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Wednesday, December 11, 2002

<  Session 1208 (Private/Phone)  >

ďAddressing to the Needs of a Special ChildĒ

ďWhere Should I Live and What Should I Do?Ē

Participants: Mary (Michael) and Kim.

Elias arrives at 12:16 PM. (Arrival time is 21 seconds.)

ELIAS: Greetings!

KIM: Hello? (Both laugh)

ELIAS: Welcome!

KIM: So, I have quite a few questions for you...

ELIAS: Very well.

KIM: ...primarily about my son, Julian. Heís about to turn three, and there have been some concerns with his teachers at day care. Heís since gone through a diagnosis for problems, possibly autism. Heís extremely sensitive, very brilliant. I just want to know if you could give me some information about what exactly is the nature of his difficulties and how could I help him.

ELIAS: I would not necessarily express his choice as a difficulty, but I am understanding your perception of it. In this, I may express to you that this is a choice of the individual, a choice to be perceiving their world in a different manner from the officially accepted norm, so to speak.

But it is not necessarily what many individuals would view as bad, for you are correct in your assessment of the expression of intelligence of this small one. In this, he has chosen to be engaging his world through his perception in a different manner, which offers him an opportunity to explore different aspects of himself within himself without much interruption of what you view as the outside world. In this, also recognize that this small one expresses a tremendous sensitivity, which is a natural expression of his focus.

Now; how may you be most effectively interactive with this small one? I may express to you, in acceptance and in a reflection of sensitivity, in which you shall generate an understanding of his choice and not attempting to force an expression of energy in relation to his choices that may merely generate conflict and a discounting of himself. For, this small one does not yet express a discounting of himself. He is expressing an acceptance...

KIM: Do you mean self-esteem, valuing himself?


KIM: Thatís what Iíve primarily been worried about, being in this environment where heís been labeled as sort of a problem because he wonít relate to the other children around him. He seems to shut down in that environment, and I didnít want his self-esteem to suffer. I wanted to know if I should take him out of that environment or have him remain in that environment as he is. I just didnít know what to do about that.

ELIAS: First of all, express to myself in genuineness, what is your impression?

KIM: I feel that he is extremely sensitive. He was always very alert, very bright. I think he is hypersensitive to the point where too much stimulus in the outer world overwhelms him. My problem is I donít know if I should just let him gradually adapt to that, or take him out and home school him, or try to find a different learning environment more suitable for his nature.

I donít think he is a problem. I donít see it as autism. I feel like his good qualities are being labeled as bad qualities by the people around him, his day care workers.

ELIAS: I am understanding. In this, I may offer a suggestion to you, but recognize that IT IS YOUR CHOICE. I am not expressing to you what you should or should not do. I am merely expressing a suggestion, and it is your choice what you choose to incorporate in action. Therefore, be clear in this.

Tapping into the energy expression of this small one, my suggestion is that you are correct in your assessment of overwhelming outside stimulation, and in this, this small one interacts and is responsive more easily and more efficiently in different environments. Therefore, I would be suggesting discontinuing this particular environment and altering that, offering an environment which is less competitive and more attuned to the individual.

KIM: Would you know where this environment is?

ELIAS: As I have stated, this is your choice Ė to be incorporating instruction with this small one yourself or to be investigating other avenues which incorporate very small groups, VERY small groups, or you may also incorporate both. For if you are interactive with him and you are assessing that HIS choice is to be at times interactive with other small ones but not continuously, you may be evaluating that you may be incorporating some time of each of these actions. But what is significant is that you allow yourself to be accepting of his choice.

KIM: And not force him into anything because of what other authority people are telling me is the best?

ELIAS: Correct.

KIM: Because everyoneís telling me he needs socialization skills, he needs to adapt who he is.

ELIAS: And these are strongly expressed mass beliefs, and this is not necessarily accurate and is not an absolute. This small one has chosen a particular expression of perception. Whether other individuals express to you that they KNOW what is correct in relation to this individual, they do not incorporate a genuine understanding of what he has chosen and what he is creating.

