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Friday, January 18, 2002

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“Listening to, Recognizing, and Interpreting Your Communications”

“The Emotion of Jealousy”

Participants: Mary (Michael) and Mike (Mikah).

Elias arrives at 1:53 PM. (Arrival time is 31 seconds.)

ELIAS: Good afternoon, Mikah.

MIKE: Good afternoon, Elias.

ELIAS: And how shall we proceed this day?

MIKE: I’m not really sure. This is the first time I have no questions written down.

ELIAS: Ah! Spontaneity!

MIKE: Yes, yes, I am learning! (Laughs)

ELIAS: I am quite acknowledging of your leap into challenge.

MIKE: Yes, thank you! Thank you very much.

ELIAS: Ha ha ha! Incorporating the possibility of playfulness!

MIKE: Yes, the possibility! (Laughing)

ELIAS: Ah, very well! Shall we proceed?

MIKE: Yes, yes. (Elias chuckles)

One question – the issue I’ve been dealing with lately is I don’t know what I want to do with myself. I don’t want to go back to school but I am, anyways. I try to think what I would rather be doing, and I don’t know what I’d rather be doing. Just about everything that I’ve been doing lately doesn’t have any kind of, shall we say, security in it. I’ve felt insecure in just about everything I’ve been doing lately, and I was wondering what, how to tackle this. What do I do? (Pause)

ELIAS: How do you incorporate listening to you?

MIKE: How do I incorporate that?

ELIAS: What action do you engage that you perceive you are listening to you?

MIKE: Impressions, on occasion; repeated imagery, sometimes. I don’t have a necessarily defined action I look to to say that I’m listening to myself.

ELIAS: How do you recognize an impression?

MIKE: After whatever the impression was, after that action has taken place, I recognize that it was an impression and not a thought. I’ve not really distinguished the difference necessarily between a thought or an impression.

ELIAS: But you recognize that some action occurs, and subsequent to that action you incorporate a thought and define to yourself your impression.

MIKE: Yes.

ELIAS: Do you recognize your voice?


ELIAS: And what attention do you direct to your emotion?

MIKE: I direct a lot of attention to my emotion. The phone is always ringing but I never know quite how to pick up the phone, or find the phone to pick it up.

ELIAS: Very well. In this, you are expressing that you are noticing that you are expressing emotion; you are noticing the signals.

MIKE: Yes.

ELIAS: But you are not paying attention. Your challenge is attempting to identify what the signals are signifying and what the message is. This is key, and [is] why you are incorporating confusion and frustration and not identifying your direction.

Now; identify an emotion, any emotion; it matters not. Choose an emotion that you have experienced in recent time framework.

MIKE: Jealousy.

ELIAS: Very well. You incorporate this signal that you identify as jealousy which generates an intensity of feeling, and in this, there is a message.

Now; being of common orientation, your automatic projection is outward, which is a natural flow of energy; therefore it is not wrong, but it may confusing. As I have stated previously, although individuals incorporating the orientations of intermediate and soft also are challenged in the movement of this shift – and the reason I have chosen the word “common” for this orientation is that it is expressed most commonly; most individuals within any time framework physically manifest within your dimension are of this orientation – therefore, the challenge expressed in this shift is experienced in some aspects more intensely by the mass populous of common orientation, in relation to orientation. This correlates with our discussion, for in this the challenge is to be allowing your natural flow of energy and your natural expression, in objective expression and outward expression and imagery and production, and also incorporate listening and turning your attention to you inwardly.

I may express to you, most individuals of the common orientation generally speaking are unfamiliar with this action. Although individuals of the other two orientations may be somewhat unfamiliar objectively with this action, each of those orientations already incorporates naturally some aspects of that action and some knowing of it.

In the common orientation, the paying attention to self and your voice and your communications to self from the subjective to the objective have been translated so intensely in objective imagery that they become absolute. This is the reason that I continue to express repeatedly that objective imagery is abstract. What you express to yourself with your voice and your communications subjectively are not hidden. They are objectively translated, and you are aware of the action of the objective translating in the expressions of impressions, emotions, senses, imagination. These may all be translated in objective form, so to speak, be that in manifestation or in the translation of thought.

