareness. Therefore, there are many reasons that you may be what you term ‘physically attracted’ to another individual, but these attractions are also influenced by your belief systems. You may view two individuals that may present themselves in very much the same manner. One you shall attract yourself to and the other you may not, for you hold belief systems that you do not even recognize of what is acceptable to you.
VICKI: So that would have to do with your belief systems about other people’s physical appearance and what you believe you’re attracted to?
ELIAS: Correct, and also your belief systems of what you shall attract yourself to within personality type.
HELEN: Aren’t we more compatible with certain personality types?
ELIAS: At times, but if you are not speaking of counterpart actions and you are not engaging counterpart actions, your belief systems dictate to you where you shall be attracted.
HELEN: Without belief systems, would we have sexual attraction for everyone?
ELIAS: Not necessarily. You may not within opposite counterparts.
VICKI: Other than that?
ELIAS: Other than opposite counterpart action, you would not be creating distinctions.
HELEN: What are counterparts? That’s probably something that I should look up and investigate myself. (Elias grins and nods) Okay!
DAVID: So is there some kind of link between a son marrying a woman that reminds him of and looks like his mother, in regards to sexual attraction to their mother that they would never express in that link?
ELIAS: This would be belief systems also.
DAVID: Right, but what is the link between a man marrying a woman because there’s that attraction that reminds him subjectively of his mother, sexually and physically?
ELIAS: For you hold belief systems that the role of the mother is nurturing. Therefore, you may also at times attract yourself to another individual that displays this resemblance.
VICKI: I’d like to ask a couple of questions about orgasms. In my experience, I have had some orgasms that were a whole lot more intense than your run-of-the-mill orgasm, so to speak, (laughter) and I’m curious about that. Why is there a really great intensity within what appears to me to be a minority of orgasms?
ELIAS: There may be different reasonings for this action. At times, very many times, this may be a result of an imbalance within your energy centers.
VICKI: The intensity?
ELIAS: Correct. If your energy centers are all rotating and radiating within harmony to each other and you are within balance, so to speak, the intensity of your experience shall be greater.
VICKI: Hmm. Well, I guess if that’s the case, my energy centers haven’t been in balance most of MY life! (We all crack up)
HELEN: Mine either, Vicki! It’s all right, honey. You’re not alone!
(Vic’s note: Thanks, Helen! It’s great to not be alone!)
ELIAS: This is not the ONLY reason, but it IS a reason that is most common, for as you are balancing of your energy centers you are also allowing a free flow of energy throughout your physical form. Therefore, you create more of an intensity within your physical responses, but you may also hold different reasons. You may be choosing to engage an action of sexual intercourse, but you are merely engaging the action and not truly choosing to be engaging this action.
VICKI: In my experience, the times I have had some very intense orgasms have been with people that I have a very great amount of feeling for emotionally. I’ve never had that experience with just a casual sexual encounter, say.
ELIAS: This is also an influence of belief systems. Your belief systems are quite influencing of your performance, so to speak, in sexual activities, and there are very many belief systems that may be influencing of your action within this area or your limitations within this area. (Pause)
HELEN: Why is it that men seem to achieve orgasm easier than women? Is that a belief system, that we just believe that, or is it a physical fact?
ELIAS: It is a combination of physical actions and belief systems; more of belief systems, for this is influencing of the physical actions. As you ARE sexually oriented and your entire physical dimension is based upon sexual orientation and emotion, all that you do and all of your belief systems are influencing of these areas. Therefore, they become quite complex. There are many, many belief systems that may be influencing. This may be with males AND females.
You hold a belief system that it is more difficult for females to be achieving sexual orgasm. You do not hold the same appendages. Therefore, within your belief systems, one is viewed as more pronounced. It is not, but within your belief systems it is viewed in this manner, therefore more easily accessible. It is also believed that the female need be achieving an emotional state to be sexually excited. This also is a belief system. It is unnecessary, but you believe this. Therefore, you set into motion the creation of this and it is reinforced by BOTH sexual orientations, male and female. You allow for males the permission to engage within sexual activity without emotional attachments or emotional preparation. Therefore, they allow themselves more freedom within this action.
You have created many belief systems for centuries within religious elements, viewing the female as sacred, therefore more in alignment with self-denial. The males are the barbarians, the conquerors. Therefore, they allow themselves and YOU allow them more freedom, for this is in alignment with the mass belief systems. The females are fragile. They are to be held in reverence. They are the mothers. Therefore, they are not allowed this freedom. Your role is not to be experiencing pleasure. Your role is to be procreating. This is a direct dictate of your belief systems. (Humorously) And although within this very advanced time framework that you are occupying presently you hold such liberation, you continue to hold these belief systems underlyingly and they continue to be influencing!
HELEN: Of your sexual experience?
DAVID: Outside of physical focus, does essence continue to have some kind of intimacy with another essence? Like for example, I know it’s not the same, but say yourself and Paul (Patel). There’s a closeness there.
ELIAS: In the manner of your thought processes within physical focus, there is NO comparison.
DAVID: But there is some form of intimacy?
ELIAS: It is NOT the same. It is very far removed from any thought process that you hold within physical focus.
DAVID: Would you say, in terms of how I think of it then, that it is better?
ELIAS: It is different.
DAVID: But it exists?
ELIAS: NOT in the manner of your thought processes.
DAVID: But in some other manner?
ELIAS: NOT in the manner of your thought processes, no! (Laughter) It would be quite distorting and inaccurate for me to express this to you in ANY manner of your thought processes.
DAVID: I just want to make sure that if I don’t get it in this life, I want to make sure that I’m going to find it! (Laughter)
ELIAS: In the manner of your thought processes, you shall not find it if you do not find it within this focus! (Grinning)
DAVID: (Laughing) Okay!
NORM: You say that the sexual orientations in this dimension are mirrors of elements in the essence world. Would I be able to extend that to the biological world, where there’s every diversity that you can imagine in regard to sexual orientation? For example, plants can have both male and female parts, and they can be male at one time and change to female at another, and so on and so forth. All of that is elements of ... I mean, that great huge diversity would then be a mirroring of, partially, what essence can experience?
RETA: Have you ever noticed that a lot of people, in their imagery to be attractive to another person, greatly find themselves in that other person? If you sit and watch couples going by, for instance, even their facial expressions can be a lot the same. I think we’re attracted to ourselves in a lot of instances of physical attraction, and it may be the same way in a subjective way.
ELIAS: At times, but this would not be a rule. You build quite elaborations around your sexual movements. You have even created ritual within your creatures for the display of your sexuality.
DAVID: How about women who, especially today, are lining up to get boob jobs? (Laughter) You know, breast implants? For THEIR ears! I know it’s a belief system, but I think they need to hear that!
ELIAS: It IS a belief system that you need to be adorning yourselves to be creating a more attractive ‘package,’ but throughout your history you have indulged yourselves in adorning to be more pleasing to each other visually. This be also part of your rituals, which you also mirror within your creation of your creatures and THEIR rituals to each other and their adornments that they display to each other for the same reason.
DAVID: So why are we attracted more so to beauty than someone who you’d call a ‘plain jane,’ since the beginning of time?
ELIAS: For you DO attract yourself to beauty. You CREATE beauty, within this dimension, all about you. You are quite enamored with physical creations and their aesthetic value.
DAVID: But we put so much importance on that beauty, compared to someone who isn’t beautiful, so to speak.
ELIAS: Quite! It is part of your creation within this physical dimension. Individuals may choose a particular focus to NOT be creating physical beauty, or what you term to be deformities, for the experience of not aligning with your officially accepted reality.
DAVID: Is sex aligned more with Zuli?
NORM: In the shift, are we going to be able to improve our sexual capabilities?
ELIAS: If you are so choosing! (Grinning)
NORM: I mean, for example, say that I want to be able to produce a perfume that attracts more so than I do now! I could do that, right?
ELIAS: If you are so choosing. It is merely dependent upon the direction of your attention.
DAVID: Is there an odor that is attractive that we’re not aware of when somebody is feeling sexual, something that is emitted from our bodies?
ELIAS: At times, but this also is dependent upon your creations and your belief systems. Certain individuals, certain cultures DO create physical emissions of odor that they believe to be attracting, and this enters into THEIR rituals. But within certain other cultures, such as your own, you do not create this situation, although you engage in artificial odors. (Grinning)
DAVID: What we term to be a bit more prettier-smelling than natural body odor.
ELIAS: Correct, but this is also an element of your belief systems. Within the area of sexual rituals and activity, all of your senses are engaged. Therefore, your sense of smell also is affected.
NORM: Using our nine [inner] senses that will become more aware, we will be able to determine the correct activity to get the appropriate response in the future better than we do today then, right? (Elias pauses, eyes closed, and then exhibits a crooked smile, and we all crack up)
ELIAS: ‘The correct response better than you do today.’ Incorrect! For there is no ‘correct response!’
NORM: Well, to satisfy the desire for the correct ... for the experience of the other one.
ELIAS: The individual shall have the experience that they create! You are not creating their experience for them!
NORM: But there are some intersections, interactions?
ELIAS: There is intersection and there is interaction, but the individual shall create the experience that they choose to be creating.
NORM: I will not be able to use those [inner] senses as a tool, then?
ELIAS: You may use your senses NOW as a tool to be more intuitively aware of another individual, but this shall not be creating of THEIR experience! They shall create their own experience!
(Humorously) Although it may be beneficial for you to engage your senses – your inner senses – and your intuition NOW, for if your partner is not in agreement with you and is not in compliance with you, you shall know and disengage your activity! (Grinning)
DAVID: Without belief systems in the sexual area, would we then naturally respond to our sexual responses the same way that animals do to each other?
DENNIS: What about the individual that is attracted ... because when you think about sexuality in terms of being intimate with someone, sharing private personal moments or whatever with someone, what about the person that has a sexual fetish? They can only be attracted sexually to a woman’s feet, or their elbow. (Laughter) Is that also a belief system? Because some people can’t function sexually without going to the toes, so to speak. I’m curious about that.
ELIAS: This would also be a choice for experience, moving outside of the officially accepted reality and moving outside of the officially accepted mass belief systems. (Pause)
VICKI: I have a question if no one else does. It seems like, in this society anyway, we create more conflict around this concept of sex than we do almost anything else. Our whole lives, we create conflict around sex. So my question is, if this is one of the reasons we choose this experience is for this sexual experience, why do we create so much conflict over why we came here in the first place?
ELIAS: For you have developed many belief systems in this area also.
VICKI: Well, it gets confusing to me. To go back to this concept of pleasure, and if you indulge yourself in pleasure you’re creating less of a thickness ...
VICKI: ... and fulfilling your value more effortlessly ...
VICKI: ... it seems like we would naturally gravitate towards that within why we chose this physical dimension.
ELIAS: You DO naturally gravitate towards these elements, but you also have created separation, and in this you have developed more and more belief systems.
VICKI: I kind of understand the affectingness of the belief systems, but to take another physical pleasure for an example, eating is a very pleasurable experience in this focus too. It’s not how we’ve created this focus, to come here mostly to eat, not in the manner that you say that part of the reason we choose this is for a sexual experience, but we don’t create near the conflict around eating or other physical pleasures as we do around the sexual experience.
ELIAS: Ah, but you do! (Other people murmur agreement)
VICKI: Well, maybe I just don’t see it that way.
ELIAS: Within YOUR belief systems you do not create as much conflict or you do not view as much conflict, but within mass you DO create much conflict in many other areas.
VICKI: So this would just be a perception on my part, is what you’re saying, that we create more conflict around this concept of sex than we do anything?
ELIAS: Correct. You create more conflict around the concept of pleasure in all of its forms than you do with any other element, and this is reinforcing of your issues of duplicity and the nobleness of the denial of the flesh.
VICKI: Okay, I just have one other quick question about this concept of pleasure, from the last time we all talked about it. We were talking about it in terms of altering one’s consciousness with alcohol and/or drug use. It’s confusing to me that if you take these substances and it’s pleasurable to you, you’re creating less of a thickness for yourself. At the same time, these particular types of substances create a thickness in your reality, and I don’t really understand that part of it.
ELIAS: They create a thickness, for you hold belief systems and you allow yourselves to be influenced by the belief systems. If you are not allowing yourself to be influenced by the belief systems, then they do not create a thickness; but you ARE very influenced by your belief systems, and you are influenced by the belief systems of the masses, by other individuals. This creates a conflict within the individual. They are conflicting within themselves, for they are struggling within the battling of two opposing belief systems. THIS creates a thickness. The action itself does not IF you are accepting that pleasure is acceptable and that pleasure creates less of a thickness within accomplishing your value fulfillment, and IF you are accepting that no substance shall be hurtful to you. It is merely a belief system.
VICKI: So does that mean that if I take substances and I have accepted the belief system that they create a thickness and so they don’t create a thickness for me any more, do I still experience the physical effects of that substance?
ELIAS: If you are choosing, yes.
VICKI: But it will not create a thickness in my reality in the terms that you’re talking about?
ELIAS: Correct. The thickness occurs with the action of the opposing belief systems; the battling within the individual. This may occur also as you are moving in the direction of subjective movement into an acceptance of certain belief systems and actions and practices. Objectively, you may be creating of conflict temporarily, for you are engaging a battle between the mass belief systems and the movement that you are engaging to be accepting of a belief system.
VICKI: So with all of the religious belief systems that we hold regarding sex, quite often would we then, when we engage sex, be creating this same thickness, this same battling?
ELIAS: At times. This be why you create so many difficulties in this area. As I have stated, there are very many reasons why you create dis-ease/dysfunction within the area of your sexual activity, all of which are very influenced by your belief systems.
VICKI: Okay, thank you.
(Vic’s note: Now, what I get from this is that the reason we create so much conflict around sex is mostly because of religious beliefs. Why didn’t he just answer my question initially is my question!)
DON: ... Back to sex! I’m assuming that any interaction between individuals has a spiritual or an essential aspect. Is that fair?
DON: Is it also fair to say that the more intimate that contact, the more closely we’re connecting, essentially?
ELIAS: In a manner of speaking, yes.
DON: To me, it seems that sexual contact, sexual intimacy, can bring us closer essentially than almost any other experience we can have on Earth.
ELIAS: If allowed.
DON: It has potential to bring us closer to our central selves.
DON: That’s fascinating!
ELIAS: It does hold the potential, if allowed.
DON: Thank you.
ELIAS: You are welcome.
HELEN: It’s very rare that it’s allowed. Would you say that?
ELIAS: Not necessarily. Within YOUR society you limit yourselves to a degree, more so than other societies, but within the whole of your planet in this dimension, it is not necessarily rare.
DON: Is it possible that this huge power of the sexual experience is part of the reason we’ve built up all these taboos about it? Do we fear it? Do we feel that we’re close to something, and build up fears and taboos?
ELIAS: Absolutely. (Don says something inaudible here) Absolutely. It is creating of much fearfulness, for it is an expression unbounded of yourself within physical focus which holds MUCH powerfulness.
DON: So maybe that’s the reason that humans and animals have such a different reaction to sex? Because animals don’t feel that power that we feel. For them, there’s no aspect to sex other than the physical aspect.
ELIAS: Not necessarily. Your creatures also do not hold belief systems. Therefore, they do not place judgments upon their sexual activity. But look to your creatures. They display tremendous ritual, and they also are accepting of their sexual actions. They place no belief systems and judgments upon them. They accept them for what they are. They do not hold quite the same action as do you, for they are not responding within their sexual orientation to elements of essence as are you, but they hold less difficulties and conflicts than do you, for they do not hold the belief systems. They also hold intimacy.
DON: Are a lot of our belief systems built on fears that we will experience coming too close to something that’s essentially true?
DON: And animals can’t experience that, so they couldn’t develop belief systems.
ELIAS: They have not been created in this manner. Your creatures are not essence. Therefore, they have not been created in a manner that you endow them with all of your belief systems. This is not necessarily limiting of them. In many aspects, they experience more freedom than you allow yourselves.
DON: There’s not much correlation. You look at dolphins and other very intelligent animals, and there’s really not much evidence that they develop any of the belief systems that we have.
DON: So I guess my question is – what I’m trying to get to is – is there a direct correlation between the fact that we are central creatures and that we do develop belief systems? Are the two related? I mean, are we fighting ourselves in that way?
ELIAS: Yes, you are conflicting yourselves, but you are conflicting yourselves within your belief systems. You are limiting yourselves within your belief systems. You are no closer to consciousness than a dolphin. A creature merely holds no fearfulness of consciousness, for it has not separated itself as far from consciousness. There is an allowance of more subjective activity within creatures, for they do not block their subjective interaction. You hold fearfulness of what you term to be unknown; that which you have separated from, that which you do not remember.
DON: Is it because we do remember it on some level that we’re fearful of it?
ELIAS: No. It is that you have forgotten, and THIS creates the fearfulness; but as you move into a remembrance, the fearfulness dissipates.
HELEN: In other words, our belief systems are what keep us at a distance from our essence, so we can have purity of experience ...
HELEN: ... in physical focus, and that’s why they were developed in the first place?
ELIAS: Correct; but it is becoming unnecessary for this separation. Therefore, you create this shift in consciousness to be exploring new aspects of your reality, incorporating more of your remembrance and of essence.
HELEN: And less belief systems.
ELIAS: Less separation.
HELEN: Less separation. But belief systems create the separation.
ELIAS: In accepting the belief systems, you create less separation.” [session 255, January 04, 1998]
FORREST: “Moving along to the next question, from Carole. She asks, ‘Is human love between man and woman a belief system which we enter into because we choose to?’
ELIAS: Human love. First of all, yes, you enter into this action and experience as a choice. The subject of human love is complicated. It is a mirror action of knowing held within essence and within consciousness, but it is a translation into physical focus ... certain physical focuses. It is influenced by belief systems and it is an expression and action of emotion, which is a basic element of this particular physical dimension.
I have expressed that the two basic elements of this particular physical dimension are sexuality and emotion. You have created this reality for these experiences, for the exploration of these experiences. Therefore, human love relates to both of these basic elements of your reality and is intertwined with the exploration of both of these elements.