KIM: So heís chosen a highly sensitive sort of inward focus?


KIM: Is this what he will remain as he grows up? Is this something thatís just going to be his personality?

ELIAS: This continues to be a choice, but I may express to you, in this present now, as a potential that he has generated in his pool of probabilities, there is a potential that he may choose to continue this type of expression throughout his focus. But be remembering that this remains a choice. Therefore, there is also the possibility that he may choose to be incorporating this type of expression temporarily.

KIM: He doesnít show any of those symptoms at home or with family. Itís at school that heís a different child and not the child that I know, what his teachers are describing to me. So I just wanted to understand that, if this is the wrong environment and deciding to take him out of it. And do you want to say that this is autism?

ELIAS: Not necessarily.

KIM: No? Okay.

ELIAS: Even that expression, my friend, is a choice, but what this small one is expressing in choices and behavior and perception would not necessarily be classified as that which you define as autism.

KIM: All right. Iíll move onto another question, unless thereís more?

ELIAS: Very well.

KIM: As far as the environment weíre living in now, I am not happy here. Iím not happy with the kind of work that Iím doing. Iím under a lot of stress. What Iím basically looking for is a home and a place to settle and a place to make roots. Iíve never had that in my life. I was wondering if you could offer suggestions as far as career choice, a place to settle Ė a specific geographic location Ė and any advice that you could offer about that. I feel like Iíve made the wrong choice in coming here and the kind of work that Iím doing.

ELIAS: What do you express within yourself as a preference?

KIM: For a vocation?


KIM: I am an artist. I would love to paint, but Iím supporting my child alone and I have to earn money. So in my heart, something creative, but it feels very impractical to make that choice because of the instability of an artistís life and unstable income and that sort of thing.

ELIAS: Ah! This is quite black and white in your thought process. There are tremendous avenues that you may be incorporating in expressing your creativity. You are not limited to what you associate as the classical role of an artist. You may be incorporating your creativity and your talent, so to speak, in many, many different avenues and also generating income.

Let me express to you, my friend, generally speaking, individuals generate a thought process in reverse to what the actual process of success is. In this, you limit yourselves tremendously. You focus your attention upon the generating action of money rather than focusing your attention upon a free expression of your creativity and an allowance of your own inspiration through your communications of imagination. In this, as you generate the reverse and you allow yourself the freedom of your creativity and the trust of yourself in what you are creating, you shall also create an avenue in which you shall create money in relation to your creativity.

It is quite a fascination to us that individuals within your physical reality concentrate such energy and such attention upon this action of creating money, and view this to be such a difficult task, so to speak, which is quite associated with your beliefs. But view yourselves as the wondrous beings that you are Ė you incorporate the ability to create an entire universe, each of you, with no thought and no effort; but you question your ability to generate a manifestation of paper, which in actuality is quite amazing. You incorporate such wondrous diverse abilities and you question your abilities to be creating some of the most mundane expressions. In this, you discount yourselves and you limit yourselves, as are you presently.

In this, it is not a matter of myself expressing to you where the best physical location may be for you to be incorporating dwelling or what is the best avenue to engage in relation to your creativity. What is significant is that you allow yourself to trust yourself, to listen to yourself and offer yourself permission to express your freedom and not limit yourself in doubt and worry.

Even in your initial question to myself concerning the small one, you do offer yourself impressions and information concerning this situation, but you are not listening to what you are expressing to yourself. You are listening to what other individuals are expressing to you. You are in disagreement with them, but you are not trusting your own communications, and you are expressing this in many different areas.

As to physical locations, what do you express within yourself as a physical location that you incorporate a preference or an affinity for?

KIM: Well, I donít know. I know generally I prefer an environment where there are other like-minded kind of creative people, maybe progressive-type people as far as the arts and spirituality and culture and that sort of thing. But as far as location, I donít know exactly where that is. Iím living in a very small town right now and I donít feel connected here. I have a sense that Iíve made a mistake in the choices that Iíve made.