Now; the communication is simple and precise and accurate. The translation into objective imagery, being that it is so very abstract, may manifest in countless manners concerning one communication. Within one communication your objective translation may manifest in objective imagery simultaneously in several expressions. You may incorporate several actions simultaneously in reflection of one communication.

We shall deviate from jealousy momentarily to offer an example of the translations.

You may experience a signal, your phone ringing, in one emotion of joy. In that signal there is a communication, a message. The message is being offered by your subjective awareness in harmony with your objective; therefore, in a manner of speaking, they are the same. The purpose of the subjective awareness is to express precisely, accurately and definingly what you are generating in the moment.

In this signal of joy you may be in that moment expressing a subjective communication of validation to yourself. In this moment, simply and precisely, you are allowing yourself an acknowledgment of self, a trust, an acceptance and an allowance of free expression in your choice. That translates objectively into the signal of joy, which is recognized.

Now; simultaneously your objective expression may be to be incorporating several actions in reflection of this communication. Within one moment you may be incorporating your sense of hearing, which may be experiencing pleasurable sound. You may be incorporating your visual sense in a pleasurable viewing. You may be incorporating an interaction with another individual in embrace, and therefore presenting yourself with the objective imagery of contact and physical sensation. You may be generating objective thinking in translating this communication of joy and expressing to yourself that you are experiencing happiness. You may be quite creative and even incorporate more actions and more objective imagery, all within a very brief time framework, which are all expressions, abstract, of one communication.

In like manner, each communication that you offer to yourself is precise, clear, simply expressed and identifying what you are generating within yourself in the moment. And in that preciseness, it also offers you a clear identification of your beliefs associated with what you are generating and their influence.

You incorporate many activities and much association with your electrical device of your new inventions of your computers.

MIKE: Yes.

ELIAS: Your subjective awareness may be likened to the preciseness and the simplicity of message or the directness of message which may be offered by your computer. It is quite precise, which in your natural expression within your focus – incorporating great attention upon thought and analyzation – shall incorporate an understanding of what I am speaking of.

The objective awareness generates expressions in association with signals, and these become confusing. For, the objective awareness is quite expressive in creativity and draws upon all that is available to you within your physical expression, your physical dimension, the entirety of your universe as you see it, as availability of imagery.

Now; your inquiry concerns how you may listen to and recognize and interpret your voice and your communications, and now we circle ‘round to your example of jealousy, recognizing my explanation.

You generate a signal of jealousy. You are paying attention to the signal for it is quite obvious, and your immediate response is the association that the signal has been triggered or generated, first of all, by an outside action. This is the first mis-association, for the signal has not been generated by an outside action. Emotion is not a reaction. But in the common orientation, this is a difficult definition to incorporate now, for it is a very strongly held association. This redefinition in itself is quite challenging. This is the reason that there is trauma generated in this shift.

Now; in merely expressing within your thoughts – for this is familiar to you – a recognition [that] emotion is not a reaction, therefore a question: “Very well, I am expressing and experiencing this signal. I am identifying this signal. I recognize its quality. I identify and define this signal as jealousy. It is not a reaction. Therefore, what am I generating within myself and what is my communication to myself that I have generated this signal to attain my attention?”

MIKE: So it is a communication.

ELIAS: Turn your attention from what you view to be the source. The source is not another individual. Therefore, in your attention, eliminate the other individual from the scenario. Turn your attention to you. What is being threatened within you? What threat are YOU generating within you? And what generates a threat but a denial of your expression?

In the moment that you are denying yourself your freedom of your expression of what you want, you generate a threat, and as you generate the threat, you express frustration, and the frustration translates into an objective signal of jealousy which reinforces the automatic response to project your attention outwardly and express to yourself, “I am experiencing this feeling, this signal of jealousy, for this individual here is generating this choice and I am not in agreement with this choice, and this generates an expression of anger within me.” Anger is a lack of choices. Anger is expressed in the moment that an individual views no choice and powerlessness.