As stated, it is a translation. Therefore, in relation to the truth of love – which there are many truths within consciousness, love being another truth – its translation into physical focus is far removed from the reality of this truth in consciousness and within essence, but it is a mirror action, just as your equipment. Your telephone is a mirror action of a known truth or element of consciousness, of communication and interaction. It is a very limited translation, but it is a mirror action. Your flying machines are a mirror action of projection within consciousness. They are very limited mirror actions, but they are reflections of what is known within consciousness and objectively expressed. In this same manner, human love is also a projection and a translation.
Now; this is not to say that within this translation it may not be transcended into a fuller understanding and experience within your physical dimension. It shall not be expressed in the entire fullness of essence or consciousness, but it may be transcended into a much more effective fullness within physical focus. This is requiring of an allowance of mergence in relationship, of the individuals to be opening fully to each other and allowing this mergence and not blocking. In this, the experience may be a hundredfold to the experience that is accepted within your officially accepted reality.” [session 268, March 08, 1998]
ELIAS: “This dimension is created based upon what physical manifestations of expressions? (Staring at Jen)
JEN: Is that a question? (Laughter)
ELIAS: What physical expressions of manifestation is this particular dimension based upon? (Still staring at Jen)
JEN: Well, it seems to be based on our belief systems.
ELIAS: Your belief systems are a manifestation. They are explanations to yourselves. They are an intricate element of your creation of this dimension, but they are not the base element of your manifestation. They are not the reason that you have created this particular dimension.
JEN: Oh. Physical and emotional experience.
ELIAS: Emotional and sexual.
JEN: Oh, sexual. Excuse me.
ELIAS: And what shall be the first expressions of experience in response to your perceptions and your belief systems before you are even creating of a thought? You shall respond emotionally, or you shall respond sexually.
JEN: If we’re to get to a place where we’re able to neutralize our belief systems so that we’re aware – just a basic or a higher level of awareness, if you will – does that mean that we will have more experience of emotions and sexuality on a different level? I mean, perceptions and belief systems are clouding that experience?
ELIAS: It shall open to you more elements of your expression of creativity in these expressions and within the exploration of these experiences.
Therefore, in a manner of speaking, there is an element that you DO cloud, so to speak, or block your experiences and your expressions as influenced by your belief systems, for these belief systems shall dictate to you that certain elements of the expressions are bad, and therefore you shall not engage, and in this lack of engagement you limit your own creativity and your own expressions within your experiences, for you deny yourselves your own abilities in the area of your own creativity and your own abilities.
JEN: So you want to help us make sure that we don’t deny our creativity.
ELIAS: Quite, or I may express to you more efficiently, YOU wish to help YOURSELVES ...
JEN: Oh, so that’s why we draw ourselves to you.
ELIAS: ... to not be denying of your own creativity, and this has been expressed within your own expressions subjectively within consciousness. And in this, you have inquired for helpfulness – generally, not necessarily specifically – and in response, essences not bound by your dimensional belief systems comply and are offering helpfulness in the response to YOUR request.
Therefore, it is not necessarily the question of MY interest in your creativity or any other essence’s interest within your expressions, but the expression of knowing of intermingledness and merged consciousness.
Therefore, in a manner of speaking, you are expressing a request of yourself, and yourself is responding, and it is presented in an objective fashion of an energy exchange ... or another exchange of expression, which is merely dependent upon the choice of the essence engaging.” [session 331, October 16, 1998]
JEN: “Relationships: monogamy, marriage – those are intimate relationships – communication, giving of one’s energy....
ELIAS: All of these that you express are all the aspects of the one belief system. I have offered this analogy several times within this discussion of relationships and I shall continue to be referring to this particular analogy, for it serves well in helpfulness to individuals to be understanding the concept of the belief system and all of the aspects that the belief system contains.
I have expressed that the belief system is the bird cage. The cage itself is the belief system of relationship in any of its forms. All of the birds contained within this cage, of which there are hundreds within this particular cage, are the aspects of the belief system. You may express those elements such as you have – monogamy, expectations, integrity, ethics, justification, hurtfulness, joyfulness, death, birth, behaviors, sexuality, love, emotion – any of these are all aspects of the belief system itself.
(Intently) The aspects are what influence you to be moving in any given direction. The aspects of the belief system are those elements which are to be addressed to, that you may be accepting of the belief system. And as you address to each aspect and you accept each aspect of the belief system, you allow that little bird to fly away, and you continue to accept the aspects of the belief system until all of the birds have flown from the cage and the cage remains empty, and this would be the action of accepting a belief system.
But as you may allow yourself the information, you may also view that there are very many aspects of each belief system, this belief system holding many more aspects than some of your other belief systems, and as you delve into this belief system and allow yourself to view the aspects, you find more aspects hiding behind other aspects, more birds within this cage that you were unaware objectively of their existence within this cage. These are all elements of the belief system.
It is quite interesting, the web that has been woven with this particular belief system and how very tightly you all hold to these aspects of this belief system, and in your holding to these aspects, you also quite efficiently compare your bird cage to another individuals’ bird cage and you express to yourselves, ‘Ah! This individual holds more colorful birds within their cage than do I! Therefore, I need not be addressing to my own birds, for I shall be waiting for their addressing to their birds!’
JEN: You still learn by viewing their birds and their scenarios ...
JEN: ... about the beliefs and letting them go, ACCEPTING them, understanding that that’s what they are.
ELIAS: Indeed you do, for you offer yourself information and you offer yourself the opportunity to be addressing to your own aspects in viewing other individuals and their actions and their addressing to or not addressing to the aspects that they hold.
JEN: And without assuming that there’s a right or wrong, or placing those kinds of beliefs.
ELIAS: Correct. In this, you inquire as to the aspect within romantic relationships of singularity, that which you term to be monogamy; the singularity of individuals, within your language and your terms, creating commitments to each other in singular fashion. Quite interesting! The very language itself lends to aspects of the belief system!
JEN: Oh, quite!
ELIAS: For what shall be the terminology of commitment but another aspect, another bird within the cage? Within your society it is accepted en masse and created in accepted behavior that individuals shall pair. Within your religious belief systems, this is reinforced for the purpose of procreation.
ELIAS: Underlying, this aspect holds great strength, for it has been accepted for much of a time framework. Therefore, it has accumulated much energy.
JEN: It’s a hard thing to break away from!
JEN: It’s a nuisance.
ELIAS: Recognize that each aspect of the belief system is a choice. It is not an obligation; it is not an absolute. It is a choice which is influenced. You have created all of these aspects of the belief system for different reasons. This is not to say that any of these aspects are efficient or non-efficient. They are choices that you have chosen to be aligning with and accepting as you create en masse an officially accepted reality. This be one of the reasons that there is much difficulty and trauma in moving into the area of accepting belief systems, for you have set forth a design of officially accepted realities that you create en masse, and the individuals within each given society agree to be following in the direction of the officially established reality.
JEN: This is to strengthen it.
ELIAS: It has created much strength within your societies, but you now move into the direction of self within the action of this shift. You move into the direction of the individual, which is influencing of the mass but not dependent upon the mass.
JEN: Because the mass doesn’t accept self-exploration as very positive. That’s deemed to be selfish.
ELIAS: Correct, and this is the mass expression of duplicity.
JEN: ... That’s nice to hear. Okay, so I want to ask a question about the exchange of energy that comes through sex as we know it. It’s my inquiry into what we term as monogamy and why it’s necessary. I’m curious about the energy that ... how can I say it? ... the way energy comes together in this act. It’s not so much the significance of it ... well, maybe it is. But what’s that all about in connection with essences, the connection of different energies?
ELIAS: It is dependent upon your expression.
JEN: Is it a way for energies to get to know one another at a level much greater than the communication that we know?
ELIAS: There are many areas that may be explored in the aspect of sexuality with respect to relationships. In physical terms, you may place this action as a physical experience that you create to be facilitating of new focuses to be physically entering into this physical dimension.
Now; you also attach significances to this physical action, and within the belief system of relationship you attach certain aspects of the belief system to this physical act, for within this physical act you are physically merging two physical forms, and in this action you may be creating of another physical form. Therefore, you attach great significance to this action. This is not to say that your attachment of significance is right or wrong. It merely is.
In this, you also allow yourselves certain openings. Let me explain.
Just as within certain actions you create focal points to allow yourselves more of an opening to self and to your own awarenesses and to energies, within your objective expressions such as your cards, your crystals, your astrology, your numerology, your rituals, you use these as focal points, as actions that you allow through your belief systems an opening to consciousness and to energy. In like manner, you create a focal point of an action of physical mergence in the area of the action of sexual intercourse.
In this, at times individuals allow themselves to move into an area of opening to their own awarenesses, and in this action of opening to their own awarenesses they may also within agreement allow themselves to open to each other. In this, they allow themselves to experience an exchange of energy and at times a mergence of energy which exceeds physical action.
Within the attachment of your symbolism, which is an aspect of the belief system, you also allow yourselves the ability to be accessing other areas of consciousness, other aspects of self, other aspects of other individuals. In this, if you are choosing and if you are allowing your own openness, you may access other areas of consciousness together that may be quite enlightening to you, so to speak, and may offer you an opening to a remembrance of self and of essence and of the energy of essence, and you may also allow yourself the excitement and exhilaration of not only a physical experience of energy, but also the knowing of the powerfulness of your OWN energy of essence which may be expressed THROUGH you.
You may experience this also individually, but belief systems lend themselves, in the accumulation of energy en masse, to an easement of accomplishment in certain areas. This be the reason that I express to you that belief systems are not bad. They may be limiting, but they are not bad, for in many aspects they lend themselves to your own accomplishments.
In this particular area, the aspect of sexuality may be quite lending of itself in areas of widening your own awareness and your own experiences. You may allow yourself the experience of mergence of essence and not only feel this within energy, but also physically, within your physical senses and within your nervous system of your physical form, if you are opening yourself to this awareness within this sexual activity. For you have created the aspect of the belief system to lend itself in this direction as facilitating to you as a focal point, in like manner to any of your props that you use within physical focus for your attention. They hold symbology, and where you attach symbology you also allow yourselves openness, and you allow yourselves more of your own widening in awareness.
Now; let me express to you that another aspect of this particular area of this belief system is that you attach to this that you need be singularly focused with one other individual. This may lend itself to the actualization of your widening of awareness, for you may allow yourself more of an ability if your attention is singularly focused, but this is not to say that this is the actuality of the situation. It is merely an aspect of the belief system. It matters not. You may be accomplishing of this same action with ANY individual.
Now; let me also offer you another aspect of information in this. You also in physical focus move into the direction of identifications of soul mates. Now, this is a different action. This is not to be promoting of monogamy or singularity in attention with one particular individual, but essences do create similar tones, and in this creation of similar tones they may choose to enter into physical focuses in conjunction with each other, and in this action they may also choose to be creating of many focuses shared between them for many shared experiences.
In this, this creates a situation that you within physical focus identify as soul mates. It is a knowing, a familiarity, and in this familiarity there also is created an easement in energy, and within this easement of energy at times, as you DO hold the familiarity of another individual that you may term to be a soul mate, this lends itself in each individual allowing themselves to move more easily into a trust and acceptance of self and of the other individual, which also lends itself to more of an easement of their joint creations.
Therefore, if you are expressing the inquiry of expanded awareness in areas of sexuality and what you may be accomplishing within energy in your remembrance within experiences of sexual activities, you may allow yourself more of an ability to experience within physical focus with an individual that you view to be a soul mate, for you move more easily into areas of trustfulness. This is not to say that you may not be accomplishing this same action with other individuals or that you need be singular within your attention. It is merely expressing that you generally shall be allowing yourself more effortlessness in the direction of the individual that you identify as soul mate.
JEN: Seems like there’s a lot of it out there.
ELIAS: Quite, and I may express to you that even within one given focus, you hold more than one soul mate.
JEN: And that that’s not necessarily a male.
ELIAS: Quite. It matters not. Gender is merely a choice of the individual focus for the purpose of experience.
JEN: I feel lucky to have been attracted to so many soul mates, or so many people that I seem to have such a high comfort level with.
ELIAS: And this be not luck, but the accomplishment of your creation!
JEN: I’m pleased with this creation!
ELIAS: Very good! I am acknowledging of you in this! (Chuckling)
JEN: Well, this is a treat, Elias, to be in the schoolhouse with the instructor! Thank you!
ELIAS: And I shall be thanking of you also.” [session 308, August 21, 1998]
ELIAS: (Chuckling) “This evening, we shall engage a discussion.
JEN: Oh, good!
ELIAS: And I shall be offering questions, and you may be responding to these questions ...
JEN: (Laughing) Okay....
ELIAS: ... as a difference in our usual delivery. I shall be addressing to a subject matter this evening specifically, and this shall be the reason that I shall be engaging YOU, in questioning you as to your perceptions and your understandings of certain elements, for within this time period, much movement is occurring.
In this, I have expressed within this forum previously to you that there is a wave in consciousness occurring presently, and has been for a time period. Also, I have expressed to you that within this particular time period of this final year of your century and your millennium, much energy has been lent to this time framework. Therefore, energy is what you would term to be very intense – very high, in your terms – which lends to an ease in all of your expressions.
Now; this ease may be lent in the direction of conflict as easily as in the direction of fun. Therefore, you shall notice – within yourselves and within all individuals that you encounter in this time framework – individuals are experiencing extremes. Energy is very intense, and in this intensity, you all automatically draw upon all of this energy which is being lent to you within this time framework.
Therefore, if you are moving yourselves in the direction of creating fun, you shall be creating this easily. If you are creating movement through issues, you shall be moving more efficiently and more quickly through issues and offering yourselves imagery to support this. If you are creating conflict, you shall be creating extreme conflict. If you are creating stressfulness with yourselves, your stress shall be extreme. All of your expressions shall be heightened and more intense than you normally, so to speak, would be creating within your experience. Some individuals are experiencing extreme calmness. Whichever your expression, it shall be created more easily, for much energy is lent for you to draw upon within this time framework.
Now; also within this time framework there is a wave in consciousness occurring – which we have already introduced – addressing to the belief system of sexuality. This is an intense belief system itself, apart from the intensity of energy which is lent within this time framework. Therefore, you are experiencing twice the intensity.
In this, I have expressed to you previously, sexuality in itself is not a belief system. It is a base line, a building block of your creation within this particular physical dimension. You create within this dimension in the expression of sexuality and emotion for the experience.
In this, these two particular elements of your reality – sexuality and emotion – have also been created into massive belief systems. I use this terminology intentionally, for being that these are the base elements of your reality, the belief systems attached to them are very large. They also may be quite camouflaged or hidden from you, for you – within your beliefs in these areas – express to yourselves that the elements of these beliefs are not beliefs. They merely are your reality.
You express to yourself, ‘Male is male. Female is female. This is not a belief. It is merely a creation within your reality.’ This is correct, but there are many, many, many other aspects of this particular belief that you also assign that reality to, and remove from your awareness that it is attached to a belief system. ‘Your physical function is your physical function. This is not a belief. This is merely the reality.’ Incorrect. Your physical function is very influenced by your beliefs. ‘Your perception is your perception. This is a reality.’ Incorrect. This is also very influenced by your beliefs. In this particular area of sexuality, your beliefs are very narrow, and you have confused yourselves in extreme with this particular belief system.” [session 378, March 26, 1999]
ELIAS: “This reality is created highly individually, as I have expressed within the onset of this session.
Each of you creates your reality individually. This individual action creates mass expressions if you are creating individually similarly to other individuals, but you all are creating within your own individual choices, and you ARE creating in the most beneficial manner that shall offer you the most beneficial information.
This also is quite purposeful in my expression to you. I am not expressing that you always create quite efficiently, but you DO create beneficially. You may choose in your widening of your awarenesses to be creating more efficiently, but you are always creating beneficially, for you are always offering yourselves information that you may draw upon to be understanding self more efficiently.
I do not discount your emotional expressions in all of these situations, for your emotional expressions are quite within your reality, and you DO express many emotions. I also express to you that your emotions are another experience. They need not necessarily be incorporating action. They are an action within themselves.
You, within your beliefs, move in the direction of identifying your emotional expressions and attaching an action to them. You are experiencing an emotion, and you should be accomplishing this. Another individual is experiencing an emotion, and you should be offering this. You should be DOING. I express to you that this is not necessarily the situation. Your emotions are an action within themselves, and they merely are. They are not good; they are not bad. They merely are, and it is quite acceptable to be expressing of them.
In this, many times not incorporating another action coupled with your emotion may be more efficient, but merely accepting that element of you that is expressing that emotion and not placing judgment that this is a good or a bad expression. It merely is. It is what you are experiencing within the moment.
I shall offer further also: Individuals express that they hold the belief that emotions are cause and effect. I express to you that I have offered many times, in actuality there is no cause and effect. It is merely a belief that you hold. Therefore, you express that you hold an emotion in response or reaction to a cause. I express to you that within your creation and the influence of your beliefs, you do express this many times, but it is not an absolute. Your emotions need no action to be facilitating them.
Each individual within physical focus experiences moments of emotional expression that you express to yourselves ‘appears from nowhere.’ It has been created with no cause. You merely are feeling what you are feeling, and you know not why.
I express to you that emotion is a base element of your reality in this dimension, and is what you have created in your process of information. This is your method of identifying certain types of information, just as your sight is a method for interpretation of certain types of information. Your outer senses process information, your inner senses process information, and your creation of sexuality and emotion process information and create your reality, for they are your perception and your perception IS your reality.
Therefore, I am quite understanding of your expression of emotion in relation to another individual. I am also offering to you that as you hold an emotion in relation to another individual, you may hold the emotion and not necessarily couple the emotion with another action. The emotion in itself is enough of the action, and in that emotion, you are offering a clear and unclouded expression of yourself to another individual. You cloud this by offering – in conjunction to your emotion – your rationale and your thought process and your logic, but view how much more it is accepted by other individuals that you are merely expressing the emotion.