ELIAS: It is not a mistake. It is an opportunity to become more familiar with yourself and your preferences and what you want. Many times individuals create experiences and choices in an expression of what they do not want to offer themselves more clarity in relation to what they do want. Therefore I express to you, you have not incorporated a mistake. You have engaged an experience to offer yourself more information concerning yourself and your choices and your preferences and what you actually want.

I may also express to you a suggestion: you may be offering yourself more clarity in interaction with Michael, if you are so choosing, for Michael may be offering a physical example to you in similarity to what you are viewing in challenges within your focus presently.

KIM: Michael being Julianís father?

ELIAS: No, the individual that facilitates this energy exchange, the individual that you have engaged to be interactive in conversation with myself Ė Mary.

KIM: Okay. Iím sorry, I wasnít aware that you called her Michael.

ELIAS: This is the essence name of this individual.

KIM: So it sounds like I set this up as a challenge to myself then, as far as coming here and finding out what I donít want to do, to be clear about it.

ELIAS: Correct. But it also is an offering to yourself that you are allowing yourself to recognize certain expressions that you generate as automatic responses in relation to not trusting yourself and not allowing yourself your own freedom.

KIM: Thereís always been a problem that Iíve had about sort of Ė how should I put it Ė relationships, relating to people, shyness, such traits that sort of run in my family. My mother has the same thing, a tendency to withdraw, which Iíve had to deal with all of my life. Iíd like some clarification about the source of that problem. Is it related to ... I donít know if you talk about other lives. I think you have a different term for reincarnation. If you could talk about the sources of that a little bit?

ELIAS: Once again your definition of this action as a problem is a matter of perception. In this, I am not expressing to you that it is not quite real, for it is, but that it is not an absolute and you do incorporate the ability to alter your perception as you offer yourself more information.

Now; in this, you are correct Ė at times some actions that may be incorporated in an individualís focus may be influenced by bleed-through energy of other focuses. This is not the situation in this scenario.

KIM: So this is something just beginning in this particular focus?

ELIAS: It is an expression that you incorporate within this particular focus and you also incorporate beliefs concerning it in a discounting manner. Let me express to you, this is associated with your orientation. In this focus, you incorporate the orientation of intermediate.

KIM: And what does that mean?

ELIAS: Within this physical dimension, as you agree to be participating in this physical reality, you also agree to participate within the design of this physical reality. Incorporated in the design of this reality is the expression of three different orientations. They are three different manners of perception. In choosing to participate in this physical dimension, you also choose in agreement to be manifesting at least times or in three focuses that you may experience each of these orientations. The orientation is, in a manner of speaking, a type of lens in which you view all of your reality, yourself, your world. It is the manner in which you interpret and interact with your reality.

As I have stated, there are three different orientations. I have offered considerable information concerning these orientations in the information that I have expressed with other individuals, which is available to you. Once again, you may also be inquiring of Michael as to a synopsis of these orientations.

But I shall express to you, one of the qualities of the intermediate orientation may at times be interpreted as shyness, but it is an inward focus. It is an expression of exploring experiences in one focus in which you generate much of your attention inwardly. This is not to say that you do not incorporate the ability to be interactive with other individuals, but it is not your preference to be interactive with large groups of individuals. It is your preference to be expressing an incorporation of time with yourself or with one other individual or smaller groups of individuals.

You interact much more easily with other individuals in smaller numbers, so to speak. This is a natural expression of yourself. It is not bad and should not be compared with other individuals that express differently.

KIM: You donít see them very ... you mainly see the other individuals who do express, that are active and are much better. They seem to be more prevalent.

ELIAS: Quite!

KIM: I think theyíre just more obvious. (Laughs)

ELIAS: No. I may express to you there are many, many more individuals that express the other two orientations, and both of those orientations are much more interactive.

KIM: But thereís a purpose for this orientation...


KIM: ...over a large design, for individuals choosing to be this or that orientation?