You have denied your choices; you have immobilized yourself. Once again, the attention projects outward to the other individual, and as you do not turn your attention to you to discover the message, the jealousy, the anger, continues; for the circle continues of projecting your attention to the other individual and generating blame. There is no blame, not to the other individual, not to yourself. It is a question of choice and your denial of your choice. I may express to you, Mikah, no expression shall grieve essence more than the denial of choice, for it is so contrary to your natural being, and it generates tremendous conflict.

Now; as you look to the other individual and you identify what the choice of the other individual is that you assess you are responding to – which is merely a trigger, for in actuality you are not responding to the other individual, but to yourself – what expression does the other individual create that you view yourself to be reacting to in this emotion of jealousy? For this is key, for you are not reacting and you are already generating prior to the other individual’s expression this denial within yourself. You present yourself with the objective imagery simultaneously, but you view it, for your attention is focused outwardly, as being objective first and responding after, and this is incorrect also. One does not follow the other.

Pay no attention to the time framework. (1) am speaking to you, and Michael shall understand. (Mike laughs in surprise) This is a key point that you have been moving towards, therefore I shall finish my expression to you before we are disengaging.

MIKE: Okay, thank you.

ELIAS: You are quite welcome.

In this, let us, in the expression of jealousy, hypothetically create a scenario. What shall be a scenario of the generating of an expression of jealousy in the context of beliefs in mass expression – two individuals that incorporate an affectionate attraction to each other.

Now; another individual is incorporated in the scenario. Let us express you are one of the individuals and in your terms the object of your affection may be another individual. Shall we venture to say a female?

MIKE: Yes, please! Thank you! (Laughing)

ELIAS: Very well. You are incorporating this attraction and affection with this other individual of the female gender, and another individual is incorporated in the scenario.

Now; it matters not whether the other individual incorporates the gender of female or male, for the third individual within the scenario also expresses attraction and affection in the direction of the female that you incorporate the affection and attraction. It matters not the gender of the third individual. They are expressing the same as yourself.

Now; what is jealousy? Threat. Therefore, you view this other individual expressing the same as yourself and you express within yourself threat, doubt. For where is your attention? Your attention is focused upon the female that you express your affection and attraction and now it is also divided to incorporate the other individual and their expression, but it is not upon you. It is quite concentrated upon the other two individuals. And as it is not incorporated upon you, the threat is generated. For now your attention is concerned with the choices of the other individuals, and in concerning yourself with the choices of the other individuals, you do not pay attention to your choices, and therefore you do not offer yourself permission to express your choices, therefore the creation of denying your choices, which is the threat.

MIKE: So tell me, what are the choices in that situation?

ELIAS: In paying attention to yourself and in expressing to yourself the acknowledgment of what you want and the acknowledgment of permission to generate what you want and that you hold the ability to create what you want, it matters not that the third individual becomes incorporated in the scenario, for you are not creating those choices. It matters not what this individual is choosing or expressing. What holds significance is what YOU are choosing.

Be remembering, you are creating all of the scenario. You are creating both of the individuals; therefore you are also creating their responses. If you are offering yourself permission to be expressing what you want in genuine appreciation of yourself, in genuine expression of knowing of your ability to generate this, you also create the response of the other individual. What be the threat? What may threaten what YOU may create – or can create?

In this scenario, in turning your attention to you and expressing to yourself, “This individual I am experiencing affection towards and I am expressing an attraction towards. I choose to express this outwardly,” WHY do you choose to express this outwardly and WHAT are you expressing? You are expressing within yourself a recognition of you and the wonderment of what you create. You have created the other individual. It is not what you shall receive from the other individual; it is motivated by what YOU wish to be expressing.

Therefore you are generating within self an appreciation of self, an attraction to your energy. Therefore, in relation to your orientation, you also naturally wish to be outwardly expressing. This is not to say that other orientations do not also generate some of these expressions, but in different capacity.

As you allow yourself the freedom to express what YOU are generating and experiencing within self, you also create the responsiveness of the other individual. But the key is to be paying attention, genuinely paying attention, to what you are generating within self, and paying attention, observing your choices, not merely your thinking.