If you are expressing to another individual, ‘I hold great lovingness for you,’ you need not offer any other expression or action and it shall be accepted, and it shall be clearly identified in being felt also. If you are expressing sorrow or anger and you are not coupling these with another action, the communication is offered efficiently and clearly, and understood. It is unnecessary to be coupling this with other actions.
But you move in the direction of NOT accepting self. Your expression is not enough; it is not good enough. This is the lack of acceptance of self. Therefore, you move in the direction of creating drama and attaching other actions to your expressions of your emotions to emphasize what you are expressing, for your initial expression is not enough ... but it is!
Drama creates conflict. It perpetuates conflict and it is unnecessary, but you are very efficient at creating this, for it is very familiar to you. As you move more fully into the expression of this shift in consciousness, and the waves continue and the momentum increases and you widen your awareness and you expose yourselves to more unfamiliarities, you also retreat into your familiar and your known expressions, and therefore you create in the fashion that you are accustomed to creating within.
Look to your mass expressions. You identify these as negative and violent and quite typical of actions throughout your history, and you express to yourselves, ‘Why shall we be creating of this type of action if we are moving into this shift in consciousness and enlightening ourselves?’
And I express to you that you move in this type of direction for it IS familiar, and within your beliefs there is comfort in familiarity, regardless of its expression. Regardless that it may be expressed within conflict, it is familiar, and familiarity offers you safety, security, and comfort. These are all aspects of your beliefs, for there is no necessity for safety or security, for what shall you be unsafe or insecure within? You have created a safe and secure universe, and it is not hurtful to you. YOU are hurtful to you.
ANON: (Whispering) Thank you.
ELIAS: You are very welcome. Trust self, and move in the direction of no conflict.” [session 387, April 24, 1999]
TOM: “Now, when you talk of perception, Elias, perceptions actually are formed by our beliefs and belief systems. Is this correct?
ELIAS: Your perception is quite influenced by your beliefs. In this, they are the push, the influencing factor, so to speak, and a motivating force which underlies all of your choices and actions and creations within your perception. They are, in a manner of speaking, creating of your reality, for they are so very strongly influencing of your reality.
As to being an actual INGREDIENT of your reality, they are not.
They are an influence which moves you within certain guidelines and directions within your focus, in difference to elements such as emotion and sexuality, which are actual building blocks or ingredients of your perception, for they are actual baseline elements of your reality itself. Therefore, they are creating of your reality also, but not merely in influence, but as an element of it.
TOM: Pardon me? An element of?
ELIAS: Yes. Therefore, hypothetically, in figurative terms, if you were to remove all of the belief systems from this dimension, you would continue to be creating within sexuality and emotion, and this would continue to be creating of your reality and of your experiences.
Now; as I have expressed to you previously, you shall not be removing belief systems from this particular dimension, for this is the manner that you have created this particular dimension physically, and if you are choosing to be experiencing physical focus within a dimension that does not hold belief systems, this is available to you within other dimensions.
You create your participation in this particular dimension with the knowledge that you are participating within the reality of the intimate and intricate workings of belief systems and that they are quite influencing and a basic element of this reality, but they are different in their function from those basic elements of your reality which are ingredients of your reality.
Belief systems have been inserted into this objective physical reality, just as you insert into this reality all of your physical creations. Your elements of sexuality and emotion are not subsequent insertions into this physical reality, but a base element of the creation of this reality in itself.
In another viewing of this, you may think to yourself in terms of your earth. Your soil is the ground, so to speak, the base element of your earth. Your water, your soil, your air – these are the elements that are basic to the formation of your physical world. Your plants, your creatures, yourselves are inserted into that format, so to speak.
In this, your base elements of sexuality and emotion are the base elements that are the ground creations of your reality. Your belief systems are the insertions into that reality, which are influencing of all of the environment of your reality. They are influencing of all of your creations, for they are influencing of your perception, but they are not your perception in itself. Are you understanding?
TOM: Yes, I am. I believe I am. So, perception ... if you move into the less thickness, the faster vibration we were speaking of, you’re not moving outside, but you’re moving into more of the accepting of the aspects of belief systems.
ELIAS: Correct.” [session 407, May 28, 1999]
ELISABETH: “I want to ask you, do the feelings we have create the duplicity, or is it the other way around?
ELIAS: Which causes which? Do your emotions cause your duplicity, or does your duplicity cause your emotion? This is an expression of another aspect of belief system which we term to be cause and effect, which is that – an aspect of a belief system.
In actuality, your emotions do not cause duplicity, and duplicity does not cause your emotions. They are, figuratively speaking, different entities. One is a base element of your reality. One is a natural expression that you create within this physical dimension, and the other is a belief system. Therefore, they are different in expression and quality.
Now; as with all elements of your reality, duplicity is influencing of your expressions and your creations, for as a belief system, it – in like manner to all belief systems – is influencing of your perception, and your perception, as we have stated, is the element that creates your reality.
Now; your perception is quite changeable. Your perception is not an absolute. It is a very changeable element within your creation of your reality. All of your belief systems are influencing of your perception. Your perception is also influencing of your emotion.
In this, as I have stated, emotion is a base element of your reality. You have created this particular dimension of reality physically with certain base elements. These base elements are the facilitating factor in how you interact and create within this physical dimension.
Therefore, in like manner to the subject to which we have been discussing this evening, as duplicity is influencing and intertwined with all other belief systems, it couples itself with all other aspects of belief systems. Your belief systems subsequently may be influencing of your emotions, but they are not causing your emotions.
Your emotions are a natural expression that you create within this physical reality. They are not right, they are not wrong, they are not good, they are not bad. They are merely an expression that you create within this physical reality.
Your beliefs are quite influencing of your emotions, for your beliefs are influencing of your perception, and within your perception, you create definitions and identifications within your reality.
Therefore, your perception, influenced by your beliefs, views your creation of emotion and assesses certain expressions of emotion and defines to you what that emotion is, in very similar manner to the expression of how your perception evaluates and defines all of your physical creations.
In this, if you are looking to your physical creations within your physical form – within your perception as influenced through your beliefs coupled with duplicity – you define certain physical expressions as uncomfortable or bad and some physical expressions as pleasurable and good.
You may alter your perception of any expression within your physical creation and you may view that expression quite differently, and this is evidenced within your actual physical reality regardless of your mass belief systems.
You may identify through your perception the definition of physical pain, and you may define this within yourself as bad, as uncomfortable, as negative; an element of your reality which you wish to be eliminating of or changing. Another individual may create physical pain within their reality, and through their perception it is identified as pleasurable, and is not viewed as a negative element or an element to be eliminated, but to be perpetuated.
I have been expressing recently to many individuals the discussions that there are no absolutes, but you hold thought processes within your physical reality identifying certain elements of your reality as absolute.
I am offering you information, that you may allow yourselves to be understanding that there are no absolutes. All that you create within your physical reality is dependent upon your perception, and your perception is not an absolute. It is quite changeable.
In this, you look to your expressions of emotion, and you identify certain emotions as negative and uncomfortable, and you wish to be eliminating of these expressions.
Once again, we move in the direction of acceptance. This moves you into the direction of acceptance of self as prerequisite to acceptance of beliefs, for as I have stated, there are base elements within your reality which are not expressions of belief systems. You have created belief systems in conjunction with those base elements, but those base elements within themselves are not belief systems.
Your perception, your creation of your reality, in itself is not a belief system. Your energy in thought in itself is not a belief system. Your emotions in themselves are not a belief system. But you do create belief systems to be surrounding these base elements of your reality, and therefore you create influences of your perception which color your picture.
Now; in this, what I am expressing to you is that the color that you paint your picture with is not bad and matters not. It merely serves to be creating of the entirety of the picture. But you place certain colors within your pictures and you express a dislike for those colors, and the reason that you dislike those colors is that you hold a lack of acceptance of self first.
‘This particular color is a reflection of an element within myself that I do not accept, that I do not appreciate, that I do not like. Therefore, I wish to eliminate this color from my painting.’
But this is the point: in acceptance of self, you are not eliminating self. Therefore, you are not eliminating any expression or aspect of yourself. You are allowing yourselves to become aware of ALL of the colors within you and to be accepting of all of these colors, holding the recognition that each of these colors adds to your creation and is beneficial to the entirety of the picture.
Therefore, in duplicity and emotion, you experience certain emotions that through your perception you identify as sadness or anger, hurtfulness. These types of expressions of emotions you hold little acceptance of. These emotions you view through your perception as being wasteful of your energy. You view these types of emotions as very uncomfortable. You view these types of emotions in an evaluation of self. They serve, coupled with other expressions of emotions, as your measure stick of yourselves.
If you are creating joyful emotions, if you are creating what you identify and define as pleasurable emotions, you also mark on your measure stick that you are creating well, and therefore YOU are well, and therefore you are valued. If you are creating what you identify and define as negative emotions, you mark lower upon your measure stick of yourself, for you are not creating your reality efficiently and you may be creating your reality better. But these are the definitions that you hold in identification of emotion, which are offered to you through the influence of your beliefs.
You may be experiencing elements of your reality that you identify emotionally and define within your perception of your emotions as quite painful, and your automatic movement is to be discounting of self, that you are not creating your reality efficiently. Your automatic movement is retreat, for you engage the assessment – through your perception – of how other individuals shall view you, you assess within yourselves how you view yourselves, and you move into the automatic identification that this is uncomfortable, and therefore it must be eliminated.
Now; I shall express to you that as you are creating a perception of negativity in conjunction with elements of your reality, you are creating a thickness in energy. A thickness in energy is not bad either. It is merely a difference, which may also be measured within your perception, for thickness is bad and thin is good. Slow is bad and fast is good. Movement is good and non-movement is bad. Painful is bad, and all bad need be eliminated, for it is inefficient, it creates obstacles, it creates blocking of energy, it is a waste of energy, it is hurtful.
These are all expressions of your perception, but as I have stated, your perception is not an absolute, and all of these definitions are quite changeable.
Your psychology expresses to you to be embracing your fears and your torment and your painfulness, and this shall be eliminating of these expressions of emotion. I express to you, why shall you embrace any element that you are unaccepting of? (Laughter) If you are creating an interaction with a bird – of any aspect of duplicity – and it is biting of your hand, why shall you continue to offer your hand? Why shall you attempt to be embracing this bird if it is pecking at you? But you also need not be eliminating of this bird.
This bird is attempting to be gaining your attention, and this is your very efficient method of gaining your attention, for you shall pay attention! Your very clichés reflect this. You express to each other throughout your history that you shall oil the squeaky wheel. You shall pay little attention to the wheel which is not squeaky, but you shall offer your attention to the noisy wheel.
And if your emotions are creating through your perception uncomfortableness, this shall gain your attention! But you automatically move into the direction of eliminating and wishing these emotions gone, but they shall not disappear, for they are a base element of your reality. But you hold the ability to perceive them differently, and therefore their affectingness of you is different.
You may be experiencing what you identify as painful emotion, and if your perception turns and is no longer identifying and defining to you the terminology of painful, you may allow yourself to be experiencing that very same emotion in its same intensity, but you shall be responding differently.
You yourselves express, there is a fine line within your reality between pleasure and pain. I express to you, there is no line between pleasure and pain. It is merely a choice to be viewing from different angles. It IS the line. There is no line between. The emotion, the expression, IS the line, and you may view the line from different angles, and your response to the line shall be different.
And THIS is accomplished through the acceptance of self – the recognition that this also is an element of self, and there is no aspect of it that is unacceptable.
You may view within your reality the identification that you feel emotion in response to outside stimuli. As movement occurs within energy outside of yourself, you respond within an expression of emotion, and you view these responses to be automatic and without choice.
I express to you that you hold choice in your response to any element within your reality. You choose which direction to be moving your perception within. You are not dictated to by circumstances or other individuals.
Your reality is not creating you! Therefore, all that occurs within your reality is not creating you. YOU are creating all that is within your reality through choices, but you view in the reverse.
(Humorously) You view, regardless of what you express – that you BELIEVE you create your reality – in actuality, you believe that your reality creates you! And therefore, you are victim to your reality, for you are without choices. And therefore, you hold no control – another very large bird within these bird cages, the ominous control bird, and its twin of the infamous LACK of control bird! (Laughter) And they move quite efficiently together, and THEY are creating of your reality! You are not creating of your reality, for reality creates you. You do not create reality. (Very tongue in cheek)
You yourselves have created all of these beliefs! You yourselves have created all of these bird cages and all of the birds within them, and they have served you well throughout all of your reality, through millenniums, and they are not bad now any more than they have been bad previously within your reality.
You are changing your reality to be expanding your reality, but if you are to be expanding your reality, you also shall be allowing yourself acceptance of what you have created, and in this acceptance, you also recognize your responsibility – that you yourselves are creating your reality IN EVERY ASPECT OF IT, and that it is not creating of you.
And even now – as I have spoken to you for much time framework – within your humor, you express different words, that the universe is dealing you certain elements of reality that you are subject to. Even within your playfulness, you reflect what you believe, and what you believe is not necessarily that you create your reality, but that some cosmic element, some higher self, some ‘unconscious’ aspect is creating for you, for it is in control, and it is skipping merrily with you in tow OUT of control ... and there we view the twin birds once again! (Grinning, and a pause)
In this, as you look to self, as you move into the acceptance of self, you also recognize that there is no element of you or your reality that is broken, not within your thoughts, not within your emotions, and therefore, they are acceptable and they need not be fixed. They are merely an expression. They need not be altered; they need not be fixed. You merely may turn your attention within your perception and your definitions of your emotions.
As I have stated, you may continue to define the word painful, but within that definition, the explanation of painful may turn, and therefore your experience – which also is not absolute – may be quite altered, for your experiences also are a creation through your perception, and you may consistently and continuously be creating certain types of experiences to be reinforcing to yourselves that they do hold absoluteness, but this is merely your reinforcement of your beliefs.
ELISABETH: (Barely audible) Thank you.
ELIAS: You are very welcome.” [session 472, September 19, 1999]
CARLOS: “Elias, why do we create all these complications?
ELIAS: For it is stimulating to you! It is interesting!
You are an energy essence. Your natural state of being, of consciousness, is a continual movement of exploration and becoming.
Therefore, in your terms in this physical language, you have an insatiable curiosity of EVERY possible manifestation of consciousness. Every experience, every element that may be created within consciousness, you desire to be creating.
This is a physical dimension. This is an extremely intricate physical dimension....
CARLOS: Is it natural, then, for us to create these complications, in an inability to cope with ourselves, to express ourselves in the way we want to? Is it something natural, to create obstacles and difficulties?
ELIAS: In a manner of speaking, yes. It is unnecessary, but in this particular physical dimension, there is an element of this type of movement that is objectively natural to you, for it is an element of your exploration and your curiosity and your desire for experience.
CARLOS: You said it’s not necessary, which means there is another way to be doing it, but there’s something wrong there. Why are we doing it if it’s not necessary?
ELIAS: You create MANY actions within this physical dimension that are unnecessary.
CARLOS: Why is that?
ELIAS: This is movement in conjunction with your curiosity and with your exploration of all of the expressions of this physical dimension. MANY of your expressions within this dimension move in conjunction with your exploration of your emotional qualities.
Emotion is a base element in this particular physical dimension. Emotion is relative to this physical dimension – and certain other physical dimensions – but not to all of consciousness.
Therefore, as you choose to be manifesting within this particular physical dimension, it is quite natural for your movement in exploration of all of the qualities of emotional expression, for this is not a manifestation that may be relative to other areas of consciousness.
Therefore, there is a curiosity also as to the intensities of emotional expressions, the diversity of emotional expressions. You create many elements of conflict within this particular dimension to be experimenting, in a manner of speaking, with the emotional quality that accompanies many of your experiences.
As I express to you that certain movements are unnecessary within your physical focus, I express this purposefully, that you may allow yourselves an understanding, in objective terms, that there is more available to you than you perceive yet.
This allows you the opportunity to open your objective awareness and eliminate some of your limitations, and this is part of the point of this shift in consciousness, which YOU have created and YOU have designed. Therefore, it is your objective, so to speak, to be moving in this direction, and the information that I am offering to you is merely an aid in response to your own creations.
YOU have asked, within consciousness, for helpfulness – in your OWN movements into a remembrance of essence and of consciousness – that shall aid in your objective movement in conjunction with this shift in consciousness.” [session 510, December 04, 1999]
BOBBI: “Well, I’ve been having some discussions with different people lately about the emotion of anger, and that’s kind of the direction I’d like to go in this morning. In fact, I’ve written a question here, so if that’s okay, I'll just read it, and if you would give your comments.
ELIAS: Very well!
BOBBI: Could you discuss the emotion of anger? I have many confusing feelings about anger. Mostly, I don’t like it. (Elias grins) Personally, I am slow to anger, and have to be pretty mad to express it, but when I get there, it’s really big and lasts a long time. I know there are people who enjoy it, but it’s something that I avoid if possible. It seems like a big messy emotion which causes conflict and hurt, in my perception. It also seems like a thickness in energy and situations and movement.
I judge my own expressions of anger – and actually anyone’s expressions of anger – pretty harshly, while at the same time justifying it by either blaming the other person or the situation. When I am angry with another person, and if I am creating ALL of my reality, then aren’t I actually mad at myself?
In that ... well, let me read this. If I’m angry at another person or even a situation, isn’t it my perception of that other person or my creation and perception of the situation that I’m at odds with, and does that make anger an expression of lack of acceptance of self?
If we are all attempting to express from essence and look to self for the source of conflict, would there be expressions of anger in that? It seems like kind of a contradiction. If I were doing those things – expressing from essence and looking to self – I think probably the expression of anger might be different. But usually, anger is just a spontaneous burst of emotion, and the expressions of it are also quite spontaneous and automatic. So, what would be an expression of essence in terms of anger?
I have a couple of other questions here that Ron and Vicki and I came up with, and Mary as well. Shall I go on with those, or pause for a moment?
ELIAS: Let us view the questions that you are already posing, for you are posing several questions thus far.