ELIAS: Yes, you are correct. In this, it is important that you allow yourself to become familiar with yourself genuinely and recognize that the manner in which you express yourself and the manner in which you perceive your reality is not wrong merely for the reason that it is different. It is different purposefully, for this offers you a different manner in which you may be exploring this reality. You incorporate other focuses of yourself in other time frameworks in which you express the other orientations.

KIM: I see, which would be other lives, the way other people would put it, reincarnational existences.

ELIAS: Correct.

KIM: So overall my self, the whole self, would be focused in all three different...


KIM: Okay, I understand. So itís balanced, then.


KIM: Because I used to try to force myself to be the opposite of what I am.

ELIAS: Which generates tremendous conflict, does it not?

KIM: Yes.

ELIAS: This is the point, my friend, of offering yourself information, that you may allow yourself a new acceptance of yourself and not continue to attempt to force your energy to be expressing in a manner in which other individuals express, for this is not your natural movement.

KIM: Thank you, I appreciate hearing that. Is this the same orientation, then, that my son has? Is it the same sort of thing?

ELIAS: No. This is a different choice. I may express to you that this small one incorporates the orientation of soft, which is also a less-expressed orientation, but it is expressed in more individuals in any give time framework than the orientation of intermediate.

The most expressed orientation within any time framework in your physical reality is that which I have labeled, so to speak, ďcommon,Ē for it is the most common. In any given time framework within your reality, most individuals within your world express the orientation of common.

KIM: How would you define, just briefly, soft? Is this highly sensitive or...?

ELIAS: The orientation of soft is an expression of perception in which the individual is very interactive.

Now; this is not to say that the individual may necessarily be very interactive in groups of individuals, although at times these individuals may be. But there is a natural expression of their energy in which they are most content and expressing an ease in their energy if they are continuously interactive with other individuals in some manner.

Now; these individuals also do express what you may term to be a tendency at times to be isolating of themselves and not necessarily expressing what you think of as a tremendous interaction with other individuals, but they continue to be interactive, nonetheless. This is not necessarily in action or in a communicating exchange with other individuals, but individuals that hold the orientation of soft express discomfort in aloneness.

Now; let me express to you, I have stated that they also do generate time frameworks in which they may be expressing an isolation of themselves, in a manner of speaking, and in that isolation, they continue to be interactive with some aspect of your reality that you distinguish or deem to be living, such as a creature or plants.

KIM: (Laughs) Iím getting him a dog. Do you think that would be helpful to him, to have a pet?


KIM: Is that what youíre talking about?

ELIAS: These individuals are continuously interactive, but it matters not whether they are interactive with another individual or another living element.

They also generate an objective awareness and obvious connection to their world, which is quite influencing of their experiences. For, individuals that are soft orientation incorporate an awareness of their tremendous interconnectedness with all of your physical dimension.

KIM: It sounds as though we are opposites, then, as far as orientations.

ELIAS: Not necessarily opposites, but you are correct that there is a significant difference, and I am understanding your assessment of opposites.

KIM: And thereís a reason for this, though? I mean, a purpose that we chose each other as far as mother and child relationship?

ELIAS: Yes. Let me express to you, individuals that incorporate the orientation of soft move easily between individuals of intermediate and common. They may be viewed as the middle, so to speak.

KIM: I see. Heís very advanced; heís very brilliant. Where did all this come from? He amazes me with the way he speaks and what he knows.

ELIAS: He is a child of this shift.

KIM: Shift in consciousness?

ELIAS: Correct.

KIM: I had a feeling he was. Have we been together in other lifetimes?


KIM: His biological father is not in the picture, and I want to know how this is going to affect him later, if there will be someone else sort of as a father figure or if he needs this in his life.

ELIAS: These are merely choices, my friend. It is not a question of need. If he chooses to be incorporating that type of a role of another individual within his focus, he shall manifest that. If he chooses not to be, he shall not.

KIM: As far as relationships for me, a partner, so to speak, I donít even know what to ask about that. Is there something for me there? I feel like Iíve been alone for quite some time and Iíve been sort of handling a lot on my own.

ELIAS: (Laughs) This would be a crystal ball question, my friend! Let me express to you...