For as I have stated previously, at times thinking may be moving in its function of translating but it may not necessarily be translating accurately, depending upon your attention. If your attention is not offering your thought mechanism information concerning what you want genuinely, your thought process shall translate in the capacity of information that it receives; therefore there may be incorporated distortion in the translation.

This is the significance of paying attention to your voice, paying attention to your communications, what you are choosing, what you are generating within yourself, for this shall express to you more accurately and precisely what you are creating, and therefore also offer you a clearer identification of your direction – and beliefs are quite influential. But be remembering, beliefs are seated in objective expression. This is not to say that your subjective is not responsive to beliefs also, for it is. But the expression of your beliefs is seated in thought.

Now; in this scenario, hypothetically, that we have created, as the other individual approaches the object of your affection, the other individual creates the choice to be expressing affection and offers themself permission to express this affection. And shall we express that the other individual offers an embrace or (humorously) perhaps even to steal a kiss? Your responsiveness is to be generating that orange center spinning quite wildly and projecting your attention to this individual to the point of challenge, but not.

Now; in turning your attention to you, you may generate the same action. The other individual has offered themself permission to express what they want and the object of your affection is responsive, for individuals are responsive to what you project; and the object of your affection is hesitant in response to you, for you are projecting the threat. Therefore, what you generate within is what you generate outwardly and what is responded to and what you shall create in objective imagery through your perception. As you create the perception of the other individual, what you are generating inwardly is what you shall also generate in objective imagery.

Therefore, in conclusion, how you recognize your voice and the message within the signal is to turn your attention, eliminate the outside source, so to speak, or what you perceive to be the outside source – in this scenario, another individual – turning your attention to you, knowing you have genuinely not eliminated the other individual, of course.

MIKE: Of course.

ELIAS: But it matters not, for in turning your attention, although that continues to be expressed within your perception temporarily, it is eliminated.

As you turn your attention to you, in eliminating the other individual or the outside source from your perception temporarily, you may question yourself in what YOU are generating, which is a different action, my friend, and you shall respond to yourself quite differently. For without the outside source, there is no other element to view but you, and without the outside source you may address to what influences you, what your beliefs and what your denials are within you. Are you understanding?

You may incorporate this action quite objectively and with the incorporation of thought, but also in the action of listening to this voice within you. Merely momentarily narrow your vision merely to you, that no other individual within your physical dimension exists. For sincerely, my friend, this denial of choice and of your own freedom of your expressions and holding to your energy creates tremendous conflict and clouds your clarity.

This one example that you have offered you may incorporate as an example that may filter through to your initial expression that you are confused, that you are frustrated, that you are insecure, that you do not view what your direction may be or what you want. The discovery of these is found within listening to your voice and listening to your communications, and as you are aware, they are continuously being expressed.

It matters not whether it be another individual or school or employment, any outside expression. Eliminate that and look to you and your influences and what you are denying within yourself in the moment, what you are discounting, what you are expressing to yourself that you cannot do, that you do not incorporate the abilities of, and the judgments that you are expressing. For it is not a question of discovering a thing or a direction of movement. (Pause, while Mike changes his audio tape cassette)

And I shall repeat, it is not concerning discovering a direction of movement or a thing outside of yourself, such as school or a job or a career or a particular direction of movement. You are already generating a direction. It is merely a question of discovery of what you are already generating, and therefore the recognition of your genuine want. As you allow that in one expression, you shall begin to allow that in other expressions. For it matters not – career, school, relationships – it is all the same. It is all expressed within your direction. You view them as compartmentalized and different, but they are not. As one expression reflects in one direction, it expresses in all.

MIKE: (Softly) Thank you.

ELIAS: You are very welcome.

FEMALE: Elias, what is the session going to be about tomorrow?

ELIAS: I shall choose in the moment!

MIKE: Oh ho ho! (Laughter)

ELIAS: Very well, my friends. I shall be engaging of you, in your terms quite soon. Offer yourself permission, Mikah. You are worthy.

MIKE: Thank you.

ELIAS: You are welcome. As always in great affection, once again I express to you, au revoir.

Elias departs at 2:47 PM.


(1) Session time is 30 minutes and a few seconds at this point; Mike had arranged with Mary to have just a half-hour session.

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