As to the emotion of anger and the identification of this particular expression, this is an expression of an emotion. This is an emotion which you have attached very strong beliefs to in association with it, and in the attachment of your beliefs associated with this particular emotion, you also alter the expression of it. Are you following thus far?
ELIAS: In this, anger in itself is merely an expression of a restlessness and an aggressiveness.
Now; neither of these identifications are what you would term to be negative or positive, although both may be viewed in particular situations as negative or positive. Aggression may be viewed in a positive manner, and it also may be viewed in what you term to be a destructive manner, dependent upon your perception of the expression itself, and your perception of the intent of the expression.
Now; you have developed identifications and definitions associated with this particular emotion, for this particular emotion is expressed in an intensity. It also may be created quite spontaneously, and many times is expressed in relation to interaction with outside stimulus. Other emotions that you engage may be created in conjunction with outside elements, but they also many times may be created in association with self singularly, in a manner of speaking. Anger may also be expressed singularly, but for the most part, your expression of it is created in relation to outside influences, so to speak.
In this, in relation to its association with duplicity, you have created very strong identifications and definitions concerning this particular emotion. Few individuals within your physical reality view the emotion of anger as positive. Most individuals view this particular emotion to be detrimental, destructive, negative, hurtful, and quite frankly, bad! (Chuckling)
ELIAS: Now; let me also express to you, as I have expressed in other subject matters, the strength of your judgment of this particular emotion creates a tremendous contribution to its perpetuation.
In this, as you concentrate your energy in the expression of judgment in intensity, that this particular emotion is bad and should be eliminated or reconfigured to such extreme that it is unrecognizable, you continue to perpetuate the actual expression that you view to be bad. I have expressed this many, many times in many situations, that this is in actuality the action that you engage in many subject matters. The very element that you wish not to be perpetuating or that you wish to be altering, you DO perpetuate through your concentration of judgment upon it, and as you allow yourself to be accepting, you also deflate, in a manner of speaking, the power which is held in the perpetuation of that expression.
As to your question of acceptance and your expression in anger in interaction with another individual and is this not in actuality an expression of a lack of acceptance within self, yes, you are correct. You have created an identification of anger as being synonymous with judgment.
BOBBI: Yes. Is it not?
ELIAS: No. It is merely an emotion which is expressed in an intensity in an expression of aggression. You have altered that expression and have reconfigured its expression, and have created another design which you identify as anger. The actual emotion itself is not entirely what you identify in your judgment.
Let me express to you, in conjunction with this shift in consciousness – addressing to another of your inquiries in this subject matter – as you continue to be inserting this shift in consciousness into your objective reality and you move more and more into the expression of acceptance, you are not, as I have stated previously, eliminating the foundational expressions of your reality.
You are not eliminating your beliefs. You are not eliminating your emotions. You are not eliminating thoughts or your expression of sexuality. These are all base elements of the design of this particular physical dimension, which you are continuing to express. You are merely altering the expression of them through the acceptance of self and belief systems, and this does in actuality alter your reality and widen your awareness. In this, you are not eliminating the expressions of any of your emotions.
As this shift is accomplished within each of you, you shall continue to be expressing all of the emotions that you express presently, for this is an aspect of this physical dimension that you have created quite purposefully, to be exploring in physical expression. But as you remove the expression or the aspect of judgment from a particular emotion, its expression may appear in itself quite differently than what you are presently identifying as that emotion.
I have also expressed to you in recent time framework quite frequently, you are engaged in the action of redefining your reality, and in that redefining of your reality, as you allow yourself to identify the definitions that you hold presently in your reality, and recognize the judgments that are associated with these definitions, and allow yourself movement into acceptance, you are altering your reality in that action of redefining.
BOBBI: I guess that’s where my difficulty comes in, in redefining anger. In our discussion last night, we were really hard-pressed to come up with a situation where you could hold the emotion of anger – get angry – without there being a judgment involved to trigger that emotion.
ELIAS: For you are associating this particular emotion, as I have stated, quite synonymously with judgment.
BOBBI: Yes, we are! I cannot think of a situation where you would have the emotion of anger and not have it triggered by some sort of judgment – of yourself, of the situation, of the other person, or of the other person’s expression.
BOBBI: How does that ... I don’t understand how that works.
ELIAS: Let me express to you, Jale [Bobbi] ... which may be (chuckling) creating some elements of conflict within some individuals, but we shall proceed regardless. Ha ha ha! Identify to yourself what you define as an emotion of frustration.
ELIAS: Now; in this expression of frustration, may you be expressing frustration without judgment? (Pause)
ELIAS: Correct. Yes, you may be expressing frustration without necessarily creating a judgment associated with that emotion.
Now; I shall rock your boats once again and express to you, you identify within your beliefs a distinction between anger and frustration. You view anger and frustration to be different and separate expressions. I express to you, they are aspects of the same emotion.
BOBBI: Okay, but aspects of the same emotion, but not particularly the same?
ELIAS: They ARE the same emotion. They are aspects of the same emotion, for you have divided the expression.
You have created a division of the expression, and you have created one aspect of the expression to be associated with judgment, and you have incorporated this particular expression of this emotion in association with your lack of acceptance of self.
Now; let me also express to you, quite realistically, in actuality, this is quite beneficial, for it is an objective, outward, obvious expression as an indicator or a focal point, so to speak, of self.
I have expressed to you all many times, there are no aspects of yourself that are hidden. There is no element of yourself which is not available to you objectively. It is merely a question of you allowing yourself to pay attention to self and to become familiar with self and recognize what you are creating within your reality.
As you become familiar with self, you also allow yourself to identify HOW you are defining your expressions, WHAT you are expressing, and WHY you are expressing in the manner that you are choosing.
Anger is in actuality a beneficial and useful emotion in the manner that you have chosen to be expressing it, in association with your beliefs and its coupling with duplicity. For each time you are experiencing your definition of anger, you are allowing yourself to be projecting an obvious, objective expression of your lack of acceptance, which also offers you the opportunity to be identifying and to be altering that expression.
In this, allow yourself objectively the recognition that anger and frustration are the same emotion. Therefore, you may be expressing anger without judgment. It may be expressed as an objective motivational expression, which in actuality is its design.
BOBBI: I understand this part of it, and I can see that. I guess I’m also thinking of specific situations, when you're in a conflict with another individual ...
ELIAS: Very well.
BOBBI: ... and they are expressing their frustration, their anger, their rage, whatever, at you in quite strong terms.
ELIAS: Very well.
BOBBI: Generally, quite quickly, a reaction will come up within you.
BOBBI: At this point, I really don’t know where to go from there. In a situation like that, I express what comes into my mind – it flies out of my mouth – which I’m quite quickly sorry for normally, or eventually I’m sorry for, or I don’t say anything. And yet, all of those thoughts keep going around and around. In fact, this goes to Mary’s question. She summed it up very nicely. Since none of those things seem to be entirely successful, is there an alternative direction for that type of energy? (Pause)
ELIAS: Let me express to you, as you create your response in immediacy, what do you identify that you are creating? What are you expressing? (Pause)
BOBBI: Well, generally it is a response to the situation of the other person being angry with me and expressing that. So, I would either be defending myself or telling the other person why they are incorrect.
ELIAS: Correct. Now; you view the action of the other individual to be an assault.
ELIAS: And in this, you respond in defense.
ELIAS: Do you view, in actuality, the identification that defense is your immediate, automatic expression of lack of acceptance of self?
BOBBI: Yes, absolutely I do.
ELIAS: Therefore, as you engage an interaction with another individual and you perceive the other individual’s expression to be a type of assault, as you are automatically responding in defense, you are expressing your acknowledgment of your lack of acceptance of self.
Were you to be genuinely expressing the acceptance of self, the other individual may project energy to you, and may intend the energy to be projected AS an assault at times, but it shall not penetrate and become perceived as an assault, for in your acceptance of self, the automatic action that you create instead of defense is the openness of your energy field, which reconfigures the energy that has been projected to you, and you do not receive in the assaulting manner.
In this, we return to the buffer. (2) But beyond the buffer is the expression of acceptance and openness, which automatically creates a reconfiguration of the energy.
Now; I am understanding of your confusion and your conflict in these types of interactions, and I am also understanding of your desire for your quick fix, so to speak, (laughing) to be altering the expression in immediacy.
But there is importance in your understanding objectively of what you are actually creating, and in this, it is quite significant that you allow yourselves to become familiar with yourselves.
There are situations in which you may be the individual expressing the assault and you are the individual that is projecting, not the individual that is initially receiving, and this action also is an expression of a lack of acceptance of self.
For in the projection of the assault, so to speak, which you define as anger, you are attempting to be expressing to another individual in a manner of convincing them of some information concerning you. But you are not familiar with you! And you are not convincing the other individual, for you are expressing your projection TO YOU.
Therefore, your expression of anger – in the definition that YOU hold, in an outward expression of judgmental aggression – is, in a manner of speaking, a type of desperate attempt to be offering yourself information.
BOBBI: About yourself.
ELIAS: Correct. (Pause)
BOBBI: Hmm. (Pause)
ELIAS: Let me express to you, you hold much more difficulty in the recognition that you are not controlling of you, in your beliefs, than you express in the recognition of controlling another individual. You already express to yourselves, quite objectively and in actuality, that you may not be creating another individual’s choices or that you may not be controlling another individual.
You camouflage your actions through your thoughts that [you] are expressing an attempt to be altering the expression of another individual, but in actuality, underlying, you are expressing your recognition that you also are not controlling of you, and this is unsettling, for regardless that you may not be expressing control of another individual, you MUST be expressing control of self. (Pause)
You may identify to yourself a recognition, in interaction with another individual, that you are not in agreement with – or in your terms, preferring or liking of – choices or expressions of behaviors that another individual creates.
You also, in some manner, shall express to yourself the recognition that you may not be altering of that behavior or those choices, [that] they are not your choices or behaviors to be altering, and that it is the choice of the other individual to be continuing or to be altering their behavior as they choose.
And in this, your camouflage – in the actual interaction – is the expression of denying that knowing within yourself, and attempting to be expressing the choices or the directions or the dictates of the choices for the other individual. This is what you may term to be the camouflage. In actuality, the expression is the judgment upon self and the lack of acceptance of self, which is being expressed outwardly and surfacely in the interaction. (Pause)
BOBBI: So, in the case then when ... I guess we only have our own choices and we only deal with our own choices, so the choice would be how we perceive the other person’s interaction and how we receive that energy.
ELIAS: Allowing yourself to be aware. Let us engage in a small example. Shall you find the experience pleasurable that another individual may be dictating to you your thoughts?
ELIAS: Correct. Therefore, if another individual approaches you and expresses to you, ‘You are thinking this,’ or ‘You are creating this. You are doing this,’ your response in the reception of that expression shall be what?
BOBBI: Well, either ‘No, I’m not,’ or ‘Yes I am, and that’s what I want to do.’
ELIAS: Correct. Now; if your response is ‘No, I am not,’ why is your response ‘No, I am not'?
BOBBI: I would be disagreeing with their perception of what I was doing, I suppose.
ELIAS: And why shall you disagree with their perception?
BOBBI: (Laughing) Because it doesn’t match mine!
ELIAS: Quite! And what shall you be engaging in this disagreement of the identification of their perception?
BOBBI: I’m sorry; could you say that again?
ELIAS: What shall you be attempting to be doing?
BOBBI: Oh. Well, controlling their thoughts and controlling their perception.
ELIAS: And attempting to convince otherwise.
ELIAS: And attempting to be expressing self, that you may be offering proof to another individual of their incorrectness.
ELIAS: Or that they are wrong, and that you are correct or that you are right.
ELIAS: And what is accomplished in this action?
BOBBI: Well, that’s a good question. Sometimes, nothing. Sometimes it just creates more conflict.
ELIAS: Ah, I shall express to you, there is always an accomplishment in these situations! You may accomplish a validation of self if you view yourself to be successful in altering the perception of the other individual. If you are unsuccessful at altering the perception of the other individual, you accomplish discounting of yourself and reinforcing your view of yourself in duplicity, that you are not quite good enough yet. (Pause)
Now; as to your question concerning your quick fix, so to speak – what shall you engage in the moment of interaction of anger, in the manner that YOU define it – I may express to you, you may allow yourself quite physical actions. Allow yourself a stop-point. Allow yourself an actual physical action of breath, for the physical action of breathing, in the attention of your breathing, creates a lessening of intensity of all of your emotions.
You create more of an intensity of the expressions of your emotions in tension. It is difficult to be creating tension as you allow a physical relaxation of your physical body. It is difficult to create tension in allowing yourself a free flow of breath.
You may, within a single moment, allow yourself a stop-point. Turn your attention to your breath. Turn your attention away from what you perceive to be the other individual, and recognize that your interaction is with self, and in this, the other individual IS YOU. And shall you wish to continue in projecting this type of energy of anger to yourself?
BOBBI: So it’s kind of that old thing of ‘stop and count to ten,’ really. Just stop for a moment, regroup, and think about what’s going on then.
ELIAS: Also allow yourself, within that moment, the recognition that a solution is unnecessary; a resolution, a solution, or a finish line is unnecessary. (Pause) In the moment, allow yourself to be noticing what you are participating within.
As you continue to project your attention and your energy outward, you create – in this action of anger, in your identification of this aspect of it – the judgment of blame, and as you create that action, you perpetuate the situation. What is blame?
BOBBI: Looking outside of yourself for the cause of your conflict.
ELIAS: And the direct, blatant identification of right and wrong.
The identification of projection of blame to another individual is the expression that that individual is wrong in their expression, and this is a direct expression/projection of energy to be discounting of the other individual.
Without the element of duplicity and judgment, it is merely a projection of energy in aggression. Aggression is not bad. It is not negative. It is merely a surge of energy.
With the expression of judgment, you configure that aggression to be an assault to another individual, and you create this action as a direct expression of lack of acceptance of self. (Pause)
BOBBI: So then, post-shift, what we define as anger then – I guess my questions today have been dealing with what we define as anger – that will not exist? If everyone is accepting of themselves, at that point, those types of expressions will not exist?
ELIAS: Not in the manner that you are expressing them presently. This is not to say that you shall not continue in the expression of anger.
BOBBI: It will be a different definition of anger. Is that correct?
ELIAS: It may be expressed more in the likeness of some of your identifications presently of frustration.
BOBBI: So in an intensity of that kind of thing, like rage ... I can’t imagine that existing in a non-judgmental environment.
ELIAS: This may be expressed also, but differently.
For within the acceptance, if you are choosing to be engaging that type of intensity of expression in relation to another individual, you shall both hold the awareness of the intentional creation of that action NOT engaging judgment, in like manner to your ability to be engaging within a game without competition. Therefore, the intensity of the expression may be offered, but there is no engagement of hurtfulness or conflict.
BOBBI: I’m trying to imagine what a scenario like that would be, but at this point, it’s difficult to imagine that.
ELIAS: I am understanding, and this be the reason ... which is expressed in the intensity of your beliefs.
Your beliefs are expressed in extreme intensity, and in this, they are shadowing your perception in a manner that you are not allowing yourselves to perceive in other manners, and this is the point of our interactions and of the offering of information, that you may allow yourselves to be widening your awareness and to be accepting, and therefore also altering your perception.
BOBBI: Yeah, there’s so much more, so many beliefs attached to anger or our ideas of anger. It’s extremely hard to separate them all out.
So to go back to the acceptance thing, if someone is expressing a negative judgment of someone else, like ‘I think you're bad and awful for doing that, but I am accepting of myself and I feel good about my expression of saying that because I am accepting of myself,’ is that true acceptance of self, to be projecting that judgment of someone?
ELIAS: If you are accepting of self, why shall you be projecting the judgment to another individual that they are bad or awful?
This is their perception. Their perception is influenced by their beliefs. Their perception is reality. Therefore, what they are expressing is the view of you, so to speak, that they have created in their creation of you. How shall this be hurtful or negative within you if you are accepting of you? For if you are accepting of you, it matters not.
Let me express to you in another manner. An individual may express to you that you are a selfish individual. Now; you may be recognizing that their definition of selfish may be expressed in negative terms, in your identification. If you are accepting of self, it matters not that they are perceiving the identification of selfish as negative, for within you, the identification of selfish may be quite accurate, but holds no expression of negative or positive. It merely is. It is merely an identification of a quality or expression of you.
BOBBI: Now, if I’m the person expressing to the other person that they are selfish, that I perceive them to be a selfish individual, and I mean it as a judgment, can I express that, or is expressing that ... gosh, I’m not sure how to express this. I’ve confused myself!
ELIAS: May you express that to another individual, and also be accepting of self.
BOBBI: Yes, that’s what I mean. (Laughing)
BOBBI: Okay, that was my thought on it also.
ELIAS: For this is a projection of a judgment.
BOBBI: Right, and any projection of a judgment is not a true acceptance.
ELIAS: Correct, yes. And each projection of judgment that you offer is and may be directly associated with your own expression of lack of acceptance within self.
BOBBI: Okay, thank you very much. Are there any other thoughts that you have on this that you would like to contribute?
ELIAS: Ha ha! I shall express to you also, allow yourselves to view the intricacies of the judgments that you place upon this particular engagement of anger, for even in the situations that you choose to be addressing to your participation in anger, you place judgments upon the actions that you may choose to be altering your own expressions.
I have expressed previously that you may be engaging conflict, and if you are so choosing, you may remove yourself from the conflict to be creating of your no-conflict scenario, (3) but you place judgments upon that action also. It is not good to be walking away. You must be confronting each situation, and you must be playing out the scenario to the bitter end, and offering yourself an answer or a solution!
For the assessment is that there is some element of the interaction which is malfunctioning or broken, and in that, it needs be altered or adjusted or fixed.
BOBBI: (Laughing) Yeah, we’ve been having a lot of imagery of that lately!
ELIAS: (Chuckling) I express to you, none of these expressions are accepting!