KIM: Iím almost embarrassed to ask it because it is such a crystal ball question.

ELIAS: And I may express to you, these are your choices. I may also express to you that as you familiarize yourself with you more fully and you begin to express more of a trust and acceptance of yourself, you also shall begin to naturally draw other individuals to yourself in relation to what you want.

KIM: I have a strong desire to do some inward focusing and meditation and self exploration and sort of have a spiritual connection with myself, but I feel like Iím so constantly busy and outwardly focused now and so itís very hard. I mean, I know that I need that to solve most of the problems in my life. Itís just a matter of finding time.

ELIAS: In actuality, you incorporate time continuously, for it is not necessary to incorporate a method such as meditation to be familiarizing yourself with you. For within each moment of your day, you may be paying attention to yourself and becoming familiar with your beliefs and your responses merely by paying attention to what you do, and this requires no separated time framework. You may be incorporating the action of familiarizing yourself with you and generating that connection, as you have stated, with yourself simultaneously to any other action you incorporate. It is merely a movement of attention.

As you are interacting in play with your son, you may be paying attention to what is occurring outwardly but you may also be paying attention to what you are expressing inwardly. What is motivating what you are doing? What are you experiencing? What are your emotional communications to yourself in the time frameworks in which you are incorporating your job? It matters not what you are engaging outwardly; you may be also paying attention to what you are generating inwardly.

KIM: Iím very curious about other lifetimes and reincarnation. Is there any information that you can give me about that?

ELIAS: I may offer to you two that you may begin with in your investigation. You may be investigating through dream imagery, through visualization, or IF you are incorporating your time framework, through meditation. (Both laugh) But I may express to you, you may incorporate the action of visualization and also be engaging other actions simultaneously. This also may be a practice point in turning your attention to yourself and also continuing to be incorporating an attention outwardly at the same time.

In this, one focus in which you do incorporate a participation also with your son in the capacity of siblings, both express the gender of male, physical location Poland, time framework early 1900s. This focus incorporates great camaraderie and also an expression of tremendous individual freedom, which may be significant in allowing yourself to view. It may offer you an inspiration in relation to your focus now.

KIM: We both felt strongly about individual freedom, both of us as brothers?

ELIAS: You EXPRESS this individual freedom quite strongly, allowing yourselves to be quite free in your expressions and not incorporating much concern as to how you may be perceived by other individuals.

In the other focus, you incorporate the gender of female, much more serious than the boys. This individual occupies the physical location of Colombia, what you may term to be status of peasantry but comfortable. This individual perceives much of her world quite seriously and expresses an action of analyzing almost everything in her experiences, which also may be interestingly instructive to you in this focus, in how unnecessary it is to be generating that much analyzation. (Laughs)

KIM: I see the tendency there in myself for both of those focuses, the different traits there. I see them in myself now.

I know itís almost time to quit, and this is a major thing. But Iíve had so many Holocaust dreams repeatedly, very detailed, specific dreams. I was wondering if there is any connection there.

ELIAS: Yes, this is another focus.

KIM: Is there anything I need to know to deal with that or make peace with that?

ELIAS: Merely the recognition that it is another focus of yourself in that framework. You may be incorporating more of an allowance and allowing yourself to relax in relation to that experience. Many times as individuals allow themselves to move into those types of experiences and recognize that they are another focus of themselves, the discomfort associated with it dissipates. For, recognize that how you are responding to that now is associated with your beliefs NOW.

KIM: Yes. Itís fascinating to me because of the amount of detail thatís come to me in dreams. I feel, more than the others I mentioned, the closest to my conscious awareness. I just wanted, I guess, for you to confirm that that was something real Ė is real.

ELIAS: Yes. (Pause)

KIM: All right, I think we went through all of my questions.

ELIAS: Very well. I shall be offering you an encouraging and supporting energy. Trust yourself, my friend. You are quite worthy of that expression.

KIM: Thank you.

ELIAS: To you in tremendous affection, I express au revoir.

KIM: Goodbye. Thank you, Elias.

Elias departs at 1:22 PM.

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