Therefore, as you engage a conflict and you are experiencing the exhibition of anger, recognize that this is not a malfunction or broken either. It needs not be altered. It needs not be fixed. It needs not be adjusted. You merely may recognize the influence of the belief systems that are affecting of your perception, and therefore coloring the hue of your expression.
ELIAS: Acceptance is a wondrous expression! (Chuckling) Ha ha!
BOBBI: I would imagine so! (Laughing)
ELIAS: And all of you are moving into its wondrous embrace! (Chuckling)
BOBBI: Sometimes that is very hard to see! (Laughing)
ELIAS: Ha ha ha! I express to you once again an acknowledgment of the difficulty that many of you are experiencing in your movement in relation to the addressing to duplicity. This creates tremendous challenges, and I am understanding of the conflict and confusion which you are engaging in relation to it. (Chuckling)
BOBBI: It seems to come up in all kinds of forms!
ELIAS: Quite! And how very efficient of all of you to be so very diverse in offering yourselves a variety of expressions to be examining this belief system! Ha ha!
BOBBI: (Laughing) Yes!
ELIAS: Are you not wondrously creative?
BOBBI: (Cracking up) It’s marvelous, I'll tell ya!
ELIAS: Ha ha ha! I may also offer to you one final comment in relation to this expression of anger. Many, many, many of you move in the expression of seriousness, and especially in the expression of anger, you direct your attention in an intensity of seriousness, and it may be helpful to you objectively to offer yourselves a moment of noticing of your intensity of seriousness.
Allow yourselves to recognize that all of these expressions are merely expressions of exploration, and it is not so very serious!
BOBBI: Looking at it as an exploration has been helpful, when I can remember to do that! (Elias chuckles) But at moments, it is helpful. It diffuses things a bit.
ELIAS: Therefore, if you are viewing not so very seriously, you may also allow yourself less of a thickness and an incorporation of fun!
BOBBI: (Laughing, and Elias chuckles) Well, fun and anger – that would be new!
ELIAS: Ha ha! And you may in actuality – ha ha! – engage this action! Ha ha ha! Ah! There be your challenge!
BOBBI; Yeah! (Laughing)
ELIAS: Explore this action!
BOBBI: Okay – humor and anger!
ELIAS: Ha ha!
BOBBI: Thank you very much for all this.” [session 660, July 13, 2000]
ELIAS: “This day, we shall engage a discussion together. I shall not present a dissertation, but shall direct this conversation in offering a subject matter.
In this, we shall be discussing emotion and the interplay of this element of your reality upon your interactions with yourselves and with each other, for this base element of your reality is incorporating many aspects of conflict with many individuals presently.
I have been discussing the emotion of anger recently within this forum and offering information to individuals concerning this particular emotion, as they may allow themselves to be viewing what they create in relation to this particular emotion, and eliminate some expressions of conflict that they may be creating in relation to other individuals or to themselves in the exhibition of this particular emotion.
But let me express to you also, all of your emotions at times may be creating conflict within your reality. As you allow yourselves to examine your emotional expressions within your physical focus, at times your expressions may be creating other expressions of conflict about you, or you may be creating conflict yourselves in relation to your emotional expressions.
Many individuals may be expressing the emotion of sadness, and they may be incorporating conflict in this expression. As one individual expresses sadness, other individuals incorporate conflict in relation to the expression that one individual may be demonstrating.
You may even incorporate conflict in relation to joyfulness. At times, you as an individual may be experiencing elation. You may be experiencing great joyfulness. You may express to other individuals that you are quite happy, and other individuals may be responding to you not in like kind, and they may be incorporating conflict in relation to your expression of joyfulness, and this may also incorporate a response from yourself in confusion or frustration, therefore also creating an element of conflict within you.
Emotions are a wonderful expression that you have designed in this physical reality. They are a wondrous element that you incorporate in exploration of yourselves, of your reality, of interactions with other individuals. But many times you incorporate the expressions of emotions, and you also incorporate the aspects of the belief system of duplicity, which influence your perception, and as you are aware, your perception creates your reality, and in this, you may confuse yourselves.
Many times in interacting with expressions of emotion, individuals create a thought process that they need be ‘doing’ something in relation to the emotion that they are expressing or that another individual is expressing. You must be actively participating physically, and you must be ‘doing’ some action.
If you are happy or joyful, you are expressing this and you must be celebrating, and individuals must be participating with you in this joyfulness and sharing of this experience.
If you are sad, you yourselves must be ‘doing’ something to eliminate this sadness, or other individuals must be ‘doing’ some action to eliminate this experience of sadness and change this experience of sadness.
If you are angry, you are creating judgments upon yourselves and upon other individuals, and you wish to be eliminating of that expression.
If you are experiencing frustration, you are accepting of frustration only within the time frameworks that you objectively identify to yourselves that the frustration is serving the purpose of motivation. If you are not aware objectively of a motivational factor associated with frustration, this is yet again another emotion that needs be eliminated.
There are many, many expressions of emotions. There are many degrees, so to speak, of your expressions of emotions. There are as many hues of emotional qualities as there are of your color spectrum, and ALL – without exception – of your emotional expressions are acceptable. They are all beneficial, they are all acceptable, and they are all purposeful, even anger.
Now; I shall briefly, this day, reiterate what I have expressed recently in relation to this one emotion of anger, in identifying to you that the expression of anger is an extreme. Anger is an aspect of frustration. Anger is the extreme of frustration. This is not to say that it is bad, but it is an extreme of an emotion.
In this, the inquiry has been posed, in relation to this shift in consciousness, as to how you shall engage this emotion of anger as you incorporate this shift in consciousness in its entirety into your objective reality. For in the association that you hold now, you do not identify that anger may be expressed without coupling it with judgment, and as you are aware, in the action of this shift, you are moving into acceptance. You are moving into acceptance of self, and clearly, acceptance of your belief systems, and this acceptance is the identification of a lack of judgment.
This is the definition of acceptance – a lack of judgment, be it good or bad, right or wrong. It is the incorporation of neutral.
As you look to the emotion of anger, you view – as I have stated – within your thoughts that you may not be expressing anger without some type of judgment associated with it, be it good or bad. You may be acknowledging of yourself that you are expressing angrily, or you may be chastising yourself that you are expressing angrily.
The expression of anger – as I have stated recently – in the extreme of frustration becomes turned, and in this, you incorporate blame, either to yourself, to a situation, or to other individuals.
Now; within this shift in consciousness, the extreme expression that you now identify as anger shall neutralize, for the judgment shall be eliminated.
The base emotion, which is frustration, shall continue, although its expression may be exhibited within your behaviors differently, for you objectively shall allow yourselves – and are allowing yourselves presently – an understanding of this emotion and its benefit and its purposefulness, and also its innate neutrality in itself.
Emotions within themselves, expressed in quality, are similar to your belief systems. Within themselves, they are neutral. They are not good or bad, right or wrong. They are merely an expression of your physical objective reality. They are a base element of this physical dimension. They are an intricate aspect of its design. Your belief systems are, in a manner of speaking, a base element of your reality. They also shall not be eliminated in the action of this shift. They merely shall be neutralized, for you are incorporating the action of acceptance. And as you are aware, sexuality is the other base element of your reality.
These are the elements in which you define your reality. These are the foundations of which you build your reality, and the amusing aspect of the discussion of these base elements of your reality is that you hold objectively little understanding of all of the base elements of your reality! (Chuckling)
You hold little understanding and acceptance of your emotional qualities and expressions. You hold little understanding and acceptance of your design of sexuality. You hold little understanding and acceptance of the belief systems that you incorporate into your reality.
I have been speaking with individuals within this forum for what you linearly identify as approximately five of your years, and within this time framework, to this present now, individuals continue to be expressing chastisement of themselves that they are not eliminating their belief systems.
Individuals continue to be expressing disappointment within themselves and discounting of themselves – and at times, of other individuals – that they have not yet eliminated even one of their belief systems, and this is not the point! The action is not to be eliminating your belief systems, any more than the point shall be to eliminate yourselves! You are not engaging acceptance of self and eliminating yourselves and ‘poofing away’ out of this physical reality!
You are accepting of self, that you may be widening your awareness and offering yourselves the opportunity for vaster exploration of your physical reality, and in like manner, you are moving into acceptance of your beliefs, that you are not continuing to be incorporating limitations upon your perception, which is the instrument that creates your reality.
You are eliminating the obstacles that block your exploration within your physical reality by accepting your belief systems, and in this and in the acceptance of self, you also may be turning your attention to your emotional expressions and allowing yourselves to be accepting of these also.
Vic’s note: End of Elias’ non-presentation of a dissertation. Ha!
Now; in our discussion, shall we not engage conversation, all of us, (grinning) as to the identifications of different emotions that may be incorporating conflict within all of you, and your interactions with other individuals? And shall we not attempt together to explore this base element of your reality and your expressions, and discover an avenue in which you may allow yourselves and offer yourselves permission to BE accepting of your emotional expressions?
Therefore, to you I offer the floor! (Laughter) And you may engage myself and we shall discuss this subject matter, and perhaps we shall discover a viable avenue for less conflict. (Grinning)
FEMALE: How about the emotion of jealousy?
ELIAS: Ah, jealousy! (Chuckling) Such a colorful emotion, is it not? (Grinning, and laughter) And quite passionate! (Chuckling) And your expression is the incorporation of conflict in relation to this particular emotion?
ELIAS: And what do you view creates conflict as you experience this emotion of jealousy? Or rather, in not ‘skipping shells,’ how shall you identify this emotion of jealousy?
FEMALE: I identify it in myself as withholding energy in myself, like blocking my emotions that come forth with other people.
ELIAS: And express to myself, what facilitates this action? What do you identify as the trigger, so to speak, that shall move you in a direction of creating this type of action?
FEMALE: Not feeling the flow to everybody; feeling the flow kinda off to me, and expressed to another.
ELIAS: Therefore, you are identifying a type of isolation within your feeling.
ELIAS: And this creates a conflict within yourself, for you wish to be sharing within your energy with other individuals, and you create this emotion of jealousy in viewing other individuals that allow themselves to express freely, where you do not.
ELIAS: Very well. In this, let us view what you are associating with within self, and what you are in actuality creating.
You turn your attention outside of self to other individuals, and you express within self a draw to other individuals that appear to you to freely be expressing their energy. This, within yourself, creates a want. You ‘want’ to be creating that type of expression in like manner to other individuals, and as you are focusing your attention outwardly to the actions of other individuals or the creations of other individuals, you also automatically create a comparison.
You compare their design of their expression of energy to your own expression of energy, and in this comparison, as your attention is focused outwardly to other individuals, you create what we may term to be a model within yourself, an ideal of what you ‘should’ be expressing and that your expression ‘should’ be matching this model of your ideal, and the model of the ideal is created in its form through your assessment of other individuals’ actions and creations.
In this, the jealousy expressed is the judgment that is placed upon self, in an assertion of your assessment of self that you do not hold this same ability, or that you are lacking in your expression, or that you are malfunctioning in your behavior in relation to this type of action. Therefore, there is also an automatic discounting of self, and a clear expression of a lack of acceptance within your own natural flow of energy, for your expression may be different. But difference within your physical reality is unacceptable.
You may create a thought process within yourselves, and you may identify yourselves as quite open and quite liberal within your thoughts and your expressions, and you may express to yourselves and to each other that you are quite accepting of difference, and I shall express to you quite definitely, in this now, that you are not.
Difference creates threat. It threatens you as individuals. It threatens your acceptance of self, for you judge yourselves by what you view outside of yourselves. You create an automatic action of comparison, and in comparison, you do not allow for your own individual, natural, free flow of energy in the expression of difference.
Now; we have spoken many times of families, of orientations, of personalities within your physical dimension, which are all aspects of your reality and are all influential within your individual expressions.
But each of you are ultimately highly unique individuals. There is no other individual that is the same as each of you. You are as unique as your design of your physical body, which displays unique, individual fingerprints. No other individual throughout your history – past, future, or present – shall ever display the physical quality and identification of fingerprint that you display. It is a highly unique, individual, physical expression in identification of you.
In like manner, each of you chooses a unique expression of energy. You may incorporate a personality type, but within that type of personality, you display your own unique qualities. Each of you expresses a unique exhibition of energy which is unlike any other expression of energy, in any other form, in any other area of consciousness, throughout any dimension or any time framework.
You are ultimately unique. Therefore, how shall you compare to any other individual?
In this, the action of comparison automatically discounts you, even in comparisons that you view to be good, for there is an automatic action of discounting of your own expression of acceptance.
In the acceptance of self, you need not be creating this action of comparison. I shall express to you, many of the conflicts that you engage in relation to other individuals are expressed in holding your attention outside of self.
Now; as to the expression of jealousy, how may you be allowing yourself the continuation of the experience of the emotion, but not incorporating the conflict?
FEMALE: Accept the emotion, but not compare, and be in my flow.
ELIAS: Correct. For in this, you may allow yourself the viewing of other individuals’ expressions, and you may create another expression of emotion – a hue of emotion – in admiration for another individual which expresses themself differently from yourself, and you may be accepting of that difference and you may continue the emotion of jealousy, which is merely an awareness of the differences and the awareness of yourself, and what you physically term to be, in this popular time framework, your ‘ownership of your energy signature.’
This is an identification also of the emotion of jealousy. It is the emotion of your identification of your ownership of your energy signature, that you possess this. It is belonging to you. It IS you, and therefore, you express the emotion of jealousy to it, that it is yours.
In this, as you turn your attention from outside of self to self and acknowledge this emotion that you are expressing and not incorporate the comparison, you allow yourself the acceptance of your own natural free flow of energy, which may be expressed differently from another individual. This is not to say that it is inadequate or that it is not as good as another individual ... OR that you need be creating any expression better, for you are already creating best!
In this, you may be eliminating of your judgment and therefore eliminating of your conflict, but not necessarily altering your expression. What you ARE altering is your perception – how you view what you are creating and how you view what other individuals are creating – and in the lack of judgment, you may continue to be expressing yourself, not as demonstratively as some other individuals or not as obviously as some other individuals, but in allowing your own expression of a free flow of energy.
Are you understanding?
FEMALE: Yes. Thank you.
ELIAS: You are quite welcome. (Turning to another person) Yes?
MALE: Yeah, I just want to ask a question about that. If you’re eliminating the conflict around jealousy, doesn’t that ultimately eliminate the need for the jealousy, or ...?
ELIAS: Not necessarily. It is not a need. Let me clarify.
You do not need for any ‘thing’ within your reality. This is an influence of your beliefs. You have many wants, but in actuality, there is no element or no expression that you need, for all that may be perceived as need is already incorporated within you, physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually, which is all! (Chuckling)
In this, it is an emotion. Therefore, as I have stated, why shall you eliminate the emotion? You may be expressing the emotion without the judgment.
The emotion, as we have identified, is the recognition and the knowing of what you possess within yourself in your own qualities, and in this knowing, you create an emotional expression as the identification and objective outward expression of that knowing of what you possess, and this is what you term to be jealousy.
As it turns to other individuals, it is the identification of what you possess and what you are not acknowledging within yourself, and therefore you create an association in judgment, not merely upon other individuals, but upon yourself ... and the emotion itself!
You label this emotion to be bad and unacceptable, and as I have stated, all of your emotions within themselves innately are neutral. They are not good or bad. They merely are expressions.
(Slowly) They are outward physical expressions of you that reflect qualities of you in a particular design of expression that you have identified and defined as emotion. (Pause)
Shall you not engage another confusing emotion? (Grinning)
FEMALE: Sure – anger.
ELIAS: And what shall be the nature of your concern in relation to anger? (Laughter) This is a vast subject matter presently!
FEMALE: Vast! I find ... here comes the judgment! (Elias chuckles)
I find my own anger appalling. I find it boring, that it continues to last when I find little reason for it to remain a volatile force, like a volcanic aspect that has a continuous molten core, always hot and always ready. I can define that in many ways, like (inaudible), and fiery, and in some other definition or interpretation, there are things that in fact I accept, that this is a part of my makeup, that this seems to be, in this manifestation of me, this seems to be ... there’s a certain amount I find acceptable. If I give myself a good definition for anger, and others, then it’s a really neutral force. It can be utilized in a million different ways. It does not have to be destructive. It does not have to be what we would term negative, and it isn’t. It’s neutral. It’s an incredible energy. Volcanoes make new land. There are many plusses for all that.
And yet, I find it to be, in my own life, a kind of ... I’d rather not have that be my motivating energy. Even if I use it well, I’d still rather that not be the tone of my energetic pattern. I don’t like it, and that’s my absolute judgment – I don’t like.
ELIAS: Quite! And many individuals may be expressing in agreement to you, that they do not like it either! (The group cracks up)
FEMALE: Right! I totally agree! (Laughing)
ELIAS: And many individuals express this within themselves, that they are not liking of this emotion of anger.
But let us be remembering that anger is not the emotion within itself. Anger is an extension of an emotion.
ELIAS: It is an extension of the emotion of frustration, and in this, it is an extreme.
Anger is expressed, outwardly AND inwardly, in a lack of acceptance of self, and I may express this to you quite strongly and quite definitely. It matters not how very many examples any of you may offer to me of other individuals creating any types of expressions that ‘make you angry.’ Other individual are not making you angry!
Anger is expressed from within, and it is a direct expression of a lack of acceptance of self. It is created inwardly, regardless of outside circumstances or situations. You may become angry in your expression without any interaction of other individuals.
I have interacted with individuals that express extreme anger in relation to situations of objects! They are incorporating great conflict and experiencing extreme anger in relation to their vehicle!
FEMALE: Yeah, cars! (Laughter)
ELIAS: They are experiencing great anger in relation to their new machinery of your computers (laughter) and their ‘malfunction,’ or your vehicle’s ‘malfunction.’
Now; I shall express to you, this is quite amusing, if not bordering upon ludicrous! (Laughter) For I shall express to you, first of all, that your machinery and your designs of your creations are not – any one of them – malfunctioning. They are not broken. They are not malfunctioning. (Pause, staring at everybody) HA HA! (Laughter)
FEMALE: Yes? How so?
ELIAS: (Emphatically) You PERCEIVE them in this manner, and you create this type of reality through your perception. YOU create a judgment. YOU create an identification and a definition through YOUR perception, which in actuality creates your reality!
Therefore, if you are viewing your vehicle to be broken, you are viewing what you perceive in your definition as broken, and therefore you are creating it. But it is in actuality not broken, for you merely may turn your perception – within one moment, one singular moment, as quickly as turning your gaze – and in the turning of your perception, the vehicle shall NOT be broken, for your perception shall view it as not broken, and your perception, in reality, creates your reality!
In this, I have stated many times, there is no aspect of your reality that is broken. There is no necessity for ‘fixing,’ for there is no aspect of your reality, be it physical, be it emotional, be it mental within yourselves, be it within objects that you create or with your own self physically, emotionally, intellectually ... in ANY aspect that you may identify throughout your reality, regardless of how you identify it, there is no element of your reality that is broken, for there is no expression of consciousness that is less than perfect.
That incorporates YOU. That IS you. It is merely the identification of your beliefs that influence you in the association that you are less than perfect, or that any element within your reality is less than perfect, or is broken or is malfunctioning or is inadequate....
FEMALE: Which takes us back to anger.
ELIAS: Quite, and this is created through a lack of acceptance within YOU. At times it may be created in an extreme of frustration, in your lack of allowance of yourselves to view choices.
FEMALE: To view choices?
ELIAS: Correct. You limit your viewing of your choices, and in this, you create a frustration, and as you continue to spin within your wheel of frustration, you block your viewing of choices more, and you perpetuate this action, and this creates an extreme which manifests in what you identify as anger.
You may engage in interaction with another individual, and you may be expressing anger in relation to what other individuals are creating or what they are expressing, and in this, the lack of acceptance may be expressed in your inability to identify or express control.
In situations that you may not be ‘dictating to’ a situation or another individual, or that you may not be controlling – within your identification of control – the situation or the choices of other individuals or the expressions of other individuals, you create a frustration within self which manifests in extreme and becomes anger.
MALE: So it’s a reaction.
FEMALE: But not to them.
ELIAS: It is a reaction to self.
I have expressed many times, control is an illusion. There is no actual element of control. You do not control your environment. You ARE your environment. You do not control other individuals. You do not even control yourselves! This is a construct of your belief systems, but it is a very strong aspect of belief systems.
You identify this expression of control quite clearly within your definitions. You also clearly identify and define a lack of control. Both are an illusion, but both are created quite realistically within your perceptions, and in this, you are quite responsive to your identifications of both of these counterparts of the same illusion.
You create the frustration, in objective outward terms, in relation to outside elements, outside expressions, or other individuals; in your feeling of lack of control concerning the choices and expressions of other individuals. But you simultaneously are creating an inward lack of acceptance that you are not expressing control of yourself!
MALE: By demonstrating anger.
ELIAS: Quite, and that you are not exhibiting an expression that shall BE manipulating the situation or another individual, therefore expressing a lack of control of your ability.
FEMALE: And then trying to control better!
MALE: So, what do we do?
ELIAS: HA HA! (Grinning, and laughter)
First of all, you identify this and acknowledge this to yourself – that you ARE allowing influence of your beliefs upon your perception. You are allowing these beliefs of control to be creating a film over the lens of your perception and clouding what you view.
You also may allow yourself – once again, in like manner to the identification of the jealousy – [to] recognize that you are holding your attention outside of self. Your anger is being expressed as you incorporate outside elements – activities, interactions – and in this, your attention is not upon you and your energy.
Even within the time frameworks in which individuals turn anger upon themselves, and are not interactive with another individual and may not necessarily be interactive with a physical situation, but may be creating anger as an emotional expression within self, the attention is not upon self inwardly. The attention is upon comparisons and judgments, which is outside of self.
For in turning this anger to self, you are placing a judgment upon yourself that you are not creating some expression good enough, and what is the basis of this assessment? You are not creating in like manner to other individuals.
FEMALE: We do it through our imagination at that point. We’re not in actual relation to a person or a circumstance. It’s being done in here, but it’s being done as if we’re running a movie. We’re having our own discussions and we’re creating our own pictures, and we make those comparisons or we have those conversations or we create those circumstances without anything actually happening out here.
ELIAS: Which is quite real also!
FEMALE: Right ... so our attention isn’t really with self as a core. It’s still with a belief-created reality, with all of our assumptions and all of our guesswork and all of the rest of it to boot.
FEMALE: So, to move to the self at that moment, let’s say that we have identified this process, that it is happening, and we recognize that we are holding ourselves outside of ourselves, whether it’s out there or in here. To move quickly, throughout the ages, it’s like, go meditate ... there’s a million ways, supposedly, to get there.
FEMALE: But what’s the quickest, fastest, easiest way to get back to self, to truly, truly get back to self?
ELIAS: Now; in what we have been discussing, you SHALL move your attention to self. What you are expressing is not the question of moving your attention to self. What you are expressing presently is, how do I eliminate the emotional response? How do I eliminate this emotion of anger? And this is the goal, and this is not the point.
FEMALE: I didn’t think I was asking that.
ELIAS: Ah! (Grinning, and laughter) But in this, you wish the feeling to dissipate.
FEMALE: Sure! (Brief pause) No. Okay, I got it. (Elias grins) So, we’re not looking for that to dissipate. In fact, we are looking for ourselves to encompass it, embrace it....
ELIAS: This is the situation and the subject of perception.
Let me express to you, you may be incorporating actions, and you may perceive an action in many different manners, and how you perceive it shall alter the expression, therefore altering the reality, in actuality.
In this, you may create a physical pain, and if you are perceiving this pain to be bad, and if you are placing the judgment upon this pain that it is unacceptable and you are not liking of it, you shall hold a specific perception and experience in relation to that identification.
This is an influence of the belief upon the perception. If you believe it to be bad, you shall perceive it in a specific manner, which you shall thusly identify as uncomfortable and that you are not liking of this, and your automatic response is to be eliminating it.
You may create a pain, which is merely a physical incorporation of feeling, and as an influence of your beliefs, you may not necessarily identify this as negative, and in this, your beliefs shall influence your perception, and you shall create a reality and an experience entirely different ... with the SAME action.
FEMALE: Right. I know people who do it! I’m around people who do it all the time.
ELIAS: (Intently) The pain itself is neutral. It is merely a physical feeling which is incorporated through your senses.
In this, the physical affectingness is not necessarily the aspect that you seek to eliminate. In actuality, you are not seeking to eliminate....
FEMALE: ...the pain.
ELIAS: Correct. You are seeking to alter a perception. How you alter your perception is, allowing yourself to widen your awareness.
You allow yourself the recognition of your beliefs; what beliefs are influencing your perception. You allow yourself to identify your creation of your perception, your participation in these actions. For many times, in relation to this particular emotion of anger, many individuals are NOT identifying their participation, EXCEPT for the creation of the emotion! But you ARE participating quite fully in an action that is occurring.
Therefore, identifying your participation, identifying the beliefs that are influencing of your perception, allowing yourselves to be within the now ... key point! For many times within the exhibition of this emotion of anger, you are NOT within the now, although you express that you are, and ‘if you were not within the now, you would not be participating within this emotion of anger.’
And I shall express to you once again, this is ludicrous! You are participating within the association of past or the anticipation of future: ‘I am angry for the reason that this has occurred pastly. I am angry, for I anticipate that this shall continue futurely.’ This is not what is occurring within the now! Therefore, key point – that you allow yourself to hold your attention within the now.
And as you accomplish these actions ... and let me express to you as an aside, merely in the identification of these actions, you shall sufficiently distract yourselves in this type of attention that you shall not be experiencing the intensity of the anger, for you are too BUSY (laughter) identifying all that you are participating within!
But shall you incorporate these actions, you also may allow yourselves to turn your attention to self; to discontinue holding your attention outside of self, which is an automatic response and moves quite efficiently in the expression of duplicity, which shall influence you quite strongly to continue to hold your attention outside of self, for you are exceedingly fond of this: (Elias starts pointing around the room) Pointing, pointing, pointing, pointing, blaming, blaming, blaming, blaming. ‘It is not myself that is creating this. It is every other individual and situation upon my planet, in my universe, within the cosmos which is exacting all of these actions upon me, and woe is myself! I am the poor victim, and I am responding quite angrily, for I wish not to be the victim.’
For in the role of the victim, you eliminate your choices. You discount yourself. You eliminate your power. You do not acknowledge all that you are. You do not view your choices. You allow outside elements to dictate to you. This reinforces a lack of trust within self and a lack of acceptance.
I shall express to you quite strongly, you are expressing, in the emotion of anger, a lack of trust and a lack of acceptance of self, and you camouflage this in the expression of a lack of trust or a lack of acceptance to the outside expression, be it a situation, a circumstance, an object, or an individual.
FEMALE: It becomes a whole other thing. My dear daughter is such a teacher to me. She’ll stop me in the midst of that angry response to something that she’s about to do or is doing or isn’t even doing with that exact question of, why do you assume that I am doing what I did before, or that I will continue to do what I did before? Actually, if a child....
ELIAS: And a lack of trust is expressed in what you term to be defense. This is your expression of protection.
FEMALE: Yeah, that it is....
ELIAS: This is your shield that you place before yourselves, that you are not trusting and accepting of yourselves, and your fear is that this shall be discovered. Therefore, you place the shield of defense, and this shall block the energy of other individuals.
MALE: The shield is what exactly?
ELIAS: Defensiveness. It is an efficient shield, for it not merely blocks energy of other individuals, but it also blocks your own energy to yourselves. It turns your attention away from yourself.
You may view how very convoluted all of these expressions are in actuality, for you view yourselves to be doing quite the opposite!
FEMALE: Convoluted is a good word!
ELIAS: You express to yourselves, as you are exhibiting defense, that you ARE paying attention to yourselves, but you are not. You are focusing your attention quite intensely upon the actions and expressions of other individuals.
MALE: ... I have a question. I’ve been dealing with something that is foreign to me. The feeling of joy and elation is very much part of me, and I find that it’s hard to interact with people sometimes who aren’t feeling that, and at times, I think that I can be too happy for people! (Laughing)
I guess my question is, how do I balance that, particularly with relationships, friendships, people that I’m close to?
ELIAS: I shall express to you, once again, this is involving of the subject of difference, and the difficulties that you encounter as you view differences.
In this, many times, experiencing emotions that you view to be positive – joyfulness, elation, any identification of happiness, so to speak – may be labeled by yourselves as inappropriate at times, for you create an association within yourself that you must be expressing your energy in compliance with other individuals’ energies.
Therefore, you may be experiencing much joyfulness within your experiences, and you may be interacting with other individuals that may be creating different emotional expressions, ones that you view to be contrary or opposite to that which you are creating.
In this, there is an automatic response – once again, in relation to duplicity – in which you and other individuals create a thought that you need be gearing your expression as more suitable to the other individual’s expression.
Now; at times you create this action, for you wish not to be creating, in your thought process and perception, an enhancement of the other individual’s creation.
Let us express an example – that you may be quite carefree within a moment, and you are interactive with another individual that may be expressing their energy quite solemnly, or within an emotion of anger or sadness or frustration.
You wish not to be perpetuating or enhancing, in your thoughts, the emotion that the other individual is expressing, for you are, in like manner to themselves, identifying these emotions as negative.
Therefore, you wish to be sharing your expression, for you view this to be positive, but you wish not to be incorporating enhancement of the other individual’s despair, that they are not sharing in your light-heartedness.
At times, you may even incorporate some elements of guilt, that you are experiencing happiness simultaneous to other individuals that are creating emotions that you view to be negative.
Now; once again, in like manner to our discussion of jealousy, in recognizing that your expression is your reality and is what you are creating, and this is quite acceptable and needs not be altered, you may also recognize within you that you do not create other individuals’ realities.
You also influence other individuals as they allow you to influence. You are not automatically influencing of other individuals, for it is the choice of another individual to allow that influence.
Your responsibility lies with you – in what you create and within your reality. You do not hold responsibility for other individuals.
Let me also express to you, I am quite aware of how all of you listen to these words that I am expressing to you, and at different points within your time framework, you may reflect upon these words and you may express, ‘Yes, BUT.’ (Grinning) ‘BUT, Elias, how may I be not concerning myself with the reality of another individual and what they are expressing, and continue to be expressing compassion for that individual?’ And you may.
I am not expressing to you that as you turn your attention to self, that you automatically eliminate any other emotions that you may express in relation to other individuals, or that you are not caring of other individuals, or that you do not exhibit compassion for other individuals. But be remembering, there is no element within reality that is broken.
An individual may be experiencing frustration or jealousy or sadness or anger or anxiety. They may be expressing a myriad of emotional qualities that you deem to be negative or uncomfortable.
ALL of these expressions are chosen. ALL of these expressions are beneficial. ALL of these expressions are purposeful. If you are not choosing to be experiencing a particular emotion, you shall not experience it, quite simply!
This is, once again, the identification of the role of victim, that you express to yourselves that you are not choosing to be experiencing certain expressions, but you ARE. You are NOT victims.
(Firmly) You are creating every element, every aspect, every moment of your reality. No other individual is creating it for you.
In this, in recognizing that you may not be creating of another individual’s reality, allow yourself to identify why you are becoming uncomfortable with your happiness. Why are you judging your happiness in relation to the expression of another individual?
You may be identifying that you are responsive to the response of another individual. You may be presenting yourself within behavior [as] quite elated, and another individual may express to you what appears to be irritation. They may be annoyed with your display of behavior. This is THEIR expression.
It is not a value judgment upon you unless you create that. It is not an evaluation of you or your worth, or your rightness or your wrongness. It is an expression of themselves in THEIR experience.
In this, it is not your concern to be assuming personal responsibility for the expression and the choices of the other individual. It IS your responsibility to turn your attention to self, and to evaluate why you are in agreement with them, and why you are placing the judgment upon yourself.
I may express to you, in relation to your identification that you may be too happy, and I say to you, individuals in general, in relation to emotions, may not be too happy or too sad or too frustrated or too jealous or too ANYTHING. You merely are expressing what you are expressing.
In this, you create a judgment of moderation. Any expression, any element within your reality may be expressed in moderation, and this is acceptable, even joyfulness, even pleasure, sadness, anger – ANY expression, within your definitions, is acceptable in moderation. But beyond your identification of moderation, it is no longer acceptable, even joyfulness.
In this, once again, as you hold your attention outside of self and you create comparisons, you shall create the judgment upon self that your expression of happiness is too much and not acceptable. It may even be judged to be hurtful to other individuals, but what you are expressing may not be hurtful to other individuals unless they are choosing to be creating of that.
Even those expressions that you agree upon as negative, and that you all within this forum presently would identify as hurtful actions, must be perceived by the receiver as hurtful to be hurtful. Even your intention of being hurtful may not be hurtful without the acceptance of that by the receiver.
You may intend to be joyful to an individual, and they may translate that energy, and they may create hurtfulness within themselves. You may intend to be hurtful to another individual, and they may receive this in playfulness. Therefore, it matters not.
If you are inquiring as to, ‘What matters, Elias?’ – for I have expressed to you all so very often of what matters not! – I shall express to you, what matters is you and your perception and your viewing of self, for in this, as you allow yourself acceptance and trust, you offer yourself freedom, and within this expression of freedom, you are affecting of ALL of consciousness. (Pause)
Therefore, my friend, as you express to yourself a moment in which you question yourself in the expression of happiness and you question your expression and your behavior in relation to other individuals, be mindful of the jealousy, and you may be expressing your own jealousy and be reveling in it, as to the knowing of self and the acceptance of your expression. (Chuckling)
MALE: Thank you.
ELIAS: You are quite welcome.
FEMALE: I want to ask a question for Mary.
ELIAS: You may.
FEMALE: I hadn’t thought of it for me, necessarily, but it’s there. How difficult it is to be in the presence of someone who is sad; how relatively helpless one feels; it’s so incredibly uncomfortable. As I was speaking with her earlier ... well, no. I’ll speak for myself, actually. There’s a natural empathy that goes out to someone who is sad, and there’s an attempt, although hopefully it may be gentle, to elevate a person out of whatever sadness they’re in. But it’s such a nebulous ... who knows what they’re sad about, necessarily? I don’t even know what I’m asking here. It’s not a wanting to get away from that person because I don’t want to deal with the sadness, but it’s not wanting to be dragged down also.
FEMALE: And it’s wanting to uplift, if possible.
ELIAS: Quite. (Grinning) And how shall you approach this??
ELIAS: This is an interesting emotion that you incorporate, this sadness.
Now; in this emotion, you are correct – there is an element that many individuals experience in empathy. There is also oftentimes an expression of your empathic sense, which creates a mergence between yourself and another individual, and as they are experiencing this emotion of sadness, at times – not always – you may be experiencing this emotion with the individual.
In this one particular emotion of sadness, you create this empathic action much more freely and much more frequently than you do in relation to other emotions, even happiness, even elation. You shall allow yourselves to be engaging your empathic sense more freely and easier in relation to sadness than you shall in relation to joyfulness, for in the encounter of individuals in joyfulness, you yourself as an individual may continue to maintain what you are creating within your emotional expression, be it different.
Conversely, as you interact with an individual that is expressing genuine sadness in emotion, many individuals experience difficulty in their separation from that particular emotion. You automatically engage empathy ... which is not your empathic sense. It is another (in chorus with the group) emotion! (Grinning)
In this, as you engage the emotion of empathy, you also incorporate thought and memory; memory not merely in thought, but you engage memory in what we may term to be even a cellular manner, for your body consciousness responds to memories of YOUR experiences in this emotion of sadness.
In this, there are automatic actions that occur in a physical tensing. Your neurological system is automatically, immediately affected. Your breathing is automatically, immediately affected. Your sense input within your outer senses are heightened.
Sadness creates, in interaction with – generally speaking, although it is not the rule – an automatic response within individuals that easily triggers fear. (Pause)
The fear is the expression of very much a lack of choices, a lack of viewing choices, a sensation of being static and stationary, which many times with many individuals translates into a feeling of being stuck. The fear may also be triggered in relation to memory, in the feeling of uncomfortableness and your desire to not be engaging that feeling also.
Even within expressions in which you are not engaging that particular fear, and you are merely allowing yourself to be engaging the other individual that is creating this sadness, you may experience an uncomfortableness in what you have identified as this helplessness, a powerlessness.
You have also identified your desire to be raising up or lifting up the other individual, in an attempt to not allow yourself to be dragging down; the down as the sad, and the raising up as other than the sad.
The conflict arises, once again, in your inability to view choices and in the lack of acceptance of the emotion itself, and the justification for the lack of acceptance is that the other individual is uncomfortable and wishes not to be uncomfortable. Therefore, you wish to be helpful and offer to the other individual some expression that shall raise them up out of the depths of despair and sadness.
Now; the mass belief system which is influencing is that sadness is not good. Some element of hurtfulness has occurred which is creating this emotion of sadness.
Therefore, as you engage another individual that is expressing this particular emotion, and you allow yourself the recognition that this is not a negative emotion – and that you shall not be dragged to the depths with this individual, even if you are engaging your empathic sense and experiencing the sadness with them – as you eliminate the judgment of the bad and you merely allow the expression, you neutralize much of this particular emotion’s affectingness.
In this, once again, you are quite conditioned – and you have conditioned yourselves quite efficiently – to be ‘doing and fixing,’ for you wish to change the expression, but the expression needs not be changed. The expression is acceptable as it is.
And I may express to you that you each may experiment with this particular emotion ... and you may incorporate this experimentation in relation to all of the other emotions also, but you may allow yourself more of an ease initially with this particular emotion than you may necessarily with other emotions.
As you encounter another individual that may be expressing sadness, and you allow yourself to be accepting of their expression merely as their expression, recognizing that you need not express, you need not do, you need not fix, you may merely BE, and if you are so choosing, you may engage your empathic sense and you may be sad also with the individual – or not, it matters not – and in this, as you do not attempt to alter the emotion, as you do not attempt to change it, but you merely allow yourself to experience it and be accepting of that as an experience within the now, you may surprise yourself in the alteration of your perception.
For in allowing yourself to merely experience, without judgment and without attempting to change the emotion or the experience, you allow yourself to create the perception of....”
(Vic’s note: Here, the tape ends at 4:13 p.m. Sheesh! All that typing, and I don’t even get to experience the end of the session! But I guess it’s just as well, as Elias was starting to create some pretty interesting sentences, shall we say. And I just have to toss in one last comment regarding, ‘I shall not present a dissertation.’ This entire session was a dissertation! Ha!) [session 683, August 20, 2000]
FEMALE: “... What’s the purpose of sexuality in our world?
ELIAS: It is an exploration of expression and manifestation. It is an exploration of manipulation of energy in different manner than is expressed within other physical realities and dimensions within consciousness. It is also an expression of physicality.
You have created an identification of genders within this physical reality. This is an expression of sexuality. It is not the entirety; it is one expression of sexuality.
You may notice throughout your reality, you identify all of your reality in terms of sexuality. You view all of the elements of your reality in terms of gender, and in association with those genders, you attribute qualities. You attribute these qualities to what you assess to be living and non-living aspects of your reality.
This is an exploration in manipulating energy in a physical manner, incorporating sensation, incorporating thought, emotion, and all of the physical functionings of the aspects of your reality – yourselves, your creatures, your elements, your seas, your mountains, your weather – it matters not. ALL of these elements – your planets, your movements – ALL are associated within your perceptions with some aspect and expression of sexuality, be it in gender or in some other type of sexuality.
This offers you a unique manner in which you may be moving your perception and moving yourselves within creativity. It offers you also an expression of diversity. You express one concept that offers you myriads of diverse expressions, and endless new possibilities for the incorporation of those expressions. This is the purpose for the creation of sexuality within this physical dimension.
Now; I may also express to you that you have created extreme beliefs in association with sexuality in this physical dimension, many of which may be quite limiting and narrowing to you, for you create, quite strongly, judgments as to the aspects of sexuality that are acceptable and those that are not.
And I may express to you presently, you all continue to be participating within this wave of consciousness addressing to this particular belief system of sexuality. This has not discontinued, much to your dismay! (Laughter)
You continue to engage this particular belief system within this present time framework to allow yourselves an awareness of all of the aspects of this belief system, and to offer yourselves an opportunity to be accepting of that and therefore to be offering yourselves new freedoms, not merely in the expression of physical sexual acts, but in the expression of ALL that is associated with sexuality.
And I may express to you, the reason that this particular wave in consciousness has been in continuation for extended time framework, within your linear time, is that there are very many aspects of this belief that you do not recognize. There are many, many expressions that are associated with this particular belief system that you do not see. Therefore, you continue to incorporate your time framework and you continue to present this wave to yourselves, that you may allow yourselves to become objectively aware of all of the aspects of this particular belief system.
And I may express to you all once again, much to your dismay, that this belief system of duplicity shall also be continuing for quite some time!” (Laughter) [session 704, October 07, 2000]
BOBBI: “… I read this just recently, that emotion is a subjective communication.
BOBBI: Okay, this is very interesting, ‘cause I have had sort of odd emotional reactions to things.
ELIAS: And they are not reactions. (Grinning)
BOBBI: Ah. (Vic sighs and starts laughing)
ELIAS: Emotions are never reactions. They are not reactions. They are communications, and they are not presented after an event. They present themselves simultaneous to your objective creation.
As you offer yourself an objective experience, that is one avenue of communication that you are offering to yourself, and the emotion is another avenue of communication. (Pause)
ELIAS: They are both paralleling each other, and the emotion is a communication. It is an expression offered to you as a message concerning what you are creating in the moment.
The feeling, as I have stated previously, of the emotion is the signal. In the signal is the message. But if you are not receiving the signal, if you are not responding to the signal and receiving the message, the signal continues.
BOBBI: Into a strong emotion?
ELIAS: Correct. Or, it may continue in the same intensity or lack of intensity. It may not escalate, in a manner of speaking. It may continue in the same type of expression. At times, it MAY escalate. It is dependent upon the importance of the message.
BOBBI: (Laughing) Oh dear. (Elias chuckles) Because I have been experiencing odd bursts of emotion, and I was attributing it to my age, thinking I’m going menopausal here! (Laughing)
ELIAS: Ah! (Grinning)
BOBBI: I’ve been crying at odd moments from odd things, not even personal experiences. I cry at strange songs, I cry at parades, I cry at dumb stuff! It’s really annoying! (Laughing, and Vic laughs, and Elias chuckles) So apparently there is a message there that I’m not receiving.
ELIAS: Each emotion that you create is a communication in the moment. It is expressing a message to you concerning what you are creating in that moment. (Pause)
And in recognizing that, coupled with the recognition that your thoughts are not designed to override that communication and that your thoughts are not a communication ... for they are not, in themselves. They are a mechanism, a tool to be translating and defining the message of the emotion and of other avenues of communication.
BOBBI: I would love to know how to translate or to interpret, at those moments, what the message is, ‘cause I’m missing it!
ELIAS: And this is the movement that you are creating in the presentment, first of all, in an acceleration of these types of communications, allowing yourself to be noticing. And as you are noticing, you allow yourself the redefinition of the action itself, as not a reaction but as a communication, incorporating your thought process in its natural design and function to be paying attention to that communication and allowing the translation and the definition, paying attention to self in the moment.
As you incorporate all of these actions together, you shall offer yourself different information, for you block the reception of the message merely by defining that the emotion is a reaction. Therefore, incorporating the thought to be defining the emotion, you create a different direction. You offer yourself merely the identification of the signal. (Pause)
As you incorporate an emotion of sadness, so to speak, within a moment, and your definition of the emotion is a reaction, your thought process is merely being required to define the signal. Therefore, it defines the signal. You identify in one term, sadness, and you do not incorporate a translation any further, for there is no message, for it is not a communication. It is a reaction. But it is NOT a reaction. It IS a communication.
Therefore, as you acknowledge the signal, as you identify the signal and define that, you also move into a recognition that that is merely the signal, and the emotion is expressing a message, a communication concerning what you are actually creating in that moment.
I may express to you, as I have expressed previously recently, your objective awareness and your objective imagery is in actuality much more abstract than your subjective.
Your subjective communication, in actuality, in relation to your thought process objectively, as it is coupled with your objective thought process, is in actuality clearer and more precise in its expression of what you are actually creating than the imagery that you present to yourself objectively.
BOBBI: So emotion would be one of those ways to get in touch with that subjective message?
ELIAS: Correct, and define what you are actually creating within your objective experience.
Recognize within yourselves the oftenness of your creations objectively in which you express the thought to yourselves, ‘Why have I created this?’ (Pause, and Bobbi and Vic murmur in agreement)
In allowing yourselves to pay attention to your communications that you offer to yourself, you define what you are actually creating in each moment.
The creation itself, although familiar and physical and objective, is in actuality less clear and more abstract than the communication that you offer to yourself. But you associate in the reverse. Your attention moves in the association of physical expressions, and as you are presenting yourself with physical expressions and paying attention to those physical creations, you incorporate an association that this is clear.
I have expressed many times, it matters not what you are creating outwardly, your physical imagery. Physical imagery is continuously altering. It is continuously changing. You create physical imagery, and alter this moment by moment. At times, you create repetition in your choice to be creating physical imagery.
This is the abstract aspect of your reality – a physical manipulation of energy. This is the reason that you manifest within this physical dimension, to explore and experiment, experiencing the manipulation of physical energy and manifestations, and how you may be projecting your expression of consciousness into a physical arena. This is the abstract.
The clearer aspect of your reality – and the one that is, once again, not hidden – is the subjective participation of your awareness. But you associate that the subjective IS hidden – it is elusive, it is subconscious, it is not in communication with your objective. Therefore, the subjective may move you into expressions and directions that you are not aware of objectively. This is incorrect.
BOBBI: It does seem like that, though.
VIC: It does!
ELIAS: For this is the alteration of your definitions. You have created definitions concerning your reality which have moved in consistency throughout your history, so to speak, and in this shift in consciousness, you are changing. You are altering and redefining your reality, and you begin that redefinition of your reality by redefining the terms of it.
I have expressed from the onset of this forum and this energy exchange that you are creating a new reality in this physical dimension, and one of the actions in that new reality is dropping the veil of separation, incorporating the lack of separation. Therefore, in incorporating the lack of separation, you also are dropping this association, this veil between the objective and the subjective awarenesses.
BOBBI: So there is a veil there....
ELIAS: There has been.
BOBBI: I think I still have one! (Bob and Vic crack up)
ELIAS: But you are moving within this shift in consciousness, and within this present time framework, that veil is extremely thin, and you have moved yourself into an expression of becoming aware. You have moved into a position within self to be allowing yourself, now, the movement of redefining communications.
A basic element of this particular physical dimension, a basic movement and incorporation of action in this physical dimension, is communication; not merely with each other, but more with yourself.
VIC: And most of us sit around feeling pretty clueless about what that communication is!
ELIAS: (Chuckling) And you have designed a physical manifestation that incorporates MANY avenues of communication!
Emotion is one, and as I have stated previously, all of your senses are other avenues of communication. This is their function. The function of emotion is a communication. The function of all of your senses, inner and outer senses, is communication. The function of impulses and impressions is communication. You incorporate communication in your physical body expressions. (Pause) It is an intricate expression of your BEING in this physical dimension.
VIC: Well, could I ask a specific question? So for example, when Bobbi finds herself having an expression of emotion, say, in crying at a parade – I think that was one of your examples....
BOBBI: I’ll give you a specific one that I can’t make any sense of. When I hear the Gilbert and Sullivan song, ‘Three Little Maids From School,’ that’s it! I don’t know why it makes me cry. It’s a happy song – I like it! I have no connection as to why in the world that would affect me that way. That seems the most bizarre. The other, like parades, it’s like this big mass expression of emotion, despite what the emotion is, of the mass of people. It sort of hits me that way, and I cry. But that specific one is so bizarre.
VIC: So, what is the communication?
ELIAS: And what is your identification, first of all, of the emotion?
BOBBI: That’s been hard for me to identify too. The symptom of it is that I wind up crying. I get teary-eyed. It’s almost nostalgia, maybe? I don’t think it’s quite sentimentality, but a longing for something, and that’s about as close as I’ve been able to come.
ELIAS: This is the first step, so to speak, identifying the signal; not the symptom, but the signal.
Once you have identified the signal, you may allow yourself to be exploring within self your association with that signal, and in your association with that signal, you allow yourself to move in the exploration of self, and what you are expressing to you in your recognition of you.
It is not necessarily an action that you may be incorporating in the moment. It may be an association that you are creating, and you offer to yourself, in harmony with each other, two signals – objective and subjective.
It is not that you create an action of incorporating this song, and subsequent to your action of the song, you react with the emotion. You are creating the objective expression and the subjective expression simultaneously. They are moving in harmony.
You incorporate the objective action of the song. You incorporate the subjective action of the emotion. As you identify the signal of the emotion, you move into the association of that signal, and allow yourself to define and translate within self the association concerning the signal.
Let me express to you, in actuality, this action does move in an almost automatic fashion once you have incorporated redefining. But as you continue to hold the association that the emotion is a reaction or a response, you also continue to not move your thought process in the direction of translation.
Now; I may express to you, this is an unfamiliar action. It is an unfamiliar association. Therefore, do not delude yourselves with your thought processes, expressing to yourself, ‘Ah, I hold the definition now, therefore I shall automatically incorporate this action,’ for your association is quite strong that the emotion IS a reaction. (Pause)
And as you are aware, many times you may be incorporating a concept in what you express to be an intellectual manner, and hold an intellectual understanding and a thought process that you are accepting of this concept for the reason that you are understanding intellectually of this concept.
But your beliefs are quite strong and your definitions are quite familiar, and you hold strongly to the expression of the familiar. And this be the reason, in your terms, that you continue to present these experiences, that you shall continue to present yourself with opportunities to practice redefining and to practice paying attention to self and what you are creating. This is the point of this shift in consciousness, and you ALL are participating! (Pause, and Bobbi starts giggling)
BOBBI: Will I ever get it? (Laughing)
ELIAS: You ARE already! Ha ha ha ha ha! Be reminding of yourself, it is not a goal! You do not incorporate your finish line!
BOBBI: That’s another thing for me to get rid of then, I suppose.
ELIAS: It is what you are creating NOW. You are not attaining to.
VIC: So once you identify what you are creating, the automatic go-there is the why, which you mentioned just a few minutes ago. So if you’re gonna try to attempt to take the why out of it ... which we’ve all been talking about a lot these last few days, taking the why out of it and going to the what. What are you creating? Where is it coming from inside of you?
What’s the communication, I suppose is the question, regardless if it’s an emotion or objective imagery ... and I don’t really get this objective imagery being the abstract part. I don’t really get that, you know? (Laughing)
ELIAS: For you are continuing to associate in the reverse.
VIC: Yeah, well, quite often for me, there’s objective imagery that I don’t feel an emotion attached to, or ... I don’t feel an emotion attached to, end of sentence. So I can look at that kind of imagery, and I’ve been trying to like go to the ‘what are you creating,’ and trying to stay away from the why. But even if you identify what you are creating, then where do you go? (Pause) Do you understand what I’m saying?
ELIAS: This is not merely the identification of a belief. As you are aware, all that you incorporate within your physical dimension, for the most part, is associated with your beliefs. We are not discussing identifying beliefs that are influencing, for generally speaking, in this now, you do not incorporate much challenge or difficulty in the identification of your own beliefs.
VIC: Right. So now I’m gonna get more specific about me. I’ve had this imagery recently of three different physical objects that I work with, that I use, going off and on intermittently. I am aware that it’s not a matter of simply or singularly my belief that things are broken and need to be fixed. I am aware that this is not indicative of that like some previous imagery I’ve created, that this is not so much about the belief, but it’s about something else, and I can’t....
ELIAS: It is a communication.
VIC: Well, of what??
ELIAS: And this is what you are presenting to yourself to explore!
Each of you are choosing different expressions objectively that shall present you with the opportunity to be exploring this concept of communication, and exploring the lack of separation between the objective and the subjective expressions.
(To Bobbi) You incorporate an extreme in the expression of emotion. Therefore, in that, your attention, in recognition of that communication, seeks out the association of the objective imagery that is associated with the communication, for they are both moving in harmony and creating the same expression simultaneously. Therefore, you initially are paying attention to the emotion, that aspect of communication, and seeking out the coupling of the objective imagery that is in harmony with the communication.
(To Vic) You are creating the reverse. You present yourself [with] your attention directed to the objective expression or creation, and seek out the subjective communication or emotion that is associated and being incorporated simultaneously to the objective expression.
(To both) In each of these actions, beyond the movement of coupling the two directions of communication, you turn your attention inward to you, allowing yourself both aspects of communication, and in that, you seek out the association which is related to what you are creating.
(To Vic) You incorporate difficulty, for you are not, at times, paying attention to the signal; not beyond the signal to the message, but not entirely recognizing the signal of the emotion.
(To Bobbi) You are not incorporating the recognition of the other avenue of communication. You are paying attention to the signal of the emotion, and not paying attention to the objective association which is being created simultaneous.
(To both) And neither of you are allowing yourselves to move beyond the signal to the reception of the message by paying attention to your inner associations. (Pause)
(Humorously) And this, my friends, is your method, of which you inquire of so very often – offer to me a method, Elias! – and this is your method in how you may be recognizing what you are creating.
And the point of allowing yourself to be recognizing what you are creating in each moment is that you allow yourself a much more expansive new expression of freedom, for you offer to yourself many, many more choices as you recognize what you are creating in each moment.
And in this, you discontinue incorporating being the victim of yourself, and I may express to you quite definitely, you ALL incorporate being the victim of yourself much more than you objectively recognize! (Pause, and we both start laughing)
Ha ha ha ha ha! And the challenge is presented! Ha ha ha ha ha!
VIC: That’s just crazy, you know? It’s CRAZY!
ELIAS: Ha ha ha ha! Ah yes, and I incorporate that responsiveness from many individuals! Ha ha ha ha ha ha ha! (Pause)
I may express to you, we shall be discussing this subject matter of communication ongoingly, for this is the presentment of an intense challenge with you all! (Pause)
ELIAS: And it DOES incorporate a coupling with duplicity, in your lack of recognition of your own abilities and the limitations that you place upon yourselves.” [session 764, January 24, 2001]
ELIAS: “Emotion is not a reaction. It is a communication that incorporates a signal that is the feeling. The feeling increases or becomes stronger as you do not receive the message. If you receive the message, the feeling dissipates; for if you receive the message, you offer yourself information that you may evaluate. But if you are not receiving the message, the signal continues and it increases to move your attention.
Now; what becomes a snare for most individuals is that they pay attention to the signal and move no further. They do not allow themselves to incorporate the message or to listen to the message. They merely concentrate upon the signal, the feeling, and as you continue to concentrate upon your feeling, you are not evaluating or addressing to what the message is. Every signal that you identify as an emotion, for you define emotion as the feeling, is merely the signal.
Now; every feeling that you identify as an emotion also incorporates a message.
Now; this is significant also, for many, many, many individuals are objectively challenged by even the identification of what the signal is and become confused, and therefore they are not precisely identifying what that signal is, what that feeling is within them, which is important to identify for in the mere identification of this signal you offer yourself a direction of how to evaluate what the message is.
Example: many, many, many individuals may feel some type of agitation, and they identify or label that as ‘upset.’
Now; what are you expressing, if you are expressing to yourself or to any other individual, what are you identifying in expressing that you are upset? This is a generality. It is not specific. Therefore, how may you evaluate what the message is if you are not identifying what the signal is, that which you identify as the feeling of the emotion? ‘Upset’ may be incorporated as a broad term for sadness, anxiety, disappointment, frustration, irritation at times. There are many, many specific signals that may be incorporated in the umbrella of ‘upset.’
That is the generality which is also a familiarity to all of you, to be identifying different expressions in generalities, beliefs in generalities. What are you experiencing? What is the belief that is influencing your choices and your behaviors and your actions? Personal responsibility? What is meant in ‘personal responsibility’?
In time frameworks past, in offering this information and these concepts to you all previously in time frameworks in which the specifics of them were unfamiliar and what you incorporated in objective understanding and knowledge was merely that you do incorporate beliefs and that beliefs exist, I offered also generalities to facilitate your movement into a greater objective understanding of the directions and the specifics of them in relation to yourselves.
Those generalities now are becoming obsolete, for you do incorporate a wider awareness now. But what is familiar to you? What is familiar to you is to allow some other expression – another entity, another individual – to direct you, for you are unfamiliar with directing yourselves. Therefore, you look to any expression that you deem to be an authority – of which all of you deem myself to be an authority, and I am not. You all incorporate the same information as do I.
You are consciousness, you are essences, and you all incorporate the ability to tap into yourselves and to respond to your questions and to offer yourselves your answers, but this is an unfamiliar action. Therefore, as being unfamiliar and not incorporating the experience, which is the key, you flounder and you question and you become confused, for you express to yourselves, ‘How shall I know? How shall I acquire this information? How do I do that?’
ANNE M.: I think that’s it.
ELIAS: Precisely. For, to generate a reality from a concept within your physical reality, you must incorporate the experience. If you do not incorporate the experience, it remains a concept.
And what do you experience with the concept? Frustration, for you KNOW objectively that you incorporate somewhat of an understanding intellectually, for you are not stupid or idiots, and in this, intellectually you recognize the concept and you express to yourselves, ‘I understand this concept, but I incorporate no understanding of how to actualize this.’
You do not even incorporate an objective understanding of how to express that you do not understand, and you flounder with that expression in your interaction with each other. You express to another individual, ‘I understand intellectually this concept, but I do not understand...’ and what is following this? ‘I do not understand in here,’ (Elias places both hands on his chest) for you do not even incorporate the language to express to each other what you are meaning. What you are meaning is, ‘I understand intellectually, but I do not understand practically. I do not understand experientially. I do not understand the doing.’
Now; in association with your question, and moving into the familiarity and noticing that there is also an emotional communication that is accompanying that familiarity, the manner in which you free yourself is to pay attention to the emotional communication. Regardless of whether you continue to express the automatic response which triggers the emotional communication, the emotional communication is what is important to be paying attention to.
Now; as you engage any action and you trigger an emotional communication, what is actually occurring is, quite simply, your subjective awareness – at the same time as your objective awareness is generating an action – your subjective awareness is identifying what is influencing that action. One does not follow the other. Your objective and subjective are NEVER but in harmony with each other.
Therefore, in the same moment that your objective awareness is generating a choice, an action, an expression, your subjective awareness, in harmony with it, is identifying: ‘This is the influence; this is the belief that is in play in this moment. This is how it is influencing you, pay attention. I shall offer a signal that your objective awareness shall recognize, and you shall pay attention.’
And you do, to the signal – partially. For you identify that you are feeling, and at times you may clearly identify what you are feeling. But many times you are not clear even to what you are feeling, therefore you generalize and the message is lost for you do not even seek it. Your attention is fixed upon the feeling, for that is familiar.
Now; it appears to you objectively that you generate an action and the emotion follows. This is the reason that for most of your focus to this point you have identified and defined emotion as a reaction, but it is not. In actuality they occur simultaneously, but your attention moves. Therefore, initially your attention is directed to your action – objective. For within waking state your attention automatically moves initially to objective expressions, imagery, action, and all of your senses, inner and outer, which are all expressed objectively.
In this, as you begin to notice your emotional communication, your attention has begun to move, and therefore you assess that your emotion is a response and is following your action. It is not so. It is merely a matter of the movement of attention and what attention gravitates to first, and its first gravitation is to familiar.
Now; in redefining emotion, you allow yourself an expansiveness, for in that redefinition you empower yourself. You are not victim to what you feel, and what you feel is not being generated by a situation, a circumstance or another individual or your environment.
It may be triggered; your response is triggered through your interaction with any of these expressions, any of these elements, your environment, a situation, a circumstance, another individual. All of those outside expressions may be influencing of triggering responses within you in association with your individual expressed beliefs, but they are not creating that.
You are responding, and in your response objectively your subjective awareness, in conjunction with your objective which is responding, also responds in an identification: ‘This is what you are doing; this is what is influencing. This is the belief,’ and therefore now you incorporate your ‘why.’
But as I have expressed previously, in this process that we are discussing of identifying and paying attention and evaluating to allow yourselves to express your freedom and experience your freedom, I suggest to you all that temporarily, until the time framework in which you become much more familiar with this process, do not incorporate the question ‘why?’ For this question is very familiar, and in its familiarity you do not offer yourself an answer. You merely repeat the question, ‘why, why, why?’ And your answer is, ‘I do not know; I do not know.’ ‘Why’ is too much of a familiar question.
Therefore, in your process as you begin to recognize, as you begin to listen to these emotional communications, rather than expressing to yourself, ‘Why am I feeling this,’ once you have identified, ‘I am feeling disappointment,’ express to yourself the inquiry, ‘What is this disappointment? Where within myself am I disappointed? What is motivating that disappointment? What is creating that disappointment?’ Remove the outside expression, for it has merely served as a trigger.
ANNE M.: Would doing that actually lead back to a belief that you have about yourself?
ELIAS: Yes. Yes, which is the point.
ANNE M.: And then you become aware, at that point, of your belief, and when that happens the emotion will...
ANNE M.: And then you can move on to something else.
ELIAS: For you may evaluate what motivates that influence, what is your association with that belief.
Now; do no ensnare yourselves in the black and white of that, for one belief does not incorporate one influence. One belief incorporates many, many, many influences. It is dependent upon the situation, and the same belief may be influencing in many different manners.
KATRIN: Does it mean, then, you have physical sensations of those which you describe as feelings or emotions when the harmony between the objective and subjective is somehow not in harmony? As long as you have it, the same power of emotions, you are still not down to the belief which really creates the disharmony?
Or is that what you just explained, that you have so many influences it takes sometimes more time, more than one belief, to get down to the point where you have a choice to go to another belief or to change it, or to exchange a belief. I mean, some physical sensations last quite a while, and you believe sometimes, ‘Now I’m down to it, and I’ve got it now,’ and then it continues. So that’s my question.
ELIAS: Not necessarily. This is dependent upon your movement and how you direct your attention.
For another familiarity which many of you fascinate yourselves with is complication. (Laughter) You shall analyze and analyze and analyze, for this is complicating and this is fascinating! ‘How much more may I complicate this situation and fascinate myself with how far I may move with this complication?’ And if it is not complicated enough in all of your analyzation, you shall inquire of another individual to offer a different perspective to analyze farther and complicate more! ‘I have not complicated this situation enough; how may I complicate it even more? Shall you offer me a suggestion?’ And the other individual is more than willing to participate in your complication and, ‘Ah, yes! I have analyzed in this manner,’ and you express, ‘Ah! I did not perceive in that direction! I shall evaluate in that direction also, and I shall further my complication.’ No – it is unnecessary.
In actuality, I shall offer you a slight secret. Many times I offer information to all of you in much more of a complicated fashion than is necessary. For if I answer you in the genuine answer, you shall be blankly staring at myself and you shall, subsequent to our interaction, be milling ‘round discussing with each other, ‘What did he say? What was that meaning? I do not understand. There must be more, and he has eliminated some of the information.’ No, but you are unfamiliar with the simplicity of actually creating.
Just as you automatically create your universe, and give it no thought. You merely do it. But tremendous thought is incorporated in generating creating coins and paper: ‘How, how, how? Not enough, not enough!’ Billions of stars, but not enough paper and coins!
Now; in this, as you recognize a signal ... choose a signal, any of you.
ELIAS: Sadness, very well – an example of an emotional communication that you view to be not a communication but a reaction to an action. An action occurs, and you react and you express sadness, and the emotion is merely the feeling. You feel sad. And in that sadness, if it is strong enough, you generate a tremendous tension within your physical body form, and what occurs? You weep, and you view weeping to be natural and an absolute that occurs with sadness.
In actuality, weeping is a natural action that is merely a release of tension within your physical body. This is the reason that individuals also weep in joyfulness and laughter, for they are incorporating extreme tension within their physical body consciousness and that energy is so tightly expressed that you automatically release within your physical energy, and this generates the action of weeping.
But sadness is a feeling that occurs in association with certain actions.
Now; what actions do you respond to in this emotion? In this time framework we are identifying emotion as you define emotion, a reaction. What causes – for your belief in cause and effect is also very strong – therefore, what causes sadness?
ANNE M.: When your pet goes missing, a beloved pet.
MALE: Or you fear to have no money.
ELIAS: Or? (Pause) When do you experience that you are sad?
FEMALE: When someone is dead, dies.
ELIAS: What also generates your feeling...
BALBINA: No choice. (Pause)
ELIAS: What do you view as a common factor in sadness?
HELMUT: Finding love or acceptance or something.
ELIAS: A common factor of the feeling of sadness, the common factor that causes you to feel sad in any situation?
HELMUT: The main cause is love, in most cases.
ELIAS: That is another emotion.
GERHARD: Being a victim?
ELIAS: I am understanding what you are expressing, but not necessarily love. You may also experience sadness and not be expressing love.
ANNE M.: ... When you don’t have what you think you should have, or...
JENS: When you think you have lost...
ELIAS: Loss! Loss is the common factor in the expression of sadness: loss of choice, loss of possession, loss of interactions, loss of perceived possessions, loss of action. Loss is the common factor in association with sadness, and this is the reason that you experience sadness in degrees, for you experience degrees of loss. Some loss is more intense than other loss, dependent upon your expression of value in association with that loss.
Now; if you are experiencing some action that triggers an association of loss with you, and you generate the feeling, the signal, of sadness, if you move another step rather than being fixed upon the feeling...
Now; as an aside, I shall express to you, this is not to say to ignore the feeling. I am not expressing to you to dismiss the feeling or to not express the feeling, for that defeats the purpose also. But in acknowledgment of the feeling, which is the signal, and identifying ‘I am feeling sad,’ now you move into your evaluation. What is generating this sadness?
Now we move to what I expressed to you – which I am aware of your energy was questioning in conjunction with many others – remove the outside source, for your automatic response to yourself is, ‘I am sad for this has occurred.’ No, it is not cause and effect. You are not sad for this outside action has occurred. You are offering yourself a signal.
Now; what is generating that signal? You may identify generally, as we are right now: ‘The signal is being generated for I am experiencing loss.’ Very well, this is not offering you much information, is it? It is merely identifying what you are experiencing. What is influencing that? What belief is influencing that?
Loss is not always influenced by the same belief. There are many different types of loss, and in those different types of loss there are different beliefs that influence that expression. Therefore, once you have identified that you are expressing loss within yourself, what is influencing that? What is motivating that expression?
Now you begin to evaluate: ‘What is the belief that is influencing that expression?’ Now you are becoming more specific, and in that specificness you begin to allow yourself to question not merely the influence, but is this influence true? For perhaps in some situations you may evaluate yes, it is true; but perhaps in your evaluation you may express to yourselves it is not true. In that moment, the signal entirely dissipates for you have received the message.” [session 1398, July 19, 2003]
NICOLE: “... if we are here, we are here to experience our emotions, and we send our emotions out and then those emotions come back. Do those emotions, when we have experiences, do they pop back into us and then that is an aspect of us coming into ourselves to experience and to hop into who we are at that time? I mean, that’s all of our aspects of us hopping into us in our primary self?
ELIAS: No. Emotion is a communication. It is not a reaction; it is not a projection of energy that is expressed outwardly and that is affecting of outside manifestations. The signal of emotion may be or may not be affecting of situations or of interactions with outside expressions of yourself, but that is dependent upon what you create yourself and how you are projecting energy outwardly and how you are receiving it also and configuring it.
Emotion is not a reaction; it is a communication. It is a function of the subjective awareness communicating to the objective awareness, and in that communication it is identifying what you are doing in the moment and what is influencing what you are doing in the moment. It is identifying to you what beliefs are expressing an influence upon what you are actually engaging, and it is identifying what you are projecting and what you are doing. This is the reason that it is significant to pay attention to what the communication is, not merely to pay attention to the signal.
Once identifying the signal, which generally you identify with one word which is your label of a particular emotion: sadness, anger, frustration, happiness, joyfulness ... there are many, many, many different emotional signals that you generate. Each signal also incorporates a message, a communication, that it is prompting you to listen to. (Pause)
Emotion is not your only avenue of communication. As you have witnessed in this conversation this day, physical manifestations are also subjective communications to the objective awareness, which incorporate a message. Imagination is a subjective communication to the objective awareness in a creative and inspirational message. All of your senses are communications. Your inner senses and your outer senses are all communications. They offer you input. Your intuition, your impressions, your impulses – these are all avenues of communication that the subjective offers to the objective, that the subjective may not be hidden from you and always available to you to be understanding and to be recognizing, therefore presenting that there is no aspect of yourself that is actually hidden from you. It is merely a matter of paying attention and noticing and practicing being aware, and practicing allowing your attention a flexibility and to move, not merely to be focused upon thought.
I may express to you, as I have expressed to these other individuals and many, many other individuals, do not confuse yourself. Thought does not create reality. It is not its function. Its function is to translate, to interpret what your communications are. Therefore, it is only as efficient as information that you offer to it. If you are not allowing your attention a flexibility to be listening to all of your communications and to be moving in awareness of what you are actually doing, which is what you are choosing, you do not offer accurate information to the thought mechanism, and therefore it may not offer you accurate translations of what you are communicating or what you are doing. This is the reason that many individuals become quite confused, as thought does not match what they are doing or what their communications are.
But if you are generating a balance, recognizing that if you move your attention to all three factors or elements of yourself – thought, communication, and choice/doing, for doing and choice are synonymous – if you are allowing yourself a flexibility in attention to these three aspects of yourself, you shall notice when one is not in harmony with the other two, and in that you offer yourself information. That is the manner in which you begin to balance and you begin to recognize the ‘why’ of your creations.
I encourage individuals to concentrate upon the ‘what’ of their creations, for you concentrate excessively upon the why and you offer yourself no answer, for the question is too familiar. But in paying attention and creating the balance of these three factors of yourself, you automatically offer yourself the why, without asking the question.” [session 1468, November 08, 2003]
(1) Paul’s note: Gail endured a bout with what conventional medical science terms MPD or Multiple Personality Disorder.
(2) Paul’s note: Elias refers to an exercise he presented that deals with more efficient ways to use our energy fields – allowing energy to penetrate or be buffered according to our choices (after all, we do create our own realities!)
(3) Paul’s note: the no conflict exercise is Elias’ version of the path of least resistance. In other words, if what you are doing is creating conflict, then stop doing it. Seems simple enough.
Exercises: find out more about the no conflict game.
Digests – see also: | accepting self | aspects of essence; an overview | avenues of communication | becoming | being in the now | belief systems; an overview | bleed-through | camouflage | choices/agreements | creature consciousness | counterpart action; individual | dimension | dis-ease and healing | duplicity | effortlessness | energy centers (body) | essence families; an overview (Zuli) | essence; an overview | essence names | essence tones | expression of essence | fear | focal points | focus of essence; an overview | forum | fragmentation | fun & pleasure! | imagery | impulses | information | inner senses; an overview | intents | love | manifestation | manifestation; the cycle of | mergence | mirror action | noticing self | objective/subjective awareness | Paul (Patel) | perception | engaging periphery | probabilities | probable selves | the quick-fix | relationships | religion (spirituality) | remembrance of essence | separation | sexuality; gender, orientation, and preference | shift in consciousness | simultaneous time | soul mates | stop-points | time frameworks | trusting self | truth | value fulfillment | victims/perpetrators | waking state/dream state | waves in consciousness | widening awareness | you create your reality |